Seduction Chronicles » David Deangelo

What Turns Women On

Editor — Fri, 23 Dec 2011 20:24:26 +0000

AN INTERESTING STORY (OR SO)… There are two basic stories for how men and women “start off” together, and two basic stories for how men and women “end up.”

Through all of time, I’m sure that men and women have been playing out these stories…and I’m sure that they’ll continue to play them out long into the future (that is, unless I have something to say about it…and I do).

THE MEETING STORIES

Here’s “Meeting Story #1″:

Boy is attracted to girl. Unfortunately, boy doesn’t have a clue about how to make girl feel ATTRACTION for him… so, instead he tries to “pursue” girl by offering her dinners, gifts, and flowers. Girl finds boy “nice”, but there are no “sparks”, so she “just likes him as a friend.”

Here’s “Meeting Story #2″:

Boy is attracted to girl. Fortunately for him, boy understands ATTRACTION, and begins to communicate with girl in a way that makes her feel a powerful physical and emotional response for boy that she can’t control. The sparks fly, and boy and girl “get together.”

As I’m sure you know…

In story #1, GIRL is in total control of the situation and both of them know it.

In story #2, BOY is the one who’s in control of the situation.

THE STORIES OF HOW THINGS “END UP” Let’s assume that somehow, boy and girl actually “get together”. Things usually go one of two ways after that…

Here’s “End Up Story #1″:

Boy and girl get together. Boy realizes that he “REALLY likes” girl. Boy begins to act more and more predictable. Boy starts to share “how he feels” about girl too often. Boy becomes more and more submissive. Girl loses that feeling of ATTRACTION that she once had for boy and has no way of explaining or understanding why. Girl leaves boy and boy is left wondering what happened.

Here’s “End Up Story #2″:

Boy and girl get together. Boy understands that no matter how much he likes girl, he cannot let himself become a Wussy who chases girl around “sharing how he feels” and becomes boring. Boy keeps the relationship interesting and he keeps challenging girl. Boy stays in control of himself, and by understanding his role as “The Man” in the relationship, keeps girl interested and attracted to him into the future.

And again, as I’m sure you know…

In story #1, GIRL is in total control of the situation and both of them know it.

In story #2, BOY is the one who’s in control of the situation.

If you look at your experience with women, I’m sure you’ll see that these short stories describe MOST of the experiences you’ve had.

Now, of course there are slight twists and variations, but the message is clear:

YOU MUST UNDERSTAND HOW ATTRACTION WORKS FOR WOMEN AND HOW TO KEEP THE ATTRACTION GOING WHEN YOU MEET A WOMAN YOU REALLY LIKE.

If you don’t understand ATTRACTION and how it works, then you are destined to keep playing out these same stories for the rest of your life. It’s very unlikely that you’ll stumble upon the “magic solution” by accident…

ATTRACTION IS DIFFERENT FOR WOMEN THAN IT IS FOR MEN – VERY DIFFERENT The reality is that you CAN stop this negative pattern if you WANT to.

But the key is:

1) Understanding how ATTRACTION works for WOMEN.

2) Understanding YOURSELF, so you don’t ALLOW yourself to act like a Wussy, become boring and turn a good thing into a bad one…but instead you do the RIGHT things to keep everything on the right track.

If you know how to make a woman feel ATTRACTION for you, then you can control your destiny with women. If you DON’T know how to make a woman feel ATTRACTION for you, then you cannot control your destiny with women.

Read that paragraph again, and think about it for a minute before you go on.

OK, so I mentioned that ATTRACTION is very different for women than it is for men.

Different how?

What do I mean by that? …Well, generally speaking, for a woman, ATTRACTION is a PROCESS… not an “event.” It happens over time, and it becomes stronger or weaker depending upon how well the man in the situation understands how it works.

For a man, ATTRACTION is much more of an “event”, meaning that it’s either there or it isn’t. It really doesn’t matter whether or not the woman understands how it works. (As an interesting side note, if a woman really knows how ATTRACTION works, and her intention is to manipulate a man, it usually works VERY well.)

So, think of a woman’s “Attraction Mechanism” more like a volume knob than a light switch.

It’s like a fantastic, classy old car that needs to warm up for a long time before you can drive it… not like a brand new Honda that you can start up and get right on the freeway with.

Here’s a little secret about women and ATTRACTION: If you’ll just take a little longer in every situation to AMPLIFY a woman’s ATTRACTION, she’ll love you for it…and you’ll experience rewards that will make the extra time you spent seem like the best investment of your entire life.

Here are a few specific tips for you for the “Meeting Phase”:

1) Start with something STRONG, not WEAK.

When a guy finds a girl interesting, he usually turns into a ball of nervous mush. Then, he usually makes the mistake of letting the woman KNOW that he’s nervous and weak.

Don’t do it.

Do something STRONG.

Challenge her.

If she thinks that she’s cool, make fun of her. If she’s smart, argue with her a little. If she’s doing something, tell her that you could do it better.

When you PUSH a little, and show some BACKBONE, she’ll push back. That’s your sign that the GAME IS ON.

If you just chase after her like the 100 other Wussies that have been bothering her this week, you will just be another boring, predictable face in the crowd.

2) Keep the TENSION UP.

One of my favorite concepts is “Never let the line go slack.”

This means that once you SPARK the “chemistry” or “sexual tension”, you need to KEEP IT UP.

Just because she starts doing things that hint to you that she’s interested, doesn’t mean that it’s time to STOP. Quite the opposite, actually.

Turn UP the volume a little. It’s working, so do more!

3) Tease.

The word “tease” has a couple of meanings.

One of the meanings has to do with doing things that are slightly annoying to get a response from someone.

The other meaning is subtly different and has to do with drawing out a response that you want by doing certain things that indirectly trigger it.

Do both.

If you’re about to kiss her, wait until your lips are so close that you can almost feel her… and then STOP. Pull away, and smile.

If you want to know how she feels about you, say, “You LOVE me” in a condescending tone of voice, and see how she responds. If she says “NO I DON’T!” in an exaggerated, mocking way, then she probably DOES “love” you.

Teasing is fantastic. Do more of it.

And here are a few tips for the “End Up” phase:

1) Never become BORING.

Being predictable and boring is a cardinal sin when it comes to ATTRACTION.

Don’t do either. Of course, telling a man not to be predictable is like telling a dog not to hump your leg.Most guys are PAINFULLY predictable. We LIKE being predictable, actually. I get it.

But, when it comes to a woman you enjoy, you’d better figure out a way to STOP IT.

There’s nothing that will kill the sparks faster than her knowing what you’re about to do or say.

2) Don’t hand over control.

Women like men who make decisions and take the lead. Now, I’m not saying that women like men who are overly controlling. What I am saying is that women don’t like guys who are always saying things like, “I don’t know, what do YOU want to do, baby?”

