Seduction Chronicles

What Turns Women On

Editor — Fri, 23 Dec 2011 20:24:26 +0000

AN INTERESTING STORY (OR SO)… There are two basic stories for how men and women “start off” together, and two basic stories for how men and women “end up.”

Through all of time, I’m sure that men and women have been playing out these stories…and I’m sure that they’ll continue to play them out long into the future (that is, unless I have something to say about it…and I do).

THE MEETING STORIES

Here’s “Meeting Story #1″:

Boy is attracted to girl. Unfortunately, boy doesn’t have a clue about how to make girl feel ATTRACTION for him… so, instead he tries to “pursue” girl by offering her dinners, gifts, and flowers. Girl finds boy “nice”, but there are no “sparks”, so she “just likes him as a friend.”

Here’s “Meeting Story #2″:

Boy is attracted to girl. Fortunately for him, boy understands ATTRACTION, and begins to communicate with girl in a way that makes her feel a powerful physical and emotional response for boy that she can’t control. The sparks fly, and boy and girl “get together.”

As I’m sure you know…

In story #1, GIRL is in total control of the situation and both of them know it.

In story #2, BOY is the one who’s in control of the situation.

THE STORIES OF HOW THINGS “END UP” Let’s assume that somehow, boy and girl actually “get together”. Things usually go one of two ways after that…

Here’s “End Up Story #1″:

Boy and girl get together. Boy realizes that he “REALLY likes” girl. Boy begins to act more and more predictable. Boy starts to share “how he feels” about girl too often. Boy becomes more and more submissive. Girl loses that feeling of ATTRACTION that she once had for boy and has no way of explaining or understanding why. Girl leaves boy and boy is left wondering what happened.

Here’s “End Up Story #2″:

Boy and girl get together. Boy understands that no matter how much he likes girl, he cannot let himself become a Wussy who chases girl around “sharing how he feels” and becomes boring. Boy keeps the relationship interesting and he keeps challenging girl. Boy stays in control of himself, and by understanding his role as “The Man” in the relationship, keeps girl interested and attracted to him into the future.

And again, as I’m sure you know…

In story #1, GIRL is in total control of the situation and both of them know it.

In story #2, BOY is the one who’s in control of the situation.

If you look at your experience with women, I’m sure you’ll see that these short stories describe MOST of the experiences you’ve had.

Now, of course there are slight twists and variations, but the message is clear:

YOU MUST UNDERSTAND HOW ATTRACTION WORKS FOR WOMEN AND HOW TO KEEP THE ATTRACTION GOING WHEN YOU MEET A WOMAN YOU REALLY LIKE.

If you don’t understand ATTRACTION and how it works, then you are destined to keep playing out these same stories for the rest of your life. It’s very unlikely that you’ll stumble upon the “magic solution” by accident…

ATTRACTION IS DIFFERENT FOR WOMEN THAN IT IS FOR MEN – VERY DIFFERENT The reality is that you CAN stop this negative pattern if you WANT to.

But the key is:

1) Understanding how ATTRACTION works for WOMEN.

2) Understanding YOURSELF, so you don’t ALLOW yourself to act like a Wussy, become boring and turn a good thing into a bad one…but instead you do the RIGHT things to keep everything on the right track.

If you know how to make a woman feel ATTRACTION for you, then you can control your destiny with women. If you DON’T know how to make a woman feel ATTRACTION for you, then you cannot control your destiny with women.

Read that paragraph again, and think about it for a minute before you go on.

OK, so I mentioned that ATTRACTION is very different for women than it is for men.

Different how?

What do I mean by that? …Well, generally speaking, for a woman, ATTRACTION is a PROCESS… not an “event.” It happens over time, and it becomes stronger or weaker depending upon how well the man in the situation understands how it works.

For a man, ATTRACTION is much more of an “event”, meaning that it’s either there or it isn’t. It really doesn’t matter whether or not the woman understands how it works. (As an interesting side note, if a woman really knows how ATTRACTION works, and her intention is to manipulate a man, it usually works VERY well.)

So, think of a woman’s “Attraction Mechanism” more like a volume knob than a light switch.

It’s like a fantastic, classy old car that needs to warm up for a long time before you can drive it… not like a brand new Honda that you can start up and get right on the freeway with.

