» David Deangelo

How To Be The Man Every Woman Wants

Editor — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 03:15:29 +0000

I wanted to share a secret to attracting women that I believe is one of the ULTIMATE advantages you can have.

When I was first learning about how to get past my internal fears… how to approach women and start conversations… how to create attraction and chemistry… and how to take things to the next level… I wound up trying a TON of different “tricks and techniques”.

Whenever I found a new “trick” that worked for me, I felt like I had just put another piece of the puzzle together… that I had gotten just that much closer to REALLY understanding how things worked.

But there was another feeling that happened even MORE often:

It was when I would try something that had “worked” before, but it DIDN’T work this time.

It was the feeling that I must have MISSED something… that I must not REALLY get it.

I’m sure you know exactly what I’m talking about here.

It was probably a couple of YEARS after starting my quest that I had what I consider to be one of the biggest “Ah Ha!” experiences of my life.

Here’s what my realization was:

The guys I knew who were the MOST successful with women didn’t read books to learn a bunch of “pick up lines”… and they didn’t rely on tricks to attract women.

The guys I new who were MOST successful had a certain something about them that just seemed to MAGNETICALLY attract women.

In fact, these guys did and said things to women that seemed like they COULDN’T work to create attraction.

But it worked. It seemed to ALWAYS work.

At first, I just assumed that these guys must be good-looking, or have some kind of natural charm that I would never have.

It seemed like an “unfair advantage”.

Well, I learned that it WAS actually an unfair advantage. But I ALSO learned that it was something that ANY guy can have.

WARNING: What I’m about to say might sound a little “new-agey”… but stick with me.

This “Ah Ha!” led me to an even deeper and more powerful realization:

These men who were consistently successful with women had a QUALITY about them, and a deep UNDERSTANDING of how male/female attraction works…

…SO THEY DIDN’T NEED TECHNIQUES.

Because they had this magical quality, and because they understood how to direct and channel any situation and conversation… they created success without needing the tricks.

In fact, one of my friends who was VERY good with women started LEARNING some “pick up lines” and other tricks, and started doing WORSE with women. True story.

He had the quality, and the tricks messed it up for him!

Well, after really digging into this topic and trying to translate this “secret knowledge”… and how to develop this quality I speak of… into a system that a regular guy could “get” use, I finally create the Master Key.

It’s a Master Key that will unlock doors that NO guy with a bunch of “tricks and techniques” can open.

It’s a key that will attract — AND KEEP — the more desirable and attractive women… the kinds of women that most guys will NEVER even have a chance to date.

I hope this secret helps you as much as it has helped me in my success with women.

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The 4 Laws Of Summer To Get Hot Women

Editor — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 23:28:15 +0000

Imagine one of the hundreds of hot women you’ll see at every pool, beach, and barbecue this summer. Imagine she’s wearing a skimpy bikini… and that she’s surrounded by all of her hot friends. Now… imagine trying to ask her out on a date. So here’s the question…

How does all this “imagining” MAKE YOU FEEL?

If you’re like I used to be, you feel anxious just IMAGINING it… let alone actually DOING IT. But I’m here to tell you it doesn’t have to be that way.

Ready to get THE CONFIDENCE YOU NEED to get ANY WOMAN YOU WANT this summer?

Remember those teenage “summer fun” movies? You know… the ones with hot women in skimpy bikinis who seem to bend over backwards (literally) to get physical with guys?

Well, I sure remember those movies. Probably TOO well. I remember sitting there as a teenager watching them, thinking… “Maybe one day I can get one of THOSE women, too.” But of course years went by, and there I was, still “watching” and “wishing” instead of “doing” and “getting”. I felt hopeless. I felt frustrated. Worst of all, I felt HELPLESS. And, of course, I made all the usual excuses for my failure. I figured I wasn’t handsome enough. I figured my clothes and my car weren’t cool enough. I figured I didn’t have enough money to get a hot woman.

Sound familiar?

But like I’ve said so many times before… the only way to figure out the TRUTH behind a bad situation is to watch what people who are SUCCESSFUL do under the same circumstances.

And when I did that, what I saw totally blew me away. I spent time watching a couple of my friends who seemed to actually be LIVING the plots of those summer movies.

And believe me, none of these guys looked like Brad Pitt. None of these guys had wads of cash to flash around. Not one of these guys drove a Porsche or Ferrari. But every time without fail, these guys left the pool or beach with a bronze, hard-bodied goddess on their arm.

And I went home alone. Again.

Go figure?

But here’s the thing: just by watching what these guys did, it soon became obvious to me. There seemed to be a few subtle, “secret laws” behind all of this “summer fun” they were having… and I WASN’T.

And once I realized that, EVERYTHING CHANGED for me.

In fact, I wrote you a while ago to say that I now consider summer the “Sexual Season”… The time of year that beautiful women “let it all hang out” at sun-drenched beaches, pools and parks…

…almost as if they’re actually TRYING to send guys a “signal” or something. Well, guess what: THEY ARE. And if you’re not receiving that signal (and converting it into MIND-BLOWING SEXUAL EXPERIENCES this summer) then guess what else…

I feel bad for you. I can’t begin to describe what you’re missing out on. It just makes me sad. Excuse me while I shed a tear…

But here’s the REALLY sad part:

If you’re like most guys, you’ll not only MISS OUT on all the amazing opportunities this summer.

…you’ll continue to miss out on EVERY amazing opportunity to meet and get dates with great women all year around, winter spring and fall as well.

Why?

Because there’s a reason that hot women put on skimpy dresses and bikinis and walk around in front of you. You see, when a woman is ATTRACTIVE, SINGLE, and SHOWING YOU WHAT SHE’S GOT… she’s broadcasting a signal that she’s not only open to being approached by guys… but that she actually WANTS it to happen.

But here’s the catch… IT MUST BE DONE IN *EXACTLY* THE RIGHT WAY.

That in mind, here’s where my “secret laws” of summer come in. Without further delay, what you need to know — and put to work for you RIGHT NOW — before the red-hot opportunities of summer pass you by…

#1: THE LAW OF ACCESSIBILITY

Like I’ve said, at no other time of year do SO MANY off-the-hook, beautiful women gather in so many easily accessible places and show off their “assets”.

In other words, you don’t have to be a player – or a mind-reader – to predict where to meet the kinds of women that you’ve been dreaming about all year long. In fact, summer is the ONLY time of year that you can forget the cover charges, rope lines, the crowds at bars and clubs… and gain easy access to throngs of beautiful, AVAILABLE women.

Want to prove it to yourself? Here’s what I want you to do ASAP. Visit your nearest pool, beach, or park. Maybe take a jog or a hike. Walk your dog. (Come on, the exercise will do you good…)

Then take a look around. What do you see?

Odds are, you see a bottomless supply of super-hot women who are INTENTIONALLY showing off everything that they legally can to make guys notice them. And if you’re like most guys, you HAVE noticed these women.

Signal received, right? But the question still remains, what are YOU going to do about it?

#2: THE LAW OF APPROACHABILITY

At no other time of year are so many beautiful, single women more “open” and “receptive” to being approached by guys…

SO LEARN HOW TO DO IT. Like I said, thereis a reason these women choose to walk around in those revealing dresses and swimsuits.

And if they’re SINGLE, almost 100% of the time these women not only WANT to attract guys’ attention. These woman actually WANT to be approached. Yet most guys never even consider doing it.

Why not? Simple.

Because they’re AFRAID. Afraid of not knowing what to say. Afraid of not knowing what to do. Afraid of REJECTION. And because of all this fear, insecurity, and lack of confidence, they never even try to approach these women… year after year missing out on making their dreams of being with one come true at exactly the time they have the best chances of finally making it happen!

Sound painfully familiar?

If so, you need to understand right now that once you have the CONFIDENCE to approach a woman in one of these accessible “summer settings”, it’s actually EASIER THAN IT WILL EVER BE to start conversations and “close the deal” with her. In fact, reports show that summer sun and heat escalate SEXUAL DESIRE.

And that means, a lot of times, these women are not only interested in meeting new guys and talking with them, they’re MUCH more likely to take things to a PHYSICAL LEVEL with them.

And by the way, that includes turning up the bedroom heat with guys they’re already dating.

But still you MUST remember this: Just because a woman is more open to being approached and has increased levels of sexual desire, it DOES NOT mean that she’s easy or a “sure thing”.

It’s still up to YOU to approach her in exactly the right way, and then communicate with her in a confident, in-control way that creates INSTANT ATTRACTION.

Without doing that, all you’ll get is MORE REJECTION. Guaranteed.

#3: THE LAW OF VISIBILITY

I’m embarrassed to have to say this one, it’s so obvious. At no other time of year do guys have such a HUGE advantage when it comes to finding the particular “assets” they’re looking for in their “dream” woman.

So why not take advantage of it? Let’s face it… revealing summer clothes leave VERY little to the imagination, making it the ideal time to “girl watch” and spot your “fantasy woman”… all without looking like a peeping tom or pervert.

(Helpful hint: that’s something you should avoid all year around.)

So during summer’s “sexual season,” feel free to “girl watch” all you want. After all, summer’s like Christmas-time for a guy’s eyes.

And as soon as you see your type this summer, GO FOR IT. But remember: If you DON’T know EXACTLY how to approach a woman in a way that triggers INSTANT ATTRACTION, she’ll simply move on to the next guy faster than you can get your tongue untied.

And if you DON’T know how to carry on the conversation with her, she’ll mentally “check out” as you hem, haw, and finally retreat with your tail between your legs.

Above all…

If you DON’T know how to send the signals that she’s looking for in a potential sexual partner… the kind of signals that make her respond to you by smiling, flirting back, maybe even “innocently” touching you…

…then you WILL get rejected. And then it’s game over.

Period.

But if you learn the secrets of having SEXUAL CONFIDENCE… and then COMMUNICATING THAT CONFIDENCE to a woman right out of the gate, you’ll be golden. You’ll be able to approach and get dates with ANY woman you want, ANY time you want, ANY place you want. No matter how amazingly hot or “unattainable” she seemed at first. No matter what time of year it is.

#4: THE LAW OF SEXUAL ATTRACTION

There are a LOT of reasons that I like to call summer the “Sexual Season”. All the exposed skin, the escalated sexual desire, the free-flowing drinks, the convenient “girl watching”. But as I keep saying… Unless you know how to take advantage of all these opportunities, none of it matters. That in mind, here’s what I need you to take away from this:

During summeris short “Sexual Season,” your chances of successfully meeting and getting dates with the women of your dreams are better than ever.

But actually MAKING IT HAPPEN comes down to this:

You must know EXACTLY what it takes to trigger INSTANT SEXUAL ATTRACTION in a woman, or NOTHING else matters.

You must know EXACTLY how to approach her… start a conversation… communicate that you can deliver the sexual goods or NOTHING ELSE MATTERS. And the reason is actually a bit counter- intuitive.

It’s because, paradoxically, everything that you have going for you during the summer “sexual season” is actually working AGAINST you at the same time.

Huh?

I know, doesn’t seem to make sense, but hear me out.

Sure, summer’s that magical time of year that the hottest women on the planet are at their most open and receptive to meeting guys.

But if you don’t understand how to spark SEXUAL EXCITEMENT in them INSTANTLY so that they want to invest time in you… your chances of getting anywhere with one of these women is absolutely zero.

Got that?

Let me capitalize for clarity: YOUR CHANCES ARE ZERO. And sad truth is…

The dumbest, wussiest mistakes that men make to ruin their chances with beautiful women are also the EASIEST TO AVOID.

In this season of parties, pools and beaches, attractive women have their choice of a TONS OF GUYS.

They always have. They always will.

But here’s what YOU need to carry around in your back pocket…

99.99% of those guys will fail with women because THEY HAVE NO CLUE.

No clue what to say. No clue what to do.

Worst of all, no clue about that secret “sexual language” that every woman looks for in a man the moment he approaches her.

But thanks to me, you can turn all of this into a HUGE ADVANTAGE for YOU.

Best of all, it’s an advantage that will change everything for you not only during summer, but ALL YEAR AROUND.

I mean, it will just plain CHANGE YOUR LIFE.

Why?

Because it doesn’t just apply to meeting and getting dates with hot women in skimpy bathing summer-time suits. It works with ANY TIME of the year, ANYWHERE that you happen to be.

In fact, once you learn this powerful secret “language”, ANY woman you want will feel INSTANTLY and INSTINCTIVELY attracted to you. But here’s the thing:

It literally took me YEARS AND YEARS to figure out this secret language! It took doing endless interviews. Research and study. Trial-and-error.

