***SUCCESS STORY***

Hi Dave,

After reading your book, I put many of your tactics into action. I work in a casino, so I get to meet a lot of beautiful young women. Once I got over the initial reluctance to ask them for their email/phone number, I started getting quite a few numbers in a night.

The other night there was a woman who was so gorgeous, it hurt. I walked over and chatted with her for a few minutes, then asked if she had email. She said “Sure, I do! Let me write it down for you.” Without asking she put down her phone number as well. The younger guys who work for me now call me a “God”. They have no idea how I can do it. Better looking guys are complaining that I get more phone numbers and emails in one night than they’ve got their whole lives. One of the women was classic. She looked like Sheryl Crow and Jennifer Aniston combined. She complained she wasn’t winning on the machine and asked me what the secret was. I said, “I don’t know the secret today, but if I figure it out, I’ll email it to you. All I need now is your email address and your phone number in case email is down.” She was taken aback, but asked for my pen and wrote it down. Now instead of being alone on my days off, I have a lot of options which are all great ones. Thanks for your advice and changing me out of wuss mode. I.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Options are great, aren’t they?

And isn’t it amazing how a woman will give out her email and number if you just talk for a few minutes and then ask for it?

I can remember when I first started learning this stuff… it seemed to me that no woman in her right mind would just give out her phone number to a complete stranger…

But then I discovered that no woman is actually IN her right mind! (Or at least this is my logical deduction, because they all seem to give out their phone numbers and email addresses so readily!)

But to get back to the concept of “options”…

When you, as a guy, have options, it changes EVERYTHING.

When you have a date that evening plus three women to email or call, things are TOTALLY DIFFERENT than when you have nothing going on.

You feel different, you talk different, and you communicate in a different way.

I believe that one of the reasons that attractive women come across so powerfully is because they KNOW that they have options.

And one of the benefits of learning how to be more successful with women and dating is that you learn to CREATE YOUR OWN OPTIONS. When you know that you can walk out the door anytime you want and meet women, it frees up a lot of mental energy that was previously focused on other things. Energy you can use to improve other areas of your life…

Thanks for your email… it’s inspiring.

***QUESTION***

Hey, David.

I’ve read DYD, have been getting your newsletters, totally understand what’s going on. I’ve seen it working, and know it’s for real. But I’ve got a BIG problem. I’ve got to recondition myself from more years than I care to admit of doing things the wrong way. I always idolized superheroes like Batman & Superman who always acted with the utmost respect and decorum. Like muscle-bound male versions of Miss Manners. My heroes were modest, reliable, helpful, well-mannered, and strong (OK — they’re not *totally* lame). Definitely not *cocky*. I always *hated* mouthy guys who are all show and no go.

As for sex, in my younger years it was Catholic training: everything sexual was *evil* (unless you’re a priest hitting on the altar boys), and I was so naive and mixed up I really thought I was going to *hell*.

After I wised up and dropped that it was *sexual harassment* that I kept hearing about all the time. The message I got then is that it’s not OK to be sexual until you’re already going with someone. Of course now I know that that only applies to man who a woman is NOT ATTRACTED TO. OK, so now I *understand*. But am still reflexively *doing* the same wrong things. What’s the best way to actually go about reconditioning my *behavior*? I can be a good smartass when I have the right stimuli, but what’s the best way to practice loosening up with the sex talk? I don’t want to klutz things up with awkward, forced attempts on women who *are* good prospects. I can be cool enough to get dates, but want to take it to the next level. The best thing I can think of is either to practice on female *friends* I’ve already written off or go to places I don’t really care to hang around regularly, like techno-disco meat markets where I probably couldn’t be as crude and crass as the average ass-grabber if I slammed a fifth of Daniels and *tried*.

This may apply to a lot of other guys who are “struggling with the material.” Any better ideas how to get through the learning curve as quickly as possible without poisoning one’s reputation by being tagged an uber-klutz? FB Michigan

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, you say that you’ve read my book, but you need to go back through it… remember, it’s a reference manual, to be referred to again and again… not a fictional book to be used as
entertainment.

If I were you, I’d get online and start chatting with women with instant messenger services and/or in chatrooms, as I describe in Chapter 7.

Bust on them, tease them, talk about every topic you can think of, including sex (make sure you’re talking to women who are of legal age, by the way!).

You’ll find that starting conversations with women online and practicing your skills is a lot more convenient when you can do it from the comfort of your computer. And you’ll see… it’s very easy to talk with women about any topic. Get over your preconceived ideas, and just do it.

And get over this worshipping Batman, dude. Didn’t you see the Saturday Night Live skits where they were mocking him and Robin as the “Ambiguously Gay Duo?”

Not good role models, man.

***COMMENT***

Dave my man,

I’ve been reading your advice for a while now and I have to laugh because I discovered several years ago cocky and funny really work. I am naturally cocky and a smartass to boot, so it usually worked, but not always. Then, my buddy told me something that drives ‘em wild. The dude is 6’3″ and 300 lbs, and he always had a good looking woman on his arm. His advice: Show a little interest, then ignore them. Of course I over simplified it, but you know what I mean. How many men have said that you can’t pick up women in a topless bar? I did all the time, and rarely spent any more money than on drinks for myself. The other guys are feeding the girls dollar bills and getting no where. I’m just an average looking guy, but the honies went for it like mad. You are on the mark and anyone that has problems meeting women should heed your advice. PS: I love the way you bust on the chicks that write to you and say how wrong you are!

