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Don’t Be A Slave To Your Dick (David Wygant Column)

David Wygant — Fri, 25 Apr 2008 02:59:55 +0000

Most guys are a slave to their dick. Here’s the theory behind this, and how you can detach yourself from your dick. When you detach yourself from your dick, women really want your dick.

It’s the funniest thing in the entire world. You know how you crave the most incredible blow job in the entire world, you really love a blow job, and you pray you will find a girl who loves to suck your dick? The problem is that you’re so into your dick, that women don’t want to suck your dick. But if you’re a really powerful man who engages everybody around him, women want to suck your dick.

Women love sucking powerful men’s dicks. They really do. The more powerful you are, the better head you’re going to get from a woman because she wants to please you. You also have to be a good lover.

It’s not just about being powerful either. You have to exude charisma and power. Look at the way Bill Clinton works a room and the way he stands in a room. He has a very powerful presence.

It’s about having a powerful presence. He controls his energy. Bill Clinton studied all the greats. He watched Kennedy. He watched all the great leaders. He picked up all the great tips. This guy comes from a trailer park in Hope, Arkansas. He didn’t just get these skills overnight. He formed them over years and years of studying very powerful people. He’s a very deep man. He’s read a lot of books, including those by very powerful leaders like Marcus Aurelius and those by great philosophers. He learned how to have control over his power and his energy, and to make it work for him (and not against him).

Most guys make their power and energy work against them. They are slaves to their dicks. They are slaves to a lot of things. That’s a shame. That’s something we talked about in “Always Talk to Strangers.” When you are a slave to your own dick, you walk into a place (whether it’s a coffee shop, a store, or your classroom), and it’s like having a giant flashing neon sign on your forehead that’s flashing “Desperate! Desperate! Desperate!”

Most women, even if they’re horny themselves, do not want to f&^* a man with a sign on his forehead that’s flashing the word “Desperate!” They want a guy who is confident and owns his energy, even if the girl is desperate herself and hasn’t had sex in a year. Even when a girl hasn’t had sex in a year, she doesn’t want a guy who is desperate and who is a slave to his dick, because this is the type of guy who will tend to look at a woman like a piece of steak on a grill. This type of guy objectifies her . . . and she can see it.

The other day I was watching these two guys walk down the street near me, and there was this beautiful woman walking toward us. They didn’t talk to her because they’re slaves to their dicks, which means they objectified her. So the minute the woman walked by us, they both turned their head and checked out her ass . . . which objectified her even more.

The fact is they’ll never sleep with a woman like that, because they don’t know how to connect with her. So occasionally they’ll either (a) jerk off to a woman like that, or they’ll get some Internet porn, or they’ll get themselves a craigslist hooker, or (b) maybe they’ll do nothing and remain totally frustrated.

This is because their dick is controlling them. Their dick is telling them to remain frustrated. Their dick is telling them “You know what? You can’t get someone. I just want to get laid. I want to feel her. I want to touch her. I want to f$&# her.” This is just not the way it works, because beautiful women don’t want to feel that energy.

Remember that when I talk about “beautiful women,” that a beautiful woman is whatever is in your eyes. I have different tastes. My friends have different tastes. I may not date or think the women you’re dating are hot. It doesn’t really make a difference. It’s not me.

That’s another way that men think with their dick too, because they’re always trying to impress their friends. “Wow! Wasn’t she hot? Wasn’t she amazing? Check her out!” Men want “the trophy.” It’s like Candy Land, they want the piece of candy. They want the trophy so badly, and the fact is you don’t need to objectify her, brag to your friends, and prove yourself.

The only thing you need to do is stop thinking with your dick! That’s your dick telling your friends “Hey, my dick’s going to get involved with her. My dick is going to f^&# her tonight . My dick’s going to get in some good pussy.” Women just get turned off by that! They’ve seen it. They’ve smelled you. And they don’t want to be around that anymore. Stop thinking with your dick!

Having this mindset of thinking with your dick is also bad for you. It’s bad for your soul. For those of you who don’t know what I mean by objectification, it’s something that our society does all day, every day. It’s in magazines and on television. Men objectify women and women objectify men (although men do it more to women). It’s in the advertising culture and on television.

It’s everywhere, and it permeates every aspect of society to the point where we’ve dehumanized people. We only look at them for their body parts or what they have to offer us in a physical sense. It’s totally fragmented, and doesn’t look at the whole person.

We need to continually remind ourselves to look at people as the whole person , and not just as an object or a fragmented person who’s simply there for you to blow a load on. You can’t do that. It’s a major mistake. It’s understandable in our society and with the way things are set up, but you have to break away from that.

Be different! Be an individual. Be independent and think differently than the average slave out there. Remember and remind yourself that you’re talking to a human being, and that human being has feelings, pressure points, and interests. You can relate to that person. This is not a piece of meat. Always remind yourself of that.

You know, women are not pieces of meat. They are wonderful, beautiful beings with whom to connect. If you don’t think this way, then my teachings are not for you. Plain and simple. I’ve got no issues.