Here’s a little secret about women and ATTRACTION: If you’ll just take a little longer in every situation to AMPLIFY a woman’s ATTRACTION, she’ll love you for it…and you’ll experience rewards that will make the extra time you spent seem like the best investment of your entire life.

Here are a few specific tips for you for the “Meeting Phase”:

1) Start with something STRONG, not WEAK.

When a guy finds a girl interesting, he usually turns into a ball of nervous mush. Then, he usually makes the mistake of letting the woman KNOW that he’s nervous and weak.

Don’t do it.

Do something STRONG.

Challenge her.

If she thinks that she’s cool, make fun of her. If she’s smart, argue with her a little. If she’s doing something, tell her that you could do it better.

When you PUSH a little, and show some BACKBONE, she’ll push back. That’s your sign that the GAME IS ON.

If you just chase after her like the 100 other Wussies that have been bothering her this week, you will just be another boring, predictable face in the crowd.

2) Keep the TENSION UP.

One of my favorite concepts is “Never let the line go slack.”

This means that once you SPARK the “chemistry” or “sexual tension”, you need to KEEP IT UP.

Just because she starts doing things that hint to you that she’s interested, doesn’t mean that it’s time to STOP. Quite the opposite, actually.

Turn UP the volume a little. It’s working, so do more!

3) Tease.

The word “tease” has a couple of meanings.

One of the meanings has to do with doing things that are slightly annoying to get a response from someone.

The other meaning is subtly different and has to do with drawing out a response that you want by doing certain things that indirectly trigger it.

Do both.

If you’re about to kiss her, wait until your lips are so close that you can almost feel her… and then STOP. Pull away, and smile.

If you want to know how she feels about you, say, “You LOVE me” in a condescending tone of voice, and see how she responds. If she says “NO I DON’T!” in an exaggerated, mocking way, then she probably DOES “love” you.

Teasing is fantastic. Do more of it.

And here are a few tips for the “End Up” phase:

1) Never become BORING.

Being predictable and boring is a cardinal sin when it comes to ATTRACTION.

Don’t do either. Of course, telling a man not to be predictable is like telling a dog not to hump your leg.Most guys are PAINFULLY predictable. We LIKE being predictable, actually. I get it.

But, when it comes to a woman you enjoy, you’d better figure out a way to STOP IT.

There’s nothing that will kill the sparks faster than her knowing what you’re about to do or say.

2) Don’t hand over control.

Women like men who make decisions and take the lead. Now, I’m not saying that women like men who are overly controlling. What I am saying is that women don’t like guys who are always saying things like, “I don’t know, what do YOU want to do, baby?”

Women don’t want men that they can control, so don’t be one.

3) Respect yourself and keep your own interests.

When a guy meets a woman he likes, he often wants to spend as much time as possible with her.

This is natural, of course.

But there’s a big danger here as well.

If you put your life aside for a woman, you will become less interesting to HER.

In the long run, it’s MUCH better to keep your friends, your interests, and your hobbies, and to spend time doing the things you enjoy…WITHOUT HER. And I think it’s VERY important to keep improving yourself as a person, and continue to be a guy that she can look up to and respect. As soon as you start acting like she’s going to be around forever, she’ll start feeling less and less ATTRACTION for you.

THE BIGGER PICTURE Now, as you read these examples, can you see the bigger picture forming?

Can you see the deeper message?

The deeper message is that you need to understand how ATTRACTION works for women and you need to do those things that keep the ATTRACTION BUILDING FOREVER.

Now, where does this all begin? It begins with YOU.

And it begins with you learning how to control yourself and your emotions. It begins with you understanding the history of how and why men and women become attracted to each other. It begins with you learning the basics of how to use subtle body language and communication to make women feel ATTRACTION for you.

I’ll show you how to spark attraction, build sexual tension and chemistry, and take things to the next level… using powerful (but subtle) body language cues and other techniques.

Discovering “Sexual Communication” was one of the most important steps on my own journey to success with women and dating, and I’d like you to check out my book…so I can teach you what I’ve learned.

All the details, plus some great previews are here.

If you’re fascinated with the topic of ATTRACTION, and you’d like to get an in-depth education on it, then you need to go and download my eBook “Double Your Dating”. You can download it now and be reading it within a few minutes. Download it here.

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,
David DeAngelo

End Of Year Dating Blues

David Wygant — Mon, 19 Dec 2011 18:37:11 +0000

Most businesses during this time of year do a lot of year-end inventory.

