» Talking To Women

The #1 Communication Problem Men Have

David Wygant — Fri, 28 Aug 2009 18:23:38 +0000

The other night during dinner I came up with a quote I want you to read:
“Embrace change at my own pace.”

I embrace change at my own pace.

You need to really take that statement in and listen to what it’s saying. How many times in a relationship have you talked to someone and given them your point of view, and then expected them to just react right away?

Let’s say you’re dating someone and you’ve been talking a little here and there about moving in together. Then you say to the other person that you want to move in with them and you list all the reasons why it’s a good idea. Do you then expect the other person to immediately respond with an answer? Do you get angry if they don’t immediately react and respond?

So many of us spend so much time wanting people to react the way we react. We want them to react exactly how we react and do it when we want them to do it.

Think about this from a little different perspective. When you are in a relationship and decide you’re ready to bring up a really important subject with your partner, you have almost always spent a lot of time thinking about and processing that topic before you actually bring it up.

Your partner, however, is just hearing about that topic for the first time when you raise it with them, and they haven’t had the benefit of being able to process the subject like you have. So don’t expect them to be ready to respond in that instance.

So many of us spend so much time wanting people to react the way we react. Then if and when they don’t react in that exact way, we start freaking out and playing mind games with ourselves.

I am equally guilty of that. In my relationship, sometimes I will have a conversation with my girlfriend and I’ll say something to her to which I want an answer that day. When I do this, she always says to me, “Give me time. Let me react in my own time.”

So many of us make assumptions. We hear what we want to hear. How many times do you have selective hearing?

Say you call someone on a Saturday. They don’t call you back that day . . . or the next one. Do you text them three times asking, “How come you haven’t called me back? Why aren’t you calling me back?” Perhaps they didn’t have their phone on them.

How many times to do you send an email to someone at 10:00 a.m. and, if you don’t get a response by noon, you send another email asking “How come you never responded to my email?” Allow people to respond on their own time.

When you allow people to respond on their own time you are not only going to get the response you desire (because the answer will come from their heart), but it’s going to be a real response and not a forced one.

People suffocate each other all the time, and they don’t allow each other the space they each need to reflect on these “heavy” conversation topics. When we do that, it’s a reflection of the lack of trust and faith in both the other person and in yourself. That instant gratification you want really can ruin a relationship, because you are forcing someone to answer you when they are not ready.

There is no reason to force people into answering when they’re not ready. There is no reason to make someone say something they’re not ready to say.

Have some patience in life. The more patient you are in a relationship, the greater a relationship with someone will be. So many of you ruin relationships that could potentially be great because of the way you force it.

If you give people time, then a relationship will grow and become exactly what you need it to be. You need to have trust and faith, because neurosis will just drive people crazy.

In today’s podcast, I talk more about communication and about how bringing up these heavy conversation topics can create fear and anxiety in all of us. Then I go into how to relax and feel better about talking out the tough times in your life with friends, relationship partners and business associates. This is one you don’t want to miss!

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A Quick Bar Opener

David Wygant — Mon, 04 May 2009 20:39:06 +0000

Do you want a quick easy fun bar opener that no one ever thinks of or uses.

Here is an experiment I did one time with a friend in a bar. Coach Jacob and I just stood in one place, but we had an animated conversation. We were just having a good time. We stood right in the middle of the bar – so that everyone in the bar was standing around us – and just talked animatedly.

And women started coming over to us, asking, “What are you guys talking about?” We’d say, “Look, I’ll meet with you in five minutes; we just have to finish this conversation.” I would push them away a little bit, which would intrigue them a little bit more. In a bar, you can be very playful like that.

So after a few minutes, I looked at one woman and kind of waved her over. She came over and asked, “What?” and I said, “You were curious about what we were talking about, and I want to tell you.” Then I explained what it was we were talking about. “We were just discussion life and the nature of spirituality…” and she just stood there with her mouth wide open.

So then I looked at her and asked, “So tell me, how do you feel about this?” and for five minutes she went off on a tangent, full of passion and emotion, just like I did. She was mimicking my body language the entire time.

Most guys at bars are thinking about what the woman’s body language says. Who cares! It’s your body language that will attract other people.

So once I got her all full of passion, I asked her, “Are those your friends?” She said they were. “Alright, bring them over. We need more people’s opinions.” We had ten people – two of us, and eight girls – all sitting there and talking about spirituality and what it means to be alive. We had the most amazing conversation.

When we left, they all looked at us and said, “This was the greatest experience we’ve ever had in a bar!” It was the first time they’d ever had a real conversation at a bar.

It all comes from you putting yourself in the middle of that bar and saying to yourself: I will be the center of attention in this room tonight. I will talk to my friend and pull over whomever I want in this room!

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Getting A Womans Phone Number While Driving

Donovan — Fri, 17 Apr 2009 04:11:39 +0000

by Vin Di Carlo.

I live in L.A. and I see hot girls all the time in traffic. I have a nice car (BMW) and I have a nice job and style. I read the ‘code so I know what to do but I am always in LA traffic seeing these hot ass girls lol! What do you suggest for “traffic game?”

– Seth, Long Beach, CA

I had to laugh at this email, because I know exactly what Seth is talking about.

(living right next to New York City makes driving by a hot woman an EVERY DAY thing)

The U.S. has such a car culture. I mean, one of the MOST COMMON places where we interact with a TON of people, is in traffic. In Europe and other places it’s quite different:

People mostly walk, and there are lots of public spaces for people to congregate and meet each other.

And I believe it’s one of the reasons European women are more sexual in nature… While American women find European men so sexually attractive.

(Plus, the accent doesn’t hurt…)

However, in America, we spend a good chunk of our lives in our cars, looking at the floating heads of strangers, fogged by two layers of window. It’s really a strange thing, evolutionarily.

Our brains did not evolve for eons for this kind situation. And yet here we are.

One of the great things about being human is that we can create new things, and then adapt to them. Our brains are adaptation machines!

And there are definitely ways to adapt to the inherent obstacles of meeting women in traffic, or any situation for that matter.

How often have you been sitting at a light, and you look over and see a HOT older woman in a minvan…I mean a real MILF, and you just wanted to say something, but you didn’t know how?

I know rolling down the window and yelling, “HEY! WHO LIES MORE? MEN OR WOMEN?” doesn’t sound like it would work…

Or maybe you’re on the highway, and you look over to the next lane to see a cute, young hottie with a great set of perky breasts and long blond hair bunched in a pony-tail…

So what do you DO? Now, I WILL give you tips and advice you can use starting today…

… But this brings up a deeper issue I want to go over, first:

You see, I’m a big proponent of SAVING TIME.

I don’t like to spend a lot of time preparing what I say, and talking to a woman that may not be available or interested. So I like to do things efficiently. I like to go direct, and I like to begin escalating quickly.

I actually WANT the woman to have the opportunity to reject me.

That way, if she does, I can move one without wasting another second of my time, which is very valuable these days.

My attitude is the same in traffic, and in fact it’s EASIER to “open” a lot of women in traffic, with ZERO risk. The great thing is, if she complies with you, by actually talking to you or giving you her number (as I’ll tell you how to do in a second), there’s an almost certain chance of a successful outcome. (ie. getting her over to your place THAT NIGHT.. or well within one-to-two dates)

There are two ways to go about meeting women while in traffic. Keep in mind I’m not talking about women walking on the street, as you drive by.

I’m talking car-to-car here. The first way is exchanging numbers. You can do this by giving her your number, or by her giving you hers. There are a variety of methods for this:

You can lean out of your window and simply say:

“Hey! You’re a cutie. I got a boring drive ahead of me. How bout I give you a call!”

Or you could do something situational, like if you’re stuck in a traffic jam, roll your window down, get her attention – be sure to smile – and say:

“Looks like we’ll be here for a while. I think you’re cute. Let’s talk!”

Another thing you can do is write your number on a piece of paper in big clear numbers, and add something like “EMERGENCY – call this number now,” or “SOS,” or something funny that will make her curious.

Get her attention and put it up on the window. You’ll probably want to write out your message ahead of time and keep it in the car at all times since you never know when you’ll see a cute woman in traffic.

The other thing you can do is go for a quick instadate on the spot. Instead of going for a number exchange, you can just say –

“Hey! I think you’re gorgeous. How ’bout some coffee – pull into the starbucks up the road!”

I want to make something clear:

Your percentage of actual closes in traffic is going to be quite small.

But that’s OK.

It’s a VERY tough situation, logistically.

The good news is that it’s really easy and you can do it ALL THE TIME. I don’t know about you, but driving isn’t very exciting. This is an easy, simple, risk-free way to make your trip a whole lot more fun. It’s not like you have anything better to do – you’re just sitting there. It takes almost no effort, and you’ll never see these women again!

So there’s no risk, no cost, just the potential for a great outcome. And like I said, if the woman complies, you can bet that’s a solid number. And if she actually stops somewhere to meet you, you can bet she’s horny and has nothing better to do!

