Most men HATE the idea of “rejection”. I’m not talking about “don’t like the idea” or “wish it didn’t happen”… I’m talking HATE here.

The idea of walking up to a woman and having her REJECT you causes most men to instantly feel sick in the pit of their stomachs and literally feel a horrible combination of nervousness and confusion.

A guy can psych himself up for an hour to go talk to a woman, but when the moment comes to actually DO IT, EVERYTHING changes. The heart rate shoots up, breathing quickens, eyes dart back and forth, thoughts of rejection fill the mind, and eventually the pressure becomes too much to bare.

Most men find this state so scary that they end up deciding to forget about approaching the women… just to end the discomfort. The temptation is great to just “walk away” because just as quickly as the intense nervousness is triggered by the moment one decides to ACT, it goes away when you decide to “forget about it and walk away”.

The fact that “choosing to walk away” leads to the “instant gratification” of the nervous feeling going away makes it the most popular option. Most of the time (and I’m talking about probably 99% of the time here) men just walk away. They give up before they’ve even started.

I find this topic fascinating.

If I just think about it, I can remember MANY times in my past where I wanted to talk to a woman, but I just didn’t do it. In fact, many of them are so vivid that I can remember the exact setting, what the girl looked like, who else was there, etc… and I’m talking about situations that happened YEARS ago.

These moments obviously made an impression.

I can also remember kicking myself for DAYS afterwards for not approaching and talking to these girls. Can you relate?

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ACTUAL REJECTION AND THE FEAR OF REJECTION..

I think it’s important to realize that there’s a BIG difference between ACTUAL rejection (having a girl who is offended, upset, rude, etc. to you when you start talking to her) and the FEAR of rejection (how you feel when you imagine a woman rejecting you).

I’ve found that for me PERSONALLY, my FEAR of rejection is actually FAR, FAR more painful and difficult to deal with than ACTUAL rejection in the real world.

The main reason for this is that most of the time when a man starts talking to a woman, she is actually rather nice about the whole affair.

Men aren’t “rejected” very often!

If a woman isn’t interested, she usually just says “I have a boyfriend” or “No thank you”… or she’ll just walk away without saying anything at all.

Out of the hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of times that I’ve approached women, I can’t remember any time that a woman has yelled “Get away from me you loser! You are unattractive and the very thought of going on a date with you makes me sick to my stomach!”

I’m sure it’s happened to SOMEONE, but it’s never happened to ME.

The worst I’ve had is a woman making fun of the words I used (telling me that my pickup line was lame) or just walking away. No slaps, no boyfriends beating me up, and no yelling. But here’s the kicker…

You can experience an intense FEAR of rejection EVERY time you consider approaching a woman. Imagine, something you can predict with almost perfect accuracy.

You can be in any situation, anywhere, anytime, and still have FEAR of rejection… which will prevent you from approaching a woman. Ah, the power of the human mind.

HOW TO DEAL WITH REJECTION…

A lot of guys ask me, “How do I deal with rejection?”.

The answer: Don’t worry about it.

If you get “rejected”, you’ll be fine. Really. It’s no big deal, and it doesn’t happen that often. And when it does, you’ll recover shortly thereafter.

You’ll find yourself telling your friends about it, and laughing together. Rejection from a woman is about as painful as getting a “D” on a test.

It’s basically insignificant. The REAL question is “How do I deal with my FEAR of rejection?”.

WHY WOMEN REJECT MEN…

Now let’s talk about those rare instances where a woman actually REJECTS a man.

For the sake of this discussion, I want to define “rejection” as a woman doing something that lets you know that she’s upset and offended that you started talking to her, and she responds in a mean or vicious way to make you go away.

I do NOT consider a woman walking away without stopping to talk to you, her saying “No thank you”, or any other time when a woman just simply doesn’t engage to be “rejection”.

If you DO consider these things to be rejection, please stop reading now, call your mom into your room, and tell her that it’s time you grew up and moved out… and that she’ll get over the fact that she can’t choose your clothes for you and hug you when you have a boo-boo anymore.

I digress…

I’ve found that there are a few main reasons why women actually DO reject men (by the way, it’s VERY rare that I actually get “rejected” anymore… it’s probably happened to me once in the last 100 times I’ve started a conversation with a woman… because I don’t do dumb-ass things anymore).

Here are the main ones:

1. The guy isn’t paying attention, and he does something stupid to begin with.

Some guys think it’s appropriate to walk up to a woman, put their arm around her, and say, “Hey baby, you sure do look hot tonight”.

Some guys don’t see anything wrong with following a woman around all night, staring at her constantly, then walking over with a nervous, sweaty-palmed, stalkerish look and saying, “You remind me of my sister”.

These are bad ideas.

2. The guy doesn’t stop when he should.

If two women are sitting alone at a table in the corner, and one of them is obviously upset, and you walk over to them and say, “Hi, can I buy you a drink?”… and the upset one looks at you and says, “No thanks, we’re in the middle of a conversation” (then looks away from you back at her friend)… and you say, “Aw, cummon, have a drink. You need to lighten up and have some fun”… and she looks back at you and says firmly, “We’re busy”… and you say, “What, are you in a bad mood or something? I’m just trying to buy you a drink”… and she says, “We don’t want a drink”… and you say, “Well maybe your friend does”… and the friend says, “No, I don’t want one either”…

OK, hopefully you get it.

If you ever do something like this, you are a dumb ass, and you deserve to be slapped and have 47 drinks thrown in your lap.

3. Making a woman nervous with your body language.

If you start talking to a woman, but your posture is weak and slumped, your eyes are darting around but not meeting hers, and you’re wearing an unbuttoned flannel shirt with one of the tails tucked in, you’re probably not going to get a favorable response.

If you creep a woman out, things aren’t going to work for you.

4. Not understanding a woman’s body language and other communication.

When you start talking to a woman, she will let you know within a very short time if she’s receptive to talking to you.