They check and see whether or not they made the sales they needed to. They check and see what they need to order in the new year. The bookkeepers are frantically crunching numbers so they can get taxes done.

It’s inventory time. The world is taking inventory right now and figuring out what they need for next year. Businesses are figuring out what their cash flow is. Hotels are frantically trying to sell hotel rooms.

Households are trying to make just a little more money to close out the year and make sure it was a great year.
And women are looking at their vibrator drawer and basically thinking, “Have I spent more time sticking this inside me this year than having a real life dick inside me?”

The other day a friend of mine e-mailed me and wrote, “It’s amazing. Two women I dated this year called me yesterday, one after the other. We broke up like six months ago,” he wrote. “What’s the reason for that?”

And I wrote back to him, “Easy. It’s inventory time. They basically had gone to Thanksgiving dinner and their family asked them why they’re not dating anybody. Their friends are telling them about all their holiday plans with their family, their boyfriends, their husbands, and their kids. And they realize that they’re alone. Women feel more alone this time of year than any other time of year. Women tend to just feel vulnerable, and they are looking for companionship. And that’s where you come in.”

Knowing this information, knowing how vulnerable women are this time of year, knowing that they have done inventory, sexual and emotional inventory, they’re more open to a man’s advances. It’s real simple, and I’ve written about it in other blogs. Walk right up to them while they’re Christmas shopping and ask them, “What is Santa getting you this year? Are you buying that for yourself?”

Be playful. Be fun. Go out and use that approach. Wear at hat, maybe a Santa’s cap. Look at her and go, “Listen, I’m Santa’s little helper and I want to know if you’ve been naughty or nice this year.”

A lot of you right now are thinking to yourself, I can’t do that. Well then don’t. Don’t do it. Keep doing the things that you’re doing so you don’t meet women. Keep doing the same approaches that don’t work. And don’t trust somebody who knows what emotions are all about.

Women are emotional creatures, and they’re emotionally vulnerable this time of year. It’s up to you to decide whether or not you’re going to connect with them. You can continue to be Santa’s shy little helper standing in the corner. Or you can be the aggressive elf who would love to get some nice, wet, and juicy fun before Christmas.

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The Strangest Way To Attract Women [Video]

Editor — Mon, 05 Dec 2011 22:23:01 +0000

I just finished watching a new video about online dating called…   ”The Strangest Way To Attract Women”

You can watch it here:

This is cool because he figured out how to meet as many women as you want …WITHOUT having to approach them in bars, clubs or in public and you can see what happened at that link.

The video shows you exactly how I meet women on AUTO-PILOT — without ever having to leave your house. He finally put an end to rejection and the frustration of getting no girls to reply to his emails.

This is not a gimmick. It’s cutting-edge psychology combined with real-world application. He was sick and tired of not being able to meet girls online – nothing he tried or found online ever worked.

Then something incredible happened to him and as a result, he discovered a “cut and paste” attraction system that works nearly every time. This makes a huge difference! If you’re ready to attract women using online dating sites, then this system is for you. But you have to watch his entire presentation to find out exactly how to do it.

Remember: Watch the entire video! The end of it may shock you.

Seriously – He spills the beans in this video.

  Go watch this video now:

http://www.insiderinternetdating.com/video2-c.html  

The best part is he reveals the 3 things he did that got him all those women when you watch this free video.

Why The iPhone Prevents You From Sex

David Wygant — Fri, 02 Dec 2011 22:47:01 +0000

I was in Whole Foods today, which is no shock to anybody. I don’t think there is a day that goes by that I am not in Whole Foods. I talked to someone about setting up my own account there, but they just don’t seem to want to do it.

Anyway, through the power of eavesdropping (which I’m pretty good at), I listened to a conversation that’s amazing. Ahhh . . . how amazing you’re about to find out.

Let’s paint the scene . . . This may sound something like “Dragnet” to you.

It’s 12:00. The city is Los Angeles, California. I spot a woman with her stock looking bluetooth in her ear.

By the way, why the hell does someone want to wear a headset in their ear all the time? So you can answer the phone two seconds quicker? So you can walk around all day with a blinking light in your ear? So attractive.

Also, for those of you who walk around all day with a bluetooth in your ear but only spend about a half hour a day on the phone . . . lose it! Unless you’re a salesperson or a telephone operator, there is no reason to have an earpiece in your ear 24/7.

