Mystery Method Openers & Routines
Creating Your Own Routines: Opinion Openers
An opinion opener has four basic elements:
1. Hook – Ask a short question, preferably on a female-friendly topic.
“Hey, guys…Would you read your boyfriend’s email if you thought he was cheating on you?”
2. Tease Their Answer – Improvise off of what they say, neg it, do a quick cold read, or just find something interesting and unique about it and comment.
“Note to self…do not date this girl.”
3. False Time Constraint – The theory of telling someone that you won’t be around long, so it lets them feel comfortable with you being there for the moment until you’ve gotten them more invested in the interaction.
“I can only stay a minute, because I’ve got to get back to my friends but…”
4. Story – Then tell the story why you are asking the question to make the opener more believable, give them more information and elicit more conversation.
“So my friend Chris thought his girlfriend was cheating on him and…” etc.
Opinion Opener Topics
The safest bet is always to choose topics that are girl-friendly: things they want to talk about.
Three of the best are:
* Relationships – Questions about what you or a friend should do regarding a romantic relationship are generally reliable. The angle should be that you want to hear what a girl thinks about the situation. For example:
“Would you read your boyfriend’s email if you thought he was cheating on you?”
* Social Dynamics – Also, anything involving how people interact non-romantically regarding friendships, male/female differences, body language, etc. is useful. For example:
“Hey, if a guy and a girl get to the bar at the exact same time, who gets served first?”
* Pop Culture – Most girls are culturally savvy regarding pop culture. Just make sure there is a reason you are asking other than to start conversation. Don’t make it a cliché, or a question with an obvious answer, like:
“What do you guys think of Paris Hilton?”
On the other hand, in Australia recently, Sinn and The Don opened with:
“So I’ve heard Vanilla Ice, Ice-Ice Baby, for the past five nights. Is he some kind of hero to you people or is it a joke like in the US?”
The latter example is situational, pop-culture related, and uses their foreign identity to create conversation and humor with proper delivery. Use your imagination and what you have around you and in your life and you’ll have plenty of opening material.
Most guys begin studying this material because they can’t figure out how to start talking to women when in reality coming up with openers is probably the easiest part of the whole game.
Sample Transitioning Routine: Eye Accessing Cues
This is based on a theory about personality cues from Neuro-Linguistic Programming. (NLP). You can pretend to notice this in the middle of the conversation whether or not she actually does anything to provoke it.
“Interesting… Are you a visual person?”
“Do you think in pictures and see little movies in your head?… You tend to look up when you think. People who are creative and are visually oriented tend to look up when they think. I’m the same way.”
(She will respond.)
“We all favor different directions. People who tend to be logical, like lawyers and accountants, tend to look to the side when they think.” (Demonstrate by looking to the side.)
“People who live in their emotions, touchy feely types, tend to look down.” (Demonstrate by looking down.)
“We use all of them at different times, depending on what we are experiencing, but you can tell a lot about how someone thinks by which direction they favor the most. We both favor visual orientation.”
This routine can also be used as an easy transition into the Lying Game routine.
Source: Based on an NLP theory.
Different instructors have different opinions of NLP. I’m personally not a huge fan, but it works really well for some of the guys, so try it and see. How much you use it depends on your own personal style. I do like the Eye Accessing Cues routine though.
This routine is a good example of how to create an attraction routine that combines many elements at once. Here, you are teaching her something about herself and human nature, while helping demonstrate value by showing social intuition, intelligence and pre-selection based on your model ex-girlfriend.
“You have a very expressive face… I bet you’re a lousy liar.”
“Interesting… Have you done any acting? Because it’s quite interesting… the most important part of being an actor is having an expressive face. Looks and training are obviously important, but an expressive face is crucial.
Ok, can you move your eyebrows independently? Try it.”
(Woman tries to move her eyebrows independently; most can’t.)
“See, you couldn’t/could do comedy. To do comedy, you have to be able to move your eyebrows independently. Look at Jennifer Aniston, for example. She gets really good comedic roles because she has these eyebrows that are always making this look…”
(At this point give her a quizzical look.)
“My ex-girlfriend was this Russian girl, and she was trying to make it as an actress, but she couldn’t quite do it, because she had that very proper Russian face, you know, the kind of expressionless Russian look.”
(Make a stoic face at this point.)
“Anyway, she would keep on applying for serious parts, but all she could get was modeling gigs and dancing in music videos and stuff like that, and it was because she didn’t have an expressive face.”
That’s how they all look. A bit of explanation about the routine and how, why, and when it is used, and then The Don takes you through each step of the process. Try this one out tonight.
Here’s another example. In Comfort, you don’t want ot bombard her with routines, so the pacing is a bit different than in Attraction.
One of the things you want to establish in comfort is that you are a person with purpose and direction. This routine conveys the idea that being a part of your life is exciting, fulfilling and something she would probably want.
“Hey, have you ever been so excited that you couldn’t go to sleep?”
“It’s funny because last night I tried really hard but I found myself smiling and being excited that I just couldn’t sleep. Now normally this only happens like the day before a big gig or show or something but this time I guess it was just because some days you feel like you’re the king of the world and everything works out for you, right? It actually became quite a dilemma though because even though I really enjoyed the feeling, I couldn’t go to sleep. I wanted to sleep, but I also wanted to keep that good feeling, right? So I ended up playing guitar for an hour in the middle of the night before going happily to sleep… and came up with some new material for a song I’ve been working on. Felt really amazing to have this burst of creativeness in the middle of the pitch black night when you are supposed to sleep. Ever had one of those days? Feels good, doesn’t it?”
That is tailored to a particular identity, obviously. A more generic version or template could look something like:
“Hey, have you ever been so excited that you couldn’t go to sleep?”
“It’s funny because last night I tried really hard but I found myself smiling and being excited that I just couldn’t sleep. Now normally this only happens like the day before a [big presentation, I go rock climbing, etc] or something but this time I guess it was just because some days you feel like you’re the king of the world and everything works out for you, right? It actually became quite a dilemma though because even though I really enjoyed the feeling, I couldn’t go to sleep. I wanted to sleep, but I also wanted to keep that good feeling, right? So I ended up (doing something I really enjoy doing that’s high value) for an hour in the middle of the night before going happily to sleep…Ever had one of those days? Feels good, doesn’t it?”