If you’ve been reading too many books that say “A woman will signal her availability and interest by flipping her hair, licking her lips, and cocking her head coyly at you”, then get over it.

This stuff happens to Brat Pitt, not to YOU.

And if it DOES happen to you, then skip this part.

When you first start talking to a woman she’s either going to keep talking to you in an open, comfortable way or she’s not.

She’s either going to act like things are cool or she’s going to act like they’re not.

This is an amazing thought, but women get nervous too. They will often stop talking just because they can’t think of anything to say, etc.

But you need to pay attention.

Experience is the best teacher here.

My simple point is that MOST GUYS CAUSE REJECTION by what they’re doing. They aren’t paying attention, or they’re doing things that are offensive.

If you just avoid a few major mistakes, learn how to start conversations with women, and do a few simple things RIGHT, you’ll all but totally avoid “rejection” from the women you approach.

HOW TO OVERCOME FEAR OF REJECTION

The REAL obstacle here is the FEAR.

As I mentioned, FEAR of rejection, or IMAGINING rejection when you should be imagining success, leads to walking away.

You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.

Ironically, I’ve found that the best way to overcome my own fear of rejection was to see that it wasn’t going to actually happen.

The more times I approached women and started conversations and the more I saw that women usually responded positively, the less I imagined things going wrong. This led to a positive feedback loop of me wanting to approach more women and have more success.

Here are a few ideas for overcoming your own FEAR of rejection:

1) Go out to a bar, and watch men approaching women.

Take a Saturday night, and just go out alone. Find a seat at the bar where things are busy, and just watch.

Make sure you visit a place that is REALLY busy, so you can see a lot of people interacting.

Now, pay attention.

You’ll begin to pick out the guys who are approaching a lot of women, asking them to dance, buying them drinks, etc. Watch what happens.

You’ll be able to see for yourself that most of the time, even if the woman isn’t interested, nothing bad happens.

You’ll also see that when a guy tries to grab a woman who’s walking by, makes a crude sexual comment, or just keeps talking when a woman isn’t interested, that the woman’s feelings might escalate and she’ll respond negatively.

You can watch what works and what doesn’t right in front of your own eyes.

This will start to reprogram your mind that women don’t usually “reject” men, even in the most intense situations where they’re being approached all night.

2) Start small.

If you have to, start by talking to women who are PAID to talk to you.

Go to a mall (one of my favorites).

Stores in malls hire attractive young women.

Walk into every store, and start conversations.

Practice making eye contact.

Come up with a few jokes that you can use in any situation (“So, do you own this store? Perfect, then you won’t care if I just take some things…”)

Ask the salesgirls to smell your new cologne (the one you sprayed on your wrist next door) and give you her opinion.

The more you do this, the more you’ll get used to starting conversations with women you don’t know, and having comfortable conversations.

3) Choose one default thing for each situation.

It amazes me that guys don’t think ahead.

They don’t plan what they’re going to do.

As the old saying goes “By failing to plan, you plan to fail”.

You really need to figure out a DEFAULT thing you can do to start a conversation with any woman, anywhere, anytime.

Once you come up with your idea, mentally rehearse it until you could do it in any situation.

Then get out and do it.

HOW TO AVOID REJECTION AND INCREASE SUCCESS

Human beings tend to want to “save face” when it comes to relationships.

We don’t like the idea that another person has outright “rejected” us, and we ALSO tend to not want to “hurt other people’s feelings” by rejecting them.

This is one of the reasons why women will often lie and say “I have a boyfriend” when they don’t.

You must become aware of these “subconscious” processes and motivations, work with them, and eventually become the master of them.

Learn to recognize when a woman is “politely saying no thanks”, and move on.

If a woman isn’t interested in you, forget about it. It doesn’t matter.

Go to the next one. There are plenty.

LEARN HOW AND WHY WOMAN FEEL ATTRACTION FOR MEN

Most men believe that if they could only overcome their own fear of rejection, and learn how to start talking to women, all their problems would be solved.

Not so!

Just because you can start conversations with women doesn’t mean that they’ll feel ATTRACTION for you.

It took me a LONG time to really “get” this.

It took me even LONGER to realize that there is actually a way to make women feel the emotion of ATTRACTION for you… just by the way you communicate with them.

I used to believe that it was a mysterious, lucky accident when a woman felt ATTRACTION. Now I realize that it’s only “lucky” for those guys who don’t understand it (and very few do).

And if you’d like to get an introduction to the main concepts, then download a copy of my downloadable eBook “Double Your Dating“. This eBook is a complete intro to the mind set and techniques you need to understand to start being successful with women. It’s here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook

I’ll talk to you soon,
David DeAngelo

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One topic that people seem to ask me to talk about over and over again is the issue of “the friend zone.” People especially want to know how to avoid getting into the friend zone (especially when they are out on a date).

Asking that question alone means that you need to take a good look at your mindset. Think about that question: How do I avoid the friend zone when I am out on a date? Look at what you just said to yourself.

You’re out on a date with a woman. She is not looking at you as a friend if she accepted the date from you in the first place.

The fact that you have this concern, however, shows that you are going into your dates with the energy of being a friend. This means that you are playing it safe.

It means that you are really not expressing your desires, feelings and emotions. You are basically in your head during the entire date, just being a “good guy” and probably agreeing with everything she says.

By playing it safe, though, you get exactly what you fear the most. You get put in the friend zone.

Guys ask me all the time how they can “escalate” with a woman. I can’t stand pickup terminology like that. Escalate? Are you an escalator? Are you going up an escalator? Are you a plane taking off from LAX heading off escalating into the sky? But I digress . . .

Regardless of the terminology, when you’re out on a date it’s all about your mindset and how you interact with the woman. It’s all about your eye contact, your smile and touching her had across the table as she’s telling a story.

It’s about letting yourself go and just being yourself so she’s able to become attracted to you. It’s so hard for people to just let go.