The key to all this is to be silly and spontaneous, and just GO FOR IT.

If that sounds hard for you, because you don’t consider yourself a fun, silly, spontaneous guy, I beg to differ. Every man has the ability to be a pickup artist and make the most of his opportunities. All you need to do, is get out there, and give just ONE of the many examples I told you a try.

Just once… Just today…

… Make it happen, FOR YOURSELF!

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Is “Romance” Attractive To Women?

Donovan — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 20:26:06 +0000

You’ve probably noticed that I don’t talk about the idea of “romance” very often.

There’s a good reason for this.

I think that most guys use romance in completely the wrong way, and in the process screw up their chances with the woman that they are interested in. I’m going to take some time here to talk about my personal perspective on romance, how it is misused, and how to use it to really make a woman feel attracted to you. Most guys make one of two main mistakes when trying to be “romantic”:

1) They try to use romance to CREATE attraction.

2) They use TOO MUCH romance, thinking that more
must be better.

Let me ask you this… What does romance mean to you?

I’m serious. Think about it for a minute.

Does romance mean gifts and flower?

Does it mean fancy dinners?

Does it mean candles and soft music?

To me, romance is about showing a softer side of yourself… a more thoughtful side… in a way that is meant to INCREASE the woman’s attraction for you.

Like I just mentioned, most guys either try to use romance to CREATE attraction, or they do too many things in an attempt to “be romantic”, and the effect is lost.

Here’s a quiz:

In general, would a woman think you were more romantic if you:

1) Brought her red roses every time you saw her.

2) Brought her one flower the fourth time you saw her, but it was her favorite flower, in her favorite color.

…???

Here’s another one…

In general, would a woman think you were more romantic if you:

1) Took her to a fancy dinner every time you saw her.

2) Didn’t take her to dinner, but one night cooked her a favorite dish that your mom taught you and told her the story of how it came to be a family favorite?

Do you see where I’m going with these examples?

“Romance” is all about the context of the situation. In other words, little things that are thoughtful, used once in awhile will make FAR more of an impact than trying to do everything you possibly can all the time.

Have you ever seen a T. V. show or movie with a girl holding a flower, pulling off each petal one at a time and saying, “He loves me, he loves me not”? This is a famous cliche… even Madonna does it in her old “Truth or Dare” movie.

What’s going on here? And why is it now such a famous idea that it is almost universally known?

Because it strikes a chord inside of women everywhere! Every woman can relate to the idea of thinking about a man and wondering if he’s thinking about her. Pulling petals off of a flower and saying, “Heloves me, he loves me not”, is just another way of saying, “I can’t stop thinking about this guy and I’m going to keep thinking about him until I know how he feels.”

As you know, if you’ve read past newsletters and/or my ebook, I think that it’s important to CREATE this kind of situation as much as humanly possible. Now, here’s where romance fits into the puzzle… If you’re doing things that you considerto be “romantic” all the time, then she has nothing to wonder about… nothing to think about… there is no challenge or mystery at all.

On the other hand, if you use romance more carefully and keep her on the edge of her seat, so to speak, then a small romantic gesture will cause her to feel GREAT feelings of attraction inside… and cause her to work even harder to get and keep your attention – BECAUSE SHE’LL TRY HARDER TO GET MORE OUT OF THIS ROMANTIC SIDE OF YOU! So what are some things you can do, that women see as romantic, without going overboard?

Well, if you want to do the typical things like flowers, gifts, music, poetry, etc. then do as I said earlier: Use them VERY infrequently. Tease her, bust on her, treat her like a bratty little sister most of the time, then out of nowhere do something thoughtful. But make sure to stay cool when the emotional reaction comes!

She’s probably going to be very happy and want to know “where that came from.” Just tell her that you were thinking about her and move on to the
next topic. Don’t get all mushy, dude. By the way, if you’ve gone out with a woman 47 times, and you don’t know if she likes you, and you’re now thinking, “Oh, hey… great idea! I’ll buy her a flower and she’ll feel attracted to me…” then get a new idea.

Romance isn’t a way to make a woman feel attracted to you.

Romance is a way to AMPLIFY attraction that is already happening.

Read that last part again… DON’T TRY TO MAKE A WOMAN FEEL ATTRACTED TO YOU WITH ROMANCE!

Attraction is created by factors other than gifts, dinners, flowers, etc. If she’s not feeling attracted to you, then showing her that you’re attracted to her probably isn’t going to change it… in fact, it may just push her away.

I know, I know… you once heard about a guy who pursued a woman for 9 years until she finally gave in and married him. Well, that might work, but I don’t have 9 years (unless it’s Cindy Crawford… yeah, I know she’s like 50, but she’s STILL hot).

Earlier I mentioned a couple of great ideas. You can cook her a special meal that has meaning… and tell the story behind it. Stories are romantic, especially if the story contains a love story.

And small gifts can be romantic as well (I don’t like big gifts because they change the dynamic of the relationship and can create all kinds of feelings that it’s a trade of affection for money, etc.).

If you pay attention, a woman will mention something that she really likes. It could be a kind of flower, a kind of music, an author, etc. If you want to be romantic (after you know that she’s attracted to you) you can get something thoughtful then write a card that says, “I was thinking about you, and I found this… thought you would like it. Kiss Kiss.” Use romance as the spice, and not the main dish. Use it to amplify, not as your main strategy. Romance combined with the techniques that I teach is a VERY powerful combination.

HOW TO CREATE A SETTING THAT AUTOMATICALLY CREATES AND AMPLIFIES ATTRACTION…

We just talked about how most guys either have no clue about romance, or they use it too much… which screws up everything for them.

There is one aspect of romance that I have found very useful to know more about and use. It’s the concept of how to create a SETTING that will create more of a feeling of attraction inside of the woman that you are with.

WARNING: What I’m about to share with you is not a magic bullet. It’s no substitute for a cocky, funny personality and great skills. Using this alone will not make you successful with women. With that said… I’ve found that there are a few things you can do in your immediate environment to “accelerate the mood”, so to speak, when you are with a woman.

Women have very active senses… usually much more so than men.

If you have already sparked the attraction between you and her, introducing certain sensory stimulus will usually increase the attraction, and can lead to a more, shall we say “physical” demonstration of that attraction.

OK, let’s say that you’ve had a fun night out with your girl (and of course, because you read Double Your Dating (review) you knew where to take her that was fun and inexpensive) and you’re back at your place. (Of course, she came inside because you learned how to get her to come in from the book too… right?) And then you use the Kiss Test, which you learned when you visited my web site… and you’ve just kissed for the first time. Now what?

Well, most guys make the HUGE mistake of trying to grope the poor girl… which, of course leads to the inevitable “I think that we’re moving a
little fast. Let’s take things slower.” (Translation: “None for you tonight, and if you try that again, none for you anytime in the next 10 dates.”)

Instead, try this:

After that first kiss, pull back and look into her eyes and say, “Yum.” Then stand up and say, “Let me see if I can do something about this setting” in a fun, smooth, kind-of suspenseful tone of voice.

Here’s the recipe:

1) A few candles

2) Some incense

3) A glass of wine (if you both drink and are of legal age)

4) Sade’s – Greatest Hits on low

I know it sounds simple, but let me explain the recipe now that you know the ingredients. Remember the formula “Two steps forward, one step back” that I often talk about? Mix up these ingredients with that concept… and VIOLA! More and MORE AND MORE attraction.

You probably don’t need to learn how to light candles, open wine, and play music. If you do, refer to the instructions that come with the products.

I personally like to introduce these as great ways to interrupt the kissing (and whatever else is going on).

Try this:

1) Kiss Kiss

2) “Let me see if I can do something about this setting”

3) Light candles and incense, lower lighting

4) Kiss Kiss

5) Open wine and put on ‘Sade’

6) Kiss Kiss

7) Watch out… because something good is about to happen.

Here’s what’s going on in her mind:

“Oh, we’re kissing. I’d better not let this go too far.”

“What? Why did he stop kissing me? Oh, candles. I love candles…”

“Wow, this is turning into a make-out session, maybe I’d better put on the brakes.”

“What? Why did he stop again?”

“Ohhh, I LOVE ‘Sade’. Her voice is so sexy. And this wine is nice. Hmm, I wonder why he isn’t trying to jump my bones. Maybe he doesn’t think I’m a good kisser. Maybe he changed his mind. Well I’m not going to let that happen. I’ll show him…”

Do you get it? By simultaneously creating tension while making the setting more and more ‘romantic’, you will stir up her ATTRACTION towards you and make her be the one who ultimately gets so worked up that she can’t help but have you.

Nice.

Of course there are many other things you can do that are romantic. Like sprinkling rose petals on the bed, pulling out some Godiva chocolate, or lighting up the fire and grabbing a blankie (make sure you don’t bring out your teddy-bear from when you were a kid… that might not go over too well). It’s really up to you. The key is to use these things sparingly, and use them with the concepts that you’ve already learned to AMPLIFY THE ATTRACTION that you’ve already created with your COMMUNICATION.

