A friend posted a link on Facebook the other day about a service that enables you get revenge on your ex by giving them crabs. They ship them in a vial!

I can’t tell you how horrible of an idea that is, aside from the potential legal reasons, holding on to grudges hurts you the most in the long run.

One of the most common questions by men who are entering the seduction community is: “How do I get my ex back?”

Well, I’m here to say, that you shouldn’t try to get your ex back. You should do everything in your power to move on. This could mean, deleting her number, Facebook friendship (or atleast her from your newsfeed), and creating more distance between you two.

The only thing that allows you to get over an ex-girlfriend is time apart and finding new women.

Anything else is not going to help as quickly. Having time apart and no communication with her will help you emotionally separate and build your self-confidence back. With new women in your life, you quickly remember why you broke up in the first place, and you’ll have more fun doing it.

Remember, men who are successful with women don’t let one woman stand in their way of enjoying life – and you shouldn’t either.

If you’re ever in doubt and feel like unleashing crabs on your ex, remember the old joke, I believe from Rodney Dangerfield who, when told by his ex that he’ll never find a woman like her again, said: “Hopefully not, that’s why I’m breaking up with you!”

And also as the old saying goes, “If you thought this current girlfriend was amazing, just wait till you find the next one.”

Do you have a don’t-quit attitude?

Do you truly believe that no matter what you do, how many times you try, how many times you fail, that you will always succeed, in the end?

A few weeks ago, Sonja and I were watching the Jets beat Minnesota 29-20. I’m a huge Jet fan as all of you know, huge Brett Favre fan.

It was a boring game in the beginning, both teams slugging it out, really not much of anything going on. Jets should have been more up at the half than they were — they were up 9-0 at halftime — but they just couldn’t score, they couldn’t put the Vikings away. In the second half, Brett Favre — 41 years old, broken bones everywhere; he looks like a bag of bones when he’s back there — limping, elbow tendinitis… guy is a warrior — rallied the Vikings back to within a few points. He threw three touchdowns, and would not quit. So the Jets marched down the field and silenced the Vikings. They scored what looked like the game winning touchdown. They were up by a few points again. But Brett Favre never quits. He marched them right back down the field and came within a few points, again. The Jets couldn’t put the Vikings away, but what happened next? Brett Favre, with his don’t-quit attitude, threw an interception, the Jets ran it in, and the game was pretty much over at that point.

The bottom line is, in sports, two teams will fight to the end, the better team usually wins, and the one that never quits never ever looks at their mistakes. A quarterback throws an interception, and he thinks to himself, “Man, that was embarrassing — I just did that in front of 75,000 people… 75,000!” He goes back out the next series and doesn’t think anything of it. He leads his team down the field, and what happens; they get a touchdown and they win the game.

Do you ever feel like Fireman Ed is leading a cheer against you?

Let’s say, in life, you have a big sales presentation, and it doesn’t work. You don’t close the deal, you’re obsessed with it for three weeks; thinking about every mistake you made and what you could have done. Or, say you’re a man and you see a woman standing there in the supermarket, or in the elevator, and you want to talk to her, but instead you spit out some words and the woman doesn’t respond. You can get this in your head, and for the next few weeks, you end up thinking about all the things you could have done, or what you did wrong.

That’s not having a killer attitude in life. You go out on a date, and it’s not a great date and the person doesn’t call you back. What do you do next? You think about what you did wrong. You even call your friends, and they become the assistant coaches of your life, and you recap the entire date; could I have done this, should I have said that? Should’ve, would’ve, could’ve. Athletes don’t do that, ever. Sports teams don’t do that, ever. But people do that all the time. And I know some of you are thinking right now – “But this is my emotional life. This is my livelihood.”

Hello! Is Brett Favre not emotionally invested in the game of football, is this not his livelihood? Is this not his passion, is this not who he is? Come on, folks! It’s just a date, it’s just an approach, it’s just a total stranger — get out there and start enjoying this process and start failing!

I remember I was coaching a woman a few years ago, and she says, “I really want to get married in the next year.” I said, “Do you have a date this week? If you have a date a week, 52 men a year, don’t you think you’ll meet somebody fantastic?” She says, “Absolutely.” So what did she do? She went on 5.2 dates for the entire year because she was obsessed the other 49 weeks with what went wrong on the 5.2 dates.

Life is nothing more than a numbers game. You need to keep trying, and you need to develop that killer instinct. If you don’t develop the killer instinct, you’re not going to be able to find the person you want. Not only that, you’re just going to be obsessed with every little move you make… and that is not a method of success in business, in life or in sports.

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The other night we were watching this new HBO show, called Treme. It’s a show about post-Katrina New Orleans. It’s a great show.

Since Sonja is from New Orleans, I of course not only get to watch the show but also get full-blown commentary during the entire time. I not only get to learn about these new characters. I get background information, history of the streets and what happened during Katrina. It’s like getting two shows for the price of one — one on television and one in my living room.

Anyway, there was a really funny episode about a guy celebrating his girlfriend’s birthday. They are both musicians. He buys her a great bottle of wine for her birthday, and wants to drink it in the morning.

You’ve got to love a musician’s life. The minute they wake up, he looks at her and says “I got you a birthday present.” Then he hands her the bottle of wine. She says, “No, let’s drink it later.”

I love the 20′s. I mean, people in their 20′s are just great.

So of course what happens next is that they start fooling around. The 20′s are so great because they are in that time when they can get drunk or screw all morning long.