If you do nothing on a date except think and think and think, then guess what? You will never create any type of sexual attraction, because women will see that you are in your own head. When you’re totally in your own head, you can’t get into her heart.

So, how do you do this? How do you stay out of your own head, tap into your emotions and just let go?

You must stay present. You listen to her stories. You smile. You hold her hand if you feel like holding her hand.

There is no right or wrong time to hold somebody’s hand. You do it when you feel it.

Here is a great exercise to do to learn how to tap into your emotions. Get a friend and tell them how you feel about them. Describe what it feels like to be friends with them.

Describe what it feels like to be friends with yourself. Describe what it feels like to really reach deep inside yourself and see who you really are.

When I was single and went on dates, I was never in my own head. I used to just relax, enjoy myself and never thought about whether the woman was turned on by me. I only wondered whether I was turned on by her. If I felt like kissing her at the end of the date, I did so because we had connected as people.

You all know what it’s like to connect with people. You connect with friends, family and co-workers.

It is no different to connect with someone of the opposite sex. It takes being present. It takes enjoying. It takes letting go.

If you do all of those things, you won’t be in the friend zone. You’ll be in the lover zone.

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provided by Gypsy from The StyleLife Academy.

When text messaging keep in mind that, just like in face to face encounters with a woman, there are rules to know and follow.

Rule 1: Don’t text to avoid phone conversation.

Many guys, especially those just entering the social arts, see texting as a safer arena for contacting woman than calling them. This is understandable, but unacceptable. If you’ve just met and number closed a woman, then your next goal is to have a day two. The likelihood that you will set this up with her via text message is lower than if you call her and build more comfort verbally.

Also, if you’re texting because of your fear of interacting with this woman, then how will you ever hope to interact with her comfortably face to face?

Rule 2: Do not seek value when texting, bring it.

Examples of value seeking texts are “What’s up?” or “What are you doing tonight?” These texts come off as needy, invoke no emotion in the woman you are contacting, and don’t portray anything about your personality.

Here are some sample texts I’ve sent that have proven to be much more effective…

“I just saw a guy wearing a fanny pack and it reminded me of you.”

“Hey dork! I bet you are operating at a level of 100% dorkiness today.”

“What do you call a fish with no eyes?” Wait for her response before giving the answer, “Fssshhh.”

Rule 3: Avoid sending too many messages!

She might be the only thing on your mind at the moment but let’s keep that a secret between us, otherwise you may freak her out. Text once and only once until you get a reply, then you may text back. If she doesn’t respond to your text, you should generally hold off until tomorrow before contacting her again.

Also, give it some time after you receive a text before you respond. Remember being non-needy always equals sexy because it conveys that you must have other dating options in your life.

When in doubt, pace her. If she texts you back right away, you can text her back right away, but if she takes 10 minutes, then so should you.

Bonus Texting Tip: Use texts to invoke the law of familiarity.

After getting her number, immediately send a text while you’re still standing right next to her. This situation by itself is humorous and if you send a funny message it’s doubly so. Try messages like…

“You have my number now but you are only allowed to call me once per day.”

“Who is that really hot guy standing next to you?”

If, after texting her, she saves you number, take that as a definite indicator of interest. More importantly, when you call her later, your phone number will pop up and be familiar. This makes her much more likely to answer.

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]]> http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/2010/01/04/tighten-up-your-text-game/feed/ 5 http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/2009/11/24/comment-about-cocky-and-funny/ http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/2009/11/24/comment-about-cocky-and-funny/#comments Tue, 24 Nov 2009 19:52:31 +0000 Editor http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/?p=1281

This was taken from a recent comment. I think it really speaks to what we need to focus on to improve our game especially with negs and cocky and funny:

90% of these comments just let me know that no matter how far we are trying to get away from cheezy pickup lines and acting like a douchebag, most guys just don’t seem to get it. I feel like I’m on a high-school forum for either “who can come up with the sappiest line”, or “who can make the girl see how much of a tool I really am?”

Guys, your “negs” are completely out of sync with what we have learned from Mystery, Style, DeAngelo, etc. For some strange reason, a forum devoted to PUA material has been reduced to an SNL skit about “how to be an arrogant jackass that thinks he’s a stand-up-comedian”. Have you learned NOTHING by studying The Game!?

Seriously, 90-99% of you have obviously never read ‘The Game’, watched ‘The Pickup Artist’, listened to any of David DeAngelo’s material, or basically took the time to find out what REALLY works when approaching a set. You are all dooming yourselves to the lives of a greasy scumbag who knows nothing of the teaching from the masters.

Do yourselves a favor. Next time, instead of trying to be Andrew Dice Clay in your next encounter with a female, politely excuse yourself from the set and go to the bookstore. If you are still stubborn and think that laying on the “I’m so insecure that I have to call you a whore and portray myself as a sexual god” will get you somewhere, please buy a really good book from 1976 on pickup lines. I’m sure “What’s your sign?” will be in there if you haven’t thought of that one yet.

If you really care, if you REALLY want to know the tactics and maneuvers that are necessary to move your “game” up a notch, then seek out material by the people I’ve already mentioned. You will immediately find that what is going on in this thread has NOTHING to do with having “game”. Your “game” that is on display here is the entire reason that Mystery and his fellow pick-up-artists have devised a distinct method to AVOID having to lower yourselves to cheezy one-liners.

I fully realize that a lot of you are just starting out, and you want to throw in your (what you think) is prime material. I don’t fault you for that. Just PLEASE, for all of our sakes, at LEAST read “The Game” by Neil Strauss. I will consider anything you decide to indulge yourself in after that just gravy.

I’m not writing this post to belittle you guys that seem to think that flat-out insulting a woman, or forcing a sexual innuendo on them is the right way to sarge. I’m trying to let you in on material that will change your life. If you are too lazy to figure it out, I have no pity on you when you fail constantly with the Asshole/Douchebag lines. Most of what I have seen here are distinctly NOT “Cocky/Funny”. They are the same shitty “pickup” lines that true PUA’s have been honing their craft to get away from.