Women don’t want men that they can control, so don’t be one.

3) Respect yourself and keep your own interests.

When a guy meets a woman he likes, he often wants to spend as much time as possible with her.

This is natural, of course.

But there’s a big danger here as well.

If you put your life aside for a woman, you will become less interesting to HER.

In the long run, it’s MUCH better to keep your friends, your interests, and your hobbies, and to spend time doing the things you enjoy…WITHOUT HER. And I think it’s VERY important to keep improving yourself as a person, and continue to be a guy that she can look up to and respect. As soon as you start acting like she’s going to be around forever, she’ll start feeling less and less ATTRACTION for you.

THE BIGGER PICTURE Now, as you read these examples, can you see the bigger picture forming?

Can you see the deeper message?

The deeper message is that you need to understand how ATTRACTION works for women and you need to do those things that keep the ATTRACTION BUILDING FOREVER.

Now, where does this all begin? It begins with YOU.

And it begins with you learning how to control yourself and your emotions. It begins with you understanding the history of how and why men and women become attracted to each other. It begins with you learning the basics of how to use subtle body language and communication to make women feel ATTRACTION for you.

I’ll show you how to spark attraction, build sexual tension and chemistry, and take things to the next level… using powerful (but subtle) body language cues and other techniques.

Discovering “Sexual Communication” was one of the most important steps on my own journey to success with women and dating, and I’d like you to check out my book…so I can teach you what I’ve learned.

All the details, plus some great previews are here.

If you’re fascinated with the topic of ATTRACTION, and you’d like to get an in-depth education on it, then you need to go and download my eBook “Double Your Dating”. You can download it now and be reading it within a few minutes. Download it here.

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,
David DeAngelo

3 Ways To Make A Great Woman Notice You

Editor — Wed, 26 Oct 2011 20:54:48 +0000

Do you know why 99% of men get INSTANTLY REJECTED when they approach a high-quality woman?

I know you think you know the answer, but I can almost guarantee that YOU DON’T.

Fact is, after watching so many men rely on their looks…
their bank accounts…
lame “pick up” lines and memorized “scripts”…

All of this just to get the attention of high-quality women, here’s what I realized:

The REAL reason these guys STILL get rejected has ZERO to do with these things. The *REAL* reason most guys get rejected is simply this:

High-quality women come “pre-wired” with an idea of what they want in their personal “Mr. Right”.

These are the qualities that get their attention in the first place. These are the qualities that make them want to connect more deeply and emotionally with a particular man. These are the qualities that make them want to GET PHYSICAL with a particular man. All of which is why relying on looks, money, “lines” and “gimmicks” are a fool’s errand when it comes to succeeding with great women!

IN REALITY, all of these gimmicks and mind-games usually have exactly the OPPOSITE effect. They make a great woman experience that “Oh no, not this again…” feeling and instantly become disinterested. They instantly send the lethal “signal” that a man is NOT coming from a place of personal confidence and strength. In other words… a place where he could possibly be her ultimate “Mr. Right.” This is why, whenever I talk about approaching a great woman in the “right” way, I’m ACTUALLY talking about sending her the “right” signals, right from the start.

And this is something that YOU (or ANY man) can start doing TONIGHT by doing 3 things when you first meet a great woman:

Buckle in, here they come…

#1: USE PROPER BODY LANGUAGE

SHOCKER: Body language is almost MORE important than words when you first meet a great woman!
This is why most guys INSTANTLY destroy any chance of success by acting nervous… submissive… even (gag) apologetic when they approach a woman.

This sends the INSTANT signal that they aren’t ANY woman’s “Mr. Right” which INSTANTLY shuts down her receptiveness to being approached.

Sounds like a hopeless, vicious cycle, right?

Well, it is. In the meantime, let’s move on to the next way to make a great woman notice you:

#2: START A GREAT CONVERSATION

How many times do I have to say it. When it comes to getting noticed by quality women, the best way to “flirt” is to know how to start (and carry on) a great conversation. And to do it, I recommend that all grown men take a page out of the Boy Scout handbook… and BE PREPARED.

That means always continuing to EDUCATE yourself. It means always having a few “hot” current topics in your back pocket and being well-versed on them. It means mentally rehearsing them if you have to so that you can converse in a smooth, confident way.

Here’s a great way to make all of that happen:

I recommend reading one major newspaper cover-to- cover every day… there’s no better way to get a “crash course” on what’s happening in the world and the ability to speak on it intelligently. Now, mix in some intelligent HUMOR to the conversation (study comedy books if you have to) and you’ll suddenly find TONS of great women opening the door to the possibility that you just might be their “Mr. Right”.

For example:

Once you’ve started a conversation, if a woman says something like, “I usually don’t go out with guys I haven’t known for a long time,” be ready with a cocky / funny observation AND then make it highlight one of your personal qualities!

One of my favorite ways to do it is to say something like, “Gee, I hope you’ve already met your future husband then, and that he’s half as (smart… tall… funny… wonderful… whatever) as me…” See what’s happening there? I’m using the power of being Cocky & Funny… while ALSO signaling my “Mr. Right” qualities.

This works like MAGIC because CONFIDENCE and HUMOR are, by far, the top traits that women use to “size up” a man. There ARE no close seconds. That in mind…

#3: LOWER THE STAKES

No doubt about it: the biggest reason men have trouble with #1 and #2 is because they’re so TENSE… so NERVOUS… even SO SCARED when they meet a great woman. And it’s all because they feel like there’s so much AT STAKE. In other words, most guys are so worried that they’re going “blow it” and embarrass themselves. Or they’re so certain that, if they DO blow it, they’re doomed to never have a chance with a great woman again that they start sabotaging themselves right from the beginning.

This is why I suggest that men look at EVERY first meeting with a woman as one of MANY to come and then act accordingly!

Act like you’re meeting with a good buddy or an old friend for a casual outing… and then BEHAVE that way.

Even better:

Imagine how you’d act on a first date if you were behaving like you KNEW with 100%-certainty that a woman already thought you were her Mr. Right…

What would you do?

Here’s what….

You’d ask MEANINGFUL questions about her deeper interests and passions instead of making nervous “small talk.” You’d PAY ATTENTION to her answers and follow up in smart, appropriate ways. You’d REMEMBER what was important to her, and focus on those subjects.

Okay, I know, I know…

“Imagining” all of this sounds like a big shift in the way most guys think… And YOU’RE RIGHT. It actually IS. But — once YOU can make this change to your so- called “inner game” — it will result in a HUGE change in how easy it is for you to get the attention of great women. In fact… it will start to happen AUTOMATICALLY!!!

Once you do, I’m confident that EVERY part of your life will begin to run more smoothly. You’ll begin to feel like you’re on “auto-pilot” as you make all of the right moves in life and with great women every time… just because it’s all coming naturally (from DEEP inside you) to do it!