Later they were on the street, and a musician comes over and tells the girl that he really wants her to play with his band that night at a private event. She then asks the musician if the boyfriend can play with them too. The musician says he already has someone playing the piano (the instrument the boyfriend plays), but says the boyfriend is welcome to come and enjoy the food and the music.

What happens next is so typical of people in their 20′s. The boyfriend of course goes to the show. He has conversations and eats all the food.

Eventually, and even though the girlfriend was keeping watch as to where he was, the boyfriend leaves the show pissed off. Leaving like that is something you do in your 20′s. He left because he was jealous and pissed off that his girlfriend had a gig and he didn’t, and because he saw her talking to some guy of which he didn’t approve.

So the next scene shows him drinking the bottle of wine he gave her for her birthday alone in their apartment. It’s such a douchebag 20-something guy move to do.

How do I know? I’m sure I probably did that when I was in my 20′s. So I laughed during that whole scene.

Let me tell you something. If it’s your significant other’s birthday and they invite you to something that is really special to them, then you celebrate the fact that they were recognized. I don’t care what you had otherwise planned — taking them out for a really nice dinner or to the top of the Empire State Building or whatever.

You can do your special celebration afterwards or even on another day. What I teach over and over again is to be present in the moment. Realize in that situation that the “new thing” that came up is actually another special celebration and just enjoy it.

It’s amazing how many guys in their 20′s act like the guy in this show acted. Actually, it’s not just guys. I know a lot of girls are reading this and snickering as you are thinking that you never act like this, but I have seen a lot of women in their 20′s act this way too.

This is a 20′s disease. It’s called “if things don’t go according to plan I am going to throw a temper tantrum like I’m five years old.”

For any of you who acted like this in your 20′s, I hope you are not doing it in your 30′s and 40′s. If you are, you really are just a man-child or a woman-child.

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One of the guys at a recent Bootcamp was asking me about putting women on a pedestal. Let’s talk about this.

Say you are there in a T-Mobile store with your buddy, and all of a sudden a beautiful woman walks in the store. Your buddy is in the middle of getting a brand new cell phone, and there you are staring at this woman with the “deer in the headlights” look in your eyes.

You don’t know what to do. You start idolizing her inside your mind and you put her on a pedestal. You think, “She’s hot. Wow is she hot!”

Those are the kind of thoughts you’re thinking to yourself. You think, “Wow is she amazing. I don’t deserve a girl like that.”

Really? Why don’t you deserve a girl like that? Why are you putting her above you?

There is no reason to ever put a woman above you. We’re all equals.

So I don’t care who you are, what you do or what you’re all about. We’re all equal. Everything about us is equal.

Every time you put someone on a pedestal, you are really never going to have an opportunity to get to know them. The reason is that when you do this, you are approaching from a position of weakness.

You are basically looking at her, and your body language and non-verbal communication are all screaming that you don’t deserve her. You might as well say out loud to her, “Hi, my name is Justin. I really don’t deserve you, so I’m just not going to bother talking to you.”

The truth is that people are people, and everyone wants to be treated well. Everyone wants others to talk to them and communicate with them. Nobody wants to be put on a pedestal.

No relationship ever works if you’re put on a pedestal. No relationship works if you’re putting the other person on a pedestal.

You have to really realize that we are all equal. So the next time you see a beautiful woman standing there in the T-Mobile store, realize that not only is she your equal (but that you might actually be the superior one in a lot of ways.

You may actually be the person who knows more than she does. She might actually learn more things from you than you could learn from her. Who knows what the dynamic of the relationship might be?

Everything is equal. Keep it that way.

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Recently on my blog, a reader posted a comment about one of my articles in which he questioned that I or anyone else could help him to be able to meet someone. He said he has tried “everything” to meet someone. He’s tried pick-up lines and routines. He’s tried what some term “natural game.” He said nothing he’s tried has worked.

Then he started listing some of the reasons why things aren’t working for him in his dating life. What every one of his “reasons” had in common, were that they were all excuses.

Worse yet, in his mind he perceives each of these to be unchangeable facts of life instead seeing them for what they really are: excuses he’s created so he doesn’t have to face his dating difficulties. So many people make these kind of excuses in order to feel justified in not putting themselves “out there” in the dating world, or to avoid having to face that they need to work on their confidence or conversation skills.

In this article, I am going to go through five of the biggest and most common excuses people make. All five of these excuses have one thing in common: They are all manifested inside your mind so you can justify not having to try, and to allow you to feel better about your unsatisfying dating life.

What all of you excuse-makers need to realize is that an amazing dating life is not just going to magically happen to you. Just with anything else you want to achieve in life, you’ve got to put work and effort into meeting people. Let me assure you that your doorbell is not going to ring one day and when you open the door your perfect mate will be standing there with a bottle of wine and takeout saying “I’ve been driving around the neighborhood for the last 15 years looking for your house and now I’ve finally found you!”

Here are five of the biggest and most common excuses people make about their dating lives, along with proactive ways to overcome those excuses so you will never allow yourself to buy into them again.

1. I Am A Victim Of Geography: I hear it every day from clients and readers, “David, there are no good men (or women) to meet where I live – and everyone I hang out with agrees with me.” Let me tell you, I hear this “and everyone I know agrees with me” validation for people’s excuses more than anything else. The old saying that ‘misery loves company’ has never been more apropos. People love to complain, and love even more to find others who will agree with their complaints. You need to go out there with a better attitude. The fact is that where you live has nothing to do with you remaining single. It’s your mindset and your belief system that are the problem, because there are great people to meet everywhere. I’ve worked with people all over the world and no matter where my clients reside I have always been able to show them how to meet great people where they live. It’s your mindset that is dictating your ability to meet someone where you live. If you truly believe that there is nobody great to meet where you live, there you’re 100% right and you will not find anyone great to meet where you live. So you need to develop a better attitude.

