Contributed by Lance Mason and the Pickup101 Team.

Tip #1: Have transportation home planned

Don’t underestimate the power of a designated driver and one empty seat on New Years Eve. I don’t know how it is in your town, but in San Francisco getting a cab on New Years from 2 to 3 a.m. is next to impossible.

Having a ride planned out gives her an easy excuse to ditch her friends and catch a ride with you!

Tip #2: Pick a large venue and stay there

It’s better to go to one big party the whole night then to go to several small parties over the course of the night. As the night progresses, things tend to favor those who have been the most social all night.

Women you flirted with earlier will come back to talk to you. Even the people you haven’t talked to will start to recognize you as one of the more social people in the room.

This helps tremendously, and is all lost if you jump from party to party.

Tip #3: Have a goal in mind

Are you looking to set up a bunch of dates for the New Year, to get a girlfriend, or to just have fun and hook-up for the night? It’s worth mentioning that if you don’t know what you are looking for you won’t know when you have found it.

Tip #4: Countdowns are for wimps!

If you have a girl attracted to you and have been talking to her a while DON’T wait till midnight to get the kiss. If she likes you then practically any line works here. You can look at your watch and say, “Damn, it’s only 10:30!”.

Then pause and say, “I’m not waiting” and go in for the kiss.

You can even (*very* deliberately) set your watch forward (or backwards) to Midnight in front of her, give her an innocent “Oh I guess I’m supposed to kiss you now” look and go in for the kill. All done calmly with a smile, a sense of humor, and a “take it or leave it” attitude.

Once you’ve gotten to that point, keep escalating. Usually I say “Never fully make out in a bar”, but tonight is different.

It’s New Years Eve! Go for it!

Tip #5: Hang out with the cool kids.

No matter what your age, only go out with cool friends who will support your goals.

Remember, women *will* judge you by your friends. If their are people in your life who aren’t quite up to par with you socially, this is the wrong night to spend time with them.

On the other hand, if you can go out with your best ‘wingmen’ definitely do it, it could very well have to do more with your success then where you go.

By the way, I’m not just talking about wingmen here. Other single girl ‘friends’ and couples can help you as much as (or even more then!) your male friends with game.

Tip #6: Don’t overdo the banter!

I affectionately call New Years Eve amateur night.

I don’t mean to disrespect anyone with that statement – I’m just trying to accurately assess what makes meeting girls on this night different. Clearly one of the biggest distinctions is that this is the one night where EVERYONE goes out.

Frankly, many of the people you’ll see out drinking, dancing, and hooking up haven’t been out all year.

And I not just talking about guys either.

Many of the hot women you’ll meet on New Years hardly ever go out. This is especially true with the most successful, most in-demand women since they are often too busy working on their career and their bodies to hit the bar every weekend.

The end result is that many desirable women out on New Years are much less exposed to the attraction techniques we teach.

That means you probably need a lot *less* of your attraction techniques then normal.

Remember, once a woman likes you, you need to move into rapport, escalate things physically, or risk losing her interest.

After all, women want to hook up on New Years as much as we do, and once she likes you she’s thinking “What’s next?” If you answer question with more entertaining stories or harmless flirting she is likely to lose interest.

In this environment whatever skill you have will be much more effective.

Now these women aren’t that easy to spot. Unlike the guys who rarely hit the singles scene, these girls know how to dress, how to socialize, and usually even know how to dance.

So take it easy with the attraction techniques and escalate early, you won’t need as much as you might think.

Tip #7: After you make out with a girl, figure out the logistics ASAP.

If you want to bring a girl home with you, you definitely don’t want to wait too long to broach the subject. If you are going to meet lot’s of resistance, it’s better to know that early on while you can still move on if you choose. If you wait till the end of the night you could miss out.

Find out who she is with, what their plans are, and what commitments she has sooner rather then later. Is she driving anyone home? Is anyone planning on giving her a ride? Is she there with protective friends or relatives that you might have to make a good impression on?