Bottom line:

When it comes to getting great women to notice YOU, it’s the qualities that identify you as a potential “Mr. Right” that will peak their interest. So focus on building THOSE traits inside yourself, and you’ll NEVER have to rely on looks, money, canned “lines” or stale “scripts” again…

Great women will receive the signal loud and clear about who you REALLY are (and everything that you REALLY have to offer) and start paying major attention to YOU.

I guarantee it: once this starts happening, you’ll wonder how you ever lived without it and why you waited so long to get it!

Join thousands of other men and download my best-selling ebook Double Your Dating, by clicking here right now.

Until next time…

Your friend,
David DeAngelo

The Quickest Way To Get Her Into Your Bedroom

Editor — Wed, 05 Oct 2011 00:36:09 +0000

QUESTION FROM A READER

David,

WOW!!!! That’s all I can say. I’ve been getting your emails for several months and have since downloaded your book Double Your Dating. I’ve committed myself to improving my “skills” with women and the results have been amazing.

The “Crash and Burn” that most guys are sooo fearful of NEVER happens and very rarely does a girl give you anything but a smile even if she isn’t interested. My latest success was so easy it was almost scary. I met a woman (an 8.5 at least) in a local bar and used the c/f to get her number and set up a date. Went out on the date and it was almost like it was scripted. Pushed the c/f to the extreme all night, teased her, drove her completely crazy and left her house at 5:00 am the next morning.

Here’s the thing, using this material, you will very often hear, “Oh… I can’t believe I’m doing this.. I never do this kind of thing.” Usually I laugh hysterically inside, and respond with the heart felt, “Oh I know, don’t worry about it.” The problem is with this girl it was different. First, even using your vast knowledge, I didn’t expect to be able to get this far with this girl on the first date. She had that intangible “it” that really attracted me to her and I actually don’t think that under normal circumstances she would have taken a guy home but…. most guys don’t have the benefit of the “David DeAngelo Jedi Mind Tricks” either (lol).

Anyway this was Saturday and I called her Monday just to say hi. She was soooo nervous and uncomfortable she could barely complete a sentence. Obviously with everything that happened, I think she was a bit embarrassed and, that’s to be expected, but now I’m not sure how to handle this situation. I’m afraid now that if I’m not REALLY careful that I’ll screw up a chance with a great woman. I get the feeling that she needs a little reassurance that this wasn’t just a one night stand, but I’m not sure if that’s the right thing to do or if it is, how to do it without coming off like a WUSS BAG! I think this girl could be worth some effort……… PLEASE HELP!!!

Thanks for everything,
JH. Monroe, LA.

DAVID DEANGELO’S COMMENTS:

This is a great story, and your story illustrates all kinds of interesting things. I’d like to comment on a few of them before I actually answer your question. The first thing I’d like to comment on is this illogical progression of how you went from meeting this girl to being intimate so fast.

To begin with, you acted cocky and funny, and teased her… “to the extreme”, which somehow resulted in her spending the night with you.

Now, at first glance, this makes absolutely no sense at all… I mean, why would a woman who is obviously very attractive and “in demand” want to get physical with a guy that isn’t buying her things, giving her compliments, and generally kissing her ass all night long?

The answer, of course, is that ATTRACTIVE WOMEN DON’T ACTUALLY WANT A GUY TO DO THESE WUSSY THINGS IN THE FIRST PLACE!

Unfortunately for most guys, our cultures, religions, and mothers have programmed us to be “nice guys” when we’re around women we feel attracted to.

This does two things:

1. Hands all of your power over to the woman.

2. DESTROYS any ATTRACTION that might be present.

Again, I know it’s illogical, but attractive women have AMAZING gut level emotional ATTRACTION responses to men who CHALLENGE them and who act UNPREDICTABLE in a particular way. Part of creating this illogical and desirable response is knowing how to use arrogance and humor together in a formula I call “Cocky & Funny” (which you obviously get).

Of course, there’s a lot more to it, but the key is that you have to STOP DOING WHAT ISN’T WORKING… namely, being a NICE WUSSY BOY.

The second thing I’d like to comment on is when she said:

“Oh… I can’t believe I’m doing this… I never do this kind of thing.”

I’ve talked to a lot of guys who are VERY successful with women about this particular phenomenon, and they all say similar things. It seems that whenever a woman is going to get “physical” quickly, they have to rationalize it “out loud” first. Sometimes a woman will say “I’m not like this” or something similar to slow things down and try to explain away what’s happening.

Don’t let it bother you.

Of course, if a woman says, “stop” or she actually tries to stop you from kissing her (or anything else), then you need to STOP immediately. I’m not suggesting at all that you don’t respect a woman’s wishes. But, you also need to understand that just because a woman is SAYING that “she doesn’t usually do things like this”, that it doesn’t mean she doesn’t WANT to.

The final point I’d like to comment on before answering your question, is this response that she had when you called her back. You mentioned that she was so nervous and uncomfortable that she couldn’t complete a sentence.

I have seen this exact same thing, and I have several friends who have told me stories just like this.

It seems to me that when an attractive woman who is used to being the one in control meets a guy who is super confident, Cocky & Funny, unpredictable, and NOT EASILY CONTROLLED, it freaks her out.

Sometimes she literally doesn’t know what to do, and she doesn’t know how to act. Often, she will be self-conscious about the fact that she “got physical” so soon, or about some other thing… but it really comes down to the fact that she just doesn’t know how to deal with you. This is a great place to be, and don’t let it bother you when it happens. And now, to answer your question… of how to handle this situation.

First of all, don’t start acting TOO DIFFERENTLY.

If you start acting all nice and lovey, you’ll come across in a way that will be confusing… and it will probably make her run.

If you want this to turn into something more, then you need to be cool and calm about EVERYTHING that happens.

If she seems nervous, just relax and make a joke about it.

With attractive women, it’s always a good idea to “lean back” and give her space.

As a rule of thumb, call her half as much as you would normally call a woman, and see her half as much… at least for the first few weeks.
GIVE HER THE GIFT OF MISSING YOU.

And if you’re going to be “nice”, then BE VERY CAREFUL AND DON’T DO TOO MUCH TOO SOON!

When the average guy meets a really attractive woman that is “different” from the others… one that he wants to have a relationship with… he usually starts doing too much. He buys gifts, calls all the time, and gives lots of compliments.

As you know, this is SUPER SIZE WUSS BOY behavior, and it usually results in the woman running away.

In other words, you must not let her nervous state affect YOUR state or YOUR behavior.

KEEP DOING WHAT WORKS.

…and if you’re reading this right now and thinking to yourself “You know, I need to learn this stuff about how to meet and attract women… and how to take things to a physical level fast”, then YOU’RE RIGHT!

I think that every man should invest in himself, and learn this skill.