2. I Attract All The Wrong People: Another excuse I constantly hear from people is “David, the only people I seem to attract are the wrong people, and I can’t seem to do anything about it.” The truth is that you have the power to do something about it. The reason why you’re attracting the wrong people comes down to the way you go out there and meet people. Look at your life a little more deeply. Are you going to same places over and over again and always meeting the same type of people? Well that could be one of the reasons. Are you not making yourself available so it’s too much of a challenge for people to meet you? That could be another reason. When you go out on dates, do you tend to talk more about negative things than positive things? This can also bring the wrong people into your life. The list of questions like these can go on and on, but what’s important is that you stop thinking about the people that you are meeting and start thinking about how you’re meeting them. Start thinking about how you can change your life. In order to meet different people than you’ve been meeting, you need to change your life immediately.

3. I Don’t Have Time: If you don’t have time to meet someone, then you’re not going to meet someone. If you truly want to meet someone, you need to make time to do it. It’s really that simple. As I mentioned above, your perfect person is not just going to show up on your doorstep one day. You need to be willing to put some effort into meeting people. In fact, you need to put time into it every day if you want that to actually happen. This is something I tell all my clients all the time. Fifteen minutes a day devoted to going out there and meeting new people is all you need. Try setting goals for yourself if that helps you. Tell yourself “I’m going to talk to four new people today” or something like that. Whatever your goal is, though, you need to make yourself reach it every day. People aren’t just going to start coming over and approaching you. You’ve got to make it happen. You’ve got to make the time. If you’re not willing to make the time to meet someone, then you’re right when you say you will not meet someone. I know you’re busy. We’re all busy. Just remember that this is YOUR life, and only you can make your life happen for you.

4. I Can’t Meet Anyone Until… : Some people’s excuses, while phrased less negatively than others, are just as bad in terms of preventing them from facing their dating issues. My favorite one of these is the “as soon as” person. These people are everywhere. You’ve heard them, and I certainly have heard them. “David, as soon as I lose weight I’ll go out and talk to people.” There are a million other phrases that could be filled in after the “as soon as” part of that sentence: as soon as I get back in the gym … as soon as I finish this big project at work … as soon as I go on this new diet … as soon as my kids get older … I could go on and on for days with examples, but you get the idea. When you start using “as soon as” excuses, you become the person who truly believes that life is going to change the second you accomplish other things. You’ve got to start doing this now, because life is all about being in the moment and living in the now. You need to totally get rid of the mindset that you will somehow be magically ready to meet someone “as soon as” you accomplish some other thing. Life is not about scheduling things like this and putting them on a timetable. Once again this all about your attitude and mindset. You’ve got to be open to meeting someone all the time.

5. Only Losers Do Online Dating: I hear many people who have never tried online dating tell me “I don’t want to do online dating. Online dating is for losers.” This is a ridiculous statement. There are millions upon millions of people dating online. A client of mine once said to me “David, I don’t want to put my picture on my online dating profile because someone I know might see it and then they’ll know I’m doing online dating.” Let’s put aside the fact that if someone sees your online profile, it likely means they themselves are doing online dating. Here again, there is an attitude problem at work. You need to change the way you see things. If someone has seen you online, then if they see you in real life they can walk over to you and say “Did I see you on Yahoo! Personals the other day? I didn’t know you were single.” You’ve got to tell people you’re single and, more importantly, you need to stop feeling like there is something wrong with being single. Going online is making an announcement to the world that “Yes, I’m single, I’m open and I want to meet someone.” You can’t just stay in your house and do absolutely nothing. While online dating may not be for everyone, you need to stay open and take action to improve your dating life.

In order to meet great people, you’ve got to decide to be proactive and do all these things. So get rid of the excuses, get rid of the fears, and start meeting great people.

If you have another excuse that I haven’t mentioned here, email it to me because I want to hear it. That way, the next time I write an article about excuses I can be sure to address it.

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Let’s talk about Mr. Perfect today. I want everyone to know about Mr. Perfect.

Everyone who is out there trying to improve their dating life by meeting people in situations in which they normally don’t meet people is playing the role of Mr. Perfect. So let’s put Mr. Perfect in a situation so you can see what I mean.

Let’s put Mr. Perfect in a supermarket. What does Mr. Perfect do?

Well, Mr. Perfect knows that he needs to go out there and converse with people all day long to become more sociable and to open up his energy. So Mr. Perfect will see a woman looking at crackers, he will see an opportunity, he will walk over to her, and then the same thing will always happen.

He’ll walk over and make a comment like, “Man, I don’t really know what crackers are good here” or “Can you make a suggestion on what kind of crackers I should buy?” What happens to Mr. Perfect every time when he does this? She walks away.

Do you know why? It is because that is what happens to people who try to be perfect and don’t make the situation natural. When you act like Mr. Perfect, what you say never comes out sounding natural.

Why? Didn’t Mr. Perfect walk over and say something based on what she was doing in that moment like I always say to do?

Well, yes, but when he walked over to her he probably walked over all nervous. He didn’t walk over to her curious and confident, with a real question to ask her.