Do you need the earpiece in your ear during sex? How about when you shower? When you dress in the morning, do you put the earpiece on first? Do you buy earpieces in colors to match your jeans?

But this blog is not for the stock people. Let’s return to our scene at Whole Foods: It’s 1200 hours in the city of Los Angeles, California. A woman is seen on the telephone.

I, being the people investigator that I am, slowly move closer to her. Was it the smell of her perfume or was it the fact that she was blocking the tuna salad that I was about to order? As I got closer I noticed that she had some very nice buns . . . which made me realize that the tuna salad I was going to order on whole wheat seem very unappealing. I wanted my tuna salad on a big bun.

As I got closer, I also got to listen to her cell phone conversation. Meanwhile, standing only a few feet away, two other guys began moving toward her too. Competition over the cell phone obsessed blond hovering by the tuna salad? Bring it on!

So once I’m in her space and I get to listen to her one-sided cell phone conversation, guess what she was talking about? She was complaining about not being able to meet anybody.

I started laughing, looked at my fellow men hovering around the tuna salad, and said to them “Listen to what she’s talking about.” They all opened up their ears, and listened to her continually complain about not being able to find anyone to date . . . as three eligible studs stood right next to her.

So we all started talking (it was quite a male bonding experience), and we all waited for our cell phone obsessed bluetooth wearing maniac to get off the phone. When she finally got off the phone, I looked at her and said “You’re really funny. Don’t mind me or my new friends over here, but we got to listen to your whole conversation.”

She got all embarrassed and started laughing a little bit. I said to her “If you don’t mind, I would like to introduce you to two guys who would like to meet you. So forget about me (a little reverse psychology never hurts in this situation). What’s your name?” She said “Tina.”

I said “Tina, this is Mr. Chicken and this is Mr. Salad.” She started laughing. I said “Tina, I’m going to leave you in good hands. Maybe the next time if you get off the phone in public, you’ll realize that Mr. Chicken and Mr. Salad were vibing you.”‘

Then I walked away. I felt like I did my job.

About three minutes later when I’m in line, Tina the tuna blocker runs over to me. She says “I really get your point. I was so busy bitching about not being able to meet anybody, that I probably missed every opportunity to meet anybody, right?” I looked over and smiled.

Then she said “I don’t want Mr. Salad or Mr. Chicken, I want to hang with you.” I said “Tina the tuna blocker (I really did call her Tina the tuna blocker), I like a gutsy woman who can admit her mistakes. Let’s hang out and chop some onions real soon.”

The bottom line is this: If you feel like you never meet anybody when you’re in a public place, get rid of you bluetooth and get off the phone! Open your eyes and notice all the possibilities.

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How To Prevent The Cock Blocker

David Wygant — Sun, 27 Nov 2011 19:39:13 +0000

Here’s how I feel about cock blocking. I never get cock blocked. It just doesn’t happen to me anymore.

So what that means is that cock blocking has nothing to do with another guy being an asshole, swooping in and taking “your” woman. It’s got everything to do with YOU. You can learn all the quick and witty comeback lines and banter you want to be prepared for a so-called cock block, but it’s not going to stop it from happening to you.

Because cock blocking only happens to certain types of guys. And it happens to them over and over again.

Guys who are very hesitant about expressing themselves to a woman. Guys who don’t claim their space. Guys who keep their distance and are afraid to get close out of fear that he’s offending her or coming across as “giving her the wrong idea”.

When you do that, other guys will notice it and see that there is no chemistry there. Maybe you just look like friends. Maybe a guy is an asshole, and sees an opportunity there to come in and take her away. In any case, she’s clear for the taking to any other swinging dick who walks by.

Cock blocking happens to guys who don’t intrigue women. If she is interested in you and the conversation you are having, she will stand there and listen to everything you have to say. When she’s not into you, her eyes will start darting across the room, hoping for her friend or some other more interesting guy to come rescue her.

When that starts happening, you’re done. Nothing can save you. She’ll pray for someone else to come join the conversation. She’ll be totally open to starting a conversation and flirting with another guy who’s around her. And a guy who sees that will jump right in. Sometimes she’ll start a conversation with another guy. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve gone up to the bar to get a drink, and a girl standing there will turn and start talking to me while another guy was just in mid-conversation with her.