D.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

lol… thanks!

Yes, women really love it when you show some interest, but then don’t hang on them. Women, and especially attractive women, LOVE a good challenge. It’s fun for them.

And yes, I do enjoy emails from women… both positive and negative. I just wish more women would write me! (And I wish that when they did write that they’d send PICTURES! I have gotten a few, but cummon!)

***QUESTION***

Wasssup!! I just have to tell ya that i think your a god to all guys out there who have trouble with women! I’ve been reading your e-mails for about two months now and i gotta tell ya, you’re a genius!! I haven’t even purchased the book yet but everything you say makes perfect sense. So i have decided to purchase Double Your Dating. I can’t wait to see how it works out. I have the hardest time meeting women and the bad thing about it is most girls think im good looking. But they think im boring.

Here’s my question to you. Im not sure about the whole c&f thing, how do i be cocky yet not come across as an a&*hole? And I’ve really never been the funny type of guy i just don’t know how without saying or doing something that might make me look like a wussy. Can you help a bro out PLEASE?

DW-ks

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, here’s the basic formula for Cocky & Funny:

Take an arrogant comment, then add humor.

It’s a killer combination. The key is that it HAS TO BE FUNNY. It actually has to make others laugh.

You must make sure that you are Cocky enough, because if you’re only FUNNY, then you will come across as GOOFY, which isn’t what you want.

So, for instance, you might be at a bar, and you’re having a drink. Let’s say your drink has too much alcohol in it, and you’re going to comment on it.

An arrogant comment might be:

“This bartender sucks. There’s too much booze
in my drink.”

Add a touch of humor, and it turns into:

“Whoa, this bartender either loves me or is trying to kill me. This drink is pure alcohol. Is there an AA meeting nearby? Cuz I’m gonna need it when I’m done with this one.”

You feel me?

It’s the COMBINATION that makes Cocky & Funny work like magic. Too little or too much of either and you will come off as an idiot.

And remember, have fun. Practice is what will help you improve.

(If you’re reading this right now, and you KNOW that you need to brush up on your “Cocky & Funny”, then go get yourself a copy of my “Cocky Comedy” DVD/CD program. It’s the ULTIMATE education on Cocky & Funny, and you can only get it here:

http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/CockyComedy/

***QUESTION***

Dave,

Man, life has changed over the last 4 months since grabbing your book and applying C&F! My friends are amazed at how many women I am dating and life is great! One of the most important points I have followed from you is breaking down the whole pickup/dating/score routine and approaching each part as a skill I must learn. Got past the email/phone number part, past the first date and first kiss part, and finally the step towards intimacy. But alas, I’m down to the one skill that I have problems with and that I’ve never seen you really address: The graceful exit skill… Let me explain…OK, I meet a girl, we go out, maybe we end up in each other’s arms, maybe not, but there comes a point when I just want to end it and move on to another girl. I always get nervous with the “Well, it’s been fun, but we this isn’t going to work out so have a good life…” Do I call and leave a voice mail? Do I phone her? Do I break it off face-to-face? What’s the confident, C&F way to leave a girl and not have PLAYER stamped onto my forehead because of it? Loving life, S.R. P.S. You should pay people for referrals as I have got about 10 of my friends to buy your book! HA HA

>>>MY COMMENTS:

You’re a very, very, very bad man.

In the best way possible, of course.

I think the key to dating more than one woman, or to not seeing a woman more than once or twice is to NOT ACT LIKE YOU’RE HER BOYFRIEND FROM THE BEGINNING.

Women will only resent you if you mislead them. So don’t. It’s not necessary.

Just have fun, be straight up, and enjoy
yourself.

You don’t have to break something off if it never was “something” to begin with. Are you with me?

The big mistake is to call twice a day, see her five times a week, act like her long lost love, and then drop her without explanation.

I think you get what I’m saying.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

I have been subscribing to the newsletter for about 6 or 8 months and have purchased your ebook a couple after subscribing. Your information has been invaluable and well worth the price. It has completely changed the way I look at women, I never pine over them anymore and wonder “what’s wrong with me”. Now I know what was wrong with me, I was a wuss! But that’s all changed now and have become the Jedi Master. I’ve even come up with some Jedi Techniques of my own.

At any rate, I met this one girl at a party one night who I knew came with a few acquaintances of mine who I told about the party. I got to talking to her and we talked for a few minutes and poured on the C&F, but I never got her info. I know, I know, the 3 minute technique, but I knew I could obtain it from her friends, and the way she interacted with me, I knew she wouldn’t have minded at all (Important Note: this is my success story, I wouldn’t recommend doing things like this unless you have developed the confidence that your book helps teach). Well, I never had to even asked her friends because two days later, she ended up looking me up in the University’s online student directory and then she looked up my IM name and IMed me with a “mysterious person” message. I immediately figured out it was her and then accused her of stalking me and told her that’s pretty illegal. She almost thought I was mad at her! It was great! Anyways, she is a real quality girl (not to mention about a 9, not perfect, but gorgeous nonetheless) and we set something up to go play pool at a local bar where I again poured it on thick. Now mind you, I hadn’t made any big advances or anything but as she dropped me off back home, she came in to use the bathroom. After she came out, she wrapped her arms around me and let me have a little taste. I said goodnight to her and that was that night. A few nights later, I told her I was going to be cooking and that she should come over which leads me to…