Anyone that is still listening….STOP reading this post for material. The stuff that these guys are putting forth will only hurt your game. Search harder, read the proven material, download some seminars by David DeAngelo, Mystery, etc., and then come back to this thread. Only then will you see how foolish this whole thing is. “Cocky/Funny”? No, almost all of these comments are Arrogant/Douchey. Tool/Cheezy. They go against everything that we are supposed to be learning, and the entire reason we are part of this forum in the first place. Start over. It’s not hard. All of the material is there if you REALLY want to find it. Good luck guys. You’re gonna need it if you’re still telling women that they fell out of heaven or saying that they are flat-out ugly. Negs are a happy medium. You will learn if you bother to find out. Good God.

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]]> http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/2009/11/24/comment-about-cocky-and-funny/feed/ 7 http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/2009/08/28/the-1-communication-problem-men-have/ http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/2009/08/28/the-1-communication-problem-men-have/#comments Fri, 28 Aug 2009 18:23:38 +0000 David Wygant http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/?p=1220

The other night during dinner I came up with a quote I want you to read:
“Embrace change at my own pace.”

I embrace change at my own pace.

You need to really take that statement in and listen to what it’s saying. How many times in a relationship have you talked to someone and given them your point of view, and then expected them to just react right away?

Let’s say you’re dating someone and you’ve been talking a little here and there about moving in together. Then you say to the other person that you want to move in with them and you list all the reasons why it’s a good idea. Do you then expect the other person to immediately respond with an answer? Do you get angry if they don’t immediately react and respond?

So many of us spend so much time wanting people to react the way we react. We want them to react exactly how we react and do it when we want them to do it.

Think about this from a little different perspective. When you are in a relationship and decide you’re ready to bring up a really important subject with your partner, you have almost always spent a lot of time thinking about and processing that topic before you actually bring it up.

Your partner, however, is just hearing about that topic for the first time when you raise it with them, and they haven’t had the benefit of being able to process the subject like you have. So don’t expect them to be ready to respond in that instance.

So many of us spend so much time wanting people to react the way we react. Then if and when they don’t react in that exact way, we start freaking out and playing mind games with ourselves.

I am equally guilty of that. In my relationship, sometimes I will have a conversation with my girlfriend and I’ll say something to her to which I want an answer that day. When I do this, she always says to me, “Give me time. Let me react in my own time.”

So many of us make assumptions. We hear what we want to hear. How many times do you have selective hearing?

Say you call someone on a Saturday. They don’t call you back that day . . . or the next one. Do you text them three times asking, “How come you haven’t called me back? Why aren’t you calling me back?” Perhaps they didn’t have their phone on them.

How many times to do you send an email to someone at 10:00 a.m. and, if you don’t get a response by noon, you send another email asking “How come you never responded to my email?” Allow people to respond on their own time.

When you allow people to respond on their own time you are not only going to get the response you desire (because the answer will come from their heart), but it’s going to be a real response and not a forced one.

People suffocate each other all the time, and they don’t allow each other the space they each need to reflect on these “heavy” conversation topics. When we do that, it’s a reflection of the lack of trust and faith in both the other person and in yourself. That instant gratification you want really can ruin a relationship, because you are forcing someone to answer you when they are not ready.

There is no reason to force people into answering when they’re not ready. There is no reason to make someone say something they’re not ready to say.

Have some patience in life. The more patient you are in a relationship, the greater a relationship with someone will be. So many of you ruin relationships that could potentially be great because of the way you force it.

If you give people time, then a relationship will grow and become exactly what you need it to be. You need to have trust and faith, because neurosis will just drive people crazy.

In today’s podcast, I talk more about communication and about how bringing up these heavy conversation topics can create fear and anxiety in all of us. Then I go into how to relax and feel better about talking out the tough times in your life with friends, relationship partners and business associates. This is one you don’t want to miss!

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Do you want a quick easy fun bar opener that no one ever thinks of or uses.

Here is an experiment I did one time with a friend in a bar. Coach Jacob and I just stood in one place, but we had an animated conversation. We were just having a good time. We stood right in the middle of the bar – so that everyone in the bar was standing around us – and just talked animatedly.

And women started coming over to us, asking, “What are you guys talking about?” We’d say, “Look, I’ll meet with you in five minutes; we just have to finish this conversation.” I would push them away a little bit, which would intrigue them a little bit more. In a bar, you can be very playful like that.

So after a few minutes, I looked at one woman and kind of waved her over. She came over and asked, “What?” and I said, “You were curious about what we were talking about, and I want to tell you.” Then I explained what it was we were talking about. “We were just discussion life and the nature of spirituality…” and she just stood there with her mouth wide open.

So then I looked at her and asked, “So tell me, how do you feel about this?” and for five minutes she went off on a tangent, full of passion and emotion, just like I did. She was mimicking my body language the entire time.

Most guys at bars are thinking about what the woman’s body language says. Who cares! It’s your body language that will attract other people.

So once I got her all full of passion, I asked her, “Are those your friends?” She said they were. “Alright, bring them over. We need more people’s opinions.” We had ten people – two of us, and eight girls – all sitting there and talking about spirituality and what it means to be alive. We had the most amazing conversation.

When we left, they all looked at us and said, “This was the greatest experience we’ve ever had in a bar!” It was the first time they’d ever had a real conversation at a bar.

It all comes from you putting yourself in the middle of that bar and saying to yourself: I will be the center of attention in this room tonight. I will talk to my friend and pull over whomever I want in this room!

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]]> http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/2009/05/04/a-quick-bar-opener/feed/ 2 http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/2009/04/16/getting-a-womans-phone-number-while-driving/ http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/2009/04/16/getting-a-womans-phone-number-while-driving/#comments Fri, 17 Apr 2009 04:11:39 +0000 Editor http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/?p=1079

by Vin Di Carlo.