He walked over there thinking about the question he was going to ask her the whole time he was approaching her. He was thinking, “I’m going to ask her about crackers. I’m going to ask her to give me a cracker recommendation.”

Then when he actually asks her about the crackers, it doesn’t come out natural at all. So of course she is going to walk away. Of course she will start heading in another direction, because that is what happens to Mr. Perfect.

So what does Mr. Perfect do when that happens? Even though Mr. Perfect knows that this was just one encounter with one person, he will immediately think to himself “I can’t do this. This is too hard. This is not going to work. She didn’t respond to me.”

Then, all of a sudden, he’ll start manifesting those negative thoughts in every interaction he has after that. He will sabotage his ability to make each one of those interactions successful.

The truth is that none of those negative thoughts are true at all. Mr. Perfect is fully capable of successfully approaching women.

The reason that the “cracker situation” happens to Mr. Perfect is because he sabotaged the interaction before he said a word to her by trying to be perfect. There is no such thing as perfect. Nobody wants perfect.

What do we really want in a relationship with someone? We want someone who understands us, someone who is going to resonate with us, someone from whom we can learn and someone we can really experience.

We’re not perfect people. So when you walk over to anyone, there is no such thing as perfection.

If someone doesn’t respond to you, it could be because you ran into a mirror image of yourself — someone who is absolutely and completely nervous to talk to people and doesn’t know what to say. In other words, someone else who thinks they have to be perfect.

So what happens when a Mr. Perfect meets a Ms. Perfect, is that one of them will walk away from the encounter because they are so nervous and don’t know what to say. They get way too much inside their head. It’s a cycle that will keep repeating until they stop being a Mr. Perfect.

You don’t ever have to be perfect. There is no perfection in life. None.

Despite this, there seems to be so many people who feel the need to be perfect when they are trying to improve their dating lives. There is no need for this. If all the Mr. Perfects out there would change their mindset, they would experience a lot closer to “perfect” results.

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What prevents men from being successful with women? Well, the list goes on and on… but one of the elements that TOPS the list is FEAR. There are many different situations that make men feel fear, but I’d like to talk about some of the most common ones… and what to do about them.

First of all, I’d like you to be honest for a moment about this topic.

Do you ever feel FEAR when it comes to women and dating?

Have you ever seen a woman that you’d really like to meet, but you started to feel fear and didn’t do anything about it?

Or maybe you were on a date and you wanted to kiss a woman… but you felt too afraid because you didn’t want to make a mistake and screw up your chances?

Or maybe you even got a woman’s phone number, but you were too afraid to call back because you didn’t know how to start off the conversation or ask her out?

Cummon, seriously…

Have you ever been sitting there with the phone in your hand, dialing a woman’s number, but you had to hang up because you were just too nervous to even talk to her…?

Or out on a date with a woman, and you wanted to kiss her, but you got so nervous at the thought that you just decided it would be better to forget the whole idea and hope for the best…?

Me too. Many times, in fact.

By the way, it’s not exactly FUN to admit that you’re afraid of things.

I’m sure you know that most guys would rather admit in public that they were unsure about their sexual orientation than that they were afraid of women.

Of course, this unwillingness to admit that you have a problem IN THE FIRST PLACE only makes matters worse…

If you don’t admit that you have the problem, then it’s hard to get help and answers to it.

Well, the good news is that you’re not alone.

Almost every guy I’ve known (including myself) has dealt with this issue MANY TIMES with women.

So, STEP 1 is to GET OVER IT. Get over your need to deny that you’re afraid. Just admit that you’re afraid, and come to grips with the fact that you’re human…

STEP 2 is to admit that you’d like to get this particular area of your life handled.

STEP 3 is to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

Once you realize that it’s not that big of a deal, then the improvement can start. On the other hand, if you just stay in denial about it, you’ll probably just look for new tricks and techniques to use on women… which, of course, won’t lead to any REAL improvement.

I personally think that one of the biggest causes of fear when it comes to situations with women is:

PUTTING TOO MUCH IMPORTANCE ON WHAT THE WOMAN THINKS OF YOU AND WHAT HAPPENS IN THAT PARTICULAR SITUATION.

To put it in different words, most guys don’t take action because they’re afraid that they’ll screw up, or that the woman or others around will judge them.

The REAL problem though is that this whole process has become AUTOMATIC, and it happens INSTANTLY the moment most guys see a woman that they’d like to meet. Before they even have a chance to think about the situation rationally, they’ve become nervous, insecure, and upset.

I’m sure you know EXACTLY what I’m talking about.

As humans, we have these incredible minds and bodies, but sometimes they get wired up in ways that aren’t exactly useful for the situations that we find ourselves in. Worse, sometimes our cultures, families, or peer groups teach us ways of thinking that just aren’t useful at all for what we’d like to accomplish.

Here’s something that I realized a few years ago when I was learning for myself how to be successful with women…

I thought about this idea that I was having this instant, automatic fear in different situations with women, and that what I was really thinking was “I don’t want to screw this up” and “I don’t want her to think that I’m a dork”…

And all of a sudden something dawned on me:

IT DOESN’T MATTER.

It doesn’t matter what happens, and it doesn’t matter what she thinks of me.

I realized that the fears I was experiencing were more from PROGRAMMING than from reality.

So, I started to remind myself as often as possible that the fear wasn’t happening because there was any kind of danger… and that my objective in a particular situation wasn’t to have it turn out perfect, IT WAS TO LEARN.