These are all questions I like to get to the bottom of right away after a little new year’s kissing. No waiting required.

The after party is at your house, right?

So all you need to do is say, “Hey, we’re having an after party later, did you guys all come together?” Her answer will give you an early indication of what the chances of her coming back with you are. If you do this early in the night, you are not looking for a “Yes”, just a “maybe” and some more information about what the logistics are.

Tip #8: Keep an eye on your target

I’m a big fan of “takeaways” (also known as giving girls “the gift of missing you”) but I am real careful using these techniques in extremely chaotic environments.

If you’ve found the girl you *really* want, keep an eye on her!

Leave her for a second and you may lose sight of her. Lose sight of her, and she could be lip locked with another guy by the time you find her again.

Trust me even after you’ve met another girl, you’ll still think about the one that got away.

Tip #9: Have fun!

Don’t work so hard on your game and push your goals so much that you forget to have a good time. Being the funnest guy in the room will do more for your night, and your results, then all the other tips combined.

Hi Lance,

I’ve got a question for you.

Background: I’m not familiar with much of your body language material. There is a monthly mailing on the way, but until I get
it, here’s my question:

Say I am in a dance club and I approach two women sitting at a table together. How much “leaning down” do I do? Do I

A) stand to project a more confident image
B) lean down to get close to their faces to facilitate conversation
C) squat so that my head is down at table height, as waiters (and
baseball catchers!) do.

Thanks,
Douglas

*** MY RESPONSE ***

Wow, we had a *lot* of questions on body language, I picked this one to answer since it was short and simple.

First off, let me say that there’s two ways to answer this question, the guidelines we use for training and then there’s the *real* answer.

Let me explain what I mean.

Most guys would tell you to always stand to project a more confident image, and in a way there right.

After all, standing is a safe thing to do – you’re not going to make any of the huge mistakes the most guys would.

If you lean in you risk the chance of coming off like a needy dork by ‘pecking’ your head in at her.

Squatting down is a bit risky too. Some would say you are showing to much interest in her by squatting down. Personally I have done this effectively when I needed to, but I have noticed that, since it’s not a very comfortable position, things get very awkward if I stay there for very long.

So the guideline answer for a guy who is just learning what it feels like to project more confidence with your body is to stand.

On the other hand, the *real* answer is that once you learn to project confidence with your body, you can do any of the above and everything will be fine.

The real answer is that if you are really projecting confidence (which means you are feeling confident as well) you can and, squat,
or even, God forbid, LEAN IN to talk to a girl and, as long as you feel comfortable in what you are doing, that confidence will project out in the WAY you are doing it.

When I mentioned this in a lecture I gave on body language I even people were so shocked to hear me say this they demanded a
demonstration.

Without batting an eye, I approached one of the seated students, head on, leaning in, breaking every ‘rule’ that has been listed
about body language.

And it was smoooth… because when you really learn to project confidence, it really does show through in everything you do.

By the way, we are going to make a very exciting announcement later today about body language.

Believe it or not, even if you have all my DYD stuff, Cliff List talk, V.I.P. Kino talk, the V.I.P. Body Language DVD and you have
taking Art of Attraction you still only know a small fraction of what I teach on the subject.

The absolute authority on the topic is my Physical Confidence Take-Home Training kit. Check it out.

Now go meet some women,
Lance Mason

The Fashion Ten Commandments:

1. Thou shalt not be ungroomed. Hair, sideburns, beard, goatee, stache, whatever. Got hair on your body, keep it under control. Don’t get lazy and let the fur grow caveman-style. Cavemen don’t get hotties.

2. Thou shalt not wear clothes that don’t fit. There’s a reason clothes come in many sizes, guys. It’s so you can buy the ones that actually fit you. Women notice an M wearing XL, and they ain’t going home with him.

3. Thou shalt not wear crappy shoes. Shoes tell women everything they need to know about you. Smelly sneakers, sandals with socks, and gore-tex hiking boots do not get into the hottie’s sheets.