Then I’d look over her at the poor guy’s disillusioned face and give him a little shrug. Does that make me a cock-block? Does that make me an asshole? No. It means she was bored to death with the other guy and wanted talk to me instead. It means the other guy needed some coaching–not on how to deal with cock blocks, but on how to keep her intrigued. Because I’m no better than the guy who just got shoved out of the picture. But I’m much better in conversation.

Cock blocking happens to guys who don’t claim their own space and walk over with confidence and start great conversations with women everywhere they go. Cockblocking happens to guys who talk to one or two women a night, and then CLING onto those conversations like their lives depended on it.

Sound familiar, victim of the cock block?

You sit in the corner of the bar, waiting for what to say to that one girl you’ve been looking at for the past 45 minutes, then you finally get up the guts to approach her and hope it really works out because this is your one shot for the night.

Instead you try and try and try with that one girl you finally approached, even when there’s no chemistry. And the more you try with a girl who’s only lukewarm about you, the longer you stand there struggling, the more likely some guy with dimples and a great smile is going to wink at her and jump in to the rescue.

So you’re still asking why you need to start conversations with women everywhere? This is why. Because when you start doing that, you will start having an abundance mindset. You’ll start approaching women everywhere. When I go out, I talk to girls everywhere. Quick, 30-second conversations. If there’s no chemistry, if she doesn’t want to talk to me, I move on. I don’t stand around in a shitty conversation, struggling to make things happen, and wait to be cock blocked by some guy she likes better than me.

You think you’ve been cock blocked, but you really just cock blocked yourself.

Do You Date Like Tebow?

David Wygant — Tue, 22 Nov 2011 19:37:28 +0000

For those of you who watched Tim Tebow lead the Denver Broncos past the New York Jets the other night, it made me think about how much Tebow-mania is just like pickup mania.

Now you may be thinking to yourself, How can Tim Tebow be anything like meeting women?

Let’s go back to the game and rewind just a little bit. The Jets found a way to beat Tim Tebow. I think they had eight three in outs on the Broncos. The Broncos couldn’t move. Tebow couldn’t run.

Tebow throws like a girl, I’ve never seen passes like that in the NFL. All his passes seemed to go absolutely nowhere but down to the ground or towards the stands.

But at the end of the game, the Jets became just like most guys are when it comes down to dating. They went into what is called the Prevent defense. And all the Prevent defense ever does in football is prevent you from winning.

I’ve seen it 1,000s of times. A team plays great defense for 55 minutes of the game, they give up no touchdowns at all. Then all of a sudden the quarterback, who’s been having a horrible game, will drive the team down the field and win the game. Because the defense that worked for 55 minutes is abandoned. Then the team is losing, and stays in Prevent defense mode, which of course, prevents them from winning.

I never understood why coaches do that, and I never understood why guys go into the Prevent defense when trying to go out and meet women.

Instead of trusting a new game plan, instead of going into attack mode, instead of going out and meeting women all day long, all guys seem to do (especially on a Friday or Saturday night) is go into Prevent defense mode. They think that just because they’re out on the playing field on a Friday night, that things are magically going to happen for them. That they will stumble across a win, stumble across a beautiful woman.

So what do they do? They wait, they kick back, stand around the room looking at everyone in Prevent defense mode. They wait for the right opportunity. They never go and approach. They’re playing it safe. Sure, they may be preventing themselves from getting rejected, but while they’re doing that, every other guy is swooping in ahead of them and talking to the women that they want to talk to.

The only way to meet the kind of women you want is to come up with a definitive game plan, a game plan that’s going to work, a game plan that’s aggressive and moves you forward. You’ve got to ditch the game plan you’ve had up until now, the game plan where you’re playing it safe.

Here’s the deal, guys. The year is almost over. You’re heading into the home stretch of the year, you’re heading into the final six weeks of the year. Do you have a definitive game plan? Or are you a guy who curls up and goes into Prevent mode? Are you a guy who lets everybody else run around you, advance down the field, walk away with the women that you want and then you’re left at the end of the day, basically being an arm chair quarterback, thinking to yourself, How could I have made this different? How could I have changed the outcome?

There’s no way to change that outcome unless you change the way you think. Unless you go at it aggressively and come up with a game plan that’s going to breathe success. By going out and talking to people openly and passionately all day long, you’re going to start leading people and you’re not going to let people walk all over you when the weekend hits and it comes down to Friday-Saturday night crunch time.