There are guys and teachers out there who will teach you to objectify women. “Here’s how you can f&$# this piece of meat and throw her in the garbage the next day. Here’s how you can season her with your bullshit, throw her on the grill, eat her, f&#^ her, and then make her feel like an idiot the very next day.” Sure, there are guys who can teach you that. But that’s not what I’m all about.

I am about teaching you how to have the greatest sex and to connect with women. When you have that zen power, you’re going to have the greatest sex in the world and your mind is going to be controlling it (not your dick).

Once again, I have no issues if you listen to this stuff and it doesn’t resonate with you. You don’t have to download my stuff anymore, listen to my podcasts any more, or read my blog anymore. I don’t care, because I know there is a large percentage of men out there who definitely want to go and elevate their being to the next level and be able to experience how amazing it is to be able to connect with women.

There are the group of guys out there who act like a bunch of predators – all they want to do is have sex with a woman, get off, and not give a shit what she thinks. Hey man, if that’s you … that’s cool. But if so, then what I’m talking to you about right now might as well be Svengali . . . because you don’t know what I’m saying.

You have no clue what I’m saying, and it’s perfectly okay. If you and I hung out and you’re one of these guys who objectify women so much, and you don’t want to get deep with them and understand really how to connect with them on a higher level, we’re going to go to a party and you’re going to think I’m some California asshole who’s talking out of his ass to women about spirituality. It’s not going to resonate with you at all, and that’s cool.

If, however, you’re in the majority of men out there who after hearing this are saying “Man, I get it! I want to live this life. I’ve never lived this life, and I’m willing to try to live this life” . . . then you’re ready to evolve and move on to the next step and up to the next level.

You’re willing to go put your dick in your pants, let your mind connect with a woman, and realize that she is going to pull your dick out of your pants. You’re not going to pull your dick out of your pants anymore.

The guys who objectify women walk around all night with their dick in their hands hoping someone is going to stroke it When these guys go home at night, their dick still it’s still in their hands . . . and you know exactly what I’m talking about. So don’t be one of these guys and don’t be a slave to your dick!

One last zinger. Ask any woman what type of man she would prefer and you will see that the language of love is what I have write here on this site.

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Sex God Method On Playboy Radio

Donovan — Mon, 02 Jul 2007 18:08:09 +0000

Daniel (Spirit Fingers) was on Playboy Radio recently. It was a great interview about sexual technique.

The interview is with former Playmate Tiffany Granath. Daniel talked about some controversial stuff (how women want to be dominated, spanked, talked dirty to, etc.). Overall, she was really positive, and agreed with him on most of his points.

http://www.sexgodmethod.com/PlayboyRadio.mp3

It’s interesting to hear what a Playmate and the mainstream think about a PUA perspective on sex, rather than the usual Dr. Phil-like
perspective.

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How To Beat Premature Ejaculation and Have The Best Sex Ever

Donovan — Tue, 05 Jun 2007 18:43:53 +0000

Dave (not David Deangelo) Van Arrick has just released a killer CD set to help guys overcome limitations on the sexual side of life. I’ve heard a few of the CDs pre-launch, and they’re awesome for dealing with it. The funny thing is, I was under the impression that premature ejaculation was just on American Pie films, but I heard a statistic that over 75% of men deal with this problem? Wait, is that right?

Check it out, and go to his site to listen to some sample clips direct from the program. Here is Dave on the topic:

Have You Ever Heard of CRESTING? What about AUTOGENIC TRAINING?

If you’re like most guys, the answer is a resounding no. Consequently, most men are painfully unaware of the numerous ways they can prolong their ejaculation time, while boosting their sexual performance and “staying power”

Chronic ignorance of these important types of techniques regularly produces less than stellar results in the bedroom, leaving our hapless hero disappointed, unsatisfied embarrassed and often feeling completely emasculated in front of his woman who is often lying there waiting hungering for an orgasm that never comes.

Leaving your woman in this condition is one of the most DANGEROUS things you can do to her.

Why?

Because an orgasmless, chronically frustrated and sexually starved woman is a prime candidate for becoming an UNFAITHFUL, “CHEATING WOMAN”.

And if you think your woman is different the odds are…

YOU ARE DEAD WRONG!

The hard truth is my friend, that if you can’t satisfy her needs, then her own inner psychological and biological mechanisms and hungers WILL DRIVE HER to seek it in the arms (and other body parts) of another man.

Such is the tragedy of the AVERAGE AMERICAN MALE.

In fact, the problem of poor sexual performance is so widespread that in a poll, 93% of men asked, said they’d really love to last longer in bed before ejaculating – but 100% of those men were completely clueless as to how they could do it.

In fact most guys BELIEVE its just plain impossible.

Well amigo, I have some great news for you!

Nothing could be further from the truth.

Actually, the fact of the matter is that curing premature ejaculation, lasting longer and increasing your level of performance during sexual intercourse is not only possible but also very easy to accomplish, (with a little knowledge, guidance, and practice of course.)

The plain fact is that with the right kind of training you can have COMPLETE Control over your erection, your ejaculation time and even enjoy multiple orgasms.

That means a lot more sexual pleasure for you and complete sexual satisfaction for your lady complete with bragging rights!

Want to know more?