Unfortunately, most guys never take the time and invest in themselves… and they wind up going their whole lives WISHING that they could attract the kinds of women that they want. Well, I used to be one of the guys who didn’t know what he was doing with women. Now I’m one of the guys who can go out anytime, in any situation and attract women.

What’s the difference?

I TOOK THE TIME TO LEARN.

And if you’d like to learn, then I recommend you learn the things that I learned FIRST.

It’s taken me a long time to figure all this stuff out, and it’s also taken a lot of time, effort, and energy on my part to put it all down on paper and on video… so that any guy can learn from the things I’ve discovered.

I’d like to personally invite you to check out my materials. In a matter of hours, you can learn things that it took me YEARS to figure out… all from the comfort and privacy of your own home.

And if you’re reading this right now, and you haven’t downloaded your copy of my eBook Double Your Dating, then WHAT’S KEEPING YOU?

You can get it now, and be reading it within minutes. Go and download it here.

What It Really Takes To Make Women Feel Attraction [Video]

Editor — Fri, 19 Aug 2011 06:23:12 +0000

Feeling frustrated that all the great women you know are attracted to (or even CHASE after) other guys while they won’t even give YOU the time of day?

Sorry, dumb question… Of course you’re frustrated. It’s why you’re hanging with ME right now. But it’s also why I’m sending you an URGENT VIDEO TIP today… I want to make sure that you hear me LOUD AND CLEAR when I say this:
What it *really* takes to create feelings of attraction in a woman…

…is TOTALLY DIFFERENT than what YOU probably think it is!

I just can’t say it enough:

Making a woman feel attraction does *NOT* depend on your looks.
It does *NOT* depend on how “sweet” and “nice” you are.
It does *NOT* depend how rich you are.

Making a woman “feel it” for you DOES depend on just ONE THING…

Watch below, and I’ll personally explain the illogical “magic secret” of making women start feeling it for YOU:

Once you get the message, I know it will be the beginning of some VERY big changes in YOUR love life. So, sign-up and read my newsletters, download my ebook, and get your dating life where you want it to be within no time.

Your friend,
David DeAngelo

How Beautiful Women Are Different [Video]

Editor — Mon, 13 Jun 2011 22:51:02 +0000

This video was released a few days ago by David DeAngelo, author of Double Your Dating and other dating advice products.

I don’t even have to say it… you feel it every time you’re in the vicinity of a beautiful woman… SHE’S DIFFERENT.

You know what I mean…

She’s accustomed to getting all that “special treatment” in life.
She gets “hit on” all day long (and rejects 99% of the guys who dare to even try.)
She has very specific “requirements” that a man must meet before she’ll even give him a second look.

And you know what?

YOU’RE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT about all of this… but NOT in the way that you think!

That’s why I’ve done this URGENT VIDEO. I want you to understand that YOU can use these facts to SET YOURSELF APART from that 99% of all other guys, and start getting mind-blowing results with beautiful women!!!

Did you enjoy that video? Watch another video by David DeAngelo where he speaks about attraction and dating by clicking here.

Are You A Crazed Self Talker?

David Wygant — Mon, 24 Jan 2011 03:03:57 +0000

Are you a self-talker? Are you one of those people who, when you go out and meet people, can always find a way to turn any conversation around and make it about yourself?

Do you like to talk at people and dominate 75%-80% of the conversation? Or when you meet a group of people and the conversation is about something in which you are not interested, do you always seem to find a way to change the topic of conversation to something that does interest you (and something that will allow you to talk at people)?

Have you ever met a self-talker, or are you yourself a self-talker?

Self-talkers are the worst listeners in the world. All they like to do is constantly talk about themselves, their accomplishments, their achievements, their travels, their works, and whatever else about themselves it might be. They will manipulate every single conversation so it goes in their direction. They are some of the most irritating people in the world. When I run into self talkers I always look the other direction.

It’s funny how many guys (and women) will email me and say, “I joined this group or I was at this party the other day, and I just didn’t have anything at all to contribute to the conversation. Do you ever feel that way?”

If you don’t have anything to contribute to a conversation, it is because you’re not about listening and are a self-talker. It is because all you can ever do is talk about yourself, and you’re not listening to the conversation going on around you. Instead of adding to the conversation, all you are thinking about as you’re standing there is how you can change the conversation so it goes in your direction.

Self-talkers are the most boring people I’ve ever met. People who just talk at you for two hours straight are boring.

I don’t want to hear everything about you and your life. I just want to be able to participate in a conversation with a normal individual.

If you are a self-talker, then it’s time you really started listening to other people. Give the rest of the world a break and start listening and participating in a real conversation.

Read David Wygant’s blog by clicking here

The 4 Reasons Why Women Reject Men

Editor — Thu, 30 Sep 2010 23:32:57 +0000

Most men HATE the idea of “rejection”. I’m not talking about “don’t like the idea” or “wish it didn’t happen”… I’m talking HATE here.

The idea of walking up to a woman and having her REJECT you causes most men to instantly feel sick in the pit of their stomachs and literally feel a horrible combination of nervousness and confusion.

A guy can psych himself up for an hour to go talk to a woman, but when the moment comes to actually DO IT, EVERYTHING changes. The heart rate shoots up, breathing quickens, eyes dart back and forth, thoughts of rejection fill the mind, and eventually the pressure becomes too much to bare.

Most men find this state so scary that they end up deciding to forget about approaching the women… just to end the discomfort.

The temptation is great to just “walk away” because just as quickly as the intense nervousness is triggered by the moment one decides to ACT, it goes away when you decide to “forget about it and walk away”.

The fact that “choosing to walk away” leads to the “instant gratification” of the nervous feeling going away makes it the most popular option. Most of the time (and I’m talking about probably 99% of the time here) men just walk away. They give up before they’ve even started. I find this topic fascinating.

If I just think about it, I can remember MANY times in my past where I wanted to talk to a woman, but I just didn’t do it.

In fact, many of them are so vivid that I can remember the exact setting, what the girl looked like, who else was there, etc… and I’m talking about situations that happened YEARS ago.

These moments obviously made an impression. I can also remember kicking myself for DAYS afterwards for not approaching and talking to these girls.

Can you relate?

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ACTUAL REJECTION AND THE FEAR OF REJECTION

I think it’s important to realize that there’s a BIG difference between ACTUAL rejection (having a girl who is offended, upset, rude, etc. to you when you start talking to her) and the FEAR of rejection (how you feel when you imagine a woman rejecting you).

I’ve found that for me PERSONALLY, my FEAR of rejection is actually FAR, FAR more painful and difficult to deal with than ACTUAL rejection in the real world.

The main reason for this is that most of the time when a man starts talking to a woman, she is actually rather nice about the whole affair.

Men aren’t “rejected” very often!

If a woman isn’t interested, she usually just says “I have a boyfriend” or “No thank you”… or she’ll just walk away without saying anything at all.

