Help Me!!!!!!!!

[Rockafella]

Hi there,

Since I broke up with my ex 2 months ago I have only slept with 5 girls.  I think I may be trying to hard as I have just started in a new city.  I have no problem talking to girls and getting numbers - I actually think I'm pretty good.  However I tend to get alot that flake out and such.  How do you stop this as much?  Put more effort in before the number?

Also theres this girl who I met when wasted and went back to hers - but nothing happened.  We've been texting and the other night went round to watch tv with her house ( tried to get her to mine - no dice / acted cocky & funny and tried to wind her up.  She asked for a lift to her friends and i rejected her).  Got some alone time before she went to work and she was saying that I shoud come out etc but as I have no money I couldnt and got a text from her at 5am just saying shes finished work & was going to bed.
I text her th other day asking how she was and if she fancied coming over? (maybe too keen / forward?)  and no reply - she was out with her friends last night when i was working and only saw her friends 

Not really sure how to play this one as she hasnt text me back so dont want to appear over keen by ringing her etc but im convinced she is interested.  Theres a party on friday which shes invited me to so not sure how to play it.

Any advice and I would love to hear it!!

[Poppagopolis]

Rockafella-

5 girls in two months are some pretty good numbers.  What are you concerned about?

It sounds to me that you are fucking chicks just to fuck them, but you actually are looking for something a little bit deeper.  When you break up with a girl it leaves a bit of an emotional gap that can't be totally made up by having one night stands.  It sounds to me that you have a gap and you are looking for someone to fill it.

I know you might not want to here it, but I'm recommending that maybe you fill that gap on your own. Don't stop gaming, but game for the purpose of gaming and not to actually get a girl to fill that gap.  You need to fill the gap.

It sounds like after you and this chick broke up you went on a revengeful fucking spree.  Work on that inner game.  A true PUA doesn't need anyone but himself  Be strong on your own, be your own crutch and you will feel more comfortable to actually start dating again.

-POPP

[Rockafella]

I think you are right that I feel the need for someone there...maybe trying too hard and just need to find my frame?.  Have u got any good links to stuff about inner game? 
Its the same as wen u sleep with a girl then its much easier to pick up girls the following day bcos they can almost "sense" that u dont need them....is that the thing you are talking about?

Also regarding the girl - went out last night with some friends and she was there.  Shes an attention seeker so tried to knock her down abit and she was constantly beggigng for attention.  If i talked to her friends she would flirt big time with mine and kept looking over at me to see my reaction - I wasn't bothered and tried to push/pull her which seemed to be working well.

For example I said to her friend you have really awesome colour eyes - and she pipes in with mine are realy nice too and tries to get all the attention which i didnt let her have.....anways we went to a party and she was all over me etc but teasing about kissing, like biting my lip etc so I said enough with the games I'm going home you should come back with me and she was being like I dont sleep around, you should stay, whilst touching me up etc.  So i just laughed basically said I'm not gonna play ur games and headed home.

Any advice?  I was just going to freeze her out completely and make her work hard if she decides shes interested?

Sorry bout the 2 threads basically in one post but would appreciate feedback esp off you POPP

Thanks

[thechozen1]

Seems you're really stuck on this girl. 

Personally, I wouldn't leave a group of people to go get laid with a girl.  Instead, I'd really be the entertainer of the crowd, the listener, the story teller, and maintain the best posture, gestures, and everything to set myself at the top of the pecking order.  By doing such, you become the prize.  Now, it's her that is seeking to get your seed. 

Woman are very herd oriented.  The best steed is the one that all the women will wish they are with.  Are you focusing on making her friends desire you too?  Are you showing forth the classy, cocky/funny, indifferent, and confident ethos that would place you above any other guy in her circles?  If you are, then take the action to her house.  Let it happen at her place.  There's no rule that says it's gotta be at your crib.  Women are more prepared to explore sex when they feel comfortable and what place would they feel more comfortable in than the very world of safety in their bedroom they have created?  I haven't taken a girl to my place in years.  Always do it at hers.  It's great because I haven't made my bed in years either lol. 

Best of luck.

[Poppagopolis]

Rock-

The problem I see with you is that you are directing all of your attention onto one girl.  Not only that, but it appears you might be altering your behavior to get this girl. 

I think mentally you are yearning for this girl a lot more than you are showing.  In your post title you have "Help Me" with 8 exclamation points following it, lol.  Not to mention you have tagged your post as being one that is urgent.  So, lets be honest, and don't be embarrassed.  How much heartache is this girl causing you?  We've all been there buddy.  I started coming to this site because some girl tore out my heart through my nostrils.  I understand how it feels to want a specific girl so bad that you are just blind to anything else.  I understand how it feels to think about one thing all day and all night, a girl.

