The Attraction Code by Vin DiCarlo Review
Let me ask you:
Do you believe in yourself?
Do you believe that by the sheer fact of being a man, you can attract women?
Do you know HOW to develop that inner strength and confidence that makes you attractive in all situations?
I just finished reading Vin DiCarlo’s new e-book The Attraction Code and I want to tell you that this is one of the best pieces of writing I have read from the Seduction Community (and I’ve read a lot!). If you think I’m exaggerating or creating hype, then you aren’t ready to understand.
I’m going to be honest. Most people reading his e-book are NOT going to get it (at least, not right away). They might not even understand the deeper stuff yet either.
In this e-book, Vin is not going to give you pickup techniques for you to practice. If you are looking for that, get your hands on his other products or someone else’s products. He does allude to some very powerful techniques but you’ll have to read in between the lines to see that.
What Vin describes in The Attraction Code is how to think to create changes in your life. He gives you a certain way of thinking about attraction. How should you think about yourself to change how the world reacts to you? How does perceptions affect the way you see people and vice versa?
What are the behaviors that make people inexplicably drawn to you?
How should you feel about yourself so that you can radiate that calm yet magnetizing energy?
What is attraction?
Attraction is not what you do to a woman; it is what you cause her mind to do when you’re with her and in your absence.
I’ve talked to a lot friends from within and outside the Community and once you practice a discipline long enough, it becomes an art form. It becomes an art form because at some point, you have to face and shed your insecurities or shortcomings in order to excel in your discipline of choice.
Vin has reached that higher level of consciousness where meeting and picking up women has become an art form. He’s reached that place where he can express himself naturally and freely. He free flows.
That’s what The Attraction Code is about. It is about knowing how to reach that state where you can free flow with your ability to attract women.
The first 2 chapters of the book explains evolutionary psychology. Personally, I didn’t get too much out of those. If you’ve been studying sex or pickup for a while, you should already know most of this.
Chapter 3 talks about women psychology and how you should “update” your view or perception of women. This is where Vin gives you a few techniques and themes you should keep in mind when interacting with women.
Intrigue, and the proper use of intrigue is more powerful than anything that you could possibly say about yourself. Because no matter what you say about yourself or demonstrate to her, she can always imagine something better.
The real meat starts on chapter 4. This is where Vin explains in depth what the Attraction Code is. The Attraction Code is basically his model for “personal expression”, which he calls the 4EP Model.
The flow that governs the expression of your intentions can be broken down into four distinct elements:
From a coaching and learning perspective, this is significant because it describes why focusing solely on inner game or why practicing techniques (aka outer game) only doesn’t work. Techniques are meant to help you understand where you should focus your attention on. Once you know what to focus on, any techniques can work for you.
At the same time, if you know what to focus on (or the mindset to hold), you don’t even need to worry about the technique you are using. When you focus on the right things, your actions and behaviors should align accordingly to your intentions.
Growing is about developing good belief system and habits (aka your application of techniques) at the same time.
You simply need to train yourself to place your attention on the proper things despite the stresses of life.
Vin then moves into the 11 immutable laws of an attractive identity. I’m not going to spoil it for you. You’ll have to go buy and read the book if you want to find out but I KNOW that all true naturals display these characteristics.
It’s no secret anymore that I hang out with David Wygant and other naturals. I can tell you that they all “master” these laws.
And surprisingly, these laws have nothing to do with “value” as dogmatized by the Seduction Community. These laws are all about certain behaviors and mindsets you should possess to be universally attractive.
As I kept on reading, I quickly realized that Vin was breaking down what created confidence. Confidence is such a tricky word. People have no clear idea of what confidence is. Is confidence competence? This is what Vin has to say on the topic:
I’d like you to stop thinking of confidence as being certain of success; rather, think of it as the action of giving whatever you are doing the entirety of your effort.
You know what? I couldn’t have said it better.
Core confidence is about putting your all in being in the moment. Try hanging out with people who are passionate about what they do. Try hanging out with truly zen and spiritual people as well. You’ll notice how “in the moment” they get. Notice how much confidence they project. Their confidence stems from being so present in what they do that they let go of their ego and display supreme comfort in their own identity.
When you are in the moment focusing on having fun and enjoying/accepting yourself, attraction just happens.
Towards the end of the book, Vin goes more in depth on how to keep that invincible state of confidence. He also talks about how to inspire women to become a better person through shaping. Reading those sections, I can see how strongly Vin understands the psychology of human interactions.
Everything you do is a conditioning process. If you are aware that everything you do has a consequence and natural (predictable) reaction to it, you can learn to respond to the forces in your life instead of just reacting to them.
You yourself are a force of nature to be reckoned with. You are a force that can influence and impact people the way you choose to.
Vin knows that. He wants you to see that. Hopefully, after reading his book, you too can start walking towards that higher level of consciousness where attraction becomes an assumed part of your life.
So do I like Vin’s new e-book? Yes.
Do I recommend it to everyone? Yes.
Is everyone going to understand everything in the e-book? No.
Is this an inner game book? No.
It’s a way of being. It’s a way of thinking.
I know people like to browse things before they buy so why don’t you go take a look at the sneak peek preview copy here? Better, go listen to Vin’s teleconference from last night when he answered questions about the e-book.
Finally, if you are are ready to learn how to THINK the right way about attraction and how to embody attractiveness, go get his book.
You can access The Attraction Code here.
Thanks to Khiem for this review.