For those of you who are serious about meeting women this holiday time, if you’re sick of being single over the holidays, I’ve come up with a whole game plan for you to check out.

RIGHT NOW is by far the best time of the year to meet women. Why? Women are emotionally drained, emotionally looking to connect, looking to share the holidays with someone. It’s holiday time. They’re in holiday mode, shopping, out having fun and enjoying themselves.

They’re connecting with old friends. They’re available. They’re not going to make up the fake boyfriend. I explain to you why, I talk about all of this and much more in my game plan on how to meet women for the holidays.

Not only that, they want to end the year with a bang. The question is, are you going to be the one banging them? Or are you going to be the one standing on the sidelines wondering, waiting, hoping, basically standing in the corner of the bar going into Prevent defense mode over and over again?

It’s a must if you want to get down with new women this time of the year.

You can read David’s full “Hooking Up For The Holidays” guide over at his official blog and website, by clicking here

How To Date Your Best Friends Girl

David Wygant — Tue, 08 Nov 2011 18:58:46 +0000

Perhaps your best friend in the entire world was dating an amazing girl, and the whole time they were dating all you kept thinking was, “Why can’t I meet somebody like her?” Every time you hung out with them in a group, you had such great chemistry with her. She was so cool. You always told your buddy how lucky he was to have a woman like her.

Now they’ve broken up, and she’s started calling you. She tells you she’s starting to have feelings for you. At the same time, your best friend still talks about her and wonders if he did something wrong.

You’re in love with your best friend’s ex, and she is in love with you. How do you handle this? What do you do in this situation?

I am somebody who truly believes that people are not possessions. If I break up with someone — and I have broken up with a lot of people — I have no problem with any of my friends dating my ex, falling in love with her and even marrying her.

This has, in fact, happened to me. My good friend Charlie is married to a woman I used to date. They started dating three years after I broke up with her, and I was perfectly fine with it.

So, if you have feelings for your best friend’s ex, here is what you need to do: you need to confirm your feelings with her.

Sit down with her and tell her exactly how you feel. You know she feels the same way about you, as you do about her. Have that heart-to-heart talk with her and then ask her, “What do we do about telling my buddy? I don’t want to lose my friendship with him, but yet I don’t want to act on my feelings for you.” Both of you know your friend extremely well, and together you will be able to come up with a way to tell him so that he will not be angry or hurt.

There are a lot of guys out there who truly feel that once they have dated a woman, she is off limits to all of their friends — no matter how long it’s been since they broke up. I think this is the most ridiculous thing in the entire world. We don’t own people; we just share our time with them.

Once you’ve had a conversation with your best friend’s ex, you’ll need to sit down with your friend, and do one of the toughest things in the world — have “the talk.”

When you sit down with him, first tell him that he is your best friend and talk about how amazing your friendship with him is and how much it means to you. Then, you’ll need to ask him how he would feel if you start dating his ex. You need to be honest, and tell him everything; about how you feel, and if you’re serious about her or still trying to figure this out.

He may be angry and upset at first. He may not want to see you for a week or two. In time, though, he is going to understand; so, if you need to, give him his space. He’s not with her anymore. He is out there dating, having fun and sleeping with other women. Eventually, he is going to get over it.

If this is an amazing woman with whom you have incredible chemistry, women like her don’t come around that often. You have every right to pursue a relationship with her.

This is one of the tough times of your adult adolescence. You’ll need to display complete and total honesty not only with yourself, but with a woman with whom you are in love and also with your friend. This is going to be a tough lesson, but a valuable one. Your ability to be honest and confront difficult conversations with two people you care about, even though they won’t be safe or easy conversations, will exhibit what sort of person you are.

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3 Ways To Make A Great Woman Notice You

Editor — Wed, 26 Oct 2011 20:54:48 +0000

Do you know why 99% of men get INSTANTLY REJECTED when they approach a high-quality woman?

I know you think you know the answer, but I can almost guarantee that YOU DON’T.

Fact is, after watching so many men rely on their looks…
their bank accounts…
lame “pick up” lines and memorized “scripts”…

All of this just to get the attention of high-quality women, here’s what I realized:

The REAL reason these guys STILL get rejected has ZERO to do with these things. The *REAL* reason most guys get rejected is simply this:

High-quality women come “pre-wired” with an idea of what they want in their personal “Mr. Right”.