Out of the hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of times that I’ve approached women, I can’t remember any time that a woman has yelled “Get away from me you loser! You are unattractive and the very thought of going on a date with you makes me sick to my stomach!”

I’m sure it’s happened to SOMEONE, but it’s never happened to ME.

The worst I’ve had is a woman making fun of the words I used (telling me that my pickup line was lame) or just walking away.

No slaps, no boyfriends beating me up, and no yelling.

But here’s the kicker…

You can experience an intense FEAR of rejection EVERY time you consider approaching a woman.

Imagine, something you can predict with almost perfect accuracy. You can be in any situation, anywhere, anytime, and still have FEAR of rejection… which will prevent you from approaching a woman.

Ah, the power of the human mind.

HOW TO DEAL WITH REJECTION

A lot of guys ask me, “How do I deal with rejection?”.

The answer: Don’t worry about it.

If you get “rejected”, you’ll be fine.

Really.

It’s no big deal, and it doesn’t happen that often.

And when it does, you’ll recover shortly thereafter.

You’ll find yourself telling your friends about it, and laughing together. Rejection from a woman is about as painful as getting a “D” on a test.

It’s basically insignificant.

The REAL question is “How do I deal with my FEAR of rejection?”

If you can overcome your imaginary FEAR of rejection, you’ll be on your way. (Some guys have a type of fear that they might call “terror” when thinking of approaching women.)

WHY WOMEN REJECT MEN

Now let’s talk about those rare instances where a woman actually REJECTS a man.

For the sake of this discussion, I want to define “rejection” as a woman doing something that lets you know that she’s upset and offended that you started talking to her, and she responds in a mean or vicious way to make you go away.

I do NOT consider a woman walking away without stopping to talk to you, her saying “No thank you”, or any other time when a woman just simply doesn’t engage to be “rejection”.

If you DO consider these things to be rejection, please stop reading now, call your mom into your room, and tell her that it’s time you grew up and moved out… and that she’ll get over the fact that she can’t choose your clothes for you and hug you when you have a boo-boo anymore.

I digress…

I’ve found that there are a few main reasons why women actually DO reject men (by the way, it’s VERY rare that I actually get “rejected” anymore… it’s probably happened to me once in the last 100 times I’ve started a conversation with a woman… because I don’t do dumb-ass things anymore).

Here are the main ones:

1. The guy isn’t paying attention, and he does something stupid to begin with.

Some guys think it’s appropriate to walk up to a woman, put their arm around her, and say, “Hey baby, you sure do look hot tonight”.

Some guys don’t see anything wrong with following a woman around all night, staring at her constantly, then walking over with a nervous, sweaty-palmed, stalkerish look and saying, “You remind me of my sister”.

These are bad ideas.

2. The guy doesn’t stop when he should.

If two women are sitting alone at a table in the corner, and one of them is obviously upset, and you walk over to them and say, “Hi, can I buy you a drink?”… and the upset one looks at you and says, “No thanks, we’re in the middle of a conversation” (then looks away from you back at her friend)… and you say, “Aw, cummon, have a drink. You need to lighten up and have some fun”… and she looks back at you and says firmly, “We’re busy”… and you say, “What, are you in a bad mood or something? I’m just trying to buy you a drink”… and she says, “We don’t want a drink”… and you say, “Well maybe your friend does”… and the friend says, “No, I don’t want one either”…

OK, hopefully you get it.

If you ever do something like this, you are a dumb ass, and you deserve to be slapped and have 47 drinks thrown in your lap.

3. Making a woman nervous with your body language.

If you start talking to a woman, but your posture is weak and slumped, your eyes are darting around but not meeting hers, and you’re wearing an unbuttoned flannel shirt with one of the tails tucked in, you’re probably not going to get a favorable response.

If you creep a woman out, things aren’t going to work for you.

4. Not understanding a woman’s body language and other communication.

When you start talking to a woman, she will let you know within a very short time if she’s receptive to talking to you.

If you’ve been reading too many books that say “A woman will signal her availability and interest by flipping her hair, licking her lips, and cocking her head coyly at you”, then get over it.

This stuff happens to Brat Pitt, not to YOU.

And if it DOES happen to you, then skip this part.

When you first start talking to a woman she’s either going to keep talking to you in an open, comfortable way or she’s not.

She’s either going to act like things are cool or she’s going to act like they’re not.

This is an amazing thought, but women get nervous too. They will often stop talking just because they can’t think of anything to say, etc.

But you need to pay attention. Experience is the best teacher here.

My simple point is that MOST GUYS CAUSE REJECTION by what they’re doing. They aren’t paying attention, or they’re doing things that are offensive.

If you just avoid a few major mistakes, learn how to start conversations with women, and do a few simple things RIGHT, you’ll all but totally avoid “rejection” from the women you approach.

HOW TO OVERCOME FEAR OF REJECTION

The REAL obstacle here is the FEAR. As I mentioned, FEAR of rejection, or IMAGINING rejection when you should be imagining success, leads to walking away.

You know the old saying: you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.

Ironically, I’ve found that the best way to overcome my own fear of rejection was to see that it wasn’t going to actually happen.

The more times I approached women and started conversations and the more I saw that women usually responded positively, the less I imagined things going wrong.

This led to a positive feedback loop of me wanting to approach more women and have more success.

Here are a few ideas for overcoming your own FEAR of rejection:

1) Go out to a bar, and watch men approaching women.

Take a Saturday night, and just go out alone. Find a seat at the bar where things are busy, and just watch.

Make sure you visit a place that is REALLY busy, so you can see a lot of people interacting.

Now, pay attention.

You’ll begin to pick out the guys who are approaching a lot of women, asking them to dance, buying them drinks, etc. Watch what happens.

You’ll be able to see for yourself that most of the time, even if the woman isn’t interested, nothing bad happens.

You’ll also see that when a guy tries to grab a woman who’s walking by, makes a crude sexual comment, or just keeps talking when a woman isn’t interested, that the woman’s feelings might escalate and she’ll respond negatively.

You can watch what works and what doesn’t right in front of your own eyes.

This will start to reprogram your mind that women don’t usually “reject” men, even in the most intense situations where they’re being approached all night.

2) Start small.

If you have to, start by talking to women who are PAID to talk to you.

Go to a mall (one of my favorites).

Stores in malls hire attractive young women.

Walk into every store, and start conversations.

Practice making eye contact.

Come up with a few jokes that you can use in any situation (“So, do you own this store? Perfect, then you won’t care if I just take some things…”)

Ask the salesgirls to smell your new cologne (the one you sprayed on your wrist next door) and give you her opinion.

The more you do this, the more you’ll get used to starting conversations with women you don’t know, and having comfortable conversations.

3) Choose one default thing for each situation.

It amazes me that guys don’t think ahead.

They don’t plan what they’re going to do.