4. Thou shalt not pull pants up to your nipples. Your grandpa needs to keep his pants that high. You, my friend, have a waist. Find it and use it.

5. Thou shalt not dress in the dark. Before you leave the house, look in a frickin’ mirror. If you see a dork standing there, make him go change into something presentable.

6. Thou shalt not wear clothes that were cool when “Livin’ La Vida Loca” was a hit. Just because your “Thriller” jacket got you looks in ’85, that’s no reason to rock it now.

7. Thou shalt not bathe in cologne. We know you love your Old Spice, but less is more, cowboy.

8. Thou shalt not wear glasses that make you look like a chemistry teacher. Even if you are a chemistry teacher, you can get frames that actually look good on you. They do make them, you know. Just ask.

9. Thou shalt not follow trends blindly. See everyone in the bar wearing striped shirts? Do something different. Get the gear that goes with you. You have to stand out, not blend in.

10. Thou shalt not wear fleece. You are a man, not a sheep. So stop wearing big billowing soft stuff that makes you look like you should be chased by a border collie. If it’s cold, get a real coat.

That’s it. Anything sound familiar?

If you’ve been breaking any of these Commandments, it’s time to repent and change your sinful ways. But how? Well, you could hook up with your own fashion guru. Unfortunately, this one is already taken.

But there’s a better way.

PickUp 101 will find your style for you. Dressed for Success is a 3 DVD set with transcripts of real-life makeovers that show you how a regular dude can go from zero to hero just by adding a little style to his life.

And by not breaking any more Commandments.

Now go ahead and make some girls smile!

Lance Mason

Check out the Art of Rapport workshop review here.

This is one of the most important messages I’ve written to you in a long time.

Read it and you will learn two tools that will help you in any time a woman tests you.

I know this is a bold statement, and I also know if you put these two tools into practice for the rest of your life you will thank me.

In fact, I taught these during my Invitation only workshop the Art of Seduction last year. The most advanced program I offer.

Have I got your attention yet?

Good. Let’s begin…

#1 The Golden Rule

If you only learn one thing from me, my instructors, or PickUp 101… this is the one to BURN into your memory banks.

It will help you in attraction

It will help you pass a woman’s ‘tests’

It will help you in relationships

And it’s really simple.

No matter what happens…

EVERYTHING She Does Is CUTE

Never argue. Never explain. Never get upset.

It’s like the way you are with a puppy. Even when it chews your favorite shoe, it’s cute.

This is especially useful when things aren’t going well, or you are getting tested hard. (Remember women are ALWAYS testing you, even if you’ve been with her for years)

This is also one of the secrets to doing Banter on the fly.

Some examples for you:

Her: You’re an asshole

You: OMG You’re so cute, you’re like the mean girls in high school I was afraid to talk to.

Her: You’re a player.
You: You’re so cute, you’re like pop-psychoanalyzing me! Are you a psychic?

(Note: you can keep the “You’re so cute part” in your head. It doesn’t actually have to be verbalized.)

Her: You’ve got no game.
You: You’re gonna be my new game coach! Like how’s my body language?

Her: (Throws wadded napkin at you)
You: It’s just like junior high! This is so fun!

Do you get it?

Are light bulbs going off in your head yet? They should be.

Lots of times your first reaction is that something she does is NOT cute, but take this new frame and treat her actions like they’re
cute.

This is how you can be solid as a rock no matter what kind of emotional storm a woman creates as a test.

#2 The Improve Deflection – Never Disagree

When you’re doing improve with someone, they give you what’s called an “offer.”

Example:

“Is that a head in your freezer?”

Now there’s 3 categories of responses to this question.

1. Wrong: No. “No, it’s a chicken.”

2. Bad: Yes, But. “Yes, but it’s just a fish head.”

3. Best: Yes, And. “Yes, and there’s 2 more in the cupboard.”

If this were with a woman here’s what the answers represent

1. No. Its… This is being logical. It’s what guys do and it puts women to sleep.

2. Yes, but… This is being argumentative. Anytime you say ‘but’ it negates her statement.

3. Yes, and… This opens it up for you to be playful and to deflect any tests.

Remember. Never disagree. Never argue.