Honestly, it’s VERY unlikely that you will ever figure out this secret language for yourself. And the PROBLEM is: When you DON’T know how to speak this language (as most men don’t) women will instantly “turn off” and reject you.

Thatis why I need you to understand just this ONE THING this summer and all year long:

Attractive women are “on the lookout” for this secret language RIGHT NOW, as we speak. Yet 99.99% of guys will blow their chances with these women because they have NO CLUE how to “speak” it. Or worse, they don’t have the CONFIDENCE they need to approach these woman in the first place. So let’s do the math, shall we?

When a man does have CONFIDENCE… + he knows how to COMMUNICATE it to a woman… + he knows how to drive a woman wild with anticipation and physical desire it all adds up to GUARANTEED SUCCESS.

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Are You Afraid Of Women?

Editor — Thu, 24 Jun 2010 18:49:02 +0000

What prevents men from being successful with women? Well, the list goes on and on… but one of the elements that TOPS the list is FEAR. There are many different situations that make men feel fear, but I’d like to talk about some of the most common ones… and what to do about them.

First of all, I’d like you to be honest for a moment about this topic.

Do you ever feel FEAR when it comes to women and dating?

Have you ever seen a woman that you’d really like to meet, but you started to feel fear and didn’t do anything about it?

Or maybe you were on a date and you wanted to kiss a woman… but you felt too afraid because you didn’t want to make a mistake and screw up your chances?

Or maybe you even got a woman’s phone number, but you were too afraid to call back because you didn’t know how to start off the conversation or ask her out?

Cummon, seriously…

Have you ever been sitting there with the phone in your hand, dialing a woman’s number, but you had to hang up because you were just too nervous to even talk to her…?

Or out on a date with a woman, and you wanted to kiss her, but you got so nervous at the thought that you just decided it would be better to forget the whole idea and hope for the best…?

Me too. Many times, in fact.

By the way, it’s not exactly FUN to admit that you’re afraid of things.

I’m sure you know that most guys would rather admit in public that they were unsure about their sexual orientation than that they were afraid of women.

Of course, this unwillingness to admit that you have a problem IN THE FIRST PLACE only makes matters worse…

If you don’t admit that you have the problem, then it’s hard to get help and answers to it.

Well, the good news is that you’re not alone.

Almost every guy I’ve known (including myself) has dealt with this issue MANY TIMES with women.

So, STEP 1 is to GET OVER IT. Get over your need to deny that you’re afraid. Just admit that you’re afraid, and come to grips with the fact that you’re human…

STEP 2 is to admit that you’d like to get this particular area of your life handled.

STEP 3 is to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

Once you realize that it’s not that big of a deal, then the improvement can start. On the other hand, if you just stay in denial about it, you’ll probably just look for new tricks and techniques to use on women… which, of course, won’t lead to any REAL improvement.

I personally think that one of the biggest causes of fear when it comes to situations with women is:

PUTTING TOO MUCH IMPORTANCE ON WHAT THE WOMAN THINKS OF YOU AND WHAT HAPPENS IN THAT PARTICULAR SITUATION.

To put it in different words, most guys don’t take action because they’re afraid that they’ll screw up, or that the woman or others around will judge them.

The REAL problem though is that this whole process has become AUTOMATIC, and it happens INSTANTLY the moment most guys see a woman that they’d like to meet. Before they even have a chance to think about the situation rationally, they’ve become nervous, insecure, and upset.

I’m sure you know EXACTLY what I’m talking about.

As humans, we have these incredible minds and bodies, but sometimes they get wired up in ways that aren’t exactly useful for the situations that we find ourselves in. Worse, sometimes our cultures, families, or peer groups teach us ways of thinking that just aren’t useful at all for what we’d like to accomplish.

Here’s something that I realized a few years ago when I was learning for myself how to be successful with women…

I thought about this idea that I was having this instant, automatic fear in different situations with women, and that what I was really thinking was “I don’t want to screw this up” and “I don’t want her to think that I’m a dork”…

And all of a sudden something dawned on me:

IT DOESN’T MATTER.

It doesn’t matter what happens, and it doesn’t matter what she thinks of me.

I realized that the fears I was experiencing were more from PROGRAMMING than from reality.

So, I started to remind myself as often as possible that the fear wasn’t happening because there was any kind of danger… and that my objective in a particular situation wasn’t to have it turn out perfect, IT WAS TO LEARN.

Think about the difference between doing something because it’s important vs. doing something in order to LEARN.

So, for instance, if I saw a woman that I wanted to meet… instead of thinking, “OK, I have to say something charming and original so she’ll like me… and if I screw up I’m going to be embarrassed” – I began to think things like, “I’m going to learn how to get a woman’s phone number within a few minutes of meeting her… and part of learning this is going to be trying a lot of different things that probably aren’t going to work… but in the end, it’s all going to even out because I’m going to have the SKILL that I want.”

See the difference?

Well, let me tell you, that change in attitude made a HUGE impact on my success. I was willing to do and try things that I never would have tried in the past for fear of screwing up…

All because I had the attitude of “I’m going to learn something from this and improve my skills… and it doesn’t matter what happens in THIS PARTICULAR situation”, I was able to improve very rapidly.

And the more I began to apply this idea, the more success I had in ALL areas with women… from the first meeting, to getting them to go out with me, to taking things to a physical level.

So do this:

Go out RIGHT NOW and start a conversation with a woman.

I don’t care if she’s attractive or not.

But instead of having the objective of getting a date, have the objective of LEARNING SOMETHING.

In fact, if you REALLY want to improve fast, go spend a day starting conversations with women, but make the commitment to NOT get any phone numbers or dates all day.

In other words, no matter WHAT happens, you can’t date any of the women that you meet that day.

See if you can just learn how to do a few simple things like say, “Hi” to every woman that walks by… how to maintain eye contact with women until THEY look away… and how to end a conversation “too soon” so she feels a natural vacuum and tries to keep it going herself…

That’s one good idea for dealing with your fears.

If you’d like to read more of my personal secrets for overcoming fear, including specific mental exercises and physical drills, then I’d recommend that you download a copy of my online eBook “Double Your Dating”. It’s full of all my very best thinking on this and many other subjects about success with women.

Just go to here and watch my video presentation.

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,
David DeAngelo

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Do Women Test Men? How To Pass Her Tests

Editor — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 22:16:47 +0000

Have you ever called a woman on the phone to set up a date and she says: “Friday night? Sure. Call me on Friday and we can talk about it…”?

Or, have you ever had a woman ask you if you’re “a player?”

Or, have you ever had a woman challenge you about something ridiculous?

Or, have you ever had a woman call you five minutes before a date and cancel?

Or, have you ever had a woman pout and get upset because she didn’t get her way?

Or, have you ever asked a woman for her number and she says, “Why don’t you give me your number and I’ll call YOU?”

Well guess what… you were being TESTED.

All of these are examples of common things women do to “test” men.

On some level, the woman you were dealing with was testing to see how much control she had in the relationship… and how STRONG you were.

The paradox of “testing” is that if you COMPLY with what a woman SEEMS to want, you will usually FAIL the test.

Hey, I never said that women made sense… lol.

I was reading a great book recently called “The Way Of The Superior Man”, and inside the author points out that a woman will often ask a man for something DIRECTLY… but if he DOES what she asks, she will be disappointed and ANGRY with him.

Ever been there?

So what’s with this testing stuff, anyway?

Well, the answer is fascinating.

And before I tell you about why women TEST you, I want to mention that there’s a LOT more going on “behind the scenes” when it comes to female psychology and behavior. I believe that if you can learn how to understand this “mating psychology,” then you can learn to attract women MUCH faster…

Women test men because they need to QUICKLY figure out what they’re dealing with, and they can’t expect a man to just be straight up and honest about his strengths and weaknesses.

I mean, let’s face it… we guys like to talk a big game, but when it comes to walking the talk, we often can’t BACK IT UP.

Also, beautiful women have a lot of options. They have their pick of men. And beautiful women prefer STRONG men. Not physically strong (although this can be an advantage), but strong in CHARACTER and PERSONAL IDENTITY.

Women aren’t attracted to WUSSIES.

So let me ask you… if you were an attractive woman that was being chased around by 100 guys, how would YOU go about figuring out which one or ones were the “real deal” and which were merely FAKING strength and confidence?

Of course… you’d have to TEST them.

But you couldn’t test by saying, “OK, I’m going to give you a test now, so get ready.”

No no NO!

You’d have to use “blind” tests. Tests that would allow you to see a man’s true strengths and weaknesses. And in fact, you’d want to use tests that ideally DIDN’T ALLOW HIM TO KNOW THAT YOU WERE TESTING… OR WHAT YOU HAD DISCOVERED ABOUT HIM WITH THOSE TESTS. This way, if he turned out to be a Wuss Bag, you could slip away quickly and easily.

This would give you the power…

Of course.

And if you did this OFTEN, you’d eventually become so accustomed to doing it, that MANY of the tests would become SUBCONSCIOUS and work their way into your NATURAL, EVERYDAY way of communicating with men.

Well, guess what?

That’s what is going on with beautiful women.

Many of the tests that they use with men are actually OUTSIDE OF THEIR AWARENESS. They test us automatically!

And if you fail one of these tests, there’s a good chance that you won’t get another chance.

In this fast-paced world, we humans don’t have the time to spend getting to know people over a few months or years to figure out whether or not they’re the kind of person that would make a good friend or mate.

We need to know NOW.

So we use shortcuts.

Testing is a shortcut for women.

It lets them discover VERY RAPIDLY whether you have BALLS, or if you’re just another one of the bazillion Wusses that are trying to get her attention.

I hope you feel what I’m saying.

So, the next time you’re standing in front of a beautiful woman who you’ve just asked for her number and she says, “Why don’t you just give me yours and I’ll call YOU…” try CHUCKLING out loud, and saying:

“Oh, come on. Don’t give me that old line. Write your number down and I’ll only call you 25 times a day until you wind up having to change it because I have nothing better to do with my time than call someone who doesn’t want to hear from me.”

Then hand her a pen, point to the paper, and look her in the eye expectantly.

Love it.

Now, obviously there’s a lot more to this issue of TESTING. There’s a lot more going on than meets the eye.

There are all kinds of subtle cues and body language that women read to decide just what kind of man you are… and these cues also trigger ATTRACTION (or the opposite).

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How To Make Women Think About You

Editor — Mon, 31 May 2010 22:14:00 +0000

If you’ve seen the classic cult movie “Swingers”, then you probably remember the part where the guys are discussing how long a guy should wait to call a woman after he’s gotten her phone number.

The scene really hits home for a lot of guys because it gets down to a real-world situation that we all confront and ponder.

I get a lot of emails from guys asking me what to do in this very situation.

The more I’ve thought about it, the more I realize that this particular question (and the answer to it) are part of a bigger, more important CONCEPT about how to deal with women.

Let me explain.

When a guy asks me “How long should I wait to call her?” this immediately tells me a few things:

1) The guy doesn’t feel like he’s in control of the situation. If he felt like he was in control, then it he wouldn’t ask, because it wouldn’t matter.

2) The guy doesn’t really “get” how male/female attraction works. If he did get it, then he’d be thinking in those terms rather than trying to figure out the exact best amount of time to wait before calling.

To put it differently, the “when do I call her back?” problem is part of a bigger concept, and once you understand that bigger concept better, then you’ll have an automatic feel for when to call a woman back.

Most guys don’t “get” one simple point:

If you want a woman to feel ATTRACTION for you, then you must behave differently than if you want her to feel that “just friends” feeling.

In the world of ATTRACTION, things are completely different.

For instance, our moms taught all of us guys to “be nice” to women. This usually includes being sweet and complimentary when first meeting them, answering all of their questions directly, and giving them what they want when they want it.

But if you want a woman to feel that INSTANT GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION right from the beginning, then you’re going to have to put aside this kind of thinking, and start learning some NEW ideas.

For instance:

1) A challenge is generally attractive to women.

2) Teasing and being evasive is generally attractive to women.

3) Making fun of a woman’s appearance in a flirty way, as counter-intuitive as it might sound, can lead to ATTRACTION.

I’m trying to communicate the idea that when you’re dealing with ATTRACTION, you have to put aside old “normal” ways of thinking and behaving.

I would like to mention one more point before getting into the specifics here…

These days, people are becoming very sensitive to having “techniques” used on them.

If a salesman uses a sales technique on us, we immediately get defensive and resistant.

If a panhandler asks for money in a way that smells of “tricks or “techniques” we pass them by without pity.

If a business treats us like a “thing” or a number instead of an individual person, we avoid them or buy elsewhere.

