Hey guys for my first article on the Seduction chronicles, I wanted to write to the brand new guys who may need a guiding hand in getting in the game. So without further ado here’s 10 things to do to get started in “The Game”.

1. Get a new haircut. This doesn’t have to be expensive, but the psychological ramifications of shedding your old look can’t be overstated. The first thing you should do is find a gay hairstylist. For the most part female hairstylists will cute your hair to make you look safe, whereas a gay guy will cut it to make you look sexy. Don’t try to control what he does, just let him go to town. You’ll now also have a new way of looking at yourself when you see your new haircut in the mirror.

2. Learn to make eye contact. Head out to the mall on a Saturday morning and practice walking around, making eye contact and saying “hi” to strangers. It doesn’t matter if they’re guys, girls whatever. We’re working on learning to hold eye contact. The more comfortable you become with making eye contact, the better you’ll do.

3. Don’t read so much. It can be VERY tempting to try to learn everything you can about game as soon as you find out about the community. Don’t. All you need in the beginning is an opener. Make sure that you spend at least 4 times as much time out in the field as you do reading. That means for every hour of reading, you’re in field for 4 hours.

4. Record your success and failures. You can do this with an audio recorder if that’s legal in your state Or you can simply write down what happened whne you come home. You should focus on a few things. First, how many women did you approach? You want to make sure that you write down a simple description of what you material you used, what her reaction was and how the interaction ended. This is a vital part of getting good, as you’ll start to notice patterns when you see the same thing written down over and over again.

5. Work on your body language. There is NO such thing as “ Super Alpha” body language. Instead you want to focus on looking comfortable and taking up enough space. Bad body language generally breaks down into on of two categories. Not taking up enough space, or taking up too much space. If you look relaxed and comfortable with no nervous twitches, you have good body language.

6. Set a schedule for going out. Make sure that you figure out what venues have the types of girls you like in them, and then plan some time to go there EVERY week. Look at going out to meet girls the same way you would look at going to the gym. You have a workout schedule where you’re going to go to the gym( Wherever you want to meet women) and do specific exercises to work on parts of your game.

7. Start asking for phone numbers every time you talk to a new woman. This is a great way to work on your phone game. Phone game is a separate skillset in and of itself, and as such needs to be practiced by itself. To do that you need to get a lot of phone numbers. Plus you’ll get practice at pushing your interactions farther, which is a good skill to develop for later.

8. Don’t beat yourself up. This is key. You have to recognize that there is no hurry to get good at this stuff and that you have the rest of your life to learn it. Be honest with yourself about where you need work, but make sure that you compare yourself to where you are coming from not where you eventually want to be. Or even worse where others are.

9. Get comfortable touching strangers. This is a huge piece of the game as well. I have found that the more educated a student is, the more trouble they have with touching. Touching is on of the things that you can practice all the time. Get used to becoming a “Touchy” guy. Touch the barista at Starbucks on the shoulder, touch your friends on the arm to emphasize points, etc… Make sure that you get used to touching everyone you speak to in a comfortable way.

10. Have fun!!!!! This is the MOST important thing when it comes to meeting women. If talking to you is not more fun than anything else she could be doing at the time, why does she want to talk to you? Fun trumps everything else. You can be de-selected by women, a loser of men and a destroyer of loved ones, but if women have fun with you, you’ll be successful.

Til next time,

Sinn

Neil Strauss recently said this and it goes along with my post about peacocking done right.

I recently saw a heavily peacocked guy at a bar who thought he was a ladies man. Women laughed at his jokes and allowed him to have his hands all over them. However, what he didn’t realize was that these women were humoring him. They were being nice because they felt sorry for him, then they’d quickly and politely extricate themselves.

What he was missing was something called calibration, which most of you read about on Day 28 of Rules of The Game. However, there’s something I’d like to add to that: measure yourself by your RESULTS. If you go out and you’re surrounded by women, yet you still sleep alone every night, it’s time to examine your behavior and figure out what you’re doing wrong.