***Tip 1*** One of the best techniques is to invite a girl over for dinner at your place, especially if you know how to cook. I find that many women don’t know how to cook or only “cook” stuff like Mac and Cheese and other junk. The best part about this is they get to see your skill, which is pretty attractive to women when you can make a good meal, and you have the most control because it is your own place. The other part, is make sure you don’t start making dinner until she is already at your place, she’s not getting an entirely free meal! Make her help. If she refuses, use the C&F techniques and have her do something. Put her on a task that’s not too difficult so she can’t mess it up. For example, if you’re making lasagna, make her grate cheese or something (making her wash dishes is rather insulting unless you’re doing most of them and she wants to help, which she just might). And when you’re all done with dinner, take it to the couch and turn on the TV or watch a movie or something. Which brings me to…

***Tip 2*** If you’re sitting down next to a girl that you’re talking to in a private setting and you get a little of that silence, not the awkward kind, but the kind where you just kind of look at each other. If you’re thinking to yourself “should I be kissing her?”. The answer is a screaming “YES”. This can be preceded by the “kiss Test” as well, but I know a lot of guys will still have insecurities about this kind of thing.Think about it this way. If you don’t kiss her, then she’ll probably think you’re a wuss because you don’t have the balls to do something she probably wants you to anyways. After talking with a number of my girl-friends, I’ve found out that if a guy tries to kiss a girl, unless there is an obvious unattraction, she will most likely go with the kiss. At any rate, in this day and age, she’s not going to slap you and walk out the door. It’s not like you grabbed her crotch or something.

***Tip 3*** MC from the Mediterranean asked a question about calling the next day. I just wanted to point out you have already answered this
question in some form and you know what to do! You can generally sense if a girl is sensitive about something like that. If not, send her some sort of message that next day, preferably email, but if you’re on the phone, have something you’re on the way to or busy with. Call, say “hi” and that you had a great time, don’t ask how she’s doing or what she thinks about what or if she had a good time, but find some way to use C&F to make a light conversation that will keep her wondering and even thinking about you. Don’t bring up the sex unless she does so in a favorable manner.

***Tip 4*** Not so much a getting girls technique, but rather something you need to do alone. In your spare time or even when doing mindless tasks, go over your past failed attempts when you have a clear head about them and think about what happened. You’d be surprised at how easy it is to find the things that went wrong. You’ll also be surprised to find out that these are probably mistakes you make all the time! This is the best way to recognize the problem and rectify it so that its not repeated. Your techniques are nearly priceless and have stroked the confidence of guys everywhere. I’ve even recommended it to friends that have some serious wuss problems. I have yet to see if they’ve taken it to heart or even subscribed, but I’ll help them yet! Things are going great with that girl and I know it wouldn’t have happened if it weren’t for your book. Its now become second nature, and you get all the credit. Thanks again Dave Your once Jedi Apprentice, now Master, D.M.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Great ideas… great.

Nothing else needs to be said…

Except that you stole those ideas from me, loser.

Nice!

***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

I’d just like to say your book helped in my confidence level and my cocky/funny routine. I have always been funny and was always successful at making women laugh. I had the problem of, well, closing the deal. I would strike the conversation, make them laugh, and just joke with em, but could never get their #. And I would never ask at the right times, being shot down was a large part of my night.

After reading your book, I met and talked to this girl online. At this point I didnt care about relationships or anything. I just wanted to have fun. So we talk about 3 days online, and I called her maybe 1 time and asked her to lunch. The whole lunch I am making her laugh and break out a little of the cocky routine. She’s laughing and we both having a good time. Later this month it will be 6 months that we’ve been together and I just recently was told, that she tried everything she knew the first 2 weeks to turn me on. Shes easily a “8-9″ and any other man would have given in and been the “proverbial” wussy. Let me tell you cocky/funny/un-clingy = ATTRACTION. It works, it really does! Thanks for the confidence boost. I just have to give you kudos to what you have discovered here. I think you have solved the “8th” wonder of the world: Women and dating.

You da man K.N. Ohio

>>>MY COMMENTS:

You’re welcome…

And you’re right: Most attractive women DON’T KNOW WHAT THE HELL TO DO when they meet a guy that is charming, funny, “un-clingy” and in control of himself and the situation.

They get turned on, they think about you all the time, and they generally feel a level of ATTRACTION that they can’t control (and don’t want to control, because they love it!).

Good job, and I’m glad to hear that you’ve found a nice girl for yourself. MAKE SURE YOU DON’T TURN INTO A WUSS-BAG and screw it up!