Think about the difference between doing something because it’s important vs. doing something in order to LEARN.

So, for instance, if I saw a woman that I wanted to meet… instead of thinking, “OK, I have to say something charming and original so she’ll like me… and if I screw up I’m going to be embarrassed” – I began to think things like, “I’m going to learn how to get a woman’s phone number within a few minutes of meeting her… and part of learning this is going to be trying a lot of different things that probably aren’t going to work… but in the end, it’s all going to even out because I’m going to have the SKILL that I want.”

See the difference?

Well, let me tell you, that change in attitude made a HUGE impact on my success. I was willing to do and try things that I never would have tried in the past for fear of screwing up…

All because I had the attitude of “I’m going to learn something from this and improve my skills… and it doesn’t matter what happens in THIS PARTICULAR situation”, I was able to improve very rapidly.

And the more I began to apply this idea, the more success I had in ALL areas with women… from the first meeting, to getting them to go out with me, to taking things to a physical level.

So do this:

Go out RIGHT NOW and start a conversation with a woman.

I don’t care if she’s attractive or not.

But instead of having the objective of getting a date, have the objective of LEARNING SOMETHING.

In fact, if you REALLY want to improve fast, go spend a day starting conversations with women, but make the commitment to NOT get any phone numbers or dates all day.

In other words, no matter WHAT happens, you can’t date any of the women that you meet that day.

See if you can just learn how to do a few simple things like say, “Hi” to every woman that walks by… how to maintain eye contact with women until THEY look away… and how to end a conversation “too soon” so she feels a natural vacuum and tries to keep it going herself…

That’s one good idea for dealing with your fears.

If you’d like to read more of my personal secrets for overcoming fear, including specific mental exercises and physical drills, then I’d recommend that you download a copy of my online eBook “Double Your Dating”. It’s full of all my very best thinking on this and many other subjects about success with women.

Just go to here and watch my video presentation.

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,
David DeAngelo

I’ve learned a secret to impressing women that I’m going to share with you in this article. It’s a secret that probably not 1 in 1,000 men knows or will ever figure out on his own. The REASON that most men will never figure out this particular secret is that it’s TOO OBVIOUS.

Let me explain…

I personally think that most men feel a very powerful desire to IMPRESS women.

If you watch the way a man behaves when he’s talking to a woman he’s just met or a woman that he’s on a first date with, you can SEE IT. Maybe you’ve been there yourself.

I know I have. Many, many times, in fact.

The feeling that you need to impress a woman usually comes along with another feeling: DON’T SCREW THIS UP.

Here are some of the signs that a guy is feeling the need to “impress” the woman that he’s talking to – I’m guessing you’ll recognize some of these:

1) He tries to only say “cool” things, or things that will “impress” the woman.

2) He acts nervous and stilted during the conversation… sometimes coming across as “formal”.

3) He tries to figure out what the woman wants to hear.

4) If he says something that the woman doesn’t like, he “back-pedals” and tries to change what he said to suit the woman.

5) He doesn’t say anything “risky”, doesn’t tease the woman, and doesn’t do anything to upset her.

…in other words, when a guy is talking to a woman that he “likes”, he’s usually on his “best behavior”, and he’s trying to “put his best foot forward”.

Sound familiar?

To say it again, MEN FEEL A POWERFUL DRIVE TO IMPRESS THE WOMAN THAT THEY “LIKE”.

And this drive to impress often makes them act UNNATURAL.

There’s your first hint, in fact…

THE SECRET

Remember at the beginning when I told you that I was going to share a secret with you about how to impress women that not 1 in 1,000 men will figure out on their own?

Well, here it is:

STOP TRYING.

Sound too easy?

It is – if you will just STOP TRYING to impress women, and do the things I’m teaching you instead, women will NATURALLY be “impressed” by you.

I want to show you, step by step, proven techniques for making a positive, lasting impression on a woman no matter what the situation – the kind of impression that leaves her panting for more.

First things first:

TRYING TO IMPRESS A WOMAN DOESN’T IMPRESS HER.

Working only on your outer game will never get you the results you want – it’s like trying to treat the symptoms instead of the disease.

The REAL way to impress her is by being a confident, mature, sexually powerful man. Not by telling her your resume.

It’s not easy to be that kind of man… and it won’t happen over night.

Let’s spend some more time on why TRYING TO IMPRESS WOMEN just makes you look DESPERATE and learn a few techniques that will make the kind of impression you really want.

So let’s break this down…

WHY IMPRESSING WOMEN IS THE WRONG ROAD

What’s wrong with trying to “impress” women, anyway?

To start with, EVERYTHING.

When you intentionally try to impress a woman, you send the following messages on a “subtle” level:

1) I don’t think you’ll like me for who I am, so I will try to “impress” you instead.

2) I’m not comfortable enough around women to just act normal.

3) I don’t have a lot of experience with attractive women.

4) I’m insecure.

5) I don’t know how to make women feel comfortable with me.

Ouch. But it’s the truth.

Women can TELL INSTANTLY when you’re “trying”. The conversation doesn’t feel “normal”, your body language is strange, and you can’t seem to have a regular conversation. Now of course, I’ve just described the way that about 99.9999% of men act when they’re first talking to a woman that they “like”.

Are you ready for a profound insight?

Here goes…

MOST MEN DO THIS WITH MOST ATTRACTIVE WOMEN MOST OF THE TIME. IN OTHER WORDS, IT’S OLD NEWS. IT’S BORING. IT’S PREDICTABLE. AND IT DOES NOT IMPRESS AT ALL.