As the old saying goes “By failing to plan, you plan to fail”.

You really need to figure out a DEFAULT thing you can do to start a conversation with any woman, anywhere, anytime.

Once you come up with your idea, mentally rehearse it until you could do it in any situation.

Then get out and do it.

HOW TO AVOID REJECTION AND INCREASE SUCCESS

Human beings tend to want to “save face” when it comes to relationships.

We don’t like the idea that another person has outright “rejected” us, and we ALSO tend to not want to “hurt other people’s feelings” by rejecting them.

This is one of the reasons why women will often lie and say “I have a boyfriend” when they don’t.

You must become aware of these “subconscious” processes and motivations, work with them, and eventually become the master of them.

Learn to recognize when a woman is “politely saying no thanks”, and move on.

If a woman isn’t interested in you, forget about it. It doesn’t matter.

Go to the next one. There are plenty.

LEARN HOW AND WHY WOMAN FEEL ATTRACTION FOR MEN

Most men believe that if they could only overcome their own fear of rejection, and learn how to start talking to women, all their problems would be solved.

Not so!

Just because you can start conversations with women doesn’t mean that they’ll feel ATTRACTION for you.

It took me a LONG time to really “get” this.

It took me even LONGER to realize that there is actually a way to make women feel the emotion of ATTRACTION for you… just by the way you communicate with them.

I used to believe that it was a mysterious, lucky accident when a woman felt ATTRACTION. Now I realize that it’s only “lucky” for those guys who don’t understand it (and very few do).

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How To Be The Man Every Woman Wants

Editor — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 03:15:29 +0000

I wanted to share a secret to attracting women that I believe is one of the ULTIMATE advantages you can have.

When I was first learning about how to get past my internal fears… how to approach women and start conversations… how to create attraction and chemistry… and how to take things to the next level… I wound up trying a TON of different “tricks and techniques”.

Whenever I found a new “trick” that worked for me, I felt like I had just put another piece of the puzzle together… that I had gotten just that much closer to REALLY understanding how things worked.

But there was another feeling that happened even MORE often:

It was when I would try something that had “worked” before, but it DIDN’T work this time.

It was the feeling that I must have MISSED something… that I must not REALLY get it.

I’m sure you know exactly what I’m talking about here.

It was probably a couple of YEARS after starting my quest that I had what I consider to be one of the biggest “Ah Ha!” experiences of my life.

Here’s what my realization was:

The guys I knew who were the MOST successful with women didn’t read books to learn a bunch of “pick up lines”… and they didn’t rely on tricks to attract women.

The guys I new who were MOST successful had a certain something about them that just seemed to MAGNETICALLY attract women.

In fact, these guys did and said things to women that seemed like they COULDN’T work to create attraction.

But it worked. It seemed to ALWAYS work.

At first, I just assumed that these guys must be good-looking, or have some kind of natural charm that I would never have.

It seemed like an “unfair advantage”.

Well, I learned that it WAS actually an unfair advantage. But I ALSO learned that it was something that ANY guy can have.

WARNING: What I’m about to say might sound a little “new-agey”… but stick with me.

This “Ah Ha!” led me to an even deeper and more powerful realization:

These men who were consistently successful with women had a QUALITY about them, and a deep UNDERSTANDING of how male/female attraction works…

…SO THEY DIDN’T NEED TECHNIQUES.

Because they had this magical quality, and because they understood how to direct and channel any situation and conversation… they created success without needing the tricks.

In fact, one of my friends who was VERY good with women started LEARNING some “pick up lines” and other tricks, and started doing WORSE with women. True story.

He had the quality, and the tricks messed it up for him!

Well, after really digging into this topic and trying to translate this “secret knowledge”… and how to develop this quality I speak of… into a system that a regular guy could “get” use, I finally create the Master Key.

It’s a Master Key that will unlock doors that NO guy with a bunch of “tricks and techniques” can open.

It’s a key that will attract — AND KEEP — the more desirable and attractive women… the kinds of women that most guys will NEVER even have a chance to date.

I hope this secret helps you as much as it has helped me in my success with women.

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The 4 Laws Of Summer To Get Hot Women

Editor — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 23:28:15 +0000

Imagine one of the hundreds of hot women you’ll see at every pool, beach, and barbecue this summer. Imagine she’s wearing a skimpy bikini… and that she’s surrounded by all of her hot friends. Now… imagine trying to ask her out on a date. So here’s the question…

How does all this “imagining” MAKE YOU FEEL?

If you’re like I used to be, you feel anxious just IMAGINING it… let alone actually DOING IT. But I’m here to tell you it doesn’t have to be that way.

Ready to get THE CONFIDENCE YOU NEED to get ANY WOMAN YOU WANT this summer?

Remember those teenage “summer fun” movies? You know… the ones with hot women in skimpy bikinis who seem to bend over backwards (literally) to get physical with guys?

Well, I sure remember those movies. Probably TOO well. I remember sitting there as a teenager watching them, thinking… “Maybe one day I can get one of THOSE women, too.” But of course years went by, and there I was, still “watching” and “wishing” instead of “doing” and “getting”. I felt hopeless. I felt frustrated. Worst of all, I felt HELPLESS. And, of course, I made all the usual excuses for my failure. I figured I wasn’t handsome enough. I figured my clothes and my car weren’t cool enough. I figured I didn’t have enough money to get a hot woman.

Sound familiar?

But like I’ve said so many times before… the only way to figure out the TRUTH behind a bad situation is to watch what people who are SUCCESSFUL do under the same circumstances.

And when I did that, what I saw totally blew me away. I spent time watching a couple of my friends who seemed to actually be LIVING the plots of those summer movies.

And believe me, none of these guys looked like Brad Pitt. None of these guys had wads of cash to flash around. Not one of these guys drove a Porsche or Ferrari. But every time without fail, these guys left the pool or beach with a bronze, hard-bodied goddess on their arm.

And I went home alone. Again.

Go figure?

But here’s the thing: just by watching what these guys did, it soon became obvious to me. There seemed to be a few subtle, “secret laws” behind all of this “summer fun” they were having… and I WASN’T.

And once I realized that, EVERYTHING CHANGED for me.

In fact, I wrote you a while ago to say that I now consider summer the “Sexual Season”… The time of year that beautiful women “let it all hang out” at sun-drenched beaches, pools and parks…

…almost as if they’re actually TRYING to send guys a “signal” or something. Well, guess what: THEY ARE. And if you’re not receiving that signal (and converting it into MIND-BLOWING SEXUAL EXPERIENCES this summer) then guess what else…

I feel bad for you. I can’t begin to describe what you’re missing out on. It just makes me sad. Excuse me while I shed a tear…

But here’s the REALLY sad part:

If you’re like most guys, you’ll not only MISS OUT on all the amazing opportunities this summer.