So remember, use these things with women who are ALREADY feeling the attraction, not to create it!

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How To Talk To Women – Free Video Training

Donovan — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 22:37:24 +0000

Have you ever been talking with a bunch of guys, shooting the breeze, and all of a sudden a woman joins your group, and the vibe of the conversation changes COMPLETELY?

It’s like someone just threw a wrench into the gears. Suddenly the subject changes, and you hear a record scratch in the background.

Now all of a sudden you start censoring yourself and talking the way you think you “should” around a woman.

I remember when I would walk up to a group of girls and feel my mind freezing up on me like a puddle in winter. My mind would just go completely blank.

Now, there’s a secret here that I’m going to reveal to you in this article that will help you talk to women with much more calm confidence – once you understand a hidden desire that women have.

I want to tell you something about my childhood first…

Don’t worry, we’re not getting in touch with our “inner child” or anything like that.

You see, I when I was a kid, I liked to hang around girls…

Sure, I had a lot of guy friends, but I also spent a LOT of time hanging around groups of girls whenever I could.

Yeah, I got teased about it a lot, but I had a feeling these girls were going to be the next big thing in a few years, and I wanted to start researching this trend right away.

The cool thing about having spent so much time around them was that I learned just how girls think and communicate. I started to understand what it was that women wanted in their conversations.

This one thing – this hidden ingredient – was something that guys were missing in almost every conversation they had with a woman.

What is this missing part?

Well, there was an old joke that we used to have when I was doing project management for big corporations. They would call us in to do a big project plan. And then we joked that it would look like this:

Step 1) Begin project to install new system

Step 2) *** A miracle happens ***

Step 3) Project success!

Well, obviously step 2 is where most people just smile, close their eyes, and go into their ‘happy place.’ (It’s this kind of wishful thinking that has led us to problems in our economy as well as the environment.)

Well, this “miracle happens” thinking has led me to realize just how many guys are making a really BIG error in their logic with women…

You see most guys have this concept of how conversation works with women:

Step 1) Start conversation

Step 2) ??? A miracle happens ???

Step 3) Get a date.

Step 2 is that ‘mystery step’ where ‘a miracle happens’ and she just instantly finds you interesting enough to want to go on a date with you.

This is a little like thinking that someone is going to want to buy a car without experiencing sitting in it, or test driving it out on the open road. Not many people “mail order” their cars.

The secret desire that women have that will help you fill in the blank between “Walk up to woman” and “get her phone number” is actually VERY simple.

And it’s not a miracle, either.

It is…

EMOTION.

Sometimes known as: DRAMA.

But not the BAD kind of drama. It’s the GOOD kind.

You see “drama” that a woman wants just means emotional ENERGY.

Ever had a dish of spaghetti where someone just dumped a plain bottle of tomato sauce on it? My grandma used to make it this way, and it was really boring.

Now, throw in a little garlic, onions, basil, and a bit of red pepper and now you’ve got yourself a spicy meat-a-ball!

It’s the same thing with conversations. Emotional energy is what gives spice to a conversation for a woman.

The good news is that there is a reliable set of strategies that I want to show you that build that kind of energy women are looking for in conversation.

And I want to teach them to you for F-R-E-E.

Not only that, but I want to teach you some of my conversation techniques (inner and outer game) that will work for you in just about ANY situation – talking with friends, co-workers, family,
women – whoever.

In the first video, you’re going to learn:

- The one hidden element of powerful conversation that you cannot create – you can only *discover*…

- The REAL reason a woman puts you into the “friends only” category…

- Why you never want to “flip” – or BE flipped…

- What the dating “program” is – and how to stop running this
program before it crashes your system…

Go watch the video here:

http://www.alphaconfidence.com/conversation-persuasion/video-1.php

Oh, and I hope you’ll forgive me for the last 60 seconds of this video. I had to cut loose and have some fun. Some videos can be really boring, so I thought I’d throw in a little something different for you rockers out there…

And be sure to watch your email over the next few days. I’ve got about 90 minutes of great videos to share with you that are going to change your conversation game for good…

Go here right now to see my conversation inner game video:

http://www.alphaconfidence.com/conversation-persuasion/video-1.php

Your friend,

Carlos Xuma

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What Game Really Is

Cameron Teone — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 15:46:52 +0000

You probably have often heard this infamous phrase: “Man, that guy has game!”

What does that mean? How is it that one guy “Has game” and the next guys doesn’t? What does it really imply to even have game? What sort of a mystical power is this? What the f*ck is game anyway?

Let me strip it down to its basic components for ya!

We say a guy “Has game” when he is pretty good at attracting women to himself. The good old 80/20 rule applies here. 20% of men probably have game and the other 80% sort of fall into various categories of having little to no game.

Regardless of whether a guy learned to be good attracting women through the seduction community or just happened to be naturally good at it, he possesses certain ingredients.

In fact, to make it really simple: Let’s say this dude is a “Natural.” He’s never heard of the “Seduction Community” nor does he care about it. He is just good with women. He has game.

Well, here is what game really is broken down to 3 components:

***ATTITUDE***

(The balls factor)

This means having big balls, taking chances, and having some alpha-male characteristics. That means he is confident and has maybe an edge of cockiness even perhaps. It’s best summed up in the word Attitude. (Not attitude problem, but just an aura that the guy has high self-esteem.)

***SOCIAL CALIBRATION & SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE***

In the business, we call it “Calibration.” It’s Knowing what to say, and WHEN to say it! It’s Having an intuitive understanding of the type of women you’re talking to, and the circumstances you’re in.

Men who are players have some intuitive understanding of social dynamics. They know when to push and when to pull back a bit, they know are able to gauge their target demographic. It also means having a good nose for knowing when to go for the close because she is ready…..

I’ve met guys who have male-bimbos who were good at attracting certain type of women, only because they intuitively understood their target demographic (which happened to be other airhead females, but they’re good at working that target audience.)

*** Ability to Be INTERESTING and APPEALING on some level***

Whether it’s through humor, great storytelling, or intriguing conversations, the guy is able to create interest on some level. This includes guys who are not even very intelligent, but they’re still able to tell idiotic stories of their exploits that engage their target demographic. (Picture the drunken idiot fraternity boy here.)

Most naturals seem to be pretty good storytellers. Even if they grew up in a small town and had the plain small town American experience, they’re still are good at conveying it.

You have to be interesting as a person on some level and story telling is one of those ways. Whether you’re an intellectual or a stereotypical jock, you have to be able to convey that on some level.

That’s all Game is. When you hear someone say, “That guy has game,” he basically has some attitude/confidence, is interesting and is able to calibrate well because he has social intelligence.

That’s it!

The riddle is solved!

Guess we can all go home now and resume our normal lives. If it’s that simple, why is it difficult for some guys to get it? Or rather, why don’t some guys ever improve significantly?

That’s because each of the main 3 points can take time to develop and there are a lot of nuances to be learned within each of the aforementioned areas.

I shared this little insight with my buddy Jay, and he was very adamant about me mentioning that just because someone possesses these 3 qualities, does not mean they can go and pick up women everywhere and anywhere.

He has a point. I can see how the post would be misconstrued. This post is merely drawing an outline. It’s a bird’s eye view, a macro description of the entire process. It’s not an end-all, be-all solution, but rather a broad roadmap.

Guys who are good and do well consistently have learned what their demographic is and what environments they do best in. (I suppose this’d fall under calibration anyway. There will be an important future blog entry about target demographics, something nobody in the community is talking about.)

* Learning your environment:

Some guys are great at the bar/night club scene but don’t like approaching much during normal every day hours. Then there are guys who just hate bars/clubs and they don’t do well in bars and nightclubs. Yet, they’ve done consistently well for themselves despite not being bar people.

Others have learned to meet girls effectively working their social circle scene. Some had jobs or careers that were conducive to meeting women, doormen, bartenders, bouncers, DJs, club promoters and etc.

Some guys have learned to do really well meeting women online.

Despite where and how they meet women, these guys excel at these areas. This post is not about pickup artists. It’s about men who attract women on some level and do well for themselves.

This blog entry is designed to provide you with a [very general] roadmap of sorts to allow you to see where you need to make improvements. Maybe you want to date multiple women or maybe you want a good girlfriend whom you are attracted to physically and personality wise. Be honest with yourself and your sticking points.

Troubleshooting:

If you’re stuck and not getting decent results, you’re probably lacking in one of these areas.

* Lack of attitude/confidence

Ok, so you have learned some openers, some routines, and are able to get the conversation started but you lack balls. You are too caught up in what other people (including women) may think of you. You are held back by too much fear and hesitation. Or you could display needy and supplicating behavior, which are usual symptoms of a low self-image if you dig deep enough.

* Lack of Calibration

Maybe you don’t have that much fear or hesitation, but you just haven’t improved your social intelligence. Man, the seduction community is full of such guys. You say the wrong thing at the wrong time. You apply tactics when there is no need for tactics and you try to be alpha when there is no need to prove yourself.