The bottom line is that trying to impress a woman usually has the OPPOSITE effect.

It not only makes you look like a nervous guy who can’t make normal conversation… it also bores the hell out of women.

WHAT TO DO INSTEAD

OK, so you’re out with a beautiful woman you just met a few days before…

She asks you what you do for a living.

Should you answer with:

1) “Well, I’m an engineer for a software company that makes sophisticated vector widget plotting algorithms. I’ve been with them for three years, and I’m about to be promoted to ALGORITHM MANAGER.”

2) “I do stunt work. Have you ever seen it in a movie when a hot actor has to reveal his naked ass? That’s my job.”

…?

Well, it all depends on what your desired outcome is.

If you want to try and IMPRESS the girl with your cool high-tech job, then #1 will work just fine.

Unfortunately, it won’t make her ATTRACTED to you at all, and it will make you sound like a jackass who is trying to be cool.

If you want to ACTUALLY impress her, try #2. Most men don’t have the BALLS to say something like this when a woman asks a “serious” question like “What do you do?”. If you REALLY want to make a long-lasting impression, KEEP THE HUMOR GOING.

She’ll say “No, really… what do you do?”.

Answer with: “No, really. Haven’t you ever seen it when an actor needs a stunt ass? I mean hey… someone’s got to do it”.

This kind of comment will take her by surprise, making her WANT to learn more about you and spend more time with you.

Now, I know not every guy can think up a response like that on the fly.

If you’re thinking this kind of thing is too risky and that you can’t pull it off… NOT KNOWING this crucial stuff is the BIGGEST RISK you can take when it comes to IMPRESSING women.

If you aren’t naturally funny, you need to learn how to be funny. You need hundreds of lines and techniques to use in moments like there.

Now, I can’t possibly go into all the reasons here why it’s a HUGE MISTAKE to try to impress a woman, or to feel like everything you say should be “impressive”. There are MANY reasons for this.

MORE IMPORTANTLY, there are a few things you can do that will INSTANTLY impress a woman… and I mean REALLY impress her.

But these things aren’t OBVIOUS.

The most IMPORTANT thing you can do to IMPRESS a woman is make her feel a powerful emotional ATTRACTION for you.

Why? Because attraction is both an EMOTIONAL and physical response.

Here’s an example:

I’ve never heard a woman in my entire life who has ever said she likes short guys. Never.

But guess what?

I know a bunch of guys under 5’6″ who are UNBELIEVABLE with women. You always see them with beautiful women who are taller than them.

So what’s going on?

EMOTIONAL attraction.

And the great thing is that while you can’t grow a few inches (and you don’t need to in order to attract her) you CAN learn how to trigger the kind of emotional attraction that makes a woman take notice.

This feeling will stay with her long after you have left and gone home.

And it’s the one thing that will make women pursue YOU… and try to impress YOU.

What’s the best way to do this?

1) Stop trying to IMPRESS women. Stop now.

If you want to learn more from David De Angelo, check out his Double Your Dating Book by clicking here.

Most men HATE the idea of “rejection”. I’m not talking about “don’t like the idea” or “wish it didn’t happen”… I’m talking HATE here.

The idea of walking up to a woman and having her REJECT you causes most men to instantly feel sick in the pit of their stomachs and literally feel a horrible combination of nervousness and confusion.

A guy can psych himself up for an hour to go talk to a woman, but when the moment comes to actually DO IT, EVERYTHING changes. The heart rate shoots up, breathing quickens, eyes dart back and forth, thoughts of rejection fill the mind, and eventually the pressure becomes too much to bare.

Most men find this state so scary that they end up deciding to forget about approaching the women… just to end the discomfort. The temptation is great to just “walk away” because just as quickly as the intense nervousness is triggered by the moment one decides to ACT, it goes away when you decide to “forget about it and walk away”.

The fact that “choosing to walk away” leads to the “instant gratification” of the nervous feeling going away makes it the most popular option. Most of the time (and I’m talking about probably 99% of the time here) men just walk away. They give up before they’ve even started.

I find this topic fascinating.

If I just think about it, I can remember MANY times in my past where I wanted to talk to a woman, but I just didn’t do it. In fact, many of them are so vivid that I can remember the exact setting, what the girl looked like, who else was there, etc… and I’m talking about situations that happened YEARS ago.

These moments obviously made an impression.

I can also remember kicking myself for DAYS afterwards for not approaching and talking to these girls. Can you relate?

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ACTUAL REJECTION AND THE FEAR OF REJECTION..

I think it’s important to realize that there’s a BIG difference between ACTUAL rejection (having a girl who is offended, upset, rude, etc. to you when you start talking to her) and the FEAR of rejection (how you feel when you imagine a woman rejecting you).

I’ve found that for me PERSONALLY, my FEAR of rejection is actually FAR, FAR more painful and difficult to deal with than ACTUAL rejection in the real world.

The main reason for this is that most of the time when a man starts talking to a woman, she is actually rather nice about the whole affair.

Men aren’t “rejected” very often!

If a woman isn’t interested, she usually just says “I have a boyfriend” or “No thank you”… or she’ll just walk away without saying anything at all.

Out of the hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of times that I’ve approached women, I can’t remember any time that a woman has yelled “Get away from me you loser! You are unattractive and the very thought of going on a date with you makes me sick to my stomach!”