…you’ll continue to miss out on EVERY amazing opportunity to meet and get dates with great women all year around, winter spring and fall as well.

Why?

Because there’s a reason that hot women put on skimpy dresses and bikinis and walk around in front of you. You see, when a woman is ATTRACTIVE, SINGLE, and SHOWING YOU WHAT SHE’S GOT… she’s broadcasting a signal that she’s not only open to being approached by guys… but that she actually WANTS it to happen.

But here’s the catch… IT MUST BE DONE IN *EXACTLY* THE RIGHT WAY.

That in mind, here’s where my “secret laws” of summer come in. Without further delay, what you need to know — and put to work for you RIGHT NOW — before the red-hot opportunities of summer pass you by…

#1: THE LAW OF ACCESSIBILITY

Like I’ve said, at no other time of year do SO MANY off-the-hook, beautiful women gather in so many easily accessible places and show off their “assets”.

In other words, you don’t have to be a player – or a mind-reader – to predict where to meet the kinds of women that you’ve been dreaming about all year long. In fact, summer is the ONLY time of year that you can forget the cover charges, rope lines, the crowds at bars and clubs… and gain easy access to throngs of beautiful, AVAILABLE women.

Want to prove it to yourself? Here’s what I want you to do ASAP. Visit your nearest pool, beach, or park. Maybe take a jog or a hike. Walk your dog. (Come on, the exercise will do you good…)

Then take a look around. What do you see?

Odds are, you see a bottomless supply of super-hot women who are INTENTIONALLY showing off everything that they legally can to make guys notice them. And if you’re like most guys, you HAVE noticed these women.

Signal received, right? But the question still remains, what are YOU going to do about it?

#2: THE LAW OF APPROACHABILITY

At no other time of year are so many beautiful, single women more “open” and “receptive” to being approached by guys…

SO LEARN HOW TO DO IT. Like I said, thereis a reason these women choose to walk around in those revealing dresses and swimsuits.

And if they’re SINGLE, almost 100% of the time these women not only WANT to attract guys’ attention. These woman actually WANT to be approached. Yet most guys never even consider doing it.

Why not? Simple.

Because they’re AFRAID. Afraid of not knowing what to say. Afraid of not knowing what to do. Afraid of REJECTION. And because of all this fear, insecurity, and lack of confidence, they never even try to approach these women… year after year missing out on making their dreams of being with one come true at exactly the time they have the best chances of finally making it happen!

Sound painfully familiar?

If so, you need to understand right now that once you have the CONFIDENCE to approach a woman in one of these accessible “summer settings”, it’s actually EASIER THAN IT WILL EVER BE to start conversations and “close the deal” with her. In fact, reports show that summer sun and heat escalate SEXUAL DESIRE.

And that means, a lot of times, these women are not only interested in meeting new guys and talking with them, they’re MUCH more likely to take things to a PHYSICAL LEVEL with them.

And by the way, that includes turning up the bedroom heat with guys they’re already dating.

But still you MUST remember this: Just because a woman is more open to being approached and has increased levels of sexual desire, it DOES NOT mean that she’s easy or a “sure thing”.

It’s still up to YOU to approach her in exactly the right way, and then communicate with her in a confident, in-control way that creates INSTANT ATTRACTION.

Without doing that, all you’ll get is MORE REJECTION. Guaranteed.

#3: THE LAW OF VISIBILITY

I’m embarrassed to have to say this one, it’s so obvious. At no other time of year do guys have such a HUGE advantage when it comes to finding the particular “assets” they’re looking for in their “dream” woman.

So why not take advantage of it? Let’s face it… revealing summer clothes leave VERY little to the imagination, making it the ideal time to “girl watch” and spot your “fantasy woman”… all without looking like a peeping tom or pervert.

(Helpful hint: that’s something you should avoid all year around.)

So during summer’s “sexual season,” feel free to “girl watch” all you want. After all, summer’s like Christmas-time for a guy’s eyes.

And as soon as you see your type this summer, GO FOR IT. But remember: If you DON’T know EXACTLY how to approach a woman in a way that triggers INSTANT ATTRACTION, she’ll simply move on to the next guy faster than you can get your tongue untied.

And if you DON’T know how to carry on the conversation with her, she’ll mentally “check out” as you hem, haw, and finally retreat with your tail between your legs.

Above all…

If you DON’T know how to send the signals that she’s looking for in a potential sexual partner… the kind of signals that make her respond to you by smiling, flirting back, maybe even “innocently” touching you…

…then you WILL get rejected. And then it’s game over.

Period.

But if you learn the secrets of having SEXUAL CONFIDENCE… and then COMMUNICATING THAT CONFIDENCE to a woman right out of the gate, you’ll be golden. You’ll be able to approach and get dates with ANY woman you want, ANY time you want, ANY place you want. No matter how amazingly hot or “unattainable” she seemed at first. No matter what time of year it is.

#4: THE LAW OF SEXUAL ATTRACTION

There are a LOT of reasons that I like to call summer the “Sexual Season”. All the exposed skin, the escalated sexual desire, the free-flowing drinks, the convenient “girl watching”. But as I keep saying… Unless you know how to take advantage of all these opportunities, none of it matters. That in mind, here’s what I need you to take away from this:

During summeris short “Sexual Season,” your chances of successfully meeting and getting dates with the women of your dreams are better than ever.

But actually MAKING IT HAPPEN comes down to this:

You must know EXACTLY what it takes to trigger INSTANT SEXUAL ATTRACTION in a woman, or NOTHING else matters.

You must know EXACTLY how to approach her… start a conversation… communicate that you can deliver the sexual goods or NOTHING ELSE MATTERS. And the reason is actually a bit counter- intuitive.

It’s because, paradoxically, everything that you have going for you during the summer “sexual season” is actually working AGAINST you at the same time.

Huh?

I know, doesn’t seem to make sense, but hear me out.

Sure, summer’s that magical time of year that the hottest women on the planet are at their most open and receptive to meeting guys.

But if you don’t understand how to spark SEXUAL EXCITEMENT in them INSTANTLY so that they want to invest time in you… your chances of getting anywhere with one of these women is absolutely zero.

Got that?

Let me capitalize for clarity: YOUR CHANCES ARE ZERO. And sad truth is…

The dumbest, wussiest mistakes that men make to ruin their chances with beautiful women are also the EASIEST TO AVOID.

In this season of parties, pools and beaches, attractive women have their choice of a TONS OF GUYS.

They always have. They always will.

But here’s what YOU need to carry around in your back pocket…

99.99% of those guys will fail with women because THEY HAVE NO CLUE.

No clue what to say. No clue what to do.

Worst of all, no clue about that secret “sexual language” that every woman looks for in a man the moment he approaches her.

But thanks to me, you can turn all of this into a HUGE ADVANTAGE for YOU.