Examples:

Her: That’s a bad haircut
You: I know, and I told my barber you can give me a worse haircut than that, you’re not even trying!

Her: Are you an asshole?
You: Yeah, and I’ve been working on becoming a whole entire ass!

Her: Are you just trying to get laid?
You: Yeah, and I think if I saved up and bought those New Rock boots I’ve had my eye on I’m sure I could make it happen.

Her: Is that shirt from K-Mart?
You: Yeah, and it was like 80% off!

This shows a girl you’re un-shakeable. That generates attraction.

It’s a way of showing that you are a cool guy, you’re happy and having fun and no one can shake that.

Are you getting this? Is it sinking in?

We do exercises to practice these two tools in our workshops. I recommend you do the same.

And don’t just practice when you see a hottie you want to meet.

The secret to practice is to do it everyday, all the time, with everyone.

Now go meet some women.

Cheers,

Lance Mason

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I’ve got something MIND-BLOWING to share with you today.

Some guys won’t be able to handle this tip. Some of them will just assume I’m selling a boatload of bullshit and things could never ever work that way.

Some guys don’t want to know how great their life can be.

But I believe you want only the best for yourself. So today, I’m going to show you how to make ANY girl attracted to you, even if she’s with her BOYFRIEND.

Now, I’m not telling you that it’s cool to steal girls from another guy. Matter of fact, when I’m dating just one girl, I can get pretty protective. But I’ll tell you… most girls with boyfriends are dating guys who DO NOT turn them on and DO NOT make them happy. So when you think that she’s got a guy already, just remember, it’s HER choice. All you are doing is having fun with her and letting
her make that choice for herself.

And one last keen observation before we get to the meat of the meal. Think about all the times you’ve been at a bar and seen a girl with a guy. How many times did you ASSUME they were there together as boyfriend and girlfriend? Probably 100%, right?

Now ponder this. What kind of goofball boyfriend brings his girl to a club on a Friday night where guys like us are out flirting? Most of the time when you see girls with guys out in the club, those guys are there as “friends.” You know the type. They’ve worked together for years, and he’s totally in love with her but will never ever ever ever ever actually make a move?

Yeah, that’s the guy. Well, now that you know this, I’m going to show you a brain-dead simple way to turn those girls on AND get the guys on your side right away.

After all, the more friends you have rooting for you and the girl to get together, the easier it is.

Make it all about love, not war.

Let’s get to it.

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Lance,

Thanks for the great tips and advice! Here’s a question that’s been stumping me for some time. What do you do when you start
talking to a girl who is with a boyfriend? This is probably one of my greatest fears of approaching girls.

Thanks,

Joe, Ithaca NY

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Joe,

You’re welcome for the advice, and I feel bad that I never answered this question before.

See, it comes up all the time in our technique-packed Art of Attraction workshop (http://pickup101.com/members/AoA), where we cover every approach to every single situation you see and make sure you know just what to do in each one, but I never thought to write a tip about it.

Then one of our STUDENTS got so inspired from AoA that HE wrote a tip to share just what he learned in Art of Attraction with everyone. So I’m going to let the voice of experience here take over and tell you EXACTLY how he approaches hotties with guys and gets everyone loving him every time.

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I used to piss people off.

Not all the time – but I did piss SOME people off, and those ‘people’ were usually ‘boyfriends’…

Why?

First, let me tell you who I am and what I learned at the recent AoA in Washington, D.C.

My name is Caleb Osborne, and I picked up a VERY important ‘insiders’ tip about this whole meeting cute girls thing.

We were going over approaching groups of girls and ‘mixed’ groups of girls where there’s not only cute girls but often a guy or two.

And I figured out why I used to piss some people off.