You learn about negs and misapply them. You neg an archetype of woman when you should be complimenting her, and you compliment a type of woman whom you should be telling to fuck off. (Not in those exact words, however.)

* Not interesting or appealing

You are just not that interesting to be talk to. There is no appeal or lure to draw them to ya. This has nothing to do with physical attraction. It’s about personality. Maybe you have a great personality but you haven’t learn to convey that personality properly, or maybe you freeze up around women and then you can’t display your cool personality (which brings up the first issue: lack of attitude and overwhelmed by fear.)

Start working on the areas you need improvements on. At the end of the day, one thing is for sure: A guy who possesses the ingredients will do OK for himself. This isn’t about becoming a PUA, hitting on 5000 women a day, or bragging to your friends about your number-closes and other retarded community dogma.

It’s that the Man who:

1. Has Balls and confidence,
2. Possesses social intelligence and calibration,
3. and is Interesting as a person/human being

will attract his fair share of females. This is despite race, hair, color, ethnicity, height, flashy clothes, religion, and other superficial differences.

Next time you see some random guy in your town, neighborhood or social circles who seems to do well with women, take a closer look and you’ll see that he possesses the aforementioned components. Perhaps you may be at a house party and you notice one guy who seems to have the women attracted to him.

Others will say, “Dude, that guy has game…..” but won’t be able to express why or how.

Having read this post, You will know exactly why.

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Thundercat Talks To Hot Chick (Video)

Donovan — Tue, 12 Aug 2008 15:10:52 +0000

I thought this video was cool. It was the chick from Vh1’s Rock of Love. I watched every episode of that show… for some reason.

A while back I was at a club for a private charity event. The guy throwing this event spared no expense, and shipped in some of the HOTTEST girls I’d ever seen from lord knows where.

There were lots of models, dancers, and eye candy all over the place.

This included Body Painted Girls. These are models who are basically NAKED, but have clothes (usually lingerie) painted on their body.

So they’re naked, and yet NOT naked. (Talk about a punch to the brain!)

Anyway, one of these body painted girls was simply GORGEOUS. She had long blond hair, a smoking body – and EVERYONE in the club couldn’t take their eyes off her.

And when I say everyone, I mean EVERYONE. Guys AND Girls couldn’t stop staring at how hot this girl was.

Naturally, I decided to approach her – even though I knew the odds were against me. (Let’s be honest, when a girl is in that high value of a position, it’s hard to make time with her.)

As I got closer to this girl, I suddenly realized I KNEW HER.

See – I’m a fan of reality television, and one of my favorite shows is Rock Of Love on VH1.

As it turns out, this hot body paint girl was actually ON THAT SHOW! She was one of the girls who was trying to date Brett Michaels.

So I opened her with that little factoid. As it turns out, I was the ONLY person in the club who recognized her, and that instantly made me stand out.

We spoke on and off the whole night. She was a very sweet girl and we actually hit it off right from the start.

Eventually, I ended up driving her home after the party, and we’ve become close friends since then.

So when I asked her to sit down and let me interview her for the benefit of my students, she was more than willing to oblige.

See, her name is Kristia, and not only is she a model and actress, she’s also a professional go-go dancer in Las Vegas. She works at various clubs dancing on the poles. (If any of you out there have ever been to Vegas, you know the type of girl I’m talking about.)

So Kristia is a super-hot chick who gets hit on by guys CONSTANTLY.

Not only that, but all her friends are super hot chicks who get hit on constantly! So she knows more about how attraction works than most people do.

And in my interview with her, she reveals some really amazing insights about how to attract super-hot girls.

Check out the video here:

Click Here For The “Hot Chick” Insider Video

Trust me, you don’t want to miss this video!

Also – Just so you know, I did not “pay” or “coach” Kristia in any way. We’re quite friendly, so you can see how her and I just riff in the video.

In fact, just look at the way we interact with each other, and you’ll see how close we are.

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Attention To Detail by Kezia

Donovan — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 17:45:47 +0000

When asking a handful of men to describe a particular man after he has left the room, most men would probably say…

“Blonde guy in a black a jacket and jeans”

Where as a woman would describe him as…

“Good looking in a metro sexual kind of way”

“Wearing a wine colored polo neck”

“He had a nicely cut jacket perhaps made of tweed and has buttoned down pockets”

“Fairly loose fitted dark denim jeans”

“Has dark blonde hair”

“Pointed shoes”

“He was around 24”

“Could be Scandinavian but if not is probably from New York”

“Probably has a girl friend, might be gay”

Get the picture? What I’m trying to say is this…

Woman observe detail, men prefer to see the big picture. (Unless it’s cars where men usually win hands down)

Men prefer to be factual; things are often black and white, good and bad, rich and poor.

Where as the average woman tends to see the individual stitches in life’s rich tapestry,

For example if I ask a man about his friend, he will tend to say things such as “he’s an outgoing guy”, or he is “funny” or he’s “confident”. Where as woman, when asked about her girlfriends will usually give you her friends list of good points, her bad points, her relationship details and that’s all before she has even started on the topic of discussing her friends sense of fashion.

Why is it like this? Who knows? But it is .So lets get on with the more important issue of how this piece of information can help you guys when it comes to..

Assumptions

First of all assumptions are one of the 9 hook leads I teach in conversation skills, it is one of my favourites and its power should never be underestimated. But there is as with most the hook leads I teach a right way to do it and wrong way,

When guys make assumptions to woman they are usually a little vague, and might be seen as a fairly sweeping statement, where as a detailed assumption will produce better results (even if wrong!) This is the beauty of assumptions; the “wrong one” can be very playful if detailed!

Example 1

A badly done assumption…

“Where do you live?”

“Chelsea” (this is a very upmarket part of London where girls who live here tend to have a lot of money and a lot of time on their hands!)

“So you must like shopping”

Ok, lets break this down. He has made a vague assumption and to be honest, which girl does not like shopping? In her head she’s thinking a few things.

“Yeah and..I like shopping bravo, you must be a psychic NOT!”

Also she thinking he has made little or not effort to get to know who she really is and that he probably says this to other girls all the time.

Example 2

“Where do you live?”

“Chelsea”

“So you like shopping, but I bet although you like shopping you would never dream of going to those summer sales! All those people fighting over a Gucci bag is just not your style”

Or

“So you like shopping, but I reckon you’re a careful shopper who knows they can shop at Tiffany’s if they wanted but prefers to haggle in the markets, searching for a priceless bargain”

Now I have given these exact lines to students who really had impressive results, both assumptions are the complete opposite one happened to be fairly accurate with one girl and the other was totally wrong. But the girls both laughed, and responded well by explaing themselves and how they were “exactly” like that or how they were “not like that all”(giving valuable information to the guy about who they were, whilst he’s just absorbing all these wonderful hooks they are giving him to work from”

You see, he tailor made the assumption for them, he spoke to them with detail and in doing this he made them feel like an individual, and in turn they will see him as an individual rather than just another guy making vague conversation in the hope that the conversation might turn interesting,

Another point I wish to make with detail in assumption or if you haven’t noticed yet “detailed cold readings” is that guys also come across more confident and alpha, as they show they are not afraid to do this detailed cold reading and also do not mind having quite a lot of attention on them so early on in the interaction.

Attention to detail can be used also in other hook leads such as anecdotes and compliments.

Here are some other detailed assumptions:

“Whats your favourite film?”

“Dirty dancing”

“I bet your favourite scene is not the one most girl like, where he’s dancing at the end with her I reckon, hmmm your favourite scene I the bit where etc etc”

“Where did you go on holiday”?

“Spain”

“I would say, judging by your tan you probably initially wanted to see the museums and shops but when you got there you thought, nah, I’ll just lie on the beach all day and make my friends jealous when they see my tan”

So remember, attention to detail will make her feel you see her as an individual and in turn make her see you as an individual.

See it through a woman’s eyes next time round.

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How to Have an Interesting Conversation by David Wygant

David Wygant — Thu, 29 May 2008 15:39:33 +0000

Here’s a video in which I go into depth about making your conversations dynamic with women.

This blog is part of a recent bootcamp from London. Hopefully this will give you an idea of my coaching style. Consider it a sneak peek into what I do when I am leading bootcamps!

Having an interesting conversation with another person involves a couple of things. Let’s say, for instance, you’re in H & M, like we were just in H & M hanging out.

We walked into H & M, and we attracted people. How did we attract people in H & M? We walked over, we grabbed the funny 6£ straw hat – which by the way, I think I’m going to buy, because they are really cool – and then what did we do?

Immediately I looked at you, Pete, and I said, “put the hat on, go over and ask this woman what she thinks of you in this hat.” So you went over there and you talked to her.

What happens is that women will start seeing this – we’re smiling, we’re being goofy, we’re trying stuff on – and then what did I do next? I started talking to the guy next to me. I said, “man, what do you think about this hat on me?” What we are doing is putting on a show.