I live in L.A. and I see hot girls all the time in traffic. I have a nice car (BMW) and I have a nice job and style. I read the ‘code so I know what to do but I am always in LA traffic seeing these hot ass girls lol! What do you suggest for “traffic game?”

– Seth, Long Beach, CA

I had to laugh at this email, because I know exactly what Seth is talking about.

(living right next to New York City makes driving by a hot woman an EVERY DAY thing)

The U.S. has such a car culture. I mean, one of the MOST COMMON places where we interact with a TON of people, is in traffic. In Europe and other places it’s quite different:

People mostly walk, and there are lots of public spaces for people to congregate and meet each other.

And I believe it’s one of the reasons European women are more sexual in nature… While American women find European men so sexually attractive.

(Plus, the accent doesn’t hurt…)

However, in America, we spend a good chunk of our lives in our cars, looking at the floating heads of strangers, fogged by two layers of window. It’s really a strange thing, evolutionarily.

Our brains did not evolve for eons for this kind situation. And yet here we are.

One of the great things about being human is that we can create new things, and then adapt to them. Our brains are adaptation machines!

And there are definitely ways to adapt to the inherent obstacles of meeting women in traffic, or any situation for that matter.

How often have you been sitting at a light, and you look over and see a HOT older woman in a minvan…I mean a real MILF, and you just wanted to say something, but you didn’t know how?

I know rolling down the window and yelling, “HEY! WHO LIES MORE? MEN OR WOMEN?” doesn’t sound like it would work…

Or maybe you’re on the highway, and you look over to the next lane to see a cute, young hottie with a great set of perky breasts and long blond hair bunched in a pony-tail…

So what do you DO? Now, I WILL give you tips and advice you can use starting today…

… But this brings up a deeper issue I want to go over, first:

You see, I’m a big proponent of SAVING TIME.

I don’t like to spend a lot of time preparing what I say, and talking to a woman that may not be available or interested. So I like to do things efficiently. I like to go direct, and I like to begin escalating quickly.

I actually WANT the woman to have the opportunity to reject me.

That way, if she does, I can move one without wasting another second of my time, which is very valuable these days.

My attitude is the same in traffic, and in fact it’s EASIER to “open” a lot of women in traffic, with ZERO risk. The great thing is, if she complies with you, by actually talking to you or giving you her number (as I’ll tell you how to do in a second), there’s an almost certain chance of a successful outcome. (ie. getting her over to your place THAT NIGHT.. or well within one-to-two dates)

There are two ways to go about meeting women while in traffic. Keep in mind I’m not talking about women walking on the street, as you drive by.

I’m talking car-to-car here. The first way is exchanging numbers. You can do this by giving her your number, or by her giving you hers. There are a variety of methods for this:

You can lean out of your window and simply say:

“Hey! You’re a cutie. I got a boring drive ahead of me. How bout I give you a call!”

Or you could do something situational, like if you’re stuck in a traffic jam, roll your window down, get her attention – be sure to smile – and say:

“Looks like we’ll be here for a while. I think you’re cute. Let’s talk!”

Another thing you can do is write your number on a piece of paper in big clear numbers, and add something like “EMERGENCY – call this number now,” or “SOS,” or something funny that will make her curious.

Get her attention and put it up on the window. You’ll probably want to write out your message ahead of time and keep it in the car at all times since you never know when you’ll see a cute woman in traffic.

The other thing you can do is go for a quick instadate on the spot. Instead of going for a number exchange, you can just say –

“Hey! I think you’re gorgeous. How ’bout some coffee – pull into the starbucks up the road!”

I want to make something clear:

Your percentage of actual closes in traffic is going to be quite small.

But that’s OK.

It’s a VERY tough situation, logistically.

The good news is that it’s really easy and you can do it ALL THE TIME. I don’t know about you, but driving isn’t very exciting. This is an easy, simple, risk-free way to make your trip a whole lot more fun. It’s not like you have anything better to do – you’re just sitting there. It takes almost no effort, and you’ll never see these women again!

So there’s no risk, no cost, just the potential for a great outcome. And like I said, if the woman complies, you can bet that’s a solid number. And if she actually stops somewhere to meet you, you can bet she’s horny and has nothing better to do!

The key to all this is to be silly and spontaneous, and just GO FOR IT.

If that sounds hard for you, because you don’t consider yourself a fun, silly, spontaneous guy, I beg to differ. Every man has the ability to be a pickup artist and make the most of his opportunities. All you need to do, is get out there, and give just ONE of the many examples I told you a try.

Just once… Just today…

… Make it happen, FOR YOURSELF!

Read more from Vin, in his Attraction Code eBook.

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You’ve probably noticed that I don’t talk about the idea of “romance” very often.

There’s a good reason for this.

I think that most guys use romance in completely the wrong way, and in the process screw up their chances with the woman that they are interested in. I’m going to take some time here to talk about my personal perspective on romance, how it is misused, and how to use it to really make a woman feel attracted to you. Most guys make one of two main mistakes when trying to be “romantic”:

1) They try to use romance to CREATE attraction.

2) They use TOO MUCH romance, thinking that more
must be better.

Let me ask you this… What does romance mean to you?

I’m serious. Think about it for a minute.

Does romance mean gifts and flower?

Does it mean fancy dinners?

Does it mean candles and soft music?

To me, romance is about showing a softer side of yourself… a more thoughtful side… in a way that is meant to INCREASE the woman’s attraction for you.

Like I just mentioned, most guys either try to use romance to CREATE attraction, or they do too many things in an attempt to “be romantic”, and the effect is lost.

Here’s a quiz:

In general, would a woman think you were more romantic if you:

1) Brought her red roses every time you saw her.

2) Brought her one flower the fourth time you saw her, but it was her favorite flower, in her favorite color.

…???

Here’s another one…

In general, would a woman think you were more romantic if you:

1) Took her to a fancy dinner every time you saw her.