We humans don’t like having manipulation techniques used on us, and when we detect that someone or something is using one to get the better of us, we resist.

So let’s get back to the “how long to wait before calling her back” issue.

If you think about it, every situation is slightly different. One time you might meet a woman in the morning at coffee, and another time you might meet a woman at a club at 1 in the morning.

If you wait too long to call her back, I think you run the risk of seeming like you’re just using a technique on her and you come across as a player who’s trying to do your thing on her.

When deciding how long to wait before you call or email, I think it’s important to ask yourself this question:

“What will likely INCREASE THE ATTRACTION in this situation?”

Here are a couple of ideas I have used with great success:

1) Email instead of calling first. I personally email the next day. I’ll start with a charming email to get the conversation started and then tell her that I’m going to call in a day or two. This has the effect of making contact with her relatively quickly, but still creating anticipation because you haven’t actually talked.

2) Call the next day, and make a joke about the situation. I might call and say, “Yeah, I was watching Swingers and they said to wait three days to call, but I was kind of in more of a one day mood…”

If you didn’t get her email address and you MUST use the phone, just do your best to avoid being AVERAGE.

I personally believe that our attention spans as humans are getting shorter and shorter. We have more and more information coming in from television, newspapers and other sources – and we’re getting cultural A.D.D. I think that if you wait too long, you’re risking either being seen as using a technique, or risking being forgotten altogether.

But if you make the opposite mistake and call too soon (for instance a few hours later), you run the risk of being seen as a needy Wuss who has no life.

In past newsletters, I have written about why it’s important to leave immediately after getting a woman’s email and/or number.

How long you should wait to call her back is a natural extension of this.

As a matter of fact, if you get a woman’s email/number and then you keep coming over to talk to her, it can almost be seen as waiting 5 minutes to call her.

There’s no anticipation, and it says all the wrong things.

A couple of other quick pointers for when you’re making that first call:

1) Be busy. If you’re going to ask her to join you for tea or something similar, make sure you mention two times that you’re busy for every one time that you’re available.

2) Don’t linger on the phone. Make that first call short and to the point. If you stay on the phone for more than a few minutes, you’re running the risk of getting into a normal “What do you do?”, “Where do you live?”, “Where did you go to school?” conversation. Avoid this.

To summarize, when in doubt wait a day or so to contact her again.

But more importantly, think about the situation in terms of anticipation and ATTRACTION, so when you do make contact it creates the correct context.

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Stop Trying To Impress Women

Editor — Thu, 06 May 2010 21:27:53 +0000

I’ve learned a secret to impressing women that I’m going to share with you in this article. It’s a secret that probably not 1 in 1,000 men knows or will ever figure out on his own. The REASON that most men will never figure out this particular secret is that it’s TOO OBVIOUS.

Let me explain…

I personally think that most men feel a very powerful desire to IMPRESS women.

If you watch the way a man behaves when he’s talking to a woman he’s just met or a woman that he’s on a first date with, you can SEE IT. Maybe you’ve been there yourself.

I know I have. Many, many times, in fact.

The feeling that you need to impress a woman usually comes along with another feeling: DON’T SCREW THIS UP.

Here are some of the signs that a guy is feeling the need to “impress” the woman that he’s talking to – I’m guessing you’ll recognize some of these:

1) He tries to only say “cool” things, or things that will “impress” the woman.

2) He acts nervous and stilted during the conversation… sometimes coming across as “formal”.

3) He tries to figure out what the woman wants to hear.

4) If he says something that the woman doesn’t like, he “back-pedals” and tries to change what he said to suit the woman.

5) He doesn’t say anything “risky”, doesn’t tease the woman, and doesn’t do anything to upset her.

…in other words, when a guy is talking to a woman that he “likes”, he’s usually on his “best behavior”, and he’s trying to “put his best foot forward”.

Sound familiar?

To say it again, MEN FEEL A POWERFUL DRIVE TO IMPRESS THE WOMAN THAT THEY “LIKE”.

And this drive to impress often makes them act UNNATURAL.

There’s your first hint, in fact…

THE SECRET

Remember at the beginning when I told you that I was going to share a secret with you about how to impress women that not 1 in 1,000 men will figure out on their own?

Well, here it is:

STOP TRYING.

Sound too easy?

It is – if you will just STOP TRYING to impress women, and do the things I’m teaching you instead, women will NATURALLY be “impressed” by you.

I want to show you, step by step, proven techniques for making a positive, lasting impression on a woman no matter what the situation – the kind of impression that leaves her panting for more.

First things first:

TRYING TO IMPRESS A WOMAN DOESN’T IMPRESS HER.

Working only on your outer game will never get you the results you want – it’s like trying to treat the symptoms instead of the disease.

The REAL way to impress her is by being a confident, mature, sexually powerful man. Not by telling her your resume.

It’s not easy to be that kind of man… and it won’t happen over night.

Let’s spend some more time on why TRYING TO IMPRESS WOMEN just makes you look DESPERATE and learn a few techniques that will make the kind of impression you really want.

So let’s break this down…

WHY IMPRESSING WOMEN IS THE WRONG ROAD

What’s wrong with trying to “impress” women, anyway?

To start with, EVERYTHING.

When you intentionally try to impress a woman, you send the following messages on a “subtle” level:

1) I don’t think you’ll like me for who I am, so I will try to “impress” you instead.

2) I’m not comfortable enough around women to just act normal.

3) I don’t have a lot of experience with attractive women.

4) I’m insecure.

5) I don’t know how to make women feel comfortable with me.

Ouch. But it’s the truth.

Women can TELL INSTANTLY when you’re “trying”. The conversation doesn’t feel “normal”, your body language is strange, and you can’t seem to have a regular conversation. Now of course, I’ve just described the way that about 99.9999% of men act when they’re first talking to a woman that they “like”.

Are you ready for a profound insight?

Here goes…

MOST MEN DO THIS WITH MOST ATTRACTIVE WOMEN MOST OF THE TIME. IN OTHER WORDS, IT’S OLD NEWS. IT’S BORING. IT’S PREDICTABLE. AND IT DOES NOT IMPRESS AT ALL.

The bottom line is that trying to impress a woman usually has the OPPOSITE effect.

It not only makes you look like a nervous guy who can’t make normal conversation… it also bores the hell out of women.

WHAT TO DO INSTEAD

OK, so you’re out with a beautiful woman you just met a few days before…

She asks you what you do for a living.

Should you answer with:

1) “Well, I’m an engineer for a software company that makes sophisticated vector widget plotting algorithms. I’ve been with them for three years, and I’m about to be promoted to ALGORITHM MANAGER.”

2) “I do stunt work. Have you ever seen it in a movie when a hot actor has to reveal his naked ass? That’s my job.”

…?

Well, it all depends on what your desired outcome is.

If you want to try and IMPRESS the girl with your cool high-tech job, then #1 will work just fine.

Unfortunately, it won’t make her ATTRACTED to you at all, and it will make you sound like a jackass who is trying to be cool.

If you want to ACTUALLY impress her, try #2. Most men don’t have the BALLS to say something like this when a woman asks a “serious” question like “What do you do?”. If you REALLY want to make a long-lasting impression, KEEP THE HUMOR GOING.

She’ll say “No, really… what do you do?”.

Answer with: “No, really. Haven’t you ever seen it when an actor needs a stunt ass? I mean hey… someone’s got to do it”.

This kind of comment will take her by surprise, making her WANT to learn more about you and spend more time with you.

Now, I know not every guy can think up a response like that on the fly.

If you’re thinking this kind of thing is too risky and that you can’t pull it off… NOT KNOWING this crucial stuff is the BIGGEST RISK you can take when it comes to IMPRESSING women.

If you aren’t naturally funny, you need to learn how to be funny. You need hundreds of lines and techniques to use in moments like there.

Now, I can’t possibly go into all the reasons here why it’s a HUGE MISTAKE to try to impress a woman, or to feel like everything you say should be “impressive”. There are MANY reasons for this.

MORE IMPORTANTLY, there are a few things you can do that will INSTANTLY impress a woman… and I mean REALLY impress her.

But these things aren’t OBVIOUS.

The most IMPORTANT thing you can do to IMPRESS a woman is make her feel a powerful emotional ATTRACTION for you.

Why? Because attraction is both an EMOTIONAL and physical response.

Here’s an example:

I’ve never heard a woman in my entire life who has ever said she likes short guys. Never.

But guess what?

I know a bunch of guys under 5’6″ who are UNBELIEVABLE with women. You always see them with beautiful women who are taller than them.

So what’s going on?

EMOTIONAL attraction.

And the great thing is that while you can’t grow a few inches (and you don’t need to in order to attract her) you CAN learn how to trigger the kind of emotional attraction that makes a woman take notice.

This feeling will stay with her long after you have left and gone home.

And it’s the one thing that will make women pursue YOU… and try to impress YOU.

What’s the best way to do this?

1) Stop trying to IMPRESS women. Stop now.

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5 Reasons Why Dating Isn’t Fair For Men

Editor — Wed, 05 May 2010 21:26:44 +0000

I want to talk about the fact that Dating isn’t a “fair” game, and what to do about it…

First off, I want to mention that LIFE isn’t fair. In case you haven’t noticed, almost NOTHING is fair. Fairness is an idea that people have created. I think we probably created the concept to torture ourselves, in fact.

Here are a few ways that life isn’t “fair”, as the concept relates to women and dating:

1) Some men are taller, and some are shorter. Women tend to prefer taller men. How unfair.

2) A very small portion of the women that are alive are as perfect and beautiful as the women in Playboy and other magazines, and therefore it’s impossible for every man to have a woman that is this beautiful. How unfair.

3) Many men go their entire lives without ever having sex. How unfair.

4) Some men have sex with hundreds or even thousands of women in their lives. How unfair. 5) Some men know the secrets of creating that magical emotion called ATTRACTION inside of women even though they aren’t rich, handsome, tall, etc. and wind up having their choice of beautiful young women. How unfair.

The point I’m trying to make is that LIFE ISN’T FAIR!

Dating isn’t fair, either.

Sometimes a woman will respond positively to you, then the next day she’ll act strange.

Sometimes a specific technique will work for you, and sometimes it won’t.

Sometimes you’ll feel great and confident inside, and sometimes you won’t.

Now, most people don’t like the idea that life (and dating) aren’t fair. They get upset when things don’t go their way, place too much meaning on things that happen to them and responses they get from women, and generally act like life should be different.

Of course, this is CRAZY.

The more that I realized this fact… that life just isn’t fair… the more that I realized another PROFOUND truth:

IT’S GREAT NEWS!

If life were “fair”, then you wouldn’t be able to do anything to change your personal success. You’d get what everyone else was getting.

But, the fact is that you CAN change your personal success in any area you want (including dating).

And the best part of this good news is that you can not only get better and better, but you can actually turn the tables around in YOUR FAVOR.

You can improve so much that you are actually at an ADVANTAGE when it comes to women and dating. So, if the idea that “life isn’t fair” is such great news, then why aren’t more people thinking of it this way?

I personally think that most people aren’t WILLING to get up off of their couch, put the remote down, and actually invest the time and effort required to become GREAT at something.

So, I’d like you to do something right now.

Take a moment, and make the decision and commitment to yourself that you’re going to TAKE ACTION in the areas of your life that you want to improve, and you’re going to do what it takes to stay on track until you get the results that you’re looking for.

Can you make that commitment to yourself?

Can you FOLLOW THROUGH on that commitment?

The most important decision I made in terms of my dating success was the fateful night that I decided that I was going to get this part of my life handled… NO MATTER WHAT.

Have YOU made this decision yet?

If not, then make it RIGHT NOW.

Bottom line:

Dating isn’t fair… and that’s great news.

When you turn the tables in your favor, you can create success that most men will only dream about. Really.

By the way…

Another problem is that a lot of people don’t know where to START. They don’t know how to get on the right track and where to learn things that actually work.

When I first decided that I had to learn how to meet and attract women for myself, I spent probably a year or two “wandering around” trying to find out what worked.

I ran in a lot of circles trying things that sounded like good ideas… but wound up being B.S. Then, once I finally figured out some of the ideas, techniques and skills it was going to take to really become great at this, it took awhile to really learn the skills and practice them to the point where I could use them and have predictable success with them.

Why am I telling you this?

Because I’d like to save you some of the time, effort, expense and hassle that I put into figuring out all of my secrets… and I’d like to help you swing the odds in your favor when it comes to women.