***QUESTION***

hey dave,

you are really the man! i started reading your material and realized what i wuss i had been with the one girl i dated. before we were dating i was textbook cocky and funny, but after we were dating i became super-wuss man and i became “just a friend”. well every girl since then has been absoultely begging for my attention (even girls I meet online that live hundreds of miles away that i practice on). i have two or three girls call everyday but i’m always too “busy” to talk for very long (hey i have to watch my sportscenter) I was on an airplane to NYC when this hott girl sits down in the seat next to me (i was window and she was aisle) i had my laptop out and when she sat down i acted like i didnt notice. well a few minutes later i had to put away my laptop so I pulled out a book and began reading it. she then pulls out makeup (yes makeup) and starts putting it on in the plane. i gave her a funny look and said “didnt you have time to do that at home?” Her: “(laughing) i did have time, but i didnt want to. all i’m doing today is flying.” Me: “oh I see…(pause) you’re lazy.” Her: “no i’m not” Me: “sure you are. but then you saw me and decided you want to look good right? Her: (just laughs) Me: “hey, dont worry about it… nothing new to me.” Her: “(laughs) well i mean…” Me: “(interrupting her) it’s fine! dont be embarrassed. you’re not the first woman to try and pick me up this morning.” Her: “(still giggling) how can you be so mean to a complete stranger?”

now i’m stuck… i didnt have anything left to say… so i just said “i dont know” and (luckily) she continued the conversation and i eventually got her email and number and everything. but if you could tell me something cocky and funny that I could have used to respond to that it would be much appreciated. thanks!

J. from OK

>>>MY COMMENTS:

lol… you get it all, and you’re trying to tell me that you didn’t know what to say in this situation?

How about this:

After she said, “How can you be so mean to a complete stranger?” you could have said:
“I’m not being mean at all, I’m just trying to let you know that it hurts my feelings when you treat me like a sex object… like a piece of meat to be used for your entertainment… can’t youjust get to know me for who I am? And then later use all the makeup tricks to seduce me?”

There are all kinds of directions you could go with this… you were doing great.
Just make sure you always end by turning it around, playing hard to get, and getting the email/number.

Try this:

“OK, look. You’re nice and everything, but you’re moving a little too fast for me. Here… here’s a pen. Write down your email address and number, and maybe we can talk on the phone later… then we’ll see.”

Or if you want to get together right after you get off the plane, say:

“Hey, I’ll tell you what. I see that you only want to use me for my charm… but why don’t we have a drink tonight so I can find out if there’s more to you than just the makeup and cheap lines.”

You’re doing great.

***COMMENT***

hi david,

i don’t know if my story fits in with your success story, but here it is for what it’s worth. as a 50 year old dutchman, never been married…..great.. and having lived in holland, the us, mexico, australia, most parts of asia and now the ast 6 months in china, i can say one thing, i totally agree with your c&f concept and also that it is a proven international concept. even though i don’t have your e-book i have been practising your c&f concept all my life in countries where the chicks have different cultures and don’t speak english. funny is’nt, yes, the answer is simple, don’t be a WUSSY, girls are the same everywhere it’s just the more you do c&f the easier it gets! there is not a day or every couple of days that go by without a number to
contact some of these pretty things 18-25 year olds. sometimes i don’t even have to ask, they give me their numbers to me, why because i am c&f, rude, unpredictable, then smile, then rude again and say hey babe just because you give me your number does not mean we are getting layed tonight, i am too busy anyway, just give me your number and maybe i will call you in the next couple of days when i have time. in china it works slightly differently because of the language barrier, so I use body and sign language, think about that one and tend to pick the babes from the shops or hotels where they work(as it is easier to get them after work for some fun) same c&f thing i tell them i’ll be back in 2-3 days, very busy etc. then i drop in the nexy day or so for a quick hello and tell them again that i’ll be back in 2-3 days, this keeps them curious and hungry. when i get back i pick them up near closing time, so i know I am set for the night. the only drawback!! is that as i travel so much is that i stay mainly in hotels and so they are knocking on my door for more, often whilst i am busy with another chick, this creates great c&f scenarios and the funny thing is they want me even more after that! so I am having great fun and i still don’t know how manage to get some of my work done. so great work,david keep it up! cheers, s.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

A 50 year old Dutchman that dates 18-25 year olds all over the world by being naturally Cocky & Funny, huh?

Nice.

Well thanks for your email, I love stories like yours. Stay in touch and share some of your techniques with us!

…and if you’re reading this right now and thinking to yourself, “You know, I need to learn this stuff about how to meet and attract women so I can get rid of that insecure and fearful feeling I have”… then YOU’RE RIGHT!
I think that every man should invest in himself, and learn this skill.

Unfortunately, most guys never take the time and invest in themselves… and they wind up going their whole lives WISHING that they could attract the kinds of women that they want.

Well, I used to be one of the guys who didn’t know what he was doing with women. Now I’m one of the guys who can go out anytime, in any situation and attract women.

What’s the difference?

I TOOK THE TIME TO LEARN.

And if you’d like to learn, then I recommend you learn the things that I learned FIRST.

It’s taken me a long time to figure all this stuff out, and it’s also taken a lot of time, effort, and energy on my part to put it all down on paper and on audio and video… so that any guy can learn from the things I’ve discovered.

I’d like to personally invite you to check out my materials. In a matter of hours you can learn things that it took me YEARS to figure out… all from the comfort and privacy of your own home.

If you haven’t downloaded my online eBook “Double Your Dating“, then you need to go and do that now. You can download it and be reading it in a few minutes from right now. It’s here:

http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/eBook/

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David Deangelo

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***QUESTION***

Hey -

I am 18 years old and just graduated high school. I used to be a MAJOR wuss and when I was younger I was always a shy kid who was picked on a lot because I was a short, skinny kid that never stood up for myself. And worst of all, I never took advantage of high school to get girls! I started getting your newsletter earlier this year and the cocky + funny attitude changed my life in more
ways than one. I hang out with guys that get the hottest high school girls you can ever imagine. Not only do they get 9′s and 10′s, I see these girls obsess over them. I was around them so much that I tried to model thier behavior around girls and I noticed that EVERYTHING you preach about, comes to them NATURALLY. Every tip of advice you’ve given to guys ACTUALLY works, and Ive seen it first hand.