You see, I’ve never been too afraid to walk up to people I don’t know and start talking to them.

And I’ve never been afraid of the people in that group, specifically the guys – or boyfriends hanging around – I would just walk up and start talking to the girl that caught my eye…

… or I might have done something a little more less socially acceptable if I had been partaking of the drink that night.

I’ve been in martial arts my whole life and figured I could handle myself if anyone wanted to say anything.

“Screw those guys. They mean nothing to me. If I want to talk to her I will”

And I literally treated them like they meant nothing, I’d walk up – talk to the girl and totally ignore the guy.

I’d treat him like he was just an obstacle, the competition — the one thing that kept me from hanging with the cute girl.

So now you see why I pissed certain guys off

But at Art of Attraction – I discovered there’s actually a simple, easy way to not only have guys NOT pissed off at you when you want to talk to their girls – but be HAPPY to have you do it!

You want to know the secret?

It’s really simple, you ready?

Here it is:

Talk to the guys first. Be cool about it.

That’s it, it’s that simple … and that powerful!

Before this workshop, I always saw the other guys as “competition” — but that’s not the case. The other guys out there are your potential friends.

Hell, they’re your potential “wingman” …

At AoA you’ll disover how to talk to the guys first, so they don’t feel threatened (if one of the girls in the group is their girlfriend) and actually befriend them.

It’s actually a really simple concept – be a cool, friendly, sociable guy – and they will respond in same!

And you know what?

They will actually HELP you talk to the girls in the group.

Because now you’re no longer an outsider, you’re a cool guy that knows how to talk to all the other cool guys and make sure everyone’s having fun ….

… you’re just the type of guy they’d like to see the single girl in their group flirt with

And all it takes is a simple ‘frame shift’ in your mind pointed out by an expert instructor at AoA.

All through high school I never had problems making girls smile, but I didn’t know this.

Just like the martial arts, you can’t learn this stuff on your own and think you’re Bruce Lee. Or read a book and think you’re a black belt.

It’s real skills. It’s a physical thing. It’s in your body.

No matter how successful you are now with women, you’ll be amazed at how much easier … and fun it can be!

And if you’re like me — you’ll have a whole lot less jealous boyfriends that are pissed off at you.

Talk soon,

Caleb

P.S. And for you D.C . Guys – I’ll see you at the next workshop!

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Thanks Caleb. I love it when I see a student come in with a question and an idea… and a hope that this will be what he’s been looking for for years.

Then we hug goodbye on Sunday and I see a confident, happy, studly kinda dude standing before me, and I know the hotties in his town are in for a helluva ride.

That’s why Art of Attraction is going from city to city now, to make them all sexier, one stud at a time.

The girls in your town are BORED. They are DYING for a fun, confident guy to show the giant BALLS it takes to walk up and flirt with them, even when they are with a “friend.”

They are DYING to find a guy who knows how to make everyone love him, and knows how to spread the love with new friends instead of always trying to compete with the enemy.

And YOU are that man. You just need a coach who has been in your shoes before and now is a certified stud.

Your next step: decide who you want to be.

Do you want to be the guy at the bar looking at the girl and hating on everyone around you and the guy she’s with (and probably singing “Jessie’s Girl” sadly to yourself while doing it)?

OR do you want to be the MAN who sees a girl he likes and ALWAYS walks up with a smile, makes friends with the guys and makes all the girls want him?

Your call, hoss. If you want to be the man, your next step is simple. Get to Art of Attraction in your town TODAY.

http://pickup101.com/members/AoA

After all, girls just want to make love, not war (craft).

Lance Mason

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A fun interview with Lance done just after the New Year on Playboy Radio.

This 35 minute interview is from the Playboy Radio show “Afternoon Advice” Hosted by Playboy TV star Tiffany Granath.

Lance covers the basics of attraction, why rapport is important to Natural Game, and gives advice to callers.

You can dowload the mp3…

PickUp 101 Podcast – Lance Mason on Playboy Radio [35:18m]: Download (197)