If you haven’t downloaded your copy of my online eBook “Double Your Dating“, then you need to get your ass in gear and do that RIGHT NOW. You can download it immediately and be reading it within a few minutes. Get it here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook/

My question for you is: ARE YOU GOING TO TAKE CHARGE OF THIS AREA OF YOUR LIFE OR ARE YOU GOING TO SIT BACK LIKE MOST OTHER PEOPLE WHO NEVER WIND UP GETTING WHAT THEY WANT IN LIFE? I’ll talk to you again in a couple of days. Your Friend, David D.

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Is She Attracted To You?

David Wygant — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 19:47:39 +0000

Do you want to get an idea of whether a woman you’re talking to is attracted to you?

Many guys pay too much attention to body language. They will think that if a woman is holding her arms one way or another it means a certain thing.

Too many guys will constantly LOOK for body language clues, but they don’t lead with their own body and their own body language. You have to lead with your body.

Let’s say, for instance, that you’re out on a date with a woman and two of you are talking across a restaurant table. If you lean back in your chair, she’s going to lean back into hers. People (including women) will usually mimic each other’s body language.

This obviously begs the question: So how do you tell the difference between when a woman is just mimicking your body language and when she’s genuinely interested in you?

You want to be the leader in the body language game. You want to be the guy that gets her to do what you are doing.

What I’ll sometimes do on a date is mix it up. I’ll lean back in my chair, and then when she says something particularly interesting, I’ll lean forward. I’ll get her to follow me. If she’s interested in me, she’ll also lean forward toward me.

Another thing that I will do is put my hands on the table as I’m leaning forward. I’ll then watch to see if she puts her hands up there too. Sometimes she’ll move her hands closer to my hands so that the center of the table is literally the dividing line between our almost touching fingers.

If she leans forward and her hands are almost touching mine, then I will move back and pull away. Why? It has to do with teasing. Life is all about teasing.

So then I’ll lean back just like this, and I’ll see what she does next. If she leans back too, then I know that she’s following my lead and mimicking me. I’m leading and she’s following . . . and that’s what you want!

Maybe five or six minutes later, I’ll do the same thing and lean forward towards her. This time I will put my hands over the dividing line and I’ll see how close she’ll move her hands to mine.

She might put her hands over the dividing line as well, onto my side of the table. This means that we’ve broken each other’s personal space boundaries.

These are some of the little clues that you can read into when it comes down to body language. You want to play with it a little bit.

Don’t worry if she folds her arms. If she folds her arms, it doesn’t necessarily mean anything bad. She might just be cold.

Do you see the difference? It’s all about playing — leading and following, leading and following.

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How To Recover From A Bad Breakup

Editor — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 20:40:31 +0000

by David Deangelo.

DATING QUESTION FROM A READER

I am at the end of long long divorce settlement – (18 months) I started dating about six months after our split — meeting most on the internet- Found I was naturally using some cocky and funny but accelerated when I started getting your newsletter.

Meeting them and lining them up has been no problem-but once we are intimate –they want exclusivity–I can’t know what I want yet (except sex)–but don’t want some of the good ones to get away–I keep hearing “you want your cake and eat it too!!”

Also—had one I was dating recently–wanted to know about anybody and everyone else I was seeing —said the openness was good for a relationship.

I disagreed??

rb–michigan

MY COMMENTS

I’m glad you wrote in because I think that this is a topic that is near and dear to a lot of single men. And, even though I have not been married myself, I know what it’s like to be in a relationship for a couple of years and then all of a sudden be single again… and I know what it’s like to start over again.

You have brought up some great points here, so let’s see if I can add some insight.

First, I think that it’s pretty natural for a guy who has just ended a long term relationship to feel rather “naked” when it comes to women and dating. Often times, there are problems and drama when two people break up, and sometimes you even have jealousy and other issues to deal with. So, one of the most important things to do when you’re “getting back into the swing of things” is to remember that things will improve with time. It might take you a few weeks or months after you start dating again to feel like “you’re back”.

You might even feel a little needy and lonely, which I also think is natural after breaking up with someone to whom you were very close.

A critical mistake to avoid is TURNING INTO A NEEDY WUSS AND TRYING TO WIN YOUR EX BACK… OR TURNING INTO A NEEDY WUSS AND TRYING TO WIN ANY WOMAN.

Now, it doesn’t sound to me like this is your problem but, I think that something like this might be part of one of your problems.

Huh?

Whatever… I’ll just keep talking and you’ll figure out what I’m saying. You probably had been in your relationship for at least a few YEARS. When you’re in a relationship for this long, I think that guys naturally start behaving differently than they would if they were just dating a woman. It’s natural and expected that you’re going to see your spouse every day, sleep with her every night (I said sleep with, not have sex with… I know, I know)… and generally be “around” all the time. Well, when you start DATING a woman, one of the KEY factors that she looks at to decide whether or not you’re going to be “relationship” material is HOW MUCH TIME YOU SPEND TOGETHER.

I’m going to bet that these women you’re meeting who want to be “exclusive” with you, are responding that way because you’re spending A LOT of time with them. If you’re only interested in dating and not in forming a relationship, then try this:

ONLY SEE HER ONCE A WEEK… TWICE AT THE MOST.

And only call her once or twice a week as well.

This should solve your “I want to be exclusive” problem. Women tend to get into “relationship mode” when you start ACTING like you’re already in one. And a big part of that is how often you see her. If you only see her once a week or so, a woman will sense, on a deep level, that you’re not ready to “settle down” with her, and that you’re busy doing other things and PROBABLY dating other women. Next, you mentioned that you were dating a woman and she wanted to know about every other woman you were seeing, and that “the openness would be good for the relationship”.

AHHH, THE “R” WORD AGAIN!

I wasn’t there when she said it, so I can’t be sure, but my guess is that what she meant was “The openness would be good for ME because I want to know”, and NOT that it would be good for the “relationship”. This is subtle, but see if you can follow me. You said that you disagreed (with a question mark, which to me means that you’d like to know whether or not I agree with you disagreeing). I’d like to know HOW you disagreed, personally. A lot of guys come across as weak when they disagree because they just sound either argumentative or insecure – or even worse, like they’re trying to hide something.

If a woman said to me, “Tell me about all the other women you’re seeing. I think it would be good for the relationship” I’d probably say:

“Whose relationship are you talking about?”

…and then I’d laugh.

Or I might say, “I don’t kiss and tell” then smile at her.

In any case, I would NOT communicate in a way that says “I’m uncomfortable” or “I’m going to give you what you want so you like me”.

You have to remember that a woman is going to test your limits at ALL TIMES. And it never ends.

If you kiss up to a woman and give her what she’s asking in the moment, she probably won’t respect you in the LONG TERM because she knows that she can get whatever she wants from you.

So, if you answer a question like this by either:

1) Telling her what she wants to know, even though you don’t WANT to tell her…

…or…

2) Telling her that you disagree in a way that makes her think that you’re trying to hide something…

…then she’s going to feel like she “has something on you” and that she can get her way with you in the future. Or she might just up and leave because she feels like you’re seeing other women AND trying to hide it.

I know, isn’t it all so complex?

My personal perspective on this topic is that a man and woman should typically wait at LEAST a few months before getting into any kind of “relationship”. And if I’m dating a woman and she asks me if I’d like to get into a relationship, and if I’m seeing other women, I’ll answer something like this:

“First of all, I don’t think it’s a good idea for a man and woman to have a RELATIONSHIP relationship until after they’ve known each other for AT LEAST 3-6 months. One of the reasons why a lot of relationships end so BADLY is because the two people didn’t take the time to get to know each other first. Also, I think it’s a bad idea to talk about other people that you’re seeing during that time because almost nothing good can come of it” – and I leave it at that.

As you can probably tell, I really believe this. Again, it’s crucial that you don’t answer a question like this in a way that is defensive or argumentative. If you do, you’ll risk being rejected for being sneaky or dishonest. To sum up, it sounds to me like you’re probably used to being in a close relationship, and you’re ACTING like you’re in a relationship with these women that you’re just dating. When you do this, a woman will start to feel those “relationship” emotions and start asking questions and behaving like she’s your girlfriend. If you lean back a little, if you don’t see a woman more than once or twice a week, and if you stop behaving in a way that says “we’re in a relationship now”, then the women will get it. They’ll pick up on your body language and communication and stop acting like girlfriends or wives.

There’s no better or faster way to get your act together and start getting dates with the kinds of women you’d like to date. Often, the end of a relationship is a “second chance” to date women who are more compatible with you or who are more physically attractive.

I’ve found that men who have been in relationships for several years, often find AMAZING insights when they review my materials because they can RELATE to everything so well. It’s a lot easier to see where you’ve made mistakes in the past, and it’s a lot easier to see what you need to do with other women in order to be successful.

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4 Reasons Why Women Reject Men

Editor — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 23:29:58 +0000

Most men HATE the idea of “rejection”. I’m not talking about “don’t like the idea” or “wish it didn’t happen”… I’m talking HATE here.

The idea of walking up to a woman and having her REJECT you causes most men to instantly feel sick in the pit of their stomachs and literally feel a horrible combination of nervousness and confusion.

A guy can psych himself up for an hour to go talk to a woman, but when the moment comes to actually DO IT, EVERYTHING changes. The heart rate shoots up, breathing quickens, eyes dart back and forth, thoughts of rejection fill the mind, and eventually the pressure becomes too much to bare.

Most men find this state so scary that they end up deciding to forget about approaching the women… just to end the discomfort. The temptation is great to just “walk away” because just as quickly as the intense nervousness is triggered by the moment one decides to ACT, it goes away when you decide to “forget about it and walk away”.

The fact that “choosing to walk away” leads to the “instant gratification” of the nervous feeling going away makes it the most popular option. Most of the time (and I’m talking about probably 99% of the time here) men just walk away. They give up before they’ve even started.

I find this topic fascinating.

If I just think about it, I can remember MANY times in my past where I wanted to talk to a woman, but I just didn’t do it. In fact, many of them are so vivid that I can remember the exact setting, what the girl looked like, who else was there, etc… and I’m talking about situations that happened YEARS ago.

These moments obviously made an impression.

I can also remember kicking myself for DAYS afterwards for not approaching and talking to these girls. Can you relate?

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ACTUAL REJECTION AND THE FEAR OF REJECTION..

I think it’s important to realize that there’s a BIG difference between ACTUAL rejection (having a girl who is offended, upset, rude, etc. to you when you start talking to her) and the FEAR of rejection (how you feel when you imagine a woman rejecting you).

I’ve found that for me PERSONALLY, my FEAR of rejection is actually FAR, FAR more painful and difficult to deal with than ACTUAL rejection in the real world.

The main reason for this is that most of the time when a man starts talking to a woman, she is actually rather nice about the whole affair.

Men aren’t “rejected” very often!

If a woman isn’t interested, she usually just says “I have a boyfriend” or “No thank you”… or she’ll just walk away without saying anything at all.

Out of the hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of times that I’ve approached women, I can’t remember any time that a woman has yelled “Get away from me you loser! You are unattractive and the very thought of going on a date with you makes me sick to my stomach!”

I’m sure it’s happened to SOMEONE, but it’s never happened to ME.

The worst I’ve had is a woman making fun of the words I used (telling me that my pickup line was lame) or just walking away. No slaps, no boyfriends beating me up, and no yelling. But here’s the kicker…

You can experience an intense FEAR of rejection EVERY time you consider approaching a woman. Imagine, something you can predict with almost perfect accuracy.

You can be in any situation, anywhere, anytime, and still have FEAR of rejection… which will prevent you from approaching a woman. Ah, the power of the human mind.

HOW TO DEAL WITH REJECTION…

A lot of guys ask me, “How do I deal with rejection?”.

The answer: Don’t worry about it.

If you get “rejected”, you’ll be fine. Really. It’s no big deal, and it doesn’t happen that often. And when it does, you’ll recover shortly thereafter.

You’ll find yourself telling your friends about it, and laughing together. Rejection from a woman is about as painful as getting a “D” on a test.

It’s basically insignificant. The REAL question is “How do I deal with my FEAR of rejection?”.

WHY WOMEN REJECT MEN…

Now let’s talk about those rare instances where a woman actually REJECTS a man.

For the sake of this discussion, I want to define “rejection” as a woman doing something that lets you know that she’s upset and offended that you started talking to her, and she responds in a mean or vicious way to make you go away.

I do NOT consider a woman walking away without stopping to talk to you, her saying “No thank you”, or any other time when a woman just simply doesn’t engage to be “rejection”.

If you DO consider these things to be rejection, please stop reading now, call your mom into your room, and tell her that it’s time you grew up and moved out… and that she’ll get over the fact that she can’t choose your clothes for you and hug you when you have a boo-boo anymore.