2) Didn’t take her to dinner, but one night cooked her a favorite dish that your mom taught you and told her the story of how it came to be a family favorite?

Do you see where I’m going with these examples?

“Romance” is all about the context of the situation. In other words, little things that are thoughtful, used once in awhile will make FAR more of an impact than trying to do everything you possibly can all the time.

Have you ever seen a T. V. show or movie with a girl holding a flower, pulling off each petal one at a time and saying, “He loves me, he loves me not”? This is a famous cliche… even Madonna does it in her old “Truth or Dare” movie.

What’s going on here? And why is it now such a famous idea that it is almost universally known?

Because it strikes a chord inside of women everywhere! Every woman can relate to the idea of thinking about a man and wondering if he’s thinking about her. Pulling petals off of a flower and saying, “Heloves me, he loves me not”, is just another way of saying, “I can’t stop thinking about this guy and I’m going to keep thinking about him until I know how he feels.”

As you know, if you’ve read past newsletters and/or my ebook, I think that it’s important to CREATE this kind of situation as much as humanly possible. Now, here’s where romance fits into the puzzle… If you’re doing things that you considerto be “romantic” all the time, then she has nothing to wonder about… nothing to think about… there is no challenge or mystery at all.

On the other hand, if you use romance more carefully and keep her on the edge of her seat, so to speak, then a small romantic gesture will cause her to feel GREAT feelings of attraction inside… and cause her to work even harder to get and keep your attention – BECAUSE SHE’LL TRY HARDER TO GET MORE OUT OF THIS ROMANTIC SIDE OF YOU! So what are some things you can do, that women see as romantic, without going overboard?

Well, if you want to do the typical things like flowers, gifts, music, poetry, etc. then do as I said earlier: Use them VERY infrequently. Tease her, bust on her, treat her like a bratty little sister most of the time, then out of nowhere do something thoughtful. But make sure to stay cool when the emotional reaction comes!

She’s probably going to be very happy and want to know “where that came from.” Just tell her that you were thinking about her and move on to the
next topic. Don’t get all mushy, dude. By the way, if you’ve gone out with a woman 47 times, and you don’t know if she likes you, and you’re now thinking, “Oh, hey… great idea! I’ll buy her a flower and she’ll feel attracted to me…” then get a new idea.

Romance isn’t a way to make a woman feel attracted to you.

Romance is a way to AMPLIFY attraction that is already happening.

Read that last part again… DON’T TRY TO MAKE A WOMAN FEEL ATTRACTED TO YOU WITH ROMANCE!

Attraction is created by factors other than gifts, dinners, flowers, etc. If she’s not feeling attracted to you, then showing her that you’re attracted to her probably isn’t going to change it… in fact, it may just push her away.

I know, I know… you once heard about a guy who pursued a woman for 9 years until she finally gave in and married him. Well, that might work, but I don’t have 9 years (unless it’s Cindy Crawford… yeah, I know she’s like 50, but she’s STILL hot).

Earlier I mentioned a couple of great ideas. You can cook her a special meal that has meaning… and tell the story behind it. Stories are romantic, especially if the story contains a love story.

And small gifts can be romantic as well (I don’t like big gifts because they change the dynamic of the relationship and can create all kinds of feelings that it’s a trade of affection for money, etc.).

If you pay attention, a woman will mention something that she really likes. It could be a kind of flower, a kind of music, an author, etc. If you want to be romantic (after you know that she’s attracted to you) you can get something thoughtful then write a card that says, “I was thinking about you, and I found this… thought you would like it. Kiss Kiss.” Use romance as the spice, and not the main dish. Use it to amplify, not as your main strategy. Romance combined with the techniques that I teach is a VERY powerful combination.

HOW TO CREATE A SETTING THAT AUTOMATICALLY CREATES AND AMPLIFIES ATTRACTION…

We just talked about how most guys either have no clue about romance, or they use it too much… which screws up everything for them.

There is one aspect of romance that I have found very useful to know more about and use. It’s the concept of how to create a SETTING that will create more of a feeling of attraction inside of the woman that you are with.

WARNING: What I’m about to share with you is not a magic bullet. It’s no substitute for a cocky, funny personality and great skills. Using this alone will not make you successful with women. With that said… I’ve found that there are a few things you can do in your immediate environment to “accelerate the mood”, so to speak, when you are with a woman.

Women have very active senses… usually much more so than men.

If you have already sparked the attraction between you and her, introducing certain sensory stimulus will usually increase the attraction, and can lead to a more, shall we say “physical” demonstration of that attraction.

OK, let’s say that you’ve had a fun night out with your girl (and of course, because you read Double Your Dating (review) you knew where to take her that was fun and inexpensive) and you’re back at your place. (Of course, she came inside because you learned how to get her to come in from the book too… right?) And then you use the Kiss Test, which you learned when you visited my web site… and you’ve just kissed for the first time. Now what?

Well, most guys make the HUGE mistake of trying to grope the poor girl… which, of course leads to the inevitable “I think that we’re moving a
little fast. Let’s take things slower.” (Translation: “None for you tonight, and if you try that again, none for you anytime in the next 10 dates.”)

Instead, try this:

After that first kiss, pull back and look into her eyes and say, “Yum.” Then stand up and say, “Let me see if I can do something about this setting” in a fun, smooth, kind-of suspenseful tone of voice.

Here’s the recipe:

1) A few candles

2) Some incense

3) A glass of wine (if you both drink and are of legal age)

4) Sade’s – Greatest Hits on low

I know it sounds simple, but let me explain the recipe now that you know the ingredients. Remember the formula “Two steps forward, one step back” that I often talk about? Mix up these ingredients with that concept… and VIOLA! More and MORE AND MORE attraction.

You probably don’t need to learn how to light candles, open wine, and play music. If you do, refer to the instructions that come with the products.

I personally like to introduce these as great ways to interrupt the kissing (and whatever else is going on).