So then the guy responded, “yeah, that hat looks good on you, let me see,” and we talked for a minute. Then all of a sudden these two women started walking towards us and they were looking and whispering to each other before they even got here – did you notice that?

What were they whispering? “Wow, I want to meet these guys, let’s slow down a little bit,” and they slowed their walk down. So then I started talking to them, they decided which hat they liked best on me, they flirted, and if you noticed, the one girl shook her little ass as she walked out – did you see that?

She was basically being this horny little naughty girl, saying, “come and get me.” She shook it, but she knew she was shaking it, you could see she was shaking it. All because of these types of simple little conversations and just having fun.

Now the security guard came over, because we were drinking water during all that, and he knew we were fun. He was watching the other people watch us. It’s contagious! He was watching other people talk to us, and he saw everybody smiling, and thought, those guys are nice.

So he came over and said, “so listen, man, you can’t drink that in here. My boss is going to kill me.” So I put it in my pocket, and he said, “oh come on, man, I’m going to lose my job – my wife, my five kids…” So I said, “five kids? I thought you had six kids!”

So then he just said, “alright, man, just hide it, or put your thumb over it.” That was how – it was just from being fun. I was already in a fun mood because we were in there for five minutes.

It’s a stage. Whenever you walk in to a room – I don’t care if it’s a coffee shop, a toy store, or a restaurant – it’s a game. It’s your stage. This is why that all transitioned in that way.

Now, you have to realize that if you do this all day long, what you’re NOT looking to do is to get 50 phone numbers all day, and then be a telemarketer on Sunday night calling each of them up – “hey, Debbie, this is David. David, the tall guy? 6’2”? No, no, no, I had the brown hair…”

No! You want to connect with people. You want to do this everywhere – and you’ll see tomorrow, we’ll do this everywhere we go – everywhere. Even though the exchange rate is 1.6, we’re still going to go everywhere!

And what we’re going to do is have a party. Everywhere we go. And by creating this party, you will eventually (over the course of the day) connect with somebody and get into a deeper conversation. It just happens naturally.

So don’t try to ‘escalate’ every person you talk to. Be playful, and be okay with 30-second and 60-second conversations. And then when you find the one that you really like, then you’ll walk directly over to her, because you’re feeling so confident – people have been loving and digging you all day – and you’re feeling so confident, it’s incredible. You just walk into a room and you just ooze sex appeal in every way.

If you ooze sex appeal, what will happen is that women will start to notice you. And then the woman that you really want is going to start talking to you, and the conversation will just flow. You know when you get into a great conversation with somebody, it just flows, right?

But in order to get that to happen every day, you have to go out and talk to a lot of people, and warm up. That’s how you get it. You’re looking for that one, unbelievable connection every day. That connection is better than any drug, any alcohol, anything you can ever do.

That’s how you get it done. Go download my Date To Win ebook, it’ll get you started on the right track.

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Be Interesting (David Wygant)

David Wygant — Thu, 01 May 2008 23:55:17 +0000

Nobody likes someone who is boring. Nobody likes someone who can’t contribute to a conversation.

Have you ever just stood there in front of a woman and you just didn’t know what to say? You’re standing there, and all of a sudden, you draw a blank.

Maybe you’re there with another person – a friend of yours that is a pretty good conversationalist. For instance, let’s say you’re in a clothing store, and you don’t really know much about fashion at all. He’s there talking about all sorts of jeans, and fashion trends, and everything else. And you’re just standing there like the dunce that you’re not! You feel like this goober doofus guy that doesn’t have a brain and doesn’t know what to say.

So instead of saying something stupid – you’ve learned that saying something stupid and changing the subject just kills the conversation – you sit there in utter silence.

The question is in this moment: are you standing there in silence, or are you actually learning?

There are times in your life when you may not know what to say. At these points, it’s better to shut up, listen, and learn. The fact is that by listening and learning you’re going to be able to understand what is going on in that situation.

So you may not always be able to contribute to the conversation. Perhaps someone is having a political debate, you don’t know much about politics. In this case, it’s better to keep your mouth shut than say something stupid. It’s always better to be quiet than to say something dumb.

What this lesson should teach you is that you need to become more knowledgeable in things. You need to have a lot of facts out there. Something I recommend to a lot of guys is to get subscriptions to certain magazines: Details, Esquire, GQ, and People magazine.

Details, Esquire, and GQ are going to give you an overview of a lot of different things – from fashion to trends to deeper stories to what’s going on abroad – they’ve got some really great articles in those magazines.

Lose the subscription to Maxim – there is nothing you can gain from reading Maxim! You can’t say, “I was reading in Maxim the other day…” because Maxim is a garbage magazine.

Now People magazine is another good one because if you’re standing there in line at the supermarket and this woman picks up People magazine or US Weekly, you can look at her, smile, and say something like, “is Britney Spears going to have that alien baby again?” You know things about stuff like that.

Another great magazine to read if you’re man is Cosmo. You’ll start to learn a little bit about women, and you can have some fun with that too: if you’re in the supermarket and a woman is looking at Cosmo, you can look at her and say, “I took the test, you know… 10 Ways to Be Satisfied – and number eight is great!”

All of a sudden she’ll be totally intrigued. Since it’s a sexual test, she thinks you’re probably saying something perverted, but number eight just happens to be deep, long, stimulating conversations on the beach. She’s going to look at you and you’ll paint a whole different picture.

So learning a lot about a lot of different things is going to give you the conversation starters that you need in every situation. A lot of times in life when you are at a loss for words, it is because you are not educated enough in the things that are going on around you.

This is another reason that I tell guys all the time to go out and meet women in places that you’re comfortable in – if you do that, you’ll be able to have conversation starters. You’ll have things to talk about.

So grab those magazines, start reading them up, and you’ll be filled full of fun facts!

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How To Compliment Correctly (Kezia Column)

Kezia — Thu, 01 May 2008 07:58:54 +0000

Why does the average man give a woman he has just met, a compliment?

In his head when giving the compliment, he’s thinking. Woman like compliments, it makes them feel good. If I make them feel good. They will like me. If they like me, they might sleep with me. In theory it works, but the reality is sometimes a little different.

Woman like alcohol too; so they buy her a drink, if I buy her drink she will be happy if she is happy….…you can see where this is going.

Lets now skip over to whats going on in the woman’s head at this same moment of time

Man says, “You have beautiful eyes”

Woman’s head is saying a few things, such as;

“How un-original”

Or

“He probably has used this line on 5 other girls tonight”

Maybe

“Why is he still looking at me? Please don’t tell me he wants a compliment back? Maybe he wants a medal? I think I’ll just give him a little weak “thanks” instead.”

Perhaps

“Has he not even noticed my eyes are bloodshot today”

Maybe

“Funny, I never knew my eyes were on the top of my breasts”

Or

“Should I put the poor thing out of his misery?’

Or even

“Maybe not yet, I think I can get a free drink out of this guy before moving on”

Who ever said girls were made of sugar and spice and all things nice?

Now how can guys improve on their complimenting skills to avoid scenarios like this one?

Firstly the main objective of his compliment has to take a 180 degree turn. His objective must be to get a result, which will give him more value and, consequently, her, less value. The compliment must
a. Make you stand out from the crowd
b. Make impact
c. Make her lower value than you
d. Make her want to please
e. Make her feel like an individual
f. Make you an individual

How do you accomplish this?

Double sided compliments

All this can be achieved by simply delivering a double-sided compliment; with strong eye contact, and showing no apparent care or interest for her response or reaction.

(Remember give someone the role (write in)

Here are some examples of effective double-sided compliments

“You look great…. but you would look stunning a blonde”

“You have beautiful lips…. pity you don’t wear red lipstick, it would be so much more sexy”

“Have you ever tried wearing red nail polish? … You have lovely hands, and that would be more elegant”

“I like your shoes, I’m really fussy about women’s shoes, and those are really sensible and practical, which shows you have your head screwed on… but killer heels would make heads turn in this room”

“Mmmm, what perfume is that? …. Its ok, but when a woman wears (name of perfume) its speaks sexiness, and makes such impact”

With these examples what your basically saying is

“You look great…. but I’ve seen better/there’s room for improvement.”

The objective you want to create is to put yourself in high status/value while simultaneously allowing her to know your compliment was genuine and tailor made to her, and not to every girl in the room.

A double-sided compliment speaks volumes; it says; your confident enough to give her a sincere compliment but your also strong enough to risk losing your chances with her because of your honesty (principles and integrity)

Note:
Honesty= confidence in a woman’s eyes, an alpha man will not spin lies to keep someone happy, he will say what he wants when he wants because he needs no ones approval.

When you have delivered the second part of the double-sided compliment, the part where you have caught her off guard – as she was expecting the compliment to end after the first part. She did not expect the “there’s always room for improvement” to come along.

Within seconds you would have gone from another time waster who thinks pleasing woman this way will get him laid, to someone who has high value in taste and wishes to be pleased rather than please.

She will be attracted to the honesty, even if it could in theory jeopardize your chances with her, this in reality only adds to the risk factor and will turn her on more.