I digress…

I’ve found that there are a few main reasons why women actually DO reject men (by the way, it’s VERY rare that I actually get “rejected” anymore… it’s probably happened to me once in the last 100 times I’ve started a conversation with a woman… because I don’t do dumb-ass things anymore).

Here are the main ones:

1. The guy isn’t paying attention, and he does something stupid to begin with.

Some guys think it’s appropriate to walk up to a woman, put their arm around her, and say, “Hey baby, you sure do look hot tonight”.

Some guys don’t see anything wrong with following a woman around all night, staring at her constantly, then walking over with a nervous, sweaty-palmed, stalkerish look and saying, “You remind me of my sister”.

These are bad ideas.

2. The guy doesn’t stop when he should.

If two women are sitting alone at a table in the corner, and one of them is obviously upset, and you walk over to them and say, “Hi, can I buy you a drink?”… and the upset one looks at you and says, “No thanks, we’re in the middle of a conversation” (then looks away from you back at her friend)… and you say, “Aw, cummon, have a drink. You need to lighten up and have some fun”… and she looks back at you and says firmly, “We’re busy”… and you say, “What, are you in a bad mood or something? I’m just trying to buy you a drink”… and she says, “We don’t want a drink”… and you say, “Well maybe your friend does”… and the friend says, “No, I don’t want one either”…

OK, hopefully you get it.

If you ever do something like this, you are a dumb ass, and you deserve to be slapped and have 47 drinks thrown in your lap.

3. Making a woman nervous with your body language.

If you start talking to a woman, but your posture is weak and slumped, your eyes are darting around but not meeting hers, and you’re wearing an unbuttoned flannel shirt with one of the tails tucked in, you’re probably not going to get a favorable response.

If you creep a woman out, things aren’t going to work for you.

4. Not understanding a woman’s body language and other communication.

When you start talking to a woman, she will let you know within a very short time if she’s receptive to talking to you.

If you’ve been reading too many books that say “A woman will signal her availability and interest by flipping her hair, licking her lips, and cocking her head coyly at you”, then get over it.

This stuff happens to Brat Pitt, not to YOU.

And if it DOES happen to you, then skip this part.

When you first start talking to a woman she’s either going to keep talking to you in an open, comfortable way or she’s not.

She’s either going to act like things are cool or she’s going to act like they’re not.

This is an amazing thought, but women get nervous too. They will often stop talking just because they can’t think of anything to say, etc.

But you need to pay attention.

Experience is the best teacher here.

My simple point is that MOST GUYS CAUSE REJECTION by what they’re doing. They aren’t paying attention, or they’re doing things that are offensive.

If you just avoid a few major mistakes, learn how to start conversations with women, and do a few simple things RIGHT, you’ll all but totally avoid “rejection” from the women you approach.

HOW TO OVERCOME FEAR OF REJECTION

The REAL obstacle here is the FEAR.

As I mentioned, FEAR of rejection, or IMAGINING rejection when you should be imagining success, leads to walking away.

You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.

Ironically, I’ve found that the best way to overcome my own fear of rejection was to see that it wasn’t going to actually happen.

The more times I approached women and started conversations and the more I saw that women usually responded positively, the less I imagined things going wrong. This led to a positive feedback loop of me wanting to approach more women and have more success.

Here are a few ideas for overcoming your own FEAR of rejection:

1) Go out to a bar, and watch men approaching women.

Take a Saturday night, and just go out alone. Find a seat at the bar where things are busy, and just watch.

Make sure you visit a place that is REALLY busy, so you can see a lot of people interacting.

Now, pay attention.

You’ll begin to pick out the guys who are approaching a lot of women, asking them to dance, buying them drinks, etc. Watch what happens.

You’ll be able to see for yourself that most of the time, even if the woman isn’t interested, nothing bad happens.

You’ll also see that when a guy tries to grab a woman who’s walking by, makes a crude sexual comment, or just keeps talking when a woman isn’t interested, that the woman’s feelings might escalate and she’ll respond negatively.

You can watch what works and what doesn’t right in front of your own eyes.

This will start to reprogram your mind that women don’t usually “reject” men, even in the most intense situations where they’re being approached all night.

2) Start small.

If you have to, start by talking to women who are PAID to talk to you.

Go to a mall (one of my favorites).

Stores in malls hire attractive young women.

Walk into every store, and start conversations.

Practice making eye contact.

Come up with a few jokes that you can use in any situation (“So, do you own this store? Perfect, then you won’t care if I just take some things…”)

Ask the salesgirls to smell your new cologne (the one you sprayed on your wrist next door) and give you her opinion.

The more you do this, the more you’ll get used to starting conversations with women you don’t know, and having comfortable conversations.

3) Choose one default thing for each situation.

It amazes me that guys don’t think ahead.

They don’t plan what they’re going to do.

As the old saying goes “By failing to plan, you plan to fail”.

You really need to figure out a DEFAULT thing you can do to start a conversation with any woman, anywhere, anytime.

Once you come up with your idea, mentally rehearse it until you could do it in any situation.

Then get out and do it.

HOW TO AVOID REJECTION AND INCREASE SUCCESS

Human beings tend to want to “save face” when it comes to relationships.

We don’t like the idea that another person has outright “rejected” us, and we ALSO tend to not want to “hurt other people’s feelings” by rejecting them.

This is one of the reasons why women will often lie and say “I have a boyfriend” when they don’t.

You must become aware of these “subconscious” processes and motivations, work with them, and eventually become the master of them.

Learn to recognize when a woman is “politely saying no thanks”, and move on.

If a woman isn’t interested in you, forget about it. It doesn’t matter.

Go to the next one. There are plenty.

LEARN HOW AND WHY WOMAN FEEL ATTRACTION FOR MEN

Most men believe that if they could only overcome their own fear of rejection, and learn how to start talking to women, all their problems would be solved.

Not so!

Just because you can start conversations with women doesn’t mean that they’ll feel ATTRACTION for you.

It took me a LONG time to really “get” this.

It took me even LONGER to realize that there is actually a way to make women feel the emotion of ATTRACTION for you… just by the way you communicate with them.

I used to believe that it was a mysterious, lucky accident when a woman felt ATTRACTION. Now I realize that it’s only “lucky” for those guys who don’t understand it (and very few do).

And if you’d like to get an introduction to the main concepts, then download a copy of my downloadable eBook “Double Your Dating“. This eBook is a complete intro to the mind set and techniques you need to understand to start being successful with women. It’s here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook

I’ll talk to you soon,
David DeAngelo

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How To Be The Man Every Woman Wants

Editor — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 03:20:13 +0000

I wanted to share a secret to attracting women that I believe is one of the ULTIMATE advantages you can have.

When I was first learning about how to get past my internal fears… how to approach women and start conversations… how to create attraction and chemistry… and how to take things to the next level… I wound up trying a TON of different “tricks and techniques”.

Whenever I found a new “trick” that worked for me, I felt like I had just put another piece of the puzzle together… that I had gotten just that much closer to REALLY understanding how things worked.

But there was another feeling that happened even MORE often:

It was when I would try something that had “worked” before, but it DIDN’T work this time.

It was the feeling that I must have MISSED something… that I must not REALLY get it.

I’m sure you know exactly what I’m talking about here.

It was probably a couple of YEARS after starting my quest that I had what I consider to be one of the biggest “Ah Ha!” experiences of my life.

Here’s what my realization was:

The guys I knew who were the MOST successful with women didn’t read books to learn a bunch of “pick up lines”… and they didn’t rely on tricks to attract women.

The guys I new who were MOST successful had a certain something about them that just seemed to MAGNETICALLY attract women.

In fact, these guys did and said things to women that seemed like they COULDN’T work to create attraction.

But it worked. It seemed to ALWAYS work.

At first, I just assumed that these guys must be good-looking, or have some kind of natural charm that I would never have.

It seemed like an “unfair advantage”.

Well, I learned that it WAS actually an unfair advantage. But I ALSO learned that it was something that ANY guy can have.

WARNING: What I’m about to say might sound a little “new-agey”… but stick with me.

This “Ah Ha!” led me to an even deeper and more powerful realization:

These men who were consistently successful with women had a QUALITY about them, and a deep UNDERSTANDING of how male/female attraction works…

…SO THEY DIDN’T NEED TECHNIQUES.

Because they had this magical quality, and because they understood how to direct and channel any situation and conversation… they created success without needing the tricks.

In fact, one of my friends who was VERY good with women started LEARNING some “pick up lines” and other tricks, and started doing WORSE with women. True story.

He had the quality, and the tricks messed it up for him!

Well, after really digging into this topic and trying to translate this “secret knowledge”… and how to develop this quality I speak of… into a system that a regular guy could “get” use, I finally create the Master Key.

It’s a Master Key that will unlock doors that NO guy with a bunch of “tricks and techniques” can open.

It’s a key that will attract — AND KEEP — the more desirable and attractive women… the kinds of women that most guys will NEVER even have a chance to date.

I could go on and on about it, but if you’re interested in learning more about this key, then go here and read THIS:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/OnBeingAMan (New Window)

I hope this secret helps you as much as it has helped me in my success with women.

Talk to you in a couple of days.

Your Friend,
David Deangelo

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Comment About Cocky And Funny

Editor — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 19:52:31 +0000

This was taken from a recent comment. I think it really speaks to what we need to focus on to improve our game especially with negs and cocky and funny:

90% of these comments just let me know that no matter how far we are trying to get away from cheezy pickup lines and acting like a douchebag, most guys just don’t seem to get it. I feel like I’m on a high-school forum for either “who can come up with the sappiest line”, or “who can make the girl see how much of a tool I really am?”

Guys, your “negs” are completely out of sync with what we have learned from Mystery, Style, DeAngelo, etc. For some strange reason, a forum devoted to PUA material has been reduced to an SNL skit about “how to be an arrogant jackass that thinks he’s a stand-up-comedian”. Have you learned NOTHING by studying The Game!?

Seriously, 90-99% of you have obviously never read ‘The Game’, watched ‘The Pickup Artist’, listened to any of David DeAngelo’s material, or basically took the time to find out what REALLY works when approaching a set. You are all dooming yourselves to the lives of a greasy scumbag who knows nothing of the teaching from the masters.

Do yourselves a favor. Next time, instead of trying to be Andrew Dice Clay in your next encounter with a female, politely excuse yourself from the set and go to the bookstore. If you are still stubborn and think that laying on the “I’m so insecure that I have to call you a whore and portray myself as a sexual god” will get you somewhere, please buy a really good book from 1976 on pickup lines. I’m sure “What’s your sign?” will be in there if you haven’t thought of that one yet.

If you really care, if you REALLY want to know the tactics and maneuvers that are necessary to move your “game” up a notch, then seek out material by the people I’ve already mentioned. You will immediately find that what is going on in this thread has NOTHING to do with having “game”. Your “game” that is on display here is the entire reason that Mystery and his fellow pick-up-artists have devised a distinct method to AVOID having to lower yourselves to cheezy one-liners.

I fully realize that a lot of you are just starting out, and you want to throw in your (what you think) is prime material. I don’t fault you for that. Just PLEASE, for all of our sakes, at LEAST read “The Game” by Neil Strauss. I will consider anything you decide to indulge yourself in after that just gravy.

I’m not writing this post to belittle you guys that seem to think that flat-out insulting a woman, or forcing a sexual innuendo on them is the right way to sarge. I’m trying to let you in on material that will change your life. If you are too lazy to figure it out, I have no pity on you when you fail constantly with the Asshole/Douchebag lines. Most of what I have seen here are distinctly NOT “Cocky/Funny”. They are the same shitty “pickup” lines that true PUA’s have been honing their craft to get away from.

Anyone that is still listening….STOP reading this post for material. The stuff that these guys are putting forth will only hurt your game. Search harder, read the proven material, download some seminars by David DeAngelo, Mystery, etc., and then come back to this thread. Only then will you see how foolish this whole thing is. “Cocky/Funny”? No, almost all of these comments are Arrogant/Douchey. Tool/Cheezy. They go against everything that we are supposed to be learning, and the entire reason we are part of this forum in the first place. Start over. It’s not hard. All of the material is there if you REALLY want to find it. Good luck guys. You’re gonna need it if you’re still telling women that they fell out of heaven or saying that they are flat-out ugly. Negs are a happy medium. You will learn if you bother to find out. Good God.

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How To Get An Ex-Girlfriend Back

Editor — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 20:10:39 +0000

by David DeAngelo.

So, let’s start with the definition of the word WUSSY…

This word is a combination of the words “Wimp” and another word that starts with P, has a next letter of U, then two of the letter S and finally a letter Y.