Try this:

1) Kiss Kiss

2) “Let me see if I can do something about this setting”

3) Light candles and incense, lower lighting

4) Kiss Kiss

5) Open wine and put on ‘Sade’

6) Kiss Kiss

7) Watch out… because something good is about to happen.

Here’s what’s going on in her mind:

“Oh, we’re kissing. I’d better not let this go too far.”

“What? Why did he stop kissing me? Oh, candles. I love candles…”

“Wow, this is turning into a make-out session, maybe I’d better put on the brakes.”

“What? Why did he stop again?”

“Ohhh, I LOVE ‘Sade’. Her voice is so sexy. And this wine is nice. Hmm, I wonder why he isn’t trying to jump my bones. Maybe he doesn’t think I’m a good kisser. Maybe he changed his mind. Well I’m not going to let that happen. I’ll show him…”

Do you get it? By simultaneously creating tension while making the setting more and more ‘romantic’, you will stir up her ATTRACTION towards you and make her be the one who ultimately gets so worked up that she can’t help but have you.

Nice.

Of course there are many other things you can do that are romantic. Like sprinkling rose petals on the bed, pulling out some Godiva chocolate, or lighting up the fire and grabbing a blankie (make sure you don’t bring out your teddy-bear from when you were a kid… that might not go over too well). It’s really up to you. The key is to use these things sparingly, and use them with the concepts that you’ve already learned to AMPLIFY THE ATTRACTION that you’ve already created with your COMMUNICATION.

So remember, use these things with women who are ALREADY feeling the attraction, not to create it!

Learn more from David DeAngelo with his book Double Your Dating.

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Have you ever been talking with a bunch of guys, shooting the breeze, and all of a sudden a woman joins your group, and the vibe of the conversation changes COMPLETELY?

It’s like someone just threw a wrench into the gears. Suddenly the subject changes, and you hear a record scratch in the background.

Now all of a sudden you start censoring yourself and talking the way you think you “should” around a woman.

I remember when I would walk up to a group of girls and feel my mind freezing up on me like a puddle in winter. My mind would just go completely blank.

Now, there’s a secret here that I’m going to reveal to you in this article that will help you talk to women with much more calm confidence – once you understand a hidden desire that women have.

I want to tell you something about my childhood first…

Don’t worry, we’re not getting in touch with our “inner child” or anything like that.

You see, I when I was a kid, I liked to hang around girls…

Sure, I had a lot of guy friends, but I also spent a LOT of time hanging around groups of girls whenever I could.

Yeah, I got teased about it a lot, but I had a feeling these girls were going to be the next big thing in a few years, and I wanted to start researching this trend right away.

The cool thing about having spent so much time around them was that I learned just how girls think and communicate. I started to understand what it was that women wanted in their conversations.

This one thing – this hidden ingredient – was something that guys were missing in almost every conversation they had with a woman.

What is this missing part?

Well, there was an old joke that we used to have when I was doing project management for big corporations. They would call us in to do a big project plan. And then we joked that it would look like this:

Step 1) Begin project to install new system

Step 2) *** A miracle happens ***

Step 3) Project success!

Well, obviously step 2 is where most people just smile, close their eyes, and go into their ‘happy place.’ (It’s this kind of wishful thinking that has led us to problems in our economy as well as the environment.)

Well, this “miracle happens” thinking has led me to realize just how many guys are making a really BIG error in their logic with women…

You see most guys have this concept of how conversation works with women:

Step 1) Start conversation

Step 2) ??? A miracle happens ???

Step 3) Get a date.

Step 2 is that ‘mystery step’ where ‘a miracle happens’ and she just instantly finds you interesting enough to want to go on a date with you.

This is a little like thinking that someone is going to want to buy a car without experiencing sitting in it, or test driving it out on the open road. Not many people “mail order” their cars.

The secret desire that women have that will help you fill in the blank between “Walk up to woman” and “get her phone number” is actually VERY simple.

And it’s not a miracle, either.

It is…

EMOTION.

Sometimes known as: DRAMA.

But not the BAD kind of drama. It’s the GOOD kind.

You see “drama” that a woman wants just means emotional ENERGY.

Ever had a dish of spaghetti where someone just dumped a plain bottle of tomato sauce on it? My grandma used to make it this way, and it was really boring.

Now, throw in a little garlic, onions, basil, and a bit of red pepper and now you’ve got yourself a spicy meat-a-ball!

It’s the same thing with conversations. Emotional energy is what gives spice to a conversation for a woman.

The good news is that there is a reliable set of strategies that I want to show you that build that kind of energy women are looking for in conversation.

And I want to teach them to you for F-R-E-E.

Not only that, but I want to teach you some of my conversation techniques (inner and outer game) that will work for you in just about ANY situation – talking with friends, co-workers, family,
women – whoever.

In the first video, you’re going to learn:

- The one hidden element of powerful conversation that you cannot create – you can only *discover*…

- The REAL reason a woman puts you into the “friends only” category…

- Why you never want to “flip” – or BE flipped…

- What the dating “program” is – and how to stop running this
program before it crashes your system…

Go watch the video here:

http://www.alphaconfidence.com/conversation-persuasion/video-1.php

Oh, and I hope you’ll forgive me for the last 60 seconds of this video. I had to cut loose and have some fun. Some videos can be really boring, so I thought I’d throw in a little something different for you rockers out there…

And be sure to watch your email over the next few days. I’ve got about 90 minutes of great videos to share with you that are going to change your conversation game for good…

Go here right now to see my conversation inner game video:

http://www.alphaconfidence.com/conversation-persuasion/video-1.php

Your friend,

Carlos Xuma

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You probably have often heard this infamous phrase: “Man, that guy has game!”

What does that mean? How is it that one guy “Has game” and the next guys doesn’t? What does it really imply to even have game? What sort of a mystical power is this? What the f*ck is game anyway?

Let me strip it down to its basic components for ya!