I started using cocky + funny myself and even use lines that Ive seen my friends use in past cases. I saw a HOT girl in the mall and she was checking herself out in a pocket mirror so I said “don’t worry, your hair doesn’t look THATTT bad”. She started laughing even though I just made fun of her! I asked for her email and when she said she doenst have the internet, I used your line “well do you have electricity”? AGAIN the girl laughed, and I ended up getting her phone # and I hooked up with her that weekend!

MY QUESTION – my natural personality has transformed from a wussy shy nice kid to a guy that’s gonna bust your balls, but a nice guy at heart. I made a lot more girl “friends” too, but whenever they try to tell me their sad stories, I let them know Im not their boyfriend and do not care. Whenever I gain the courage to use cocky+funny, it WORKS but my problem is even though I’ve seen this work in action, I fear I don’t know enough cocky+funny lines to keep up a conversation with a girl. Also, do you recommend hitting on random strangers you see, because my friends say they never really hit on strangers unless they have a reason to go up and talk to them. My friends also say to ALWAYS have 5 “project girls” and never focus on one girl. Is this true? please write back.

E from NYC

>>> >>>MY COMMENTS:

It’s interesting, because I actually discovered the Cocky & Funny technique by watching guys who were good with women. In fact, a guy who is now a good friend was trying to explain the concept to me a few years back… and he was the first one to say “Cocky & Funny”. Of course, I had no idea what he was talking about at the time. It really made no sense to me.

But after I started working with it and watching other guys who were really successful with women, I learned how it worked.

It sounds like you’re really getting it – congrats!

As for your questions…

Don’t worry about being able to “come up with enough lines to keep up a conversation”. Just do what you can, and enjoy yourself. A few Cocky & Funny lines used here and there are MUCH better than nothing at all.

If you feel like approaching strangers, great. If you just realize that most women are going to be nice, but some will be either unavailable or unfriendly then you’ll be fine. I have personally had great success meeting “strangers”, and as my good friend Rick says, “Every friend you have, started out as a stranger….”

And as for the “5 project girls”, you’re cracking me up over here. If you like the idea of staying single and dating a lot of different women, then this is the way to do it! Just make sure they don’t turn into your personal “psychological projects”.

Thanks for your email.

***QUESTION***

Hey Dave….

I’m a premed student who has been subscribing to your newsletter for quite a while now. I’ve been meaning to buy your book but im not in the habit of using a credit card so ill have to open an account especially for this. Anyway, i’ve been going out with this girl for 9 months now. She is smart, attractive, and funny. the way i landed her was by being cocky funny. EXTREMELY cocky funny. i was always one step ahead of her. It was kind of like “Dont even TRY to challenge me, im already inside your head!”. everything was cool. but to tell the truth (and no offense) i just kind of got tired of the constant effort…..so i cooled it off a bit not always seizing the opportunity to remind her just who it is she’s dealing with. And i think i got screwed. Now i feel like i’ve turned into a wuss….and i HATE IT!!! no.. I LOATHE IT !!!!!!!!!! When i turn on the macho act she’s a pussy cat again. You see i want someone to whom i can genuinely be…. just nice to, with her appreciating it and NOT taking advantage. i mean since this is a long-term relationship i want someone who will give me a smooth ride without all that continuous maintenance. I dont wanna be cocky and tough all my life with her, sometimes a guy just wants to relax. Is it possible??

F.Z, Lebanon

>>> >>>MY COMMENTS:

Ooooooo, good question.

I’ve seen a trend in the way guys, who are learning to be Cocky & Funny and to stay in control, change.

As they’re learning the techniques, they become more and more attractive to women. Then, they meet a really amazing woman – a woman that was previously “out of their league”, and they decide to start a relationship.

As soon as they start getting closer, the guy begins to put aside the things that worked, and start being more and more submissive… which, of course, drives this new woman away.

Then I get an email saying “I want to be nice and sweet and a good guy but still have all the super hot women calling me 24/7″.

Here’s what I say:

“BEING YOURSELF” IS A PRIVELEGE THAT YOU HAVE TO EARN, NOT A RIGHT.

And the way that you earn it is to learn what it takes to make women feel ATTRACTION, learn what it takes to NOT drive women away, then make these things part of “YOURSELF”.

Are you with me here?

The problem is that “being yourself” for a lot of guys means “being the type of guy that women don’t feel any ATTRACTION for”.

If you can’t make a woman feel the emotion of ATTRACTION, then there’s really nothing I can do to help you. If you’re not willing to do the work and make the changes more or less permanent, then you’re going to have a long uphill battle.

And in your case, you have to realize that this woman was attracted to you for a REASON, and if you stop that REASON, then you’re going to stop the ATTRACTION.

***QUESTION***

Whats goin on Dave?