In other words, a Wussy (or Wuss), is a guy who tends to behave in a wimpish, submissive, needy, way.

The opposite of a Wussy is Maximus during his first arena fight scene in the movie Gladiator.

The problem with being a Wussy is that women are NOT ATTRACTED TO WEAKNESS… and thus, they are NEVER attracted to WUSSIES.

Never.

Ever.

Ever.

A woman might MARRY a Wussy because he’s either the best she can get, has a lot of money, has courted her for so many years that she finally gives in, or whatever…

But, she’ll never feel ATTRACTION for him.

Women don’t CHOOSE who they feel ATTRACTION for, and they don’t choose the emotions that they feel either.

It just HAPPENS. Bam!

One problem that a lot of guys have to face is TURNING INTO a Wussy over time…

When you start off on the right foot, then gradually turn into a Wuss over time with a woman, that emotion called ATTRACTION starts to go away inside of her.

A woman will tell her friends “I don’t know what it is…but for some reason lately he’s just annoying to be around.” etc.

It BOTHERS and ANGERS women when a man that’s interested in them acts like a WUSSY. In many women it actually triggers these emotions just like dominant behavior triggers ATTRACTION.

Of course, the worse things get, and the more annoyed a woman becomes, the more like a total WUSSBAG most guys act.

It’s one of those “vicious cycles” that usually ends with the woman leaving and the guy sitting there wondering what he did wrong… and him thinking that maybe, if he had just been able to tell her just how much he loved her, that she would not have left him for that other abusive jerk.

By the way, if you want to learn how to DE- WUSSIFY yourself for good, and become a man that is universally attractive to women, then you must go and read this before you read any further:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/OnBeingAMan

OK, so let’s talk about your specific questions:

1. “How do you interpret her behavior? Is she still interested somehow or what?”

I interpret her behavior as NATURAL and VERY, VERY PREDICTABLE.

If you do it again in the future, the same thing will probably happen.

Is she still interested?

Yes, she is.

But not in anything more than being your FRIEND.

You have, with your actions and communication, KILLED the ATTRACTION that she felt for you.

This is something you’re going to have to deal with and take responsibility for.

You turned into a Wuss, and now you’re paying the price.

You have to come to terms with your Inner Wuss before improvement can begin.

2. “Is there – according your experience – any realistic chance to get her back, i.e. to trigger again her interest and attraction?”

Well, this is a sticky question.

There is a CHANCE, yes.

But here’s the problem. Probably 90% of the time when I tell a guy exactly what to do in order to get a girl back, he screws it up… doesn’t do it exactly the way I say, etc.

And, of course, he makes things worse in the process.

THE PROBLEM

Focusing on getting her back will not only lessen the chances, but it will keep you from moving on in your life.

The best thing for you to do is MOVE ON in your life.

Ironically, the way to give yourself the best chances of getting her back is to NOT TRY… instead, go date other women, and be scarce in her life.

In other words, you’re never going to make her feel any ATTRACTION for you again by staying in touch, being her friend, and being “nice”… and by trying to “win her over” again.

It would be nice if things worked that way, but they don’t.

Now, why do guys chase women, and keep doing the WRONG things… even after a woman has left?

In our dealings with women, we guys tend to think things like “That’s not fair” and “I did all the right things” and to feel self-righteous because we’re the good guy… but miss the point and not get the RESULTS we want.

Remember though…

Attraction isn’t FAIR, it isn’t “right”, it doesn’t care how “nice” you are. Attraction can be cruel and painful sometimes.

You know, the irony of your situation is that this girl was probably just as bummed-out as you were about this whole thing happening.

Women HATE it when guys turn into Wussies.

I know, I know… she did things that made you turn into more and more of a Wuss. It’s her fault too… right?

Wrong.

Women do this stuff to TEST you.

They’re not actually TRYING to turn you into a Wuss. But if you DO turn into a Wuss, she realizes that she can’t trust you to be a man and she has to go.

Now, she’s not doing this to hurt you, she’s only doing it because she wasn’t getting the feelings that she wanted with you… and now she’s getting them with Jerk-Boy.

THE SOLUTION

As I mentioned, your best bet in this situation is to MOVE ON. Get on with it.

Most importantly, start dating OTHER WOMEN IMMEDIATELY.

Not in a few days, and not next week. NOW.

And, stop calling your ex. Stop responding to her quickly. Stop being her WUSS-FRIEND.

It’s obvious that the LAST thing you want is to wind up “just being friends” with her… so STOP DOING IT.

Next time she calls, tell her you have a date over at the house, or you’re leaving to meet a woman. Of course, make sure IT’S TRUE, like I said.

Stop being so AVAILABLE.

Get busy enjoying your life.

Get busy dating other women.

If you find yourself thinking about her and wanting to hear her voice, BITCH-SLAP yourself. If you’re feeling weak, have a friend do it.

And when you do wind up talking to her, say the following:

“Hey, calling for more therapy? No-can-do… I have to run to the gym to get in shape for my hot date on Friday…”

You feel me, dog?

And remember…

In this world, “I was a nice guy and did nice things for her” doesn’t cut it. Attraction has a totally different set of rules… and exceptions. And if you want to get and keep an attractive woman, then you’d better learn them.

It’s a skill, and you’re not going to get it by being “nice” and doing everything your mom taught you…

If a woman feels ATTRACTION for a man, she’ll do almost anything to stay with him. If she DOESN’T feel it, then the chances are slim that she’ll stay around.

These rules are even MORE TRUE when you’re dealing with an ATTRACTIVE woman who gets a lot of attention from guys.

The irony of this situation is that I think it’s a lot easier to make a woman feel ATTRACTION than it is to be a Wuss who chases after her, buys her things, and annoys the hell out of her.

I spent a lot of years of my life being a Wuss.

I made all the classic mistakes.

I should probably be awarded an honorary degree in the subject… really.

But, over the last several years I’ve not only learned how to cure myself and evict my Inner Wuss… I’ve also learned how to make women feel ATTRACTION with my body language and communication alone.

I only wish someone would have shown me this stuff fifteen years ago…

If you’re reading this right now and it’s time that you evicted your inner Wussy, and learned how to make women feel ATTRACTION for you without chasing them, buying them things, and giving all of your power away, then listen up…

THE TIME IS NOW.

This stuff isn’t going to fix itself.

And you know by now that more of the same is only going to get you more of the same.

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Overcoming Fear Of Women

Editor — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 04:05:43 +0000

NOTE: One of the most powerful ways to build a strong “Inner Game” confidence is to actually go inside and turn yourself into a MATURE man. I know it sounds a little crazy, but if you’re ever going to have the kind of success that you really want with women (and in life), then you are going to have to do it. If this makes sense to you, then read THIS.

>>>COMMENT FROM A READER:

Hi Obi’Wan De’Angelo,

I was one of, I’m guessing, the heaps of other guys that have trouble with the ladies that are giant procrastinators.

This was a major problem of mine, I’d think about what to do and what to say, only to find that I missed my opportunity in doing so.

Then a few weeks after reading “Double Your Dating” I thought bugger this what am I scared of a little girl who is smaller than me not being interested. What a way to live life. Worried so much about what somebody else might think or say. I’m 19 and had never dated, so I set myself a goal of getting half a dozen dates by the end of the year. Now this may not seem like a lot, but to me it seemed almost impossible.

I started by phoning a girl that is in my course at uni who’s number I already had, and I arranged a study date. When I say ‘I’ she basically organized it, I think she was just waiting for me to show some initiative because she sounded almost ecstatic that I had phoned’.

And although I didn’t jump straight in the deep- end asking a stranger for her number, that was only a step away. Now I have so many girls to choose from it’s almost confusing. Though I prefer being confused than lonely.

So Dave what I’m trying to say is you have improved my life tenfold. Not only am I having a great time seeing different girls, I’m also doing better at my studies because I no longer have in the back of my mind how pathetic I am. I also have made more friends through knowing so many more people. All I needed was that first little step and it soon snowballed, because as you know pretty girls know pretty girls, now it’s just a matter of finding one that meets my now prestigious standards.

Dave IOU my life, thanks.

T.G.
Australia

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Thanks for the great Success Story! Nice!

Ah, the concept that is near and dear to all of us men who have started on the path to success with women and dating…

FEAR.

Fear of rejection.

Fear of embarrassment.

Fear of the unknown.

Fear of what a woman might do if we start talking to her.

Fear of what other guys would think if they knew that we needed help with women.

Fear of what WOMEN would think if they knew that we needed help with women.

Fear of admitting that we’re AFRAID.

…and about 100 others.

But, what exactly IS fear?

And why is it such a problem?

And what can be done to overcome it?

(By the way, as I mentioned at the beginning, if you want to REALLY get past your internal fears, then you need to do DEEP work.) I recommend that you STRONGLY consider the information that I share HERE as well:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/OnBeingAMan

Onward…

Well, let’s start with what fear is, then we’ll move on to some techniques to get past it.

I once heard a great definition of FEAR:

False Evidence Appearing Real

In other words, the things that you feel fear about are usually not real. It’s usually just “false evidence”.

You also might think back about the last 10 things you felt fear around. Now, ask yourself… Did any of those things come true?

In most of the cases, you’ll find that the fear did NOT come true.

I heard once that something like 98% of the things that people fear and worry about never come true.

I’ve found this to be true in my own life as well.

Fear is an emotion, or an emotional state. It’s an amazing and wonderful emotion… because it can help save your life in certain situations.

A hundred thousand years ago, when we were running around in the desert, we needed powerful, motivating emotions like FEAR to save our lives.

When you feel fear (especially if it’s a response to real physical danger) you’ll notice that some AMAZING things happen. Your eyes open up wider so you can see better, adrenaline pumps into your body, your heart beats fast to deliver blood to your muscles, and all kinds of other wondrous processes are triggered.

The PROBLEM is when we experience fear at times when there IS NO real physical danger.

We humans are amazing. We can just IMAGINE things and feel fear in response to the mental images.

And I’m sure you know exactly what the problem is with this… it can IMMOBILIZE you at critical times.

Have you ever seen a woman that you’d like to meet, but you just couldn’t walk over and start talking to her?

No, it’s never happened to me, either.

What was the problem?

Usually, it’s fear.

Fear that she’ll get upset, or fear that she’ll have a boyfriend… or fear that she’ll embarrass you in front of others… or fear that you won’t know what to say to her…

And, of course, when you feel that strong fear emotion, it just FREEZES you and makes you totally ineffective.

So, what’s the solution?

Well, there are several ways to overcome fears.

One way is to do the thing you fear. If you do the thing that you fear, and see that nothing bad will happen, then you eventually overcome it and become programmed not to feel fear anymore.

For instance, if you’re afraid to approach women and talk to them, just DO IT. Go talk to 50 women in the next week and see that most of them will respond positively to you (if you don’t act like a dumb-ass, that is).

Other ways to overcome your fear when it comes to approaching women include:

- Understanding the dynamics of male/female interactions better than most women do.

- Learning how to approach women using the same types of words and body language that the masters use.

- Learning how to use props or other devices to get a woman’s attention without having to “approach” her directly.

- Learning mental techniques to overcome fears or “reset” your emotions instantly, anytime you’d like (this is one of my personal favorites).

- Using mental preparation to be completely ready for anything that might happen.

…and there are several others.

I have spent a lot of time in my own personal life learning about and figuring out how to get past fears and other psychological obstacles with women.

And if you haven’t downloaded my online eBook “Double Your Dating”, then you need to do that now. You can download it right now and be reading it within a few minutes. Get it here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook

You can get past your fears, but you need to learn how…

So make the commitment to yourself, and do it!

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,
David Deangelo

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How To Fix Your “Inner Game” Dating Problems

Editor — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 07:24:18 +0000

A good one from David Deangelo:

I have a couple of PERSONAL questions I’d like to ask you…

You may have never shared these things with anyone before… but I want you to think about them, and be as honest as possible…

Has the lack of women in your life ever made you worry that something might be WRONG with you… but you don’t exactly know what?

Have you ever felt (or do you feel now) that if you could just get that one special girl, those feelings would disappear… and everything would be ok?

Do you secretly fear that this might NEVER happen… that you might NEVER find that “one” girl for you… and that you might spend the rest of your life lonely… and alone? Now, on a slightly different note…

Was there ever a time when you felt that if you could just learn the right “moves”, you would have the success with women you are looking for?

Since then, have you had the experience of learning some great lines, techniques, and strategies that SHOULD work with women… but they just don’t seem to working for YOU?

Do you secretly fear that no matter WHAT you learn… things might never REALLY come together for you… and that you might NEVER really have the success with women you want?