These are the qualities that get their attention in the first place. These are the qualities that make them want to connect more deeply and emotionally with a particular man. These are the qualities that make them want to GET PHYSICAL with a particular man. All of which is why relying on looks, money, “lines” and “gimmicks” are a fool’s errand when it comes to succeeding with great women!

IN REALITY, all of these gimmicks and mind-games usually have exactly the OPPOSITE effect. They make a great woman experience that “Oh no, not this again…” feeling and instantly become disinterested. They instantly send the lethal “signal” that a man is NOT coming from a place of personal confidence and strength. In other words… a place where he could possibly be her ultimate “Mr. Right.” This is why, whenever I talk about approaching a great woman in the “right” way, I’m ACTUALLY talking about sending her the “right” signals, right from the start.

And this is something that YOU (or ANY man) can start doing TONIGHT by doing 3 things when you first meet a great woman:

Buckle in, here they come…

#1: USE PROPER BODY LANGUAGE

SHOCKER: Body language is almost MORE important than words when you first meet a great woman!
This is why most guys INSTANTLY destroy any chance of success by acting nervous… submissive… even (gag) apologetic when they approach a woman.

This sends the INSTANT signal that they aren’t ANY woman’s “Mr. Right” which INSTANTLY shuts down her receptiveness to being approached.

Sounds like a hopeless, vicious cycle, right?

Well, it is. In the meantime, let’s move on to the next way to make a great woman notice you:

#2: START A GREAT CONVERSATION

How many times do I have to say it. When it comes to getting noticed by quality women, the best way to “flirt” is to know how to start (and carry on) a great conversation. And to do it, I recommend that all grown men take a page out of the Boy Scout handbook… and BE PREPARED.

That means always continuing to EDUCATE yourself. It means always having a few “hot” current topics in your back pocket and being well-versed on them. It means mentally rehearsing them if you have to so that you can converse in a smooth, confident way.

Here’s a great way to make all of that happen:

I recommend reading one major newspaper cover-to- cover every day… there’s no better way to get a “crash course” on what’s happening in the world and the ability to speak on it intelligently. Now, mix in some intelligent HUMOR to the conversation (study comedy books if you have to) and you’ll suddenly find TONS of great women opening the door to the possibility that you just might be their “Mr. Right”.

For example:

Once you’ve started a conversation, if a woman says something like, “I usually don’t go out with guys I haven’t known for a long time,” be ready with a cocky / funny observation AND then make it highlight one of your personal qualities!

One of my favorite ways to do it is to say something like, “Gee, I hope you’ve already met your future husband then, and that he’s half as (smart… tall… funny… wonderful… whatever) as me…” See what’s happening there? I’m using the power of being Cocky & Funny… while ALSO signaling my “Mr. Right” qualities.

This works like MAGIC because CONFIDENCE and HUMOR are, by far, the top traits that women use to “size up” a man. There ARE no close seconds. That in mind…

#3: LOWER THE STAKES

No doubt about it: the biggest reason men have trouble with #1 and #2 is because they’re so TENSE… so NERVOUS… even SO SCARED when they meet a great woman. And it’s all because they feel like there’s so much AT STAKE. In other words, most guys are so worried that they’re going “blow it” and embarrass themselves. Or they’re so certain that, if they DO blow it, they’re doomed to never have a chance with a great woman again that they start sabotaging themselves right from the beginning.

This is why I suggest that men look at EVERY first meeting with a woman as one of MANY to come and then act accordingly!

Act like you’re meeting with a good buddy or an old friend for a casual outing… and then BEHAVE that way.

Even better:

Imagine how you’d act on a first date if you were behaving like you KNEW with 100%-certainty that a woman already thought you were her Mr. Right…

What would you do?

Here’s what….

You’d ask MEANINGFUL questions about her deeper interests and passions instead of making nervous “small talk.” You’d PAY ATTENTION to her answers and follow up in smart, appropriate ways. You’d REMEMBER what was important to her, and focus on those subjects.

Okay, I know, I know…

“Imagining” all of this sounds like a big shift in the way most guys think… And YOU’RE RIGHT. It actually IS. But — once YOU can make this change to your so- called “inner game” — it will result in a HUGE change in how easy it is for you to get the attention of great women. In fact… it will start to happen AUTOMATICALLY!!!