So, now that we know you are really serious about becoming a master lover, Let’s take a look at one sexual method that can give you massive control over your arousal levels and always give you the choice of when to cum or not.

As many of your reading this article are painfully aware; During sex, most men quickly begin to lose control of themselves (in terms of ejaculation!) at around the 2 or 3 minute mark – which is usually a long way from any woman’s orgasmic boiling point. And we both know how humiliating and frustrating it is when we “blow our loads” before she is even close to orgasm don’t we?

So, that’s usually the first point at which you’ll use the technique I am about to share with you. It involves two steps. The first takes place in your mind – which is the root of many a guy’s sexual performance problems.

1. When you first feel those telltale sensations in your penis (the heightened sensitivity and energy that let you know that if you carry on doing what you’re doing you’ll soon explode)

DON’T PANIC!!!

RELAX.

Too many men actually push themselves over the edge and into premature ejaculating simply because they mentally begin to panic when they feel they are close to orgasm.

Panic rushes through their heads creating all kinds of performance sapping internal dialogue such as:

“Uh oh, I’m gonna blow!”

Oh god, I can’t hold it much longer”

“I hope she cums quick!” and “Not again, this is going to be embarrassing.”
Instead of allowing this negative stress induced internal dialogue make you lose control of yourself. Simple become aware of that evil little voice. Take a deep breath. And tell yourself its time to use this little known technique for slowing down your arousal and amplifying hers like there is not tomorrow. I call it the “Earth Mover“

2. The part of your penis that plays the biggest part in premature ejaculation is the head or glans of your penis. The first thing we have to do is minimize the stimulation so that your body can begin to move back down the arousal scale (see ForeverMan for details).

This accomplishes two things, (actually more than two but the article is too short for much detail)

First it keeps you from ejaculating, second it allows you more sexual control overall.

So how do we accomplish this miracle?

To decrease the stimulation to the head of the penis without interrupting your woman’s orgasmic processes — slowly and deeply thrust into your woman, as far as you can go and only as far as she can pleasurably take. Keep in mind that as deep as you can go is not necessarily as deep as is comfortable for your woman, use some sensory acuity here.

Now, once you have found how deep you can go without hurting or injuring your woman, bring your hips and pelvis together with hers as close and as tight as you can. Now the secret to this technique is not what you might think. Most guys think that the deep thrust is what brings your woman to orgasm…

NO, like I say in Secret Orgasm Tips. If you are trying to use your penis to bring your woman to orgasm…

You are swinging the wrong sword amigo!

Once you are as deep inside her as you can go, you need to angle your body so that the angle formed by your pubic bone and your erect penis perfectly contours her clitoris. Your mind while using this technique should be on that part of your body. Use a heavy pressure but a slow deep rotational stroking. The key here is slow, heavy and deep.

This pulls allot of stimulation away from the head of your penis, increasing your control and prolonging your ejaculation time, while simultaneously targeting the exact part of your woman’s anatomy that needs direct sexual stimulation during intercourse—her clitoris!

To her, this feels intensely erotic and sensual arousing her even faster, and when she orgasms you become the sexual hero she’s always wanted! I elaborate more on this method in ForeverMan – How to Beat Premature Ejaculation and Have The Best Sex Ever!

However, in addition to giving your woman the sexual stimulation that WILL lead her to orgasm you are also simultaneously decreasing the amount of stimulation to the head of your penis.

You see most people don’t realize this but a woman’s vaginal anatomy (specifically the area closest to the opening) is naturally designed to give maximum stimulation to the head of a man’s penis.

By thrusting deeply you push the head of your penis beyond this very dangerous zone and allow the shaft of your penis (which is not as sensitive) to come in contact with that portion of her vagina, decreasing your stimulation, and enabling you to last longer.

Then, to cap it off, you grind and rotate your pelvis (I tend to use a circular direction when I perform this) instead of thrusting in and out, which further decreases the intense sensations of sex. After 30 seconds or so, you will notice your arousal levels dropping off a bit giving you more control and allowing you to be able to start thrusting again should you so desire.

By using this technique, you’re able to control your urge to pop without stopping sex and while giving your partner the precise type of extra sexual stimulation she needs.

Now how much better a technique is that for tackling premature ejaculation when compared to what most people consider to be effective techniques? Things like: “Count backward from 100″ and “Thinking of dead puppies!”

Sex, comes really in two flavors “Type 1 sex” is simply for pro-creation and nobody really needs any advanced sexual training to do that effectively, Ole Mom Nature took care of that for us. But the Second flavor of sexuality, or what I call “CREATIVE SEXUAL EXPRESSION” is all about fun, connection and intimacy.

Unfortunately Ole Mother Nature didn’t do such a hot job equipping the average guy for that form of sexual activity, but have no fear! Using the 2-step technique above, you can both fully enjoy all of your sexual experiences – without the worry of it all being over too soon!

David Van Arrick is one of the worlds leading authorities on advanced sexual technique and helps men deal with premature ejaculation and other sexual performance issues.

He is the author of The Best Selling Home Study Courses “Secret Orgasm Tips” and “ForeverMan – How To Beat Premature Ejaculation and Have the Best Sex Ever!“

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