If this hits home with you, you are not alone.

For many of us, these types of “Inner Game” challenges can be a mystery that’s almost impossible to solve.

The frustration and pain can keep you awake at night.

If you’ve ever felt this way… or feel this way now… I can relate.

I’ve been there myself… and I remember it well.

I remember feeling so hopeless that at times I thought it might be easier to just give up and accept things as they were.

The most frustrating thing was that I couldn’t put my finger on exactly what my problem was.

I figured if I could just get a sexy, caring, affectionate girlfriend… I would be “the man”… my friends would be green with envy… most importantly… I would prove to myself and everyone else that I was a man that women wanted.

I secretly imagined on that day… the day I met that “perfect girl”… my pain and desperation would end FOREVER.

And… of course… I figured that if I could just learn the right “tricks”, I’d be able to meet her.

I can even remember making “pictures” in my head about learning to meet women…

I would be able to go up to a woman in a bar… whisper a few words in her ear… then take her straight back to my place for some fun…

I would be able to make a woman fall in love with me the very first time we got together… and keep her interested for as long as I desired…

I would be able to finally meet that special girl I had been looking for… and all of my problems would disappear…

I figured that these techniques HAD to exist… I’d seen guys do this kind of stuff before… so why couldn’t I just learn what those guys did and do the same thing?

I made a plan… and I read all of the books, every magazine article I could find… and I quizzed every woman I knew…

I made friends with some guys who were “naturals” with women… and memorized everything they said word-for-word.

But something was wrong.

I would approach a woman with one of the same lines I had heard one of my friends use… but it just wouldn’t have the same effect.

I would use my skills to get 3 phone numbers from women in a single night… and I wouldn’t be able to get any of them to even meet me for a cup of coffee afterwards…

Then there were times when a woman would agree to meet up with me… only to call and cancel at the last minute… or even worse… not show up at all.

Now… every once in awhile I would end up going out with a girl that I was REALLY into and things would go GREAT… sometimes we’d end up hanging out 2 or 3 times in one week…

But sooner or later… for reasons I couldn’t explain… she would become unavailable or just disappear… and I’d never see her again.

I just couldn’t pull it all together.

What killed me was that I didn’t understand why…

I had all of the “tools”… I knew more “pick up lines” then any of my friends… even the guys who were “naturals” with women!

But why did these friends of mine still have more women in their lives than I did? Why weren’t things working out for ME?

Even worse was the FEELING that I had inside.

I was trying SO hard, but it just wasn’t working for me…

Maybe I’m just an ugly dude… and there was nothing I could do about it…

Maybe I was just too short…

Or maybe the women were to blame. I knew I was a good guy… what was wrong with these women that they couldn’t see it?

Or… as much as I was afraid to admit it… maybe there was something WRONG with ME (this was my SECRET FEAR, actually).

Have you ever felt this way?

Maybe you’ve gone down this same road yourself… and had this same experience.

It hurts.

And the worst part is… it feels like there is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING you can do about it.

You feel like you’re riding a never-ending wave of frustration, pain, and failure… and just when you think you’re about break free, you meet a woman that seems interested in you, but then she doesn’t return a call… or flakes on a date… or tells you she’s not interested… and the wave smashes you back down to the ground where you started. Frustrated, hopeless, and alone.

The really sad thing is that most men experience these painful situations forever. They never escape.

But why?

I believe that the HONEST reason why… is because most men never address their “Inner Game”.

They never learn how to overcome their Inner Game psychological and emotional issues…

Instead, they try to learn “techniques” and “tricks”… hoping that they won’t NEED to address the HARD stuff.

To make a long story short, the BIG changes came for ME when I finally took the time to go INSIDE… and work on my Inner Game issues.

And once I did, EVERYTHING changed for me with women.

Probably the most IMPORTANT change was that I stopped NEEDING women. This one “shift” that happened for me has probably had the biggest effect of ALL.

Once I stopped NEEDING women, I started to attract them LIKE CRAZY.

There’s an old saying “The hungry don’t get fed”.

Well, the same goes with women.

If you’re NEEDY, then women RUN away from you.

If you’re a mature, “real man”… who has his life together… and has taken the time to get his “inner issues” handled, then women can FEEL it.

And they’re attracted like a MAGNET.

If you’ve gone through any of my programs, then you know that I think it’s CRITICAL for a guy to work on his “Inner Game”. In fact, it’s the one thing that guys report as the MOST important thing they’ve learned about success with women.

Until now, there has been NOTHING available for men… that is TOTALLY focused on helping them get their Inner Game together… when it comes to women and dating.

All that is about to change.

I have created a very special DVD program called “Deep Inner Game”. This is a one-of-a-kind program I did with a good friend named “Dr. Paul” (you may have heard him on one of my monthly interviews… or on one of my other programs).

Deep Inner Game was designed with ONE thing in mind: to help you overcome your INNER issues FAST.

And I want you to go check it out.

I’ve put up a special webpage where you can watch some killer sample video clips of the program.

If you want to ELIMINATE your Inner Game issues, then this program is going to CHANGE YOUR LIFE.

Go here to the page where you can watch the sample videos and get all the info:

http://www.DoubleYourDatingInsider.com/DeepInnerGame

David Deangelo

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Why Women Test You, And How To Respond

Editor — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 17:49:51 +0000

Women test men.

That’s the reality of the situation. Women test men RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING, and they keep on testing FOREVER. If you don’t know how to deal with the tests that women throw at you, you have VERY LITTLE chance of improving your success in the dating world.

HOW DO WOMEN TEST MEN?

For most guys, the concept of a woman “testing” them seems a little strange.

Why would a woman WANT to test a man?

What could she possibly gain from it?

The answer: A LOT.

By testing a man, a woman can learn THE MOST IMPORTANT thing about him…

And I’ll share what that is a little bit later on in this newsletter.

TEST: A DEFINITION

So I was thinking about this particular topic today, and I realized that I’ve never looked up the definition of the word “test.”

When I did, here’s what I found:

1. A procedure for critical evaluation; a means of determining the presence, quality, or truth of something; a trial; a test of one’s eyesight; subjecting a hypothesis to a test; a test of an athlete’s endurance.

2. A series of questions, problems, or physical responses designed to determine knowledge, intelligence, or ability.

3. A basis for evaluation or judgment: “A test of democratic government is how Congress and the president work together” (Haynes Johnson).

OK, so take a moment and read those again.

The purpose of a test is to figure something out. It’s a way of getting “true” information about something.

So back to my earlier question… Why do women test men in the first place?

BECAUSE THEY HAVE TO.

If you walk up to a man and say “Hey, how much money do you make?” he can LIE. If you ask him if he is good in bed, he can LIE. If you ask him if he’s strong enough to deal with the challenges of life, support a family, and reach his goals, he can LIE.

Are you with me here?

In other words, if you get to the end of one of your college courses, the teacher COULD just ask you if you have a comprehensive understanding of the material you learned during the course.

But you could LIE.

So the teacher gives you a TEST to see if you REALLY know what’s going on. Well, in the same way that teachers test students, women test MEN. And that means YOU, Sparky. But there’s one LITTLE TEENSY WEENSY difference between the kinds of tests that women give you and the kinds of tests that teachers give you…

Women don’t tell you first… that they’re going to test you!

And they don’t teach you what you need to know BEFORE they test you. They just do it. Right when they meet you. Within the first few seconds, actually.

Why?

Because women don’t have the TIME to deal with all the guys who are interested in them.

And they’re not interested in getting together with a man who doesn’t “get it” in the first place.

Beautiful women aren’t looking for a guy to TRAIN.

And the tests don’t stop… by the way.

If you meet an attractive, interesting, emotionally healthy woman, you can expect to be tested until either:

1) The relationship ends.

2) You or she DIES.

WHAT WOMEN ARE TESTING FOR

Now, women will test men for ALL KINDS of things. Some women will test to see if you have money. Some will test to see if you’ll SPEND your money on them. Some will test to see if you’re intelligent. And some will test to see if you’re loyal. But BY FAR, in my experience, more women will test you initially to see if you’re a WUSSY!

That’s right…

The VERY FIRST thing a woman wants to “know” about you is whether or not you’re a submissive, ass-kissing boy who has no balls.

And if you ARE, then you might as well throw in the towel. If you are a Wussy, and you fail the “Wussy Tests” that she throws at you, then you stand very little chance of succeeding with the woman who is testing you.

Of course, MOST men fail with MOST women… MOST of the time.

As a side note:

There is one exception to this rule. If you act like a Wussy, but you’re willing to pursue a woman for a few YEARS, and deal with the idea that you have about a 1 in 100 chance, then you MIGHT be able to convince her to marry you. But like I said, the chances are VERY slim, and the effort required just isn’t worth it. There is a FAR better way…

THESE TESTS ARE VERY SUBTLE

Probably the most interesting thing about tests from women is that they’re not OBVIOUS. At least, not to most men. In fact, I’d say that 99% of all the tests that women use on men FLY BELOW RADAR.

They’re right out in the open, obvious to other women (and a few men), but for the most part, they go COMPLETELY UNDETECTED. For instance, let’s say that you’re standing at a bar talking to some friends, and you make eye contact with the cute girl standing six feet away from you.

What do most guys do?

They look away.

And they do it FAST.

Of course, most guys will LOOK AGAIN within a few seconds. But it’s already too late.

TEST FAILED.

Here’s another…

Let’s say you’re at a bar talking to a girl, and she says “Hey, buy me a drink.”

You say “Great, what do you want?”

Guess what?

She just told you what to do, and you went for it without a second thought. Or maybe you’ve started a conversation with a group of girls at a coffee shop.

One of them says that she doesn’t like your shoes. You say “Oh, well I wasn’t planning on seeing anyone important today… I just put on whatever I could find.”

In other words, you MAKE AN EXCUSE for yourself. As you can probably guess, that’s a BAD IDEA. In that moment, you have just failed the test with flying colors.

THIS HAS HAPPENED TO YOU

If you think back in your life about all of the situations with women that went BAD, you’ll probably find that you were TESTED, and you FAILED.

In one way or another, you probably missed some VITAL clue that you were being tested, and you wound up failing.

RESULT: She hit the road.

It’s happened to all of us. If I had a dollar for every time…

LOL…

I’ve been through this one so many times in my life that it HURTS. I should probably get the jackass award for most tests failed with women.

And before I give you some tips on handling tests from women, I want to say AGAIN: If you find yourself failing tests from women on a CONSISTENT basis, then you should get yourself some “in- depth” reprogramming on a DEEP level. The best way to do that is HERE:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/OnBeingAMan

HOW TO DEAL WITH TESTS

If you’re going to successfully deal with tests from women, you first need to “get it.”

To say it differently, you need to learn how to RECOGNIZE tests quickly… and know when they’re happening.

What’s the best way to know when you’re being tested?

Well, one way that I KNOW I’m being tested is my GUT. Your gut doesn’t lie. In fact, if us guys would just learn to use this amazing “test detector” called our GUTS, then we’d live happier lives.

Here’s how it works…

Next time you’re interacting with a woman and she does or says something that makes your gut tense up, you’re probably being tested.

Now, I can’t go into all the aspects of how to deal with tests from women… because that would take me several hours.

But I will say that the most IMPORTANT thing to do is EXPECT tests… and then pay close attention to how you’re responding to them.

Most of the things we do with women are NOT CONSCIOUS. When a woman looks at you, and you look away, it wasn’t a “conscious decision.”

It just HAPPENS. All of a sudden, you’re feeling butterflies and glancing away. It happens in an instant.

So you first need to recognize when it’s happening to you. When a woman tells you what to do, she’s testing you.

When a woman tries to change plans or cancel at the last minute, she’s testing you. When a woman asks you to buy her something, she’s testing you.

When a woman nags, whines, or complains, she’s testing you. Learn to SPOT IT when it’s happening. Next, notice how you respond.

You’ve failed a million tests with women already, so don’t worry about ten more. Just notice how you respond.

Most men respond by trying to win the woman’s approval. If she tries to cancel plans at the last minute, you’ll say “Oh, no problem.”

If she complains about something, you’ll say “I’m sorry, let me fix it.”

You know what I’m saying. Again, just notice what’s going on when you respond. Finally, learn how to PAUSE before you respond, and then UNDERSTAND how you need to respond to each test.

Most tests will be tests to see if you’ll allow her to CONTROL YOU. If you DO allow a woman to CONTROL you, you will lose.

And you can take that one to the bank. You will lose in one way or another, almost guaranteed. Women don’t want men that they can control.

So make sure you pass those tests first. The more you pay close attention, the more you’ll see the subtle tests that women are using with you.