I’m sure it’s happened to SOMEONE, but it’s never happened to ME.

The worst I’ve had is a woman making fun of the words I used (telling me that my pickup line was lame) or just walking away. No slaps, no boyfriends beating me up, and no yelling. But here’s the kicker…

You can experience an intense FEAR of rejection EVERY time you consider approaching a woman. Imagine, something you can predict with almost perfect accuracy.

You can be in any situation, anywhere, anytime, and still have FEAR of rejection… which will prevent you from approaching a woman. Ah, the power of the human mind.

HOW TO DEAL WITH REJECTION…

A lot of guys ask me, “How do I deal with rejection?”.

The answer: Don’t worry about it.

If you get “rejected”, you’ll be fine. Really. It’s no big deal, and it doesn’t happen that often. And when it does, you’ll recover shortly thereafter.

You’ll find yourself telling your friends about it, and laughing together. Rejection from a woman is about as painful as getting a “D” on a test.

It’s basically insignificant. The REAL question is “How do I deal with my FEAR of rejection?”.

WHY WOMEN REJECT MEN…

Now let’s talk about those rare instances where a woman actually REJECTS a man.

For the sake of this discussion, I want to define “rejection” as a woman doing something that lets you know that she’s upset and offended that you started talking to her, and she responds in a mean or vicious way to make you go away.

I do NOT consider a woman walking away without stopping to talk to you, her saying “No thank you”, or any other time when a woman just simply doesn’t engage to be “rejection”.

If you DO consider these things to be rejection, please stop reading now, call your mom into your room, and tell her that it’s time you grew up and moved out… and that she’ll get over the fact that she can’t choose your clothes for you and hug you when you have a boo-boo anymore.

I digress…

I’ve found that there are a few main reasons why women actually DO reject men (by the way, it’s VERY rare that I actually get “rejected” anymore… it’s probably happened to me once in the last 100 times I’ve started a conversation with a woman… because I don’t do dumb-ass things anymore).

Here are the main ones:

1. The guy isn’t paying attention, and he does something stupid to begin with.

Some guys think it’s appropriate to walk up to a woman, put their arm around her, and say, “Hey baby, you sure do look hot tonight”.

Some guys don’t see anything wrong with following a woman around all night, staring at her constantly, then walking over with a nervous, sweaty-palmed, stalkerish look and saying, “You remind me of my sister”.

These are bad ideas.

2. The guy doesn’t stop when he should.

If two women are sitting alone at a table in the corner, and one of them is obviously upset, and you walk over to them and say, “Hi, can I buy you a drink?”… and the upset one looks at you and says, “No thanks, we’re in the middle of a conversation” (then looks away from you back at her friend)… and you say, “Aw, cummon, have a drink. You need to lighten up and have some fun”… and she looks back at you and says firmly, “We’re busy”… and you say, “What, are you in a bad mood or something? I’m just trying to buy you a drink”… and she says, “We don’t want a drink”… and you say, “Well maybe your friend does”… and the friend says, “No, I don’t want one either”…

OK, hopefully you get it.

If you ever do something like this, you are a dumb ass, and you deserve to be slapped and have 47 drinks thrown in your lap.

3. Making a woman nervous with your body language.

If you start talking to a woman, but your posture is weak and slumped, your eyes are darting around but not meeting hers, and you’re wearing an unbuttoned flannel shirt with one of the tails tucked in, you’re probably not going to get a favorable response.

If you creep a woman out, things aren’t going to work for you.

4. Not understanding a woman’s body language and other communication.

When you start talking to a woman, she will let you know within a very short time if she’s receptive to talking to you.

If you’ve been reading too many books that say “A woman will signal her availability and interest by flipping her hair, licking her lips, and cocking her head coyly at you”, then get over it.

This stuff happens to Brat Pitt, not to YOU.

And if it DOES happen to you, then skip this part.

When you first start talking to a woman she’s either going to keep talking to you in an open, comfortable way or she’s not.

She’s either going to act like things are cool or she’s going to act like they’re not.

This is an amazing thought, but women get nervous too. They will often stop talking just because they can’t think of anything to say, etc.

But you need to pay attention.

Experience is the best teacher here.

My simple point is that MOST GUYS CAUSE REJECTION by what they’re doing. They aren’t paying attention, or they’re doing things that are offensive.

If you just avoid a few major mistakes, learn how to start conversations with women, and do a few simple things RIGHT, you’ll all but totally avoid “rejection” from the women you approach.

HOW TO OVERCOME FEAR OF REJECTION

The REAL obstacle here is the FEAR.

As I mentioned, FEAR of rejection, or IMAGINING rejection when you should be imagining success, leads to walking away.

You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.

Ironically, I’ve found that the best way to overcome my own fear of rejection was to see that it wasn’t going to actually happen.

The more times I approached women and started conversations and the more I saw that women usually responded positively, the less I imagined things going wrong. This led to a positive feedback loop of me wanting to approach more women and have more success.

Here are a few ideas for overcoming your own FEAR of rejection:

1) Go out to a bar, and watch men approaching women.

Take a Saturday night, and just go out alone. Find a seat at the bar where things are busy, and just watch.

Make sure you visit a place that is REALLY busy, so you can see a lot of people interacting.

Now, pay attention.

You’ll begin to pick out the guys who are approaching a lot of women, asking them to dance, buying them drinks, etc. Watch what happens.

You’ll be able to see for yourself that most of the time, even if the woman isn’t interested, nothing bad happens.