Maybe you come across as the party guy, and no one takes you seriously. Maybe you’re too touchy-feely and creeping them out.
Maybe they see you as a safe friend or someone to be used. Maybe you come off as lonely or weird, and they’re trying not to be rude. Or maybe they even see you as a player, but to such a degree that they just don’t trust you.

Think about it. Ask your friends. And don’t be afraid to ask the women. Make sure you evaluate everything they say, and don’t take it personally. If everyone is saying the same thing, don’t disregard it – give it serious consideration.

This probably only applies to about one percent of you reading this – but you all definitely know someone like this. So help him out with a serious, non-judgmental, constructive talk and in-field lesson. What I did with this guy, when he didn’t believe me, was approach the women he thought he had attracted, and convince them to tell him the truth for his own good – telling them things like, “He’s going to be single for the rest of his life if you don’t help him out right now. You can be like the Millionaire Matchmaker.”

Grim has posted a very insightful comment about peacocking:

I find it funny the biggest complaint with Mystery is his clothing. Any woman who would judge solely on your clothes despite an amazing personality, charisma, and humor is not a woman worth dating. I say to hell with those types of women. Secondly, you have to know that Mystery goes for the more liberal type of women… What many people don’t know is that he prefers the stereotypical “club” type of girl. If you’re looking to pick up conservative women, then peacocking is probably not a good idea.

This is spot on. When pickup artists peacock, you should be doing it with congruency. That means, if you want to pickup a club, party, or “freaky” girl you should be peacocking appropriately for those venues. I would say typically look at what the “alpha” guys are doing in those scenes. We’ve all seen them, the guys in the corner that women seem to flock towards, or the guys that are constantly approached by these types of women. Take note and duplicate with your personality added.

For those guys looking for more conservative women, those women whom are working professionals, career women, students, and social circle friends, opt for a more conservative approach that will feel more calibrated for that woman’s personality.

You’ve only got one first impression, so don’t let your peacocking ruin it. Let it exponentially increase your successes!

The Fashion Ten Commandments:

1. Thou shalt not be ungroomed. Hair, sideburns, beard, goatee, stache, whatever. Got hair on your body, keep it under control. Don’t get lazy and let the fur grow caveman-style. Cavemen don’t get hotties.

2. Thou shalt not wear clothes that don’t fit. There’s a reason clothes come in many sizes, guys. It’s so you can buy the ones that actually fit you. Women notice an M wearing XL, and they ain’t going home with him.

3. Thou shalt not wear crappy shoes. Shoes tell women everything they need to know about you. Smelly sneakers, sandals with socks, and gore-tex hiking boots do not get into the hottie’s sheets.

4. Thou shalt not pull pants up to your nipples. Your grandpa needs to keep his pants that high. You, my friend, have a waist. Find it and use it.

5. Thou shalt not dress in the dark. Before you leave the house, look in a frickin’ mirror. If you see a dork standing there, make him go change into something presentable.

6. Thou shalt not wear clothes that were cool when “Livin’ La Vida Loca” was a hit. Just because your “Thriller” jacket got you looks in ’85, that’s no reason to rock it now.

7. Thou shalt not bathe in cologne. We know you love your Old Spice, but less is more, cowboy.

8. Thou shalt not wear glasses that make you look like a chemistry teacher. Even if you are a chemistry teacher, you can get frames that actually look good on you. They do make them, you know. Just ask.

9. Thou shalt not follow trends blindly. See everyone in the bar wearing striped shirts? Do something different. Get the gear that goes with you. You have to stand out, not blend in.

10. Thou shalt not wear fleece. You are a man, not a sheep. So stop wearing big billowing soft stuff that makes you look like you should be chased by a border collie. If it’s cold, get a real coat.

That’s it. Anything sound familiar?

If you’ve been breaking any of these Commandments, it’s time to repent and change your sinful ways. But how? Well, you could hook up with your own fashion guru. Unfortunately, this one is already taken.

But there’s a better way.

PickUp 101 will find your style for you. Dressed for Success is a 3 DVD set with transcripts of real-life makeovers that show you how a regular dude can go from zero to hero just by adding a little style to his life.

And by not breaking any more Commandments.

Now go ahead and make some girls smile!

Lance Mason