And the more of these tests you pass, the more success you’ll have.

YOU MUST GO BEYOND THE TEST

Now I’m going to share with you a secret that’s even MORE IMPORTANT than the idea of tests from women…

If you REALLY want to have success with women, you need to learn how to deal with tests even BEFORE THEY HAPPEN.

Think of it this way…

In some colleges you can demonstrate a level of mastery in an area that allows you to SKIP A LEVEL. In other words, you get credit for taking classes, even though you’ve never taken them.

Well, the same goes with women. There are certain things you can do that will INSTANTLY communicate to a woman that you “get it”… and don’t require the INITIAL TESTS.

Don’t get me wrong, women will always test you… no matter what you do. But you can SKIP TEN LEVELS of the initial testing, and accelerate the process of “getting together” with a woman DRAMATICALLY if you know the right things to do.

And by FAR, the most important of these things is to make a woman feel ATTRACTION for you. Sure, you can show her that you’re a great leader, or self-confident, or that you won’t kiss up to her before she tests you for it.

But this doesn’t actually ACCOMPLISH anything. It just gets you fewer tests. If you REALLY want to skip ahead ten levels, then you need to TRIGGER ATTRACTION inside of her.

As you probably know by now, Attraction Isn’t A Choice.

Women don’t go through a logical process to decide if they’re going to feel ATTRACTION.

It just HAPPENS. But it doesn’t happen very OFTEN.

If you’re one of those rare men who knows how to use your body language, voice tone, and other communication to make women feel ATTRACTION, then you will have the kind of success that most men only dream of.

And you’ll deal with far fewer tests from women. In the last several years that I’ve been studying this area of life called “Success With Women”, I’ve focused on the idea of making women feel ATTRACTION.

It’s something that no one talks about. It’s something that no one understands. As a matter of fact, I’d say that not one in a hundred men understands how to make a woman actually FEEL ATTRACTION.

But I’ll tell you something else…

Learning this particular skill has made ALL THE DIFFERENCE in my life. Now that I understand how to make women feel that powerful physical and emotional response known as ATTRACTION, I have the kind of success and choice that most men only dream about.

The good news: any guy can learn this stuff. I’ve spent a long time figuring out what makes women feel attracted to some special men… and then testing out what works in the real world.

I’ve spent hundreds and hundreds of hours watching guys who are REALLY good with women… and distilling the specific techniques that they use.

I’ve also spent a tremendous amount of time putting together systems that any guy can use to improve his success with women.

I certainly wish this stuff would have been available when I started out. It would have saved me YEARS of frustration.

If you’re just getting started, then I highly recommend that you go download my online ebook “Double Your Dating.” It’s a great introduction to my main concepts, and it contains dozens and dozens of great ideas for meeting women. You can download it now, and be reading it in just a few minutes. Download it here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook

Till next time,
David DeAngelo

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Is “Romance” Attractive To Women?

Editor — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 20:26:06 +0000

You’ve probably noticed that I don’t talk about the idea of “romance” very often.

There’s a good reason for this.

I think that most guys use romance in completely the wrong way, and in the process screw up their chances with the woman that they are interested in. I’m going to take some time here to talk about my personal perspective on romance, how it is misused, and how to use it to really make a woman feel attracted to you. Most guys make one of two main mistakes when trying to be “romantic”:

1) They try to use romance to CREATE attraction.

2) They use TOO MUCH romance, thinking that more
must be better.

Let me ask you this… What does romance mean to you?

I’m serious. Think about it for a minute.

Does romance mean gifts and flower?

Does it mean fancy dinners?

Does it mean candles and soft music?

To me, romance is about showing a softer side of yourself… a more thoughtful side… in a way that is meant to INCREASE the woman’s attraction for you.

Like I just mentioned, most guys either try to use romance to CREATE attraction, or they do too many things in an attempt to “be romantic”, and the effect is lost.

Here’s a quiz:

In general, would a woman think you were more romantic if you:

1) Brought her red roses every time you saw her.

2) Brought her one flower the fourth time you saw her, but it was her favorite flower, in her favorite color.

…???

Here’s another one…

In general, would a woman think you were more romantic if you:

1) Took her to a fancy dinner every time you saw her.

2) Didn’t take her to dinner, but one night cooked her a favorite dish that your mom taught you and told her the story of how it came to be a family favorite?

Do you see where I’m going with these examples?

“Romance” is all about the context of the situation. In other words, little things that are thoughtful, used once in awhile will make FAR more of an impact than trying to do everything you possibly can all the time.

Have you ever seen a T. V. show or movie with a girl holding a flower, pulling off each petal one at a time and saying, “He loves me, he loves me not”? This is a famous cliche… even Madonna does it in her old “Truth or Dare” movie.

What’s going on here? And why is it now such a famous idea that it is almost universally known?

Because it strikes a chord inside of women everywhere! Every woman can relate to the idea of thinking about a man and wondering if he’s thinking about her. Pulling petals off of a flower and saying, “Heloves me, he loves me not”, is just another way of saying, “I can’t stop thinking about this guy and I’m going to keep thinking about him until I know how he feels.”

As you know, if you’ve read past newsletters and/or my ebook, I think that it’s important to CREATE this kind of situation as much as humanly possible. Now, here’s where romance fits into the puzzle… If you’re doing things that you considerto be “romantic” all the time, then she has nothing to wonder about… nothing to think about… there is no challenge or mystery at all.

On the other hand, if you use romance more carefully and keep her on the edge of her seat, so to speak, then a small romantic gesture will cause her to feel GREAT feelings of attraction inside… and cause her to work even harder to get and keep your attention – BECAUSE SHE’LL TRY HARDER TO GET MORE OUT OF THIS ROMANTIC SIDE OF YOU! So what are some things you can do, that women see as romantic, without going overboard?

Well, if you want to do the typical things like flowers, gifts, music, poetry, etc. then do as I said earlier: Use them VERY infrequently. Tease her, bust on her, treat her like a bratty little sister most of the time, then out of nowhere do something thoughtful. But make sure to stay cool when the emotional reaction comes!

She’s probably going to be very happy and want to know “where that came from.” Just tell her that you were thinking about her and move on to the
next topic. Don’t get all mushy, dude. By the way, if you’ve gone out with a woman 47 times, and you don’t know if she likes you, and you’re now thinking, “Oh, hey… great idea! I’ll buy her a flower and she’ll feel attracted to me…” then get a new idea.

Romance isn’t a way to make a woman feel attracted to you.

Romance is a way to AMPLIFY attraction that is already happening.

Read that last part again… DON’T TRY TO MAKE A WOMAN FEEL ATTRACTED TO YOU WITH ROMANCE!

Attraction is created by factors other than gifts, dinners, flowers, etc. If she’s not feeling attracted to you, then showing her that you’re attracted to her probably isn’t going to change it… in fact, it may just push her away.

I know, I know… you once heard about a guy who pursued a woman for 9 years until she finally gave in and married him. Well, that might work, but I don’t have 9 years (unless it’s Cindy Crawford… yeah, I know she’s like 50, but she’s STILL hot).

Earlier I mentioned a couple of great ideas. You can cook her a special meal that has meaning… and tell the story behind it. Stories are romantic, especially if the story contains a love story.

And small gifts can be romantic as well (I don’t like big gifts because they change the dynamic of the relationship and can create all kinds of feelings that it’s a trade of affection for money, etc.).

If you pay attention, a woman will mention something that she really likes. It could be a kind of flower, a kind of music, an author, etc. If you want to be romantic (after you know that she’s attracted to you) you can get something thoughtful then write a card that says, “I was thinking about you, and I found this… thought you would like it. Kiss Kiss.” Use romance as the spice, and not the main dish. Use it to amplify, not as your main strategy. Romance combined with the techniques that I teach is a VERY powerful combination.

HOW TO CREATE A SETTING THAT AUTOMATICALLY CREATES AND AMPLIFIES ATTRACTION…

We just talked about how most guys either have no clue about romance, or they use it too much… which screws up everything for them.

There is one aspect of romance that I have found very useful to know more about and use. It’s the concept of how to create a SETTING that will create more of a feeling of attraction inside of the woman that you are with.

WARNING: What I’m about to share with you is not a magic bullet. It’s no substitute for a cocky, funny personality and great skills. Using this alone will not make you successful with women. With that said… I’ve found that there are a few things you can do in your immediate environment to “accelerate the mood”, so to speak, when you are with a woman.

Women have very active senses… usually much more so than men.

If you have already sparked the attraction between you and her, introducing certain sensory stimulus will usually increase the attraction, and can lead to a more, shall we say “physical” demonstration of that attraction.

OK, let’s say that you’ve had a fun night out with your girl (and of course, because you read Double Your Dating (review) you knew where to take her that was fun and inexpensive) and you’re back at your place. (Of course, she came inside because you learned how to get her to come in from the book too… right?) And then you use the Kiss Test, which you learned when you visited my web site… and you’ve just kissed for the first time. Now what?

Well, most guys make the HUGE mistake of trying to grope the poor girl… which, of course leads to the inevitable “I think that we’re moving a
little fast. Let’s take things slower.” (Translation: “None for you tonight, and if you try that again, none for you anytime in the next 10 dates.”)

Instead, try this:

After that first kiss, pull back and look into her eyes and say, “Yum.” Then stand up and say, “Let me see if I can do something about this setting” in a fun, smooth, kind-of suspenseful tone of voice.

Here’s the recipe:

1) A few candles

2) Some incense

3) A glass of wine (if you both drink and are of legal age)

4) Sade’s – Greatest Hits on low

I know it sounds simple, but let me explain the recipe now that you know the ingredients. Remember the formula “Two steps forward, one step back” that I often talk about? Mix up these ingredients with that concept… and VIOLA! More and MORE AND MORE attraction.

You probably don’t need to learn how to light candles, open wine, and play music. If you do, refer to the instructions that come with the products.

I personally like to introduce these as great ways to interrupt the kissing (and whatever else is going on).

Try this:

1) Kiss Kiss

2) “Let me see if I can do something about this setting”

3) Light candles and incense, lower lighting

4) Kiss Kiss

5) Open wine and put on ‘Sade’

6) Kiss Kiss

7) Watch out… because something good is about to happen.

Here’s what’s going on in her mind:

“Oh, we’re kissing. I’d better not let this go too far.”

“What? Why did he stop kissing me? Oh, candles. I love candles…”

“Wow, this is turning into a make-out session, maybe I’d better put on the brakes.”

“What? Why did he stop again?”

“Ohhh, I LOVE ‘Sade’. Her voice is so sexy. And this wine is nice. Hmm, I wonder why he isn’t trying to jump my bones. Maybe he doesn’t think I’m a good kisser. Maybe he changed his mind. Well I’m not going to let that happen. I’ll show him…”

Do you get it? By simultaneously creating tension while making the setting more and more ‘romantic’, you will stir up her ATTRACTION towards you and make her be the one who ultimately gets so worked up that she can’t help but have you.

Nice.

Of course there are many other things you can do that are romantic. Like sprinkling rose petals on the bed, pulling out some Godiva chocolate, or lighting up the fire and grabbing a blankie (make sure you don’t bring out your teddy-bear from when you were a kid… that might not go over too well). It’s really up to you. The key is to use these things sparingly, and use them with the concepts that you’ve already learned to AMPLIFY THE ATTRACTION that you’ve already created with your COMMUNICATION.

So remember, use these things with women who are ALREADY feeling the attraction, not to create it!

Learn more from David DeAngelo with his book Double Your Dating.

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Ultimate Natural Game

Editor — Sun, 04 Jan 2009 19:13:38 +0000

My friend over in London, Richard La Ruina has been working away for close to a year on a fantastic DVD set. I’ve had a sneak peak and it looks awesome. Watch this to see some of what I’m talking about.

It features top PUAs Gambler, Adam Lyons, and Kezia.

Although I didn’t get a chance to review it yet, I love everything these guys do and if structured Natural Game is your thing, you should check out more here.

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Work That Inner Game

Editor — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 05:20:11 +0000

I thought it was funny that some of you guys hadn’t heard of Deep Inner Game by David Deangelo and Doctor Paul. (Not to be confused with Derek Vitalio‘s Deep Inner Game knock off)

Here’s a clip from Deep Inner Game…

Testimonals:

Check out the rest of the clips at the Deep Inner Game website.

Has anyone seen Deep Inner Game and would like to write a review for the website? Comment below with a valid email, I’m sure we can dig up something free!

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David Deangelo For President?

Editor — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 20:01:06 +0000

This is an interesting news story about Double Your Dating founder David Deangelo:

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