On the exterior you are tying to do all the things that you learned through books and the internet about gaming.  However, you are lacking inner game to actually make all these exterior practices work. 

I don't know if I have inner game, but I think I do.  To me, inner game is the ability to control yourself when operating game.  You know, waiting three or four days after you get a number, not following a girl around a club after you meet her, talking when you have nothing to say just to break up silence, etc.  It's just comfort and confidence in whatever you do, whether it is right or wrong.

I think the first thing you need to do is let this girl go.  I think you need to break all unnecessary communication with her as soon as possible. 

1)  Make Plans where you know she isn't going to be around
2)  Don't call her
3)  Don't text her
4)  Answer 50% of her phone calls and make them short, like you are in the middle of something
5)  Answer her texts, but don't leave it open for her to speak again (don't ask her questions in response).  Basically, just be cordial and that's it.
6)  Have fun with your guy friends and hit on other girls
7)  It seems like everything you are doing is for this girl to see,  STOP IT!!

To me, you are just not in the right place to be messing with this chick.  She is flirting with you and teasing you because she loves the attention.  You said it yourself, she is an "attention seeker".  The truth is, and I'm sorry, she doesn't want to get too close to the guy she sees, but she wants to make herself feel important.  This is why she bites your lip, but won't go back to your place. 

Why did you break up?  Be honest because I genuninely want to help you, and I need to know what the deal is.


-POPP

P.S.  Be yourself and do what you want to do.  Nobody should change for anybody, so stop it.

[Sonis]

Rock -

I have to agree with Popp.  You're too into this girl too early in the game.  She seems like a hard one to get.  Maybe she is only out for the attention.  Don't give her the power by showing too much interest.  You have to BELIEVE that you are the prize - obviously you have other options, so don't fall all over yourself for this girl.  The most amazing words I've ever read on inner game are in Mystery's ebook Revelation, which you can find here: http://www.meetmystery.com/ebook3.html   Matador's part about The Way of Being (inner game) just blew me away.  It's incredibly deep and powerful stuff.  Hope this helps,

- Sonis

[Poppagopolis]

I read the Mystery Method.  I liked it.  It's got a lot of good suggestions and it makes gmaing into a science.  Perhaps if you think of it like a science there will be less personal pressure.


Give it a shot with new girls ROCK

[Sonis]

Yeah but this book Revelation is an update to that.  And Mystery is coming out with yet another update to the book - called The Pickup Artist - with a forward by Style on Jan. 26

[Conquistador]

hmmmm I know I'm kinda of late but here goes...

Popp pretty much hit it right on the noggin, I agree with everything he said. And I feel you bro, I'm just pulling myself out of that annoying oneitis problem where you become a little too attached to one girl and she doesn't like you as much as you like her. From my experience this whole shebang is kinda like a game, you know I hate to quote Lady Gaga but "lets play a love a game"...thats how it seems and the one who falls in love first loses. Basically its what I believe PUA FJ Shark said "the one who loves the least controls the relationship" and clearly this girl has you by the balls. What I recommend you do brother, is what I am doing now and that is this...get her out of your mind pronto and try to list to yourself all the LOGICAL reasons why being with her is not beneficial for you. Every morning remind yourself that your life is better off without her, that you can fill whatever emptiness you have with your own ambitions and goals provided by yourself. You do not need anyone, not a girl, not your buddies, no one because you get to spend 24/7 with the best, coolest person you know...YOURSELF. Everybody else is just there to tag along in your gigantic joyride. So remember that always! The minute you feel like without that person you are nothing, you are lost my friend. Remember that you don't need external elements to solve your inner problems. Only YOU can do it. Even if you are banging the hottest girl in the world, or this one girl that you really like, it won't fix your inner game problems.


I personally believe you should do this, lets face it you are not going to toss her out of your life. I understand that, I have that problem right now. So this is what I recommend you do, which is a realistic approach. Keep her as just a social acquaintance, if you see her say hi. If its Christmas, send her a Merry Christmas text message. If you have nothing better to do at the moment, you might even chat for a couple of minutes. But don't ever get CLOSE to her. Like if she invites you somewhere, tell her thanks but no thanks I have plans with so and so. And be HONEST about it, really make plans with other people that YOU are interested in because they are good enough to be hanging out with you because they have proven to be a good friend for you (remember though you are a very high status cool person). 

The past is dead...so whatever thing you had riding in the past with this girl is as dead as a door nail and as dead as the Backstreetboy's music career. And when things come back from the dead THEY ARE UGLY!!! So don't try to bring anything back from the dead, its not worth it.

Hope this helps brother

Conquistador