Best of all, it’s an advantage that will change everything for you not only during summer, but ALL YEAR AROUND.

I mean, it will just plain CHANGE YOUR LIFE.

Why?

Because it doesn’t just apply to meeting and getting dates with hot women in skimpy bathing summer-time suits. It works with ANY TIME of the year, ANYWHERE that you happen to be.

In fact, once you learn this powerful secret “language”, ANY woman you want will feel INSTANTLY and INSTINCTIVELY attracted to you. But here’s the thing:

It literally took me YEARS AND YEARS to figure out this secret language! It took doing endless interviews. Research and study. Trial-and-error.

Honestly, it’s VERY unlikely that you will ever figure out this secret language for yourself. And the PROBLEM is: When you DON’T know how to speak this language (as most men don’t) women will instantly “turn off” and reject you.

Thatis why I need you to understand just this ONE THING this summer and all year long:

Attractive women are “on the lookout” for this secret language RIGHT NOW, as we speak. Yet 99.99% of guys will blow their chances with these women because they have NO CLUE how to “speak” it. Or worse, they don’t have the CONFIDENCE they need to approach these woman in the first place. So let’s do the math, shall we?

When a man does have CONFIDENCE… + he knows how to COMMUNICATE it to a woman… + he knows how to drive a woman wild with anticipation and physical desire it all adds up to GUARANTEED SUCCESS.

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Are You Afraid Of Women?

Editor — Thu, 24 Jun 2010 18:49:02 +0000

What prevents men from being successful with women? Well, the list goes on and on… but one of the elements that TOPS the list is FEAR. There are many different situations that make men feel fear, but I’d like to talk about some of the most common ones… and what to do about them.

First of all, I’d like you to be honest for a moment about this topic.

Do you ever feel FEAR when it comes to women and dating?

Have you ever seen a woman that you’d really like to meet, but you started to feel fear and didn’t do anything about it?

Or maybe you were on a date and you wanted to kiss a woman… but you felt too afraid because you didn’t want to make a mistake and screw up your chances?

Or maybe you even got a woman’s phone number, but you were too afraid to call back because you didn’t know how to start off the conversation or ask her out?

Cummon, seriously…

Have you ever been sitting there with the phone in your hand, dialing a woman’s number, but you had to hang up because you were just too nervous to even talk to her…?

Or out on a date with a woman, and you wanted to kiss her, but you got so nervous at the thought that you just decided it would be better to forget the whole idea and hope for the best…?

Me too. Many times, in fact.

By the way, it’s not exactly FUN to admit that you’re afraid of things.

I’m sure you know that most guys would rather admit in public that they were unsure about their sexual orientation than that they were afraid of women.

Of course, this unwillingness to admit that you have a problem IN THE FIRST PLACE only makes matters worse…

If you don’t admit that you have the problem, then it’s hard to get help and answers to it.

Well, the good news is that you’re not alone.

Almost every guy I’ve known (including myself) has dealt with this issue MANY TIMES with women.

So, STEP 1 is to GET OVER IT. Get over your need to deny that you’re afraid. Just admit that you’re afraid, and come to grips with the fact that you’re human…

STEP 2 is to admit that you’d like to get this particular area of your life handled.

STEP 3 is to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

Once you realize that it’s not that big of a deal, then the improvement can start. On the other hand, if you just stay in denial about it, you’ll probably just look for new tricks and techniques to use on women… which, of course, won’t lead to any REAL improvement.

I personally think that one of the biggest causes of fear when it comes to situations with women is:

PUTTING TOO MUCH IMPORTANCE ON WHAT THE WOMAN THINKS OF YOU AND WHAT HAPPENS IN THAT PARTICULAR SITUATION.

To put it in different words, most guys don’t take action because they’re afraid that they’ll screw up, or that the woman or others around will judge them.

The REAL problem though is that this whole process has become AUTOMATIC, and it happens INSTANTLY the moment most guys see a woman that they’d like to meet. Before they even have a chance to think about the situation rationally, they’ve become nervous, insecure, and upset.

I’m sure you know EXACTLY what I’m talking about.

As humans, we have these incredible minds and bodies, but sometimes they get wired up in ways that aren’t exactly useful for the situations that we find ourselves in. Worse, sometimes our cultures, families, or peer groups teach us ways of thinking that just aren’t useful at all for what we’d like to accomplish.

Here’s something that I realized a few years ago when I was learning for myself how to be successful with women…

I thought about this idea that I was having this instant, automatic fear in different situations with women, and that what I was really thinking was “I don’t want to screw this up” and “I don’t want her to think that I’m a dork”…

And all of a sudden something dawned on me:

IT DOESN’T MATTER.

It doesn’t matter what happens, and it doesn’t matter what she thinks of me.

I realized that the fears I was experiencing were more from PROGRAMMING than from reality.

So, I started to remind myself as often as possible that the fear wasn’t happening because there was any kind of danger… and that my objective in a particular situation wasn’t to have it turn out perfect, IT WAS TO LEARN.

Think about the difference between doing something because it’s important vs. doing something in order to LEARN.

So, for instance, if I saw a woman that I wanted to meet… instead of thinking, “OK, I have to say something charming and original so she’ll like me… and if I screw up I’m going to be embarrassed” – I began to think things like, “I’m going to learn how to get a woman’s phone number within a few minutes of meeting her… and part of learning this is going to be trying a lot of different things that probably aren’t going to work… but in the end, it’s all going to even out because I’m going to have the SKILL that I want.”

See the difference?

Well, let me tell you, that change in attitude made a HUGE impact on my success. I was willing to do and try things that I never would have tried in the past for fear of screwing up…

All because I had the attitude of “I’m going to learn something from this and improve my skills… and it doesn’t matter what happens in THIS PARTICULAR situation”, I was able to improve very rapidly.

And the more I began to apply this idea, the more success I had in ALL areas with women… from the first meeting, to getting them to go out with me, to taking things to a physical level.

So do this:

Go out RIGHT NOW and start a conversation with a woman.

I don’t care if she’s attractive or not.

But instead of having the objective of getting a date, have the objective of LEARNING SOMETHING.

In fact, if you REALLY want to improve fast, go spend a day starting conversations with women, but make the commitment to NOT get any phone numbers or dates all day.

In other words, no matter WHAT happens, you can’t date any of the women that you meet that day.

See if you can just learn how to do a few simple things like say, “Hi” to every woman that walks by… how to maintain eye contact with women until THEY look away… and how to end a conversation “too soon” so she feels a natural vacuum and tries to keep it going herself…

That’s one good idea for dealing with your fears.

If you’d like to read more of my personal secrets for overcoming fear, including specific mental exercises and physical drills, then I’d recommend that you download a copy of my online eBook “Double Your Dating”. It’s full of all my very best thinking on this and many other subjects about success with women.

Just go to here and watch my video presentation.

I’ll talk to you again soon.