I would love to say how great your stuff works, but I haven’t had much luck with it as of yet. I have seen it put to good use though. My bro does the whole cocky/funny routine naturally and I see all its power. Most of the time I was Mr. Nice- Guy. and, of course, it didn’t work as much as I would like. Which is why I’m writing this e- mail.(duh)

My problem is I’m missing the key ingredient to your ‘super recipe,’ funny. The way I see it, cocky is like garlic, by itself it is repulsive and disgusting. But when used as a seasoning to another main dish (funny), it can do wonders. I’m missing the main dish. Anyone can be cocky, but I lack in the funny department. So where do I start to fix this?
Thanks, P in NJ

>>> >>>MY COMMENTS:

Humor has a structure, and it can be learned. Some people seem to have an easier time learning how to be funny, but I’ve seen some not-too-funny people become VERY funny with practice.

Read some books, watch Comedy Central, and practice. Start a journal and write down funny lines you hear so you can use them later.

Get with your Bro’ and watch him. Ask him for advice and ideas. Practice. You can learn how to be funny and it’s important that you do if you want to attract women!

As I’m sure you know, my book has some of my very favorite “standard” lines for different situations, plus more on how to create specific humor for specific situations.

For all the details, go to:

http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/dyd

***COMMENT***

Dave,

I know that you put real stories in these letters because I sent one in and it appeared exactly as I had written it. I laughed till I cried over the “fat, pimply, and hairy” story.

You are “Da man” I look forward to your wit in these letters and I must admit I’m going to buy your book.

GJ

>>> >>>MY COMMENTS:

Yes, all of the email letters I print in my newsletters are ALL real. Every single one of them. I wish I had more time in the day, because I get hundreds of them a week…

Thanks for the compliments, and enjoy.

***QUESTION***

Ok David, first off, I would like to say thank you for taking the years that you did to get all of this great info., and then be generous enough to spread the knowledge. Here is my situation. I knew this girl back in high school, and I haven’t seen her since graduation (about 2 yrs ago). I bumped into her the other day and WOW (she is a 9.5 easy). Well, having not yet tried out any of your techniques, I thought “What the hell, let’s go for it.” It worked. The c/f technique was golden. Got her email AND number. Well, we eventually went out and had a great time. A couple of days later, I went over to see her new place, and well, things got a little wild. (it all started with your amazing kiss technique- thanks again) So here’s the deal. She likes me a lot, and I like her a lot, but I have been playing back in order to keep the ugly head of the “wussy” out of the picture. When is a good time (or is there a good time at all) to be serious with her? Do I bust on her all the time, b/c I don’t want her to think I am a jerk? Any help you can give is great.

Thanks again. ME

>>> >>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, I don’t exactly know what you mean by “serious”.

If you mean “When can I talk about how I’m sad because my dog got run over and my inner child needs a hug”, then NEVER is the answer. Well, maybe you can have one “serious” conversation like this on the 10th date, and it can last no longer than 5 minutes.

Just stay away from heavy emotional issues, problems, drama, and general WUSS topics.

If you need a friend, GET A DOG!

lol… I forgot where that line is from, but I love it.

***QUESTION***

Mr. DeAngelo,

Well, I’ve got to say, after trying many, many different methods, yours have been the first ones to work. I cut and pasted your online personal add and sent it out to a few women on a college- oriented site. This is after trying (unsuccessfully) for many months to get any sort of response from the women on the site. Before reading the newsletters, I would’ve typically sent out about 20 e-mails, and got 1 response if I was lucky. This time, however, I sent out about 5 or 6, and got 3 replies the next day! Unbelievable! Now, for the tricky part…getting the number and the date. I’ve got some leads, and I want to keep my C&F attitude up. I’m just normally funny, but need practice at being cocky. (I’m either too subtle, or too extreme, so I’m practicing at finding a middle ground.) But, in the meantime, what kind of C&F response would you give to a University-aged woman?

G.

>>> >>>MY COMMENTS:

Good job.

There are all kinds of great topics you could work with.

You could make fun of the classes they’re taking, bust on them for taking easy classes, accuse them of taking 10 years to get a 4 year degree… the list is endless.

Since you’re going to be meeting these women at some point, make sure you go and do things with them that have “built in conversation value”. Go to interesting, fun parts of town with unusual and interesting shops.

This kind of thing creates all kinds of opportunity for great comments… and it keeps the energy up all by itself.

Now that you’re meeting women online, do yourself a big favor and practice your skills CHATTING with women.

Chatting is great because it slows the conversation down to about 1/5 the normal speed, and gives you time to plan out what you’re saying.

***QUESTION***

Dear Dave,

I’m real sorry but I still cannot figure out how to build bridges after getting the email address. Normally the next day I send the lady an email, she replies and then I can’t think what on earth else to do. My overall goal is to get with her – so can you help me man?

I.M.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yes, I think I can help.

1. Set up a meeting for tea.

2. Have her stop by your place on the way to tea.

3. Have fun, interesting conversation.

4. Invite her back to your place after tea.

5. Use the Kiss Test.

6. Use your creativity and imagination.

Don’t focus too much on “getting with her”, just focus on getting to THE NEXT STEP.

In other words, when you email – don’t say something like:

“Hi, it was great meeting you. I’m single and nice, and you seem like you’d make a great girlfriend for a sweet, desperate loser like
myself.”

Stay off of heavy conversation. Don’t talk about relationships and marriage, etc. Just talk and enjoy yourself. But keep progressing as you do.