We say a guy “Has game” when he is pretty good at attracting women to himself. The good old 80/20 rule applies here. 20% of men probably have game and the other 80% sort of fall into various categories of having little to no game.

Regardless of whether a guy learned to be good attracting women through the seduction community or just happened to be naturally good at it, he possesses certain ingredients.

In fact, to make it really simple: Let’s say this dude is a “Natural.” He’s never heard of the “Seduction Community” nor does he care about it. He is just good with women. He has game.

Well, here is what game really is broken down to 3 components:

***ATTITUDE***

(The balls factor)

This means having big balls, taking chances, and having some alpha-male characteristics. That means he is confident and has maybe an edge of cockiness even perhaps. It’s best summed up in the word Attitude. (Not attitude problem, but just an aura that the guy has high self-esteem.)

***SOCIAL CALIBRATION & SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE***

In the business, we call it “Calibration.” It’s Knowing what to say, and WHEN to say it! It’s Having an intuitive understanding of the type of women you’re talking to, and the circumstances you’re in.

Men who are players have some intuitive understanding of social dynamics. They know when to push and when to pull back a bit, they know are able to gauge their target demographic. It also means having a good nose for knowing when to go for the close because she is ready…..

I’ve met guys who have male-bimbos who were good at attracting certain type of women, only because they intuitively understood their target demographic (which happened to be other airhead females, but they’re good at working that target audience.)

*** Ability to Be INTERESTING and APPEALING on some level***

Whether it’s through humor, great storytelling, or intriguing conversations, the guy is able to create interest on some level. This includes guys who are not even very intelligent, but they’re still able to tell idiotic stories of their exploits that engage their target demographic. (Picture the drunken idiot fraternity boy here.)

Most naturals seem to be pretty good storytellers. Even if they grew up in a small town and had the plain small town American experience, they’re still are good at conveying it.

You have to be interesting as a person on some level and story telling is one of those ways. Whether you’re an intellectual or a stereotypical jock, you have to be able to convey that on some level.

That’s all Game is. When you hear someone say, “That guy has game,” he basically has some attitude/confidence, is interesting and is able to calibrate well because he has social intelligence.

That’s it!

The riddle is solved!

Guess we can all go home now and resume our normal lives. If it’s that simple, why is it difficult for some guys to get it? Or rather, why don’t some guys ever improve significantly?

That’s because each of the main 3 points can take time to develop and there are a lot of nuances to be learned within each of the aforementioned areas.

I shared this little insight with my buddy Jay, and he was very adamant about me mentioning that just because someone possesses these 3 qualities, does not mean they can go and pick up women everywhere and anywhere.

He has a point. I can see how the post would be misconstrued. This post is merely drawing an outline. It’s a bird’s eye view, a macro description of the entire process. It’s not an end-all, be-all solution, but rather a broad roadmap.

Guys who are good and do well consistently have learned what their demographic is and what environments they do best in. (I suppose this’d fall under calibration anyway. There will be an important future blog entry about target demographics, something nobody in the community is talking about.)

* Learning your environment:

Some guys are great at the bar/night club scene but don’t like approaching much during normal every day hours. Then there are guys who just hate bars/clubs and they don’t do well in bars and nightclubs. Yet, they’ve done consistently well for themselves despite not being bar people.

Others have learned to meet girls effectively working their social circle scene. Some had jobs or careers that were conducive to meeting women, doormen, bartenders, bouncers, DJs, club promoters and etc.

Some guys have learned to do really well meeting women online.

Despite where and how they meet women, these guys excel at these areas. This post is not about pickup artists. It’s about men who attract women on some level and do well for themselves.

This blog entry is designed to provide you with a [very general] roadmap of sorts to allow you to see where you need to make improvements. Maybe you want to date multiple women or maybe you want a good girlfriend whom you are attracted to physically and personality wise. Be honest with yourself and your sticking points.

Troubleshooting:

If you’re stuck and not getting decent results, you’re probably lacking in one of these areas.

* Lack of attitude/confidence

Ok, so you have learned some openers, some routines, and are able to get the conversation started but you lack balls. You are too caught up in what other people (including women) may think of you. You are held back by too much fear and hesitation. Or you could display needy and supplicating behavior, which are usual symptoms of a low self-image if you dig deep enough.

* Lack of Calibration

Maybe you don’t have that much fear or hesitation, but you just haven’t improved your social intelligence. Man, the seduction community is full of such guys. You say the wrong thing at the wrong time. You apply tactics when there is no need for tactics and you try to be alpha when there is no need to prove yourself.

You learn about negs and misapply them. You neg an archetype of woman when you should be complimenting her, and you compliment a type of woman whom you should be telling to fuck off. (Not in those exact words, however.)

* Not interesting or appealing

You are just not that interesting to be talk to. There is no appeal or lure to draw them to ya. This has nothing to do with physical attraction. It’s about personality. Maybe you have a great personality but you haven’t learn to convey that personality properly, or maybe you freeze up around women and then you can’t display your cool personality (which brings up the first issue: lack of attitude and overwhelmed by fear.)

Start working on the areas you need improvements on. At the end of the day, one thing is for sure: A guy who possesses the ingredients will do OK for himself. This isn’t about becoming a PUA, hitting on 5000 women a day, or bragging to your friends about your number-closes and other retarded community dogma.

It’s that the Man who:

1. Has Balls and confidence,
2. Possesses social intelligence and calibration,
3. and is Interesting as a person/human being

will attract his fair share of females. This is despite race, hair, color, ethnicity, height, flashy clothes, religion, and other superficial differences.

Next time you see some random guy in your town, neighborhood or social circles who seems to do well with women, take a closer look and you’ll see that he possesses the aforementioned components. Perhaps you may be at a house party and you notice one guy who seems to have the women attracted to him.

Others will say, “Dude, that guy has game…..” but won’t be able to express why or how.

Having read this post, You will know exactly why.

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