Note:
Woman love to please (I said this in my last article, and will keep on repeating myself as this is a vital characteristic men don’t assume about woman)

If you say we are beautiful why do we need to carry on pleasing you, why do we need to make the effort? The challenge is gone.

You will find that using a double-sided compliment, will not only keep her on her toes and let her know that you are not intimidated by beauty like other guys (she will presume all your girlfriends are hot) but when it comes to escalation stage, you will be able to use a full straight out compliment with even sexual connotations (no double side) she will be turned on by this, as it will appear to be genuine (remember she has categorized you as honest by now) and it will be a reward, it will be saying, now your goods enough for this compliment with out any neg after it.

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The Importance of Baiting (Sinn Column)

Sinn — Sat, 26 Apr 2008 15:23:21 +0000

Baiting is the art of enticing a woman to escalate the interaction, physically, verbally and sexually. We want to bait the girl to escalate as much as we possibly can. But there is a difference between baiting and playing hard to get. This is what most guys don’t understand. You have to continue to demonstrate interest even as you bait a girl to escalate the interaction. In fact you can use baiting as a way to get the girl to qualify herself and even as a way of touching you and moving in physically early on.

The first way that we want to bait is by physically advancing and retreating. Around the Dallas crew we call this the Captain Jack special move. El Topo first noticed it and he did it in an exaggerated way while leaning back too much. This of course led to us making fun of him until he told CJ that he learned it from watching him. What you do is you lean in to whisper something in the girl’s ear preferably a teasing comment like “ You’re trouble” Then you rock back and cover your mouth as if what you said just really cracked you up and you’re laughing at her. If you do this right, it results in the girl laughing and touching you on the arm. Every time. What you’re doing is by going into and out of her personal space and teasing her at the same time the attraction gets magnified and she feels the need to chase you. It’s the essence of a physical push pull routine, all of which can be considered baits.

You can verbally bait women in a variety of ways. Open loops are the most well known of these tactics. Open loops are simply unfinished thoughts or stories. They work because they evoke curiosity. Our minds are designed to have closure once we invest our time in a story or thought. If we’re listening we want to know how it ends. I can remember coming back from London and watching the movie “ The Devil wears Prada”. Maybe you saw previews, Meryl Strep plays a Cruella Deville like character and a different intern shows she can be a beautiful person too… Or something like that. The plane landed about 15 minutes from the end of the movie ad for the next half an hour all I could wonder was what happened next. Did she end up with the guy, etc? Now luckily for my sanity the movie wasn’t on my On Demand when I checked later. But the point is I checked. Even though I HATED that movie I had to know what happened. This is the power of open loops. Open loops are easy to use; you can simply use a phrasal transition like “ That reminds me,” or “it’s just like when” to seamlessly start a new story leaving the other one up in the air.

Another way we can verbally bait women is through the use of ambiguity. Strippers are the best at this In fact strippers in general, are amazing at baiting. They’ll ask really ambiguous questions like “ What are you up to tonight?” And then they can lead your answers by saying things like “ Are you ready to party?” A good image to keep in mind when thinking about baiting is the idea of a stripper pulling a guy in by his tie and then pushing her out with her heels. We can be ambiguous and use phrases like “ What do you mean by that?” Anytime in comfort that you think something can be twisted to be sexual, ask what she means by that. This allows her to fill what Juggler calls the vacuum by sexually escalating. You can also bait by looking down at your crotch and waiting for her eyes to follow then asking, “ what are you looking at?” There are a million more examples but you guys get the basic idea. Being ambiguous forces her to solidify the sexual nature of the interaction.

Lastly we want to bait women sexually. This happens in the bedroom. Lots of guys forget that you can use push pull tactics in the bedroom. You can start to arouse her by kissing her neck and then pull away and say this is bad… What are you doing to me? Then go back to arousal and then pull back again. Think of it as if you really want to do this but you’re not sure she’ll respect you in the morning. Kind of like giving a girl LMR. The better your arousal skills the better this works, so make sure that you know how to make girls feel good. This has been called fractionation and is taken to the extreme with El Topo’s Kung Fu Penis stuff. Which takes end game and compliance escalation to a crazy new level. I don’t want to teach his stuff but the guys who have learned it on our bootcamps have had some CRAZY results. The idea is to use baiting and arousal to create huge amounts of sexual compliance. Baiting is a huge part of this because in KFP the girl actually asks or physically makes every physical escalation.

Baiting is one of the most crucial aspects for getting compliance and investment into the interaction. Which in my opinion are more important than attraction itself. The more you can get women to comply and invest the more they will escalate. In fact we reflect this in the new model of attraction El Topo and I have been teaching for a while now. Keep an eye out for our upcoming e-booklet on Attraction.

If you guys have any questions about any of this stuff don’t hesitate to email me, Sinnstravel@gmail.com

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Being A Leader (Sinn Column)

Sinn — Mon, 21 Apr 2008 20:31:11 +0000

If I could teach someone just one skill to get better with women and social skills in general, it would be learning to lead. In any social interaction you have to know where you want to go and how you are going to get there.

You must lead the initial interaction with a new women both physically and verbally. This starts from the first eye contact and approach through handling logistics and dealing with LMR. You always have to lead.

Before you can even lead the interaction with an individual women, you are going to have to lead the group’s attention for long enough to start a private conversation with the women you are interested in. In order to do this we want to demonstrate The Characteristics Of Social Leadership.

1. True leaders demonstrate through both behavior and stories that you inspire loyalty from people. It is very important to convey that when you need others help,they help. No questions asked.

2. The ability to instantly gain people’s respect. It is vitally important that the group is at least ok with you being there. The more attention(Respect) you give the obstacles, the more likely they will be to let you stick around generally uninterrupted.

3. The next characteristic is confidence. This mostly comes from believing in what you are doing. When you make a decision, suggest a move, make a joke or even touch a woman, you must look like you think it’s going to work. I do this by acting like it’s weird when the girls don’t like me. You have to put full faith into everything you do. The more you believe what you are doing is going to work even when it isn’t, the better you will convey confidence. Confidence is simply a belief in yourself and ability to accomplish anything.

4. A leader has an outcome in mind. He knows what he wants out of the interaction and takes steps towards them. You don’t want to be attached to the outcome but you need to have a plan for who you are interested in getting to know better, where you are going to move her to have a private conversation away from her friends, what you are going to suggest going on a date to do at a later time, and how to get her back to your place if the opportunity presents itself. This can also be called handling logistics.

5. The ability to lead physically. You have to take the initiative in establishing a physical relationship. This means you need to touch her early and often. You also should get comfortable leading women around to different parts of the bar or club. You need to be unafraid to try to make a bigger move later on. Learn to look at touching like bringing up a map in a video game. You are learning where you are at the time.

6. The last characteristic of leadership is being unreactive to negative social feedback. The only reason people react to things is because they think that they somehow help themselves gain something they want or they want to avoid something unpleasant happening.

Imagine a 6 year old girl telling you to leave her alone. You probably wouldn’t have a huge emotional reaction. However if the most beautiful women you ever saw told you to leave her alone, you’d be devastated because of the perceived loss her negative social behavior made you feel. True leaders believe in themselves enough that they don’t feel the need to acknowledge anything that doesn’t help them.

Which brings us to the number one rule of pick up which is to ignore anything that doesn’t help you. This works on the theory of magnification. Meaning that while having a great comeback when a woman tests you makes you look smart simply ignoring it and changing the subject demonstrates the confidence and dominance of a true leader.

There you guys have my characteristics for leading in social situations.

Till next week,

Sinn

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My Short Text Message Battle

Donovan — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 16:57:40 +0000

I had a get together planned with a girl that served me at another restaurant. I was with a girl I’ve been seeing and so messaged the waitress on Facebook later that night. She gave me her number and we arranged for last night. I really didn’t feel like going and thought it would be a good opportunity to test the waters after she responded the way she did.

This is my text message conversation with her about one hour before:

Me: “Do you know gurus?”
Her: “Ya I like that place”
Me: “I was thinking you could come here and then we’ll head down together.”
Her: “Are you serious? No forget it. Let’s not go.”
Me: “?”
Me: “I don’t know what your expectations were, but try to be more relaxed for the next guy.”
Her: “Fuck you. You wanted to take ME out. And you’re not gonna even pick me up? I don’t play that game. Next time you need to show more respect.”
Me: “Ha ha. I would have picked you up, that’s no problem. Respect? Your right, I have none for you with the way you just acted. This is the reason your single. I got to see your true colors without even spending a dime. Try to work on it.”
Her: “Wow. You really are a guy. So the reason your single isn’t cause you steal girls names off receipts and stalk them on facebook? Nice.”
Her: “I got to see yours too without the misery of your company. So thanks. I didn’t save your number. Delete mine.”
Me:“Ha ha. Sad sad little girl. I’ll see ya at [her restaurant].”

