I got a date.... What to do now?

[Poppagopolis]

Alright,

Here's the situation.   I posted a topic like last week about this girl named Anne, it was a text conversation.  Anyways, I feel like her and I have kinda been eyeing each other for the past year.  We always send each other mixed signals, and I feel like both of us are scared to take that jump with each other to the next level.

So, I try not to chase women, and it actually kind of worked out for me.  She's super weird, like in that post i put up last week about our text conversation; she never followed up on that, we never met out.  And I'm not one to nag, so it never happened.  Anyways, I texted her sunday to see if she wanted to get together for wine and movies (trust me it's a good idea).  She at least responded and said that she was tired from working and had to work early in the morning, the fact that she even responded is a plus.  It's not like she avoids me, trust me, she doesn't even respond to her best girlfriends.  Chalk it up as a miracle that i got anything back from her.  I don't expect much from her, but for whatever reason, I'm drawn to her.

So, the story shifts.  Minding my business on facebook at work (super productive on know).  She sends me a chat, standard shit, but i coulddn't really invest myself in the conversation because this dude was bugging me.  She asks what i was doing that night (Tuesday).  I work every morning at 7am, so i try to get my sleep.  I told her I was not doing much and asked what she was doing.  No response!!!  See what I mean?!?!? She's ridiculous.  So I'm laying in bed, and I get a text from her.  If she texts you out of the blue you might as well start believing in a higher power, because it never happens. 

I'll give you the text verbatim:

Her:
What's cooking good looking?

Me:
Nm...What's good with you?

Her:
Nothing much. What do you have going on this frigid night?

Me:
I have to attempt to sleep...I start work at 7am everyday....You?

Her:
Aw I forgot about that.  That suckss I wanted to see if you want to toke

Me:
Ugh....You're tempting...My work week ends thurs, so I have three day weekends : )

Her:
Lucky you!  I;m actually off Fri and Sat this week for once in my life....ah I don't feel like smoking alone

Me:
Save it for this weekend...I'd be more than happy to get with you on thursday

Her:
What are you up to Friday afternoon?

Me:
I've got to train at like 11, but am free after that

Her:
Sweet wanna smoke and go sled?    (sidenote:  It's statements like these that make her so attractive to me)

Me:
Oh yeah...you are so ridiculous....i love it

Her:
Haha it will be a great time.
I'll text you fri or maybe thurs if i'm up for drinks after work

Me:
Sounds sweet

Three Questions arise I would like responses from my main men (Alter, 8, Doc, Novus, Dirty D, Seven, Skillz)
1) She has neglected me before, how should I feel about this?  Should I be excited or skeptical?  She has never taken the time to actually make plans with me, I always do the work.
2) How did I handle this text conversation?? 
3) If we actually do get together on friday, how should I seal the deal?  I know a lot of stuff, but I'm blanking right now and need some help from you guys. 

I mean smoking and then sledding? this girl is right up my alley  : )

[Altermode]

Now from my lifetime of experience with women and my two years of being in pick up. I personally have not be in a situation specifically like this usually if a girl is showing minimal interest have my initial investment or is trivial about time and canceling i say, well don't bother me i am gone.  No individual women i have met is that "hype" factor that i keep on coming back for more.

1) Try a mix of two, change it up stay true to yourself but at times think why do i react this way. because you have to much butterflies you feel like shit when you are let down, but if you down get excited then you don't enjoy it as much. it all about finding that mind set. personally i would either set up some friend to possible met you if she doesn't show up to sled. But get excited for smoking and sledding because hey there definite i need sometime to have fun. Just do tricks or try betting a time pre-stoned and post stoned. make a joking testimonial if you have a camera, it will give you something to laugh at latter.

2) Overall well, no, real urgency just near the end tapered of as,oh yes, what ever you want master. I slip up myself at times by saying the L word and but slight in the moment over the top emotion but, i general recover.

3) Think ok, how far do i want to go, what you are doing (sledding and smoking so it more of a fun based idea), make a list of all the possible conversation that you could make more than twenty then M.I. ( Memorize and improvise) Once you get the vibe down everything is smooth sailing just realize what you are willing to do to this girl and what you are willing to do for her.

I want to congratulate you on one thing, this is what "make her so attractive to me," cause for some guys and me at times with two women, could not but a definite finger on why i was so into them. It can drive you crazy.

PS  sledding? That's snowmobiling right cause yeah one of my friend is bitching about small choice of women that do drugs and are willing to do adrenaline pumping stuff and  that aren't nut job. Like his ex which i think was a nut job.

well that is my opinion. take what you want.

[Poppagopolis]

This is the kind of girl that you are really skeptical to have as a girlfriend.

My intent with her is not to be in a relationship.  I just want to get down with her (fuck).

So my motivation is to have her as a fuck buddy.  I know it seems unrealistic, but I've never met a girl like her before, so it's safe to assume that it could happen.

I have no problem talking to her, but thats all we do is talk.

I need a nice and seamless way to escalate things, like after we get done sledding (which is not considered snowmobiling, I mean actually sledding, like kids do, down hills) take her back to my place for some hot chocolate and movies.  I mean, I've got nothing to do, and I don't think that she does either, so why not prolong this date by getting her into my bed for some hot drink and stimulating cinematic adventure. BTW, we have slept in the same bed together, and cuddled, three times.  Don't ask me how nothing happened those three times because i couldn't tell you myself.  The point is she won't be skeptical about crawling into my comfortable bed for chill time.  If I could just get a good kiss close from her, everything will take care of itself.....Everything. 

PS. You guys rock, I love reading everyone's posts everyday.  I love learning and teaching all at once.

[Altermode]

Ok fbuddy, and tobaggan. Then a simple suggestion try a contest on who can go farther or something like that, they usual have a success rate.

[sonny]

Sonny

Dont ever tell women your doing nothing.
It makes you seem like you got nothing going on.

FTC man. Women have to be able to feel the lose of you.
Tell her that you only have this time open and your doing
this thing she should come along.

Last but not least, tell her. Dont ask "hey you wana get together?"
Thats bad it lessens your value. Tell her you have some fun planned
for thetwo of you and that will make her come.

The best thing to do is to say "Were going out to my friend ______ ill pick you up at _____ oclock"
Gives you value as a leader and this will make her drop previouse plans to hang out with you.
Develope calibration for the way she writes text. I can hear a girls voice in a text.

-Sonny