Cocky and Funny
Why You Should Be Cocky and Funny
It just doesn’t make sense to some guys that teasing women, busting their balls, being slightly arrogant, not kissing up to them, etc. could or should make them feel attraction. I can understand this because I was exactly the same way the first few times I heard cocky and funny and saw cocky and funny being used. I kept thinking to myself, “If I do this cocky and funny thing, I’m only going to come across as arrogant… and that can’t make women like me more.”
Well, was I wrong.
You must always remember that ATTRACTION isn’t logical. It doesn’t follow the rules that it “should” follow. ATTRACTION is a very powerful emotion that has reasons and triggers that don’t make any sense at first glance. I’m sure you’ve seen many attractive women with guys who mistreat them, abuse them, and were exactly the opposite of what you’d expect a woman to accept.
ATTRACTION. In the beginning she felt attraction, and as bad as it may sound, almost no amount of being “bad”, abusive, or jerk-ish can convince a woman, feeling a strong attraction to a guy, to leave. So let me take the opportunity to talk a bit about the cocky and funny attitude, why it works, and how to use it to attract women (without having to be an abusive jerk). First of all, you have to remember that the formula is Cocky AND Funny. Always both.
If you act too cocky, you’ll only come off as arrogant and insecure. If you’re just funny, always telling jokes, and making people laugh, you will probably come across as “too goofy.” But if you use BOTH together, you will create magic. Cocky and funny is like sparring… it’s sport… it’s fun… it’s challenging… it’s interesting when used with skill. So let’s get clear about what “Cocky and Funny” is.
Here’s a cocky statement:
“Her dress makes her look fat.”
A Cocky and Funny Statement
“If she doesn’t find a dress that fits better, the fashion police are going to send in the SWAT team for her ass.”
Start with arrogance, then add humor. So why does it work to attract women? Well, the short (email newsletter size) answer is:
COCKY AND FUNNY ATTRACTS WOMEN BECAUSE IT QUICKLY AND DIRECTLY SAYS ALL THE RIGHT THINGS ABOUT YOU.
Women are attracted to “alpha male” types – We all know that. Women are attracted to a sense of humor. We all know that one too. Women AREN’T attracted to men who give away their power, kiss up to them, smother them with attention, act like whipped puppies, and get nervous just being in the same room with them. And by the way, giving away power to women is a much more complex topic than using humor, etc. If you meet an attractive woman, and IMMEDIATELY start giving her a hard time about something, busting on her, and having fun, it basically says to her:
“You are interesting enough to talk to, but you’re going to have to do a lot more than just look good to impress me. Your beauty doesn’t make me nervous in the least, I’m perfectly calm, and in fact, I’m so comfortable that I just noticed something about you that I’m going to make fun of…”
There is no faster way on earth to communicate all the right attitudes, beliefs, self-image, comfort, confidence, and power than to be cocky and funny. Once you start using this attitude, you will be totally astounded at the results. Here’s a low-risk example:
Next time you’re at the grocery store in the checkout line paying for your groceries, say: “So how much of this cash do you get to keep?” (as you hand her the money)
She’ll probably laugh and say: “None… I wish.”
To which you can respond with: “Oh, I figured you were pocketing 10 or 20%… I assumed you were rich and could support me, but now I’m not interested… I want a rich girl.” (Turn up your nose)
This is a great one. It’s always fun to ask a woman if she’s rich or famous, then when she says that she’s not, tell her that it messed up her chances with you, and that you’re not interested anymore.
Cocky and Funny Do’s and Dont’s
One of the keys to the cocky and funny attitude is to never “crack.” If she opens her mouth and gives you the “I can’t believe you just said that” look, you need to turn it up a notch…
Most guys will crack and say “Oh, I was just kidding.”
DON’T DO THAT! It makes you look like a wussy. In the example above, if the checker looks at you and gives you the open mouthed “I can’t believe you said that” look and says, “Hey! I may not be rich, but I’m nice!”, you just look at her and say “Nice isn’t good enough, I need RICH AND nice.”
Your goal is not to upset a woman, but to get under her skin enough by teasing, busting on her, and acting cocky and funny so that it ignites the magical challenge/attraction mechanism. And once you can see that you’re getting a good response from a woman, GET HER NUMBER. Or get her email. Don’t stand around like a dork trying to make her laugh. As you become better and better with these tools, you can then begin “extending” the conversation… increasing the attraction… and taking things to the “next level”. So get out there and use it, because the magic formula of cocky and funny will create all kinds of good things for you. You’ll see. And if you’re reading this right now and thinking to yourself “I really need to learn how to master this cocky and funny thing”, then I AGREE!
In fact, learning how to be cocky and funny is one of the FASTEST, EASIEST, and MOST FUN ways you can make women feel ATTRACTION for you. If you’d like to get a “fast track” education on cocky and funny, then I HIGHLY recommend that you check out David Deangelo’s book, Double Your Dating.