Talk about issues. I’ve always invited over girls and then leave on a date from my place. That’s how I work. I’ve never had a bad response in the 5+ years of doing it. From her second text message back, I knew I would never want to go out with her again. Here are a few reasons why: feelings of entitlement, too high expectations. Here are a few reasons why after the fourth text message back: low self-esteem, anger problems, frustration with life, probably would cheat, and indicators of bad relationships in the past. In short, this girl would be a BITCH to be in a relationship with. Imagine the nagging? No thanks!

Feel free to rip me to shreds over things I should have done. This all went down in a matter of minutes so you have some context.

Stay away from those girls that feel entitlement or demand respect overtly.

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Making Impact (Kezia Column)

Kezia — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 15:41:45 +0000

Remember when I said that there was 3 vital elements in pick up, well here’s one of them.

(Vital- Crucial: extremely important and necessary, or indispensable to the survival or continuing effectiveness of something.)

IMPACT

I hope you now get the point of how important making an impact on your chosen target is! Lets continue.

Time and time again my students ask me how they can do this with out offending? I tell them that it is actually a lot more offensive to waste a girls time with the same old recycled questions and statements you were using five minutes on some other girl! I personally cannot stand a man or any person for that matter who makes little or no impact on my life. Why on earth would I want to spend my evening in a nightclub making small talk with a guy who’s obsessing about not being offensive and in turn is actually being really dull and dare I say the dreaded word…regular??!!!!!!

Why do guys insist on squeezing out every drop of their personality, almost as if they are ashamed of who they really are. What makes us who we are is our unique view on the world, are personal humor, our memories our passions our principles, sure not everyone’s going to agree, but as long as you leave out religion, race and weight then it should be ok. I will even go as far to say its better to make a slightly negative impact than no impact at all!

And yet so many guys go around hiding these values with an identi-kit cloak worn by every other guy in town that night.

Picture this, girl goes in to a bar/club she’s with her friends, they go to the toilets, she is left standing on her own. Trying to avoid eye contact with men, why? Because she’s scared of men? Because she doesn’t want to be approached? Usually its none of these, and you might be surprised to know, that its very likely she’s hiding herself for fear of entering one of those boring recycled conversation with a complete stranger who has no real interest in what she does or who she is as a person. And who will ask the same set of questions and respond with the same set of bland answers as the guy before him did. Don’t you, yourself, feel you get sick of telling strangers what it is you do for a living? I bet you could write out a word for word script of what they always seem to say next?

So how does one make impact?

It can be through a number of things

Appearance
Clothes
Jewelry
Haircut
Dancing
Body language
Staments
Questions
Answers
Humor
Challenges
Assumptions

For example;

If everyone else is fairly motionless then use a lot of body movement and if everyone is dancing around like mad, then be more still.

Always offer something that makes the girl suddenly see you as an individual, something new, fresh and interesting. Something she’s not seen or experienced before.

Start off with small things such as your ring tone on your cell phone, the way you answer the phone, an item of clothing, a couple of accessories, a dance move, or two, what you order at the bar, where you keep your wallet. Woman pay a lot of attention to detail, so even if you think she will not notice something, think again because she will!

That was the easy part; the harder part is how to make impact in the conversation aspect of things.

First of all, you are perfectly in your rights to ask her a closed boring question, not the best start if you are wanting to create impact but none the less, there will be a point when closed questions are necessary such as the golden classic “what do you do?”

We discussed briefly about reaction to her response and response to her reaction last week, and here is where it begins to play its part.

You must firstly remember that as you become a PUA you will realise it’s not just about being another confident alpha man that can hold a decent enough conversation. A PUA is someone who is always offering the alternative. He is the guy who comes along and shakes up her reality whether it’s temporary or long term. He challenges her beliefs, he makes her laugh, he makes her snap, and he will let her feel like they have known each other for years. He screws with her mind and he’s completely unapologetic for doing so.

Here’s an example of a conversation with out much impact.

“So what do you do?”

“I’m a vet”

“That’s cool, you must love animals”

“I like them more than people”

“Really? That’s interesting, I imagine its hard work though”

“Some days, but its very rewarding”

“I’m sure it is, which is the main thing right?’

This here is a fairly good standard of conversation. The man is making interesting comments, he’s listening, using hooks etc, but it lacks a little impact, and she’s probably heard similar responses. He’s still very much in small talk mode and is still in his safety zone.

Lets look at this one.

“So what do you do?”

“I’m a vet”

“Was that something you wanted to do or something your parents pushed you in to”

“Excuse me?”

Keeps looking at her, his expression does not change.

“Well it’s a bit of both, my father was a vet, but I chose to do it too”

“That’s cool, a job that’s of choice rather than pressure is far more interesting”
“Yes I agree, I really love my job”

“Good job your dad wasn’t a plumber hey?”

“Haha I suppose so, what do you do?”

This is just a slight alteration that uses impact, she really did not expect that immediate assumption/question when she said vet, and the result at first might have been a little defensive initially. But, because he kept eye contact and his body language would have continued to be in an alpha and relaxed stance, she will treat the question with the respect it deserves. She begins to make more effort since this guy is not giving her the regular bullshit responses she’s used too and keeps her on her toes. It also makes her feel she is speaking to someone who is not afraid to show his individuality and who is treating her like an individual too rather than say in this case another vet.

You have to keep in mind that woman are approached all the time, so if you are lets say the 8th guy to chat her up that night, ask yourself mid-conversation, what am I doing any differently from the other guys here? Will she remember my name in a few hours time or will I become a blurry memory merged with all the other blurry interactions she had that evening? When you leave temporarily the conversation to go and dance or talk to your friends, will she be secretly keeping her eyes on the look out hoping to see spot your face again through the crowd? Or will she be distracted and focus on something else that’s making ore impact than you were?

You must become irreplaceable!

Remember something, there’s rarely been a girl who has said next day to her friends.

“There was this guy last night- and he made such nice pleasantries and small talk, that I just had to have him there and then!”

It would be more likely for her to say:

“There was a man last night, he was really different, like no one I’ve encountered before, I had to have him there and then”

So stop the chit chat (polite detachment) stop obsessing with not offending, get out of your comfort zone and make impact. Remember what I said in my last blog, and you really have nothing to lose…. well maybe that hot brunette that you spotted later, a few meters away from her.

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Engage With The Reversal (Stephen Nash Column)

Stephen Nash — Mon, 07 Apr 2008 17:54:22 +0000

This weekly column has been getting loads of great feedback! Thanks for all your emails and comments. Keep them coming. I’m here every Monday.

I had an interesting conversation the other night that I wanted to share.

Is it just me, or do the best inspirations always come when you least expect them?

Anyway, I am a pretty driven guy – and usually find myself out too late working on projects that interest me. I’ve been getting interested again in the arts recently, and this guy is a painter friend of mine, who is about to open a gallery show. He’s a really cool guy, but a bit clueless when it comes to women.

He’s got a cool place to live where he also works, so whenever we meet up we always go to his place so I can see what he’s up to.

As usual, anytime I am hanging with a friend, they always ‘download’ their recent girl dramas. And this time was no different. My friends all get a kick out of my work, and they also know that I LOVE hearing stories from “the field”.

He had recently hit up this bar downtown, and wanted to try out some approaches. He’s not a PUA per se, but he does like to engage women in conversation. Here’s what he told me:

Him: “Stephen, I know you guys used to script these things to a tee…and I understand that and all, but I discovered that the BEST way to open up a convo is to REVERSE their expectations from the get-go”

Me: “Hmmm…I have this image of you approaching them and pretending to be gay and completely disinterested…true? Please say no…”

Him: “No way. Not at all. But take the most common scenario, a guy rolls up and says ‘Can I buy you a drink?’ – right? Isn’t that the most common scenario?”

Me: (ugh, he’s building a ‘yes’ tree here…he’s a great salesman) YES

Him: “So, what if you – INSTEAD – said to her: “Hey girls – listen, I’ve got a little challenge – you up for it? (they always say ‘yes’). If you can guess my favorite drink, I will buy you a drink. In fact, I’ll give you three shots at it”

Me: Hmmmm…that’s interesting…tell me more (aka, YES)

Him: “Well, it immediately puts a fun frame around the interaction, and separates you from the pack. Isn’t that what you’re always saying Stephen? AND, I got three numbers last Friday night using JUST this method.”

He was and IS right. I was so glad he brought this up, because it is so SIMPLE and useful to guys who dislike routines, but who also want some sort of structure to use when beginning the conversation.

It reminded me of a conversation Style and I had years back at Project Hollywood. We were rehashing an old Ross Jeffries routine that I used to use when I was very new. It goes like this:

“Excuse me. Are you confident enough to accept a sincere compliment from a complete stranger?”

I’ve always liked this script, and used it for a long time. I even experienced results with it, unlike most who use RJ’s stuff.

Style and I however conceived of a new way of wording it – by adding the below to the end.