As long as you relax and make each progressive step easy and natural, you’ll be fine.

Again, just take it one step at a time.

If you don’t know what the “Kiss Test” is, then download my online eBook right now, and read about it:

http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/dyd

***QUESTION***

Hi David:

I’m 42 and a bald, average, confident guy. After being recently divorced (Dec/01) after 24 yrs and thoroughly confused about dating and what women want. I bought [another dating book] and was even more scared to do any of what was asked to do. I bought your course and coupled with watching the players in clubs I knew C&F was the answer. I used it successfully on over (9) women since Jan/02 all resulting in them wanting much, much more* than I was willing to give. They all call from time-to-time for fun!

*Here is where I have the problem and it might help others trying for this type of relationship. I am single and love my Space and I want to have fun for a while and eventually marry again I’m looking for Her and it takes a while to see if she is Her I get them hooked way too fast and not trying to do so This is how: Women are attracted to C&F, They want fun and excitement; I think I know why they want funny for the fun things to do in life (too many boring guys out there) and the cocky part piques their inner flames to what could happen as far as passion. If when you are passionate with them you have to be a Leader and show them as bad a boy as they can handle. This has in all instances so far lead them to call me and pursue me: the next day and weeks ahead. They want a far deeper relationship. They want C&F in their lives. These are not clingy people (7-9′s) (24-44yrs) and profess to want to be friends first. Email is great as it has a way of helping them say things they wished they could say in person. Do you have any wisdom on how to do C&F and not hit all of her senses?

Thanks Again for C&F J.

>>> >>>MY COMMENTS:

lol… you poor, poor dear. Sounds tough, really.

I think you’re doing fine. You’re on the right track, and I think that you’re going to find an outstanding woman to have a longer-term relationship with.

I personally think that the problem isn’t the techniques you’re using, it’s that you’re now seeing that YOU CAN CHOOSE A WOMAN, rather than having HER CHOOSE YOU… and it’s making you far more SELECTIVE than you were in the past.

When you’re seeing several attractive women at the same time, you begin to realize that you can have whatever you want. You no longer have to settle.

This has the effect of making you a lot pickier about what you’ll tolerate… and it makes you see negatives a lot more clearly in women.

Again, I think you’re doing fine. Just stick with it and you’ll find a great woman to marry again, if that’s what you want.

***QUESTION***

Hi Dave. I don’t think the cocky/funny technique will work for me. I’m 19 y/o, 5′ 3″ and 117 lb. I have an average build, dark hair and blue eyes. I also have a fetish for girls with big bellies. What do you think? Be honest.

SO

Birmingham, England

>>> >>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, if I can get myself to stop laughing, maybe I can answer you!

OK, let’s make sure I have the facts straight here…

You’re five foot three, weigh 117, and LIKE WOMEN WITH BIG BELLIES?

Honestly, I think you’re right… I don’t think that the Cocky & Funny technique will work for you… in fact

…I DON’T THINK ANYTHING IS GOING TO WORK FOR YOU.

Make sure you don’t tell any of your other guy friends about this. It might get ugly.

By the way, you may not have considered this, but women with big bellies usually got them from eating a lot… and my guess is that they might be expensive dates.

Watch out.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave:

Dated someone for 4 years. Turned into a wussy boy a couple times, and both times she left me for the same guy. This guy was a selfish, conceited jerk, but he was the ONLY guy she’s ever dated who she couldn’t wrap around her finger. He was an impossible challenge… and so her sexual attraction to him was enormous. (Hmmm…is there a lesson to be learned here…?) Since we broke up about a year ago, I’ve been reading your newsletters and your ebooks. Now I’M the challenging one. I don’t flatter women with compliments, I don’t buy drinks or flowers, I plit the dinner tab, I don’t always call (or call back) every day, I keep my social life busy and interesting. And I never ever EVER lose my composure with a woman – no matter how much I’m attracted to them. (In truth: I caved to one woman, told her how attracted I was to her, and instantly found myself in the “just friends” pit of no return. Oops. Had to learn the hard way.) Now every time a woman tries to test my level of “wussiness” I completely annihilate them with a cocky+funny comment…and they LOVE me for it. And…of course…guess who suddenly wants to date me again…

Thanks D, M.S. Chicago

P.S. Took this off the end of the 1st paragraph above…it was getting too long, but I love this perspective from a woman: While investigating this illogical phenomenon, I asked a somewhat- attractive female friend of mine “so…can you shed any light onto the whole ‘why women are attracted to jerks’ idea?” And her answer (quote): “Because we’re too leery of a nice guy. Nice guys creep me out. They seem like I can walk ll over them and I hate that. Women want a bit of a challenge.”

>>>MY COMMENTS:

This is truth from the mountain. Read it 100 times a day.

Print it and tape it to your computer monitor.

Put a copy in your wallet… next to the money so you see it often.

Put one on your car sun visor and mirror.

And go read it again now.

***QUESTION***

Yes Dave, you are 100% correct. Even us older, fatter, grayer, slower wusses can learn new tricks. I went from a 4 time loser to being called biggest old stud in town! Now that was a hell of an ego boost! Especially since I’m 48 and close to 300 lbs. and yes, at the moment, I have steady dates for 3 days of the week every week and 5 others professing their love for me if only I will come take them away.