You’ll also see that when a guy tries to grab a woman who’s walking by, makes a crude sexual comment, or just keeps talking when a woman isn’t interested, that the woman’s feelings might escalate and she’ll respond negatively.

You can watch what works and what doesn’t right in front of your own eyes.

This will start to reprogram your mind that women don’t usually “reject” men, even in the most intense situations where they’re being approached all night.

2) Start small.

If you have to, start by talking to women who are PAID to talk to you.

Go to a mall (one of my favorites).

Stores in malls hire attractive young women.

Walk into every store, and start conversations.

Practice making eye contact.

Come up with a few jokes that you can use in any situation (“So, do you own this store? Perfect, then you won’t care if I just take some things…”)

Ask the salesgirls to smell your new cologne (the one you sprayed on your wrist next door) and give you her opinion.

The more you do this, the more you’ll get used to starting conversations with women you don’t know, and having comfortable conversations.

3) Choose one default thing for each situation.

It amazes me that guys don’t think ahead.

They don’t plan what they’re going to do.

As the old saying goes “By failing to plan, you plan to fail”.

You really need to figure out a DEFAULT thing you can do to start a conversation with any woman, anywhere, anytime.

Once you come up with your idea, mentally rehearse it until you could do it in any situation.

Then get out and do it.

HOW TO AVOID REJECTION AND INCREASE SUCCESS

Human beings tend to want to “save face” when it comes to relationships.

We don’t like the idea that another person has outright “rejected” us, and we ALSO tend to not want to “hurt other people’s feelings” by rejecting them.

This is one of the reasons why women will often lie and say “I have a boyfriend” when they don’t.

You must become aware of these “subconscious” processes and motivations, work with them, and eventually become the master of them.

Learn to recognize when a woman is “politely saying no thanks”, and move on.

If a woman isn’t interested in you, forget about it. It doesn’t matter.

Go to the next one. There are plenty.

LEARN HOW AND WHY WOMAN FEEL ATTRACTION FOR MEN

Most men believe that if they could only overcome their own fear of rejection, and learn how to start talking to women, all their problems would be solved.

Not so!

Just because you can start conversations with women doesn’t mean that they’ll feel ATTRACTION for you.

It took me a LONG time to really “get” this.

It took me even LONGER to realize that there is actually a way to make women feel the emotion of ATTRACTION for you… just by the way you communicate with them.

I used to believe that it was a mysterious, lucky accident when a woman felt ATTRACTION. Now I realize that it’s only “lucky” for those guys who don’t understand it (and very few do).

And if you’d like to get an introduction to the main concepts, then download a copy of my downloadable eBook “Double Your Dating“. This eBook is a complete intro to the mind set and techniques you need to understand to start being successful with women. It’s here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook

I’ll talk to you soon,
David DeAngelo

I wanted to share a secret to attracting women that I believe is one of the ULTIMATE advantages you can have.

When I was first learning about how to get past my internal fears… how to approach women and start conversations… how to create attraction and chemistry… and how to take things to the next level… I wound up trying a TON of different “tricks and techniques”.

Whenever I found a new “trick” that worked for me, I felt like I had just put another piece of the puzzle together… that I had gotten just that much closer to REALLY understanding how things worked.

But there was another feeling that happened even MORE often:

It was when I would try something that had “worked” before, but it DIDN’T work this time.

It was the feeling that I must have MISSED something… that I must not REALLY get it.

I’m sure you know exactly what I’m talking about here.

It was probably a couple of YEARS after starting my quest that I had what I consider to be one of the biggest “Ah Ha!” experiences of my life.

Here’s what my realization was:

The guys I knew who were the MOST successful with women didn’t read books to learn a bunch of “pick up lines”… and they didn’t rely on tricks to attract women.

The guys I new who were MOST successful had a certain something about them that just seemed to MAGNETICALLY attract women.

In fact, these guys did and said things to women that seemed like they COULDN’T work to create attraction.

But it worked. It seemed to ALWAYS work.

At first, I just assumed that these guys must be good-looking, or have some kind of natural charm that I would never have.

It seemed like an “unfair advantage”.

Well, I learned that it WAS actually an unfair advantage. But I ALSO learned that it was something that ANY guy can have.

WARNING: What I’m about to say might sound a little “new-agey”… but stick with me.

This “Ah Ha!” led me to an even deeper and more powerful realization:

These men who were consistently successful with women had a QUALITY about them, and a deep UNDERSTANDING of how male/female attraction works…

…SO THEY DIDN’T NEED TECHNIQUES.

Because they had this magical quality, and because they understood how to direct and channel any situation and conversation… they created success without needing the tricks.

In fact, one of my friends who was VERY good with women started LEARNING some “pick up lines” and other tricks, and started doing WORSE with women. True story.

He had the quality, and the tricks messed it up for him!

Well, after really digging into this topic and trying to translate this “secret knowledge”… and how to develop this quality I speak of… into a system that a regular guy could “get” use, I finally create the Master Key.

It’s a Master Key that will unlock doors that NO guy with a bunch of “tricks and techniques” can open.

It’s a key that will attract — AND KEEP — the more desirable and attractive women… the kinds of women that most guys will NEVER even have a chance to date.

I could go on and on about it, but if you’re interested in learning more about this key, then go here and read THIS:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/OnBeingAMan (New Window)

I hope this secret helps you as much as it has helped me in my success with women.

Talk to you in a couple of days.

Your Friend,
David Deangelo