(after she says ‘yes’)

“Hey, so am I! You go first”

What you do is completely reverse the expectation and cause her to have to think on her feet. This obviously separates you from ‘the pack’ while also causing intrigue. She HAS to engage you, as she can’t rely on her own bag of tricks.

So, engage her in conversation by using her expectations FOR you. The only difference it – REVERSE this so that you get the advantage.

Take an obvious source of conversation, and simply reverse it on its head so that you are challenging her. Here are some examples (all said with a smile btw…otherwise you’ll come off as an ass):

“If I give you guys some cash, do you mind bringing drinks to me and my friends throughout the night? We’re really tired and would love to just kick back without running back and forth to the bar”

or

“Nice bag. Could I borrow it for say five minutes? I want to impress someone”

or

(if someone is having a cellphone conversation nearby)

(roll your eyes) “Let’s pretend to be the other person on the line. We’ll take turns. I’ll go first: “aah, but I love you Jim, I think about you always…” (turn it into a soap opera)

Be challenging and engaging.

Be DIFFERENT.

Use something happening and turn it on its head. Instead of asking a lame question about it – turn it into something USEFUL.

If you’re looking for even more ways to engage women in any/all situations, then you’ve really got to check out my ebook. If you haven’t yet downloaded it, it’s pretty important that you get up to speed soon. Click the link below and get started ASAP.

See ya next week,

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Routines Overview and About The Routines Manual (Audio)

Donovan — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 03:15:01 +0000

Love Systems, the company that was created by some of the top trainers at The Mystery Method, has released an audio file from a conference call which was held a few months ago. Check out this review I posted about the Routines Manual.

Here’s what’s in the mp3:

When to use a routine and when not to.

How to tell if a routine “works”
Where learning routines should come in your dating science development.
Routines and how they fit in the Emotional Progression Model.
And other random Q&A topics on attraction, direct game, relationship management, etc.

Listen here:

Or you can download and listen on your ipod.

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Taking Your Game International

Donovan — Wed, 12 Mar 2008 07:01:38 +0000

This is a guest post by Roosh V, whose blog I’ve started to sponsor. Definitely check his writings out if you’re in the DC area or like women.

Roosh in Brazil

The assumption guys make about girls is that they all respond the same, that game is game and things should work regardless of where the girl is from. I made this mistake and exported my push-pull, cocky and funny, and indirect game to Argentina with poor results. Here are some things I learned…

1. Do your research. Before you board the plane, ask your wingmen if they’ve had experiences with girls from that country. And when you arrive, make friends with the local guys and ask them for their opinions on the girls. One of my best friends is Russian and I can tell you that Russian girls will appear cold and distant when you first approach them but you should push on anyway.

2. Adapt quickly. On a two week vacation, you simply don’t have the time to learn a new game, but you do have time to make easy adjustments that affect how the locals respond to you. For example in Peru, the more you look like a gringo (think Abercrombie & Fitch), the better you’ll do with the girls in the club, so leave the soccer jersey at home. In Argentina the kiss is a big deal, so you delay your kiss attempt longer than usual without getting frustrated when things are moving along slower than normal.

3. Approach in massive numbers. The big myth of traveling is that you will get more abroad than you do at home, but there are so many obstacles (no cell phone, no pad, no wingmen, language barrier, lack of venue knowledge, and so on), that the only way to make up for them is to approach a lot more than you normally do. With many girls closed off to having sex with a gringo who is only in town for a weekend, sometimes you need to keep going until you find a girl who doesn’t mind and speaks your language. It takes a lot more energy than you are used to.

4. Western girls are easiest. American, English, Irish, and Australian girls are the easiest in the world. There are some exception (Brazilian girls are not difficult), but keep in mind you may need to put in more time with a local. American girls are so easy that I missed them in in Argentina while approaching the most beautiful (and difficult) girls I’ve ever met in my life.

5. Take it easy on the alcohol. While at home you’re mostly on auto-pilot, at a bar you know with wingmen you trust, but when you’re abroad you need to be full of energy and more mindful about what you are doing. It’s far better to pound Red Bull than beer.

If you can get laid with pretty girls who barely speak your language then there aren’t many challenges you can’t face. The last tip I can give you is simply to be fun: when you can’t talk with words, all the girl is going by is your positive energy and vibe. Sometimes all you’ll need to do is be the life of the party.

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Three Steps To Amazing Speed Dating

Donovan — Fri, 18 Jan 2008 22:00:35 +0000

This guest post was written by Art Malov of NYC Wingmen. You can read his blog at PUAFuture.

Speed dating is a great way to meet new people. You know that everyone is single and women are actually paying to meet you! It sounds like a dream come true. Well, it is, but speed dating does not come without its own potential pitfalls. In this article, I will address some of these pitfalls and discuss how to avoid them. Less blunders equals more matches and dates after each event for you.

It stings when you speed date and you feel as if you have connected with a number of women during an event, but then find out a few days later that there are no matches waiting in your mailbox. When this happens, it’s easy to blame every woman that you met for not liking you or come to the rationalization that you didn’t like anyone at the event. It’s also easy to go into despair and think that no one likes you. I will offer you a much better solution by helping you spot your speed dating mistakes and getting you on track to not only meeting more women at each speed dating event, but also meeting women that you want.

I suggest arriving at the speed dating event a few minutes early. This way you’ll have enough time to grab a drink and feel more comfortable, instead of arriving a few minutes late and having to scramble to get to the event.

#1 Mind set is what matters

We tend to spend a lot more time focusing on our clothing when going on a date, but much less time devoted to focusing on our own mind set. This is probably the biggest mistake guys make because they are putting too much emphasis on dressing up and not enough emphasis on thinking positive and seeing themselves as fun and attractive. Women feel that if you are confident, then you are attractive. You should be well groomed because, let’s face it, in this day and age, it’s practically mandatory. The next time you are getting ready for a speed date, take five minutes away from your grooming time and remind yourself that women are at the event for a reason, and that reason is to meet you: a fun, relaxed and confident man. To do this, think of some success that you have had in the past. Remind yourself of how you have faced some challenges and dealt with them. Get in a state of confidence by listening to music that puts you in a confident mood, give yourself a pep talk, or do anything that you normally do to gain your assured personality. Remind yourself that you are a cool guy who values himself and the women will find you attractive and will want to know more about you.

#2 Don’t be too serious.

When we don’t know somebody, it’s our tendency to find out all of the facts about the other person first. Where they live? Where they work?. Who their second cousins are? These questions are all good, but don’t begin a conversation with them . In fact, if they don’t come up, then it’s even better. Have some fun while you are on a speed date. Talk about a recent travel or something curious that you’ve heard on the news. One of the most underused conversational pieces are current events, but there is a stigma to talk about these boring events with friends and people you don’t know, so reverse it. Before the event, pick up the newspaper, leaf through it, get some ideas and spot a few things that you find unusual or amusing. Here are some actual headlines: ‘Woman Finds Unicorn Under Her Bed’ or ‘Wedding Ring Deflects A Gun Shot, Saves A Life’. Stay away from serious or political issues. Now you are ready for a speed date. Speed dating is not synonymous with bore dating. So, don’t take the speed dating activity too seriously because this is not a job interview. Start with a joke and then you can touch up on other elements that interest you. Remember, you only have a few minutes to have a conversation. Becoming boring by asking tedious questions is not memorable, so have fun in the conversation.

#3 Don’t try to impress

Most men are trying too hard to impress a woman. What they don’t know, is that when you try too hard to impress, you come off as needy. When you come off as needy, you are not going to find a match. Remember, she is there for a reason and that reason is you, a fun and interesting guy. Don’t do all the talking in the conversation. Let your date ask you some questions in return. Don’t brag about your great car or your well paid job, unless it naturally comes up. Removing the need to impress will do amazing things for your meeting and dating life. Arrive at each speed dating event with the attitude that you are there to have fun rather than anticipating the dread of the first date. It will make a world of difference. It’s great when a conversation is going so well and you feel that you have a lot to say, and then you hear a signal to move on to meet the next woman. It’s great because if you had so much fun and interesting things to talk about, you will want to see each other again. That’s a match right there. There is no need to impress.

Speed dating is an exciting way of meeting new people when you come to an event with a positive attitude. Look at the event as a fun experience and a good way to meet new people rather then serious activity, and you will get a lot of matches that you like.

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Why You Need Attraction First

Donovan — Wed, 05 Dec 2007 00:11:21 +0000

Attraction is a difficult thing to comprehend at times. It’s often very illogical and unpredictable. However, attraction is essential if you are to form a solid foundation in an interaction. Another word for attraction is “sexual tension” or “sexual chemistry”. This “sexual tension” often goes unnoticed to guys who are unsuccessful with women. It is very noticeable to those who are skilled with interacting with women. You have to train yourself, and take note of your gut feelings.

Attraction is the foundation for any good interaction. Things to stay away from when you’re in the process of building initial attraction between you and a woman are:

Talking about past relationships

Talking about your “feelings”

Discussing your future together

Interviewing her with normal questions

The key to building attraction is to keep things fun, playful and flirtatious.

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