Once you do, I’m confident that EVERY part of your life will begin to run more smoothly. You’ll begin to feel like you’re on “auto-pilot” as you make all of the right moves in life and with great women every time… just because it’s all coming naturally (from DEEP inside you) to do it!

Bottom line:

When it comes to getting great women to notice YOU, it’s the qualities that identify you as a potential “Mr. Right” that will peak their interest. So focus on building THOSE traits inside yourself, and you’ll NEVER have to rely on looks, money, canned “lines” or stale “scripts” again…

Great women will receive the signal loud and clear about who you REALLY are (and everything that you REALLY have to offer) and start paying major attention to YOU.

I guarantee it: once this starts happening, you’ll wonder how you ever lived without it and why you waited so long to get it!

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Until next time…

Your friend,
David DeAngelo

The Best Way To Get Her On A Date

Editor — Tue, 11 Oct 2011 18:18:51 +0000

Jonathan: If you want to take someone out, what do you say on the first call?

David: What would I say on my first phone call? The first phone call should always be based on something that we talked about the night before – always. I want to bring her back to the moment that we had before.

I don’t “date” that much at all. I’m very much about just hanging out; connecting… so my first phone conversation is always based on something we talked about the last time.

Jonathan: So let’s say I met her on the street when she was handing out fliers, and we bonded over Sweden. She’s from Sweden, and I’ve been there before.

David: Okay, what else?

Jonathan: Music, movies – she’s also a musician and an actress.

David: So how did you ask for her number? What did you say to her?

Jonathan: I don’t know, I don’t really remember.

David: Okay, well here’s the thing: it all starts with the way that you ask for the number. The way you ask for her number is the same way you start the phone conversation.

So if you said, “oh my god, I’ve really enjoyed talking music with you. Give me your number, I want to continue this conversation,” you’re giving her something to look forward to.

Then you call her up on the phone, you can say, “hey, how are you doing? You know, I was thinking about what we were talking about the other night and I was really curious and wondering whether or not you listen to the Postal Service?” or something.

You want to make it as if the conversation has almost never stopped. You want her to feel like it’s just a continuous conversation from the last time until now.

So many guys don’t relate to women very well. They will get her phone number and then call her up and telemarket her: “so, I’m the guy that you gave your number…”

It’s all about creating that moment. It’s the only line from Jerry Maguire that actually made sense – “you had me at hello.”

Women are looking for that magic “hello” or whatever it might be. They are looking for something to help them build that story up. It’s a continual story.

So that Swedish musician? That story is Jonathan and the Swedish Girl. The story started with music and meatballs – she was handing out fliers on the street and she met this cool guy who asked for her number. He called her the next night and remembered the details about the conversation (which excites women, because their biggest complaint is that men don’t listen.)

You bring that real conversation into the phone conversation. That is how I would do it.

Today is also all about how to relate to her when you first speak to her. Check out todays video.

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How To Make A Woman Attracted To You

Editor — Fri, 07 Oct 2011 17:27:59 +0000

What is attraction, and more importantly, how do we create it in the opposite sex?

Plenty of us have friends galore, perhaps even many female friends, but when we honestly look at our relationship history, how many of us can say with confidence, “Yeah, I know how to get a woman I’ve just met to feel attraction towards me within a few minutes…”

Very few of us, indeed. But it doesn’t have to be that way.

I’m Paul Janka, and for the last 5 years, I’ve been teaching men how to generate sexual attraction in females. I’m a professional dating coach and international speaker, and the talent I was given (and have developed over the years) is how to turn a woman on, before she even knows it’s happening. It turns out that this is the foundation of successful dating, and I have spent the last few years teaching thousands of men from all over the world the few simple techniques that will get a girl sexually excited by you, almost every time.

How many times have you been conversing with a hot girl, thinking simultaneously, “Okay, I have got to do something here. This conversation is flat, and man is this girl hot! I have got to make some kind of move…” But, instead you shake her hand, and tell her pathetically that it was “nice meeting you…”

I’ve done it, and it’s painful. The reality is, if you don’t know what to say and how to say it, you’ll never flip that switch inside every woman that will cause her to feel tingly and look at you not simply as a “dude” but actually as a piece of meat she wants to devour!