Here are what I found to work:

1) Women over 35 expect you to be extremely inventive with a cocky funny line or extremely truthful. They all claim it is because they have had so many used on them, they are totally immune to them. I tend to go the extremely truthful route. the ie. you look like the type of woman who would like a funny witty, intelligent, romantic friend. Have you found any lately??? I want to shake their hand. Or something similar.

2) If you are emailing back and forth and they want your picture within the first couple of exchanges, run do not walk, that lady to the discard pile immediately. Most of those are so shallow they can not and will not see what they are doing, no matter how funny and blunt you are. I even tried the “what’s in it for me?” line, only to get the reply of “me stupid, but only if I like your picture”

3) When the lady says I don’t think I’m really your type, you look them straight in the eye and say “ok, plenty more where you came from” and turn and walk away. 9 out of 10 of them will be calling you in 48 hours.

4) They all know about arranging dates for the week and finding the dates on the weekend. So tell them you only have like Friday, Saturday OR Sunday open but not all. Most will tell you to rearrange your week to fit them in. The ones really really interested will call you on Saturday to see if you can go out on the spur of the moment.

5) I tell them all I am too much to handle and too much to love, so being friends is just perfect. But I have zero experience in this dating more than one woman thing at a time. Do you have any advice. Especially since I am sure to make a lot of mistakes. Yeah, they all want to arrange more time with me.

So you see, your techniques work. Even my 21 y/o daughter who reads these occasionally says, “I can’t agree all the way, but damn he sure got the last 5 guys I dated nailed”

Keep up the good work Dave.

M.

>>> >>>MY COMMENTS:

Wow, more priceless wisdom.

To answer your question, the way to see more than one woman at a time is to NOT SEE ANY OF THEM TOO OFTEN.

When you see or talk to a woman more than once or twice a week, it kicks in the natural “relationship” emotions and patterns of
communication and behavior.

If you keep things to once a week, and sometimes twice, you’ll tend to avoid this.

It’s also good to tell the women that you’re seeing, that you don’t think it’s a good idea to get into a relationship too quickly with someone you just met (I believe this is a very important idea, myself).

Thanks for the great ideas.

***QUESTION***

Hi David,

I thoroughly enjoyed reading your book…very enlightening. I’ve always found myself attracting girls I’m not romantically interested in, while crashing and burning with the hotties. It was very confusing until I read your book. I realize now that I was a wuss with the hotties by being a typical “nice guy”, and that the more I acted indifferent with the girls I didn’t like, the more they ate it up. You gave me a new perspective on what makes attraction work, and I’m glad to see that your book pointed out that you don’t have to be a jerk to be successful.

My game has improved but it still requires some refining. Lately I find I’m stalling out between the first and second date. So I’m wondering if I’m screwing up the date itself or the follow-through. Here are the steps I take after a date:

1) I call within two days to say I had a good time and basically make contact. I end the conversation first, and let her know I’ll give her a shout in a couple days…just so I don’t seem like I’m rushing into a second date.

2) I let two or three days pass and call to make arrangements for a second date. At this point I usually get a vague answer like “lets set something up for next week”…and then it never happens.

Where is this falling apart and what kind of follow- through do you use?

Thanks for the help,

SF London, Ontario

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I’m going to have to guess at a few things, but I’ll give it a shot.

From the sounds of it, you need to:

1. Stop with the “I had a good time” type comments when you call for a follow up. You might experiment with waiting longer to call… or waiting less time to call. See what works best for you. But don’t be so “nice”.

2. Do more things to make your date feel ATTRACTION. Use what you’ve learned to really turn the dial up. You might test progressing further on the first date… maybe start getting physical faster.

3. Make sure you keep her laughing, and keep busting on her and treating her like a “friend” at first. Remember the idea of acting like she’s your Bratty Little Sister.

It sounds like you’re doing something on those first dates that’s making the women resistant to seeing you again… you need to figure out what it is and STOP IT.

***QUESTION***

David,

On vacation in Mexico, a girl asked me if she was “super hot” and I said “Yeah, you’re alright.” Next thing you know she made it her business to prove to me how hot she was, including some freaky dancing, even flashing me, and a little lip action. Moral: Never give them what they want. I moved in to kiss a girl a little too early and she backed away. So I went back to teasing her and on the next attempt I went straight for the neck, ears, hands in hair and well you wouldn’t believe it; but it worked that time. Your book has a lot of very good information, thank you for putting it together. So here’s my question: This girl at my gym is of those that I’ve always wanted to talk to but never really had the chance. She was bartending the other night and I told her I’d seen her at the gym. She said “yeah, but I don’t make it in there as much lately.” I replied “Yeah, I can tell, you’re really letting yourself go.” Then she gives me a shot and asks me if I’d help her with her workout.” She also said she remembered me from the gym and I said “So you were checking me out?” So I get her number, not bad, eh? So I’m in the bar for another hour with some friends and I was going to order a drink from her later, but it might’ve seemed like I wanted to talk to her again. She seemed busy and didn’t look at me.

Seemingly wuss behavior or she’s just busy? Who knows. That was on Saturday and I called her on Wednesday, still no reply and today is Friday. I’m thinking either calling her once more over the weekend, asking about playing hard to get and if she just randomly gives out shots, or maybe going back to her bar in a week or two with some friends. Again, thank you for all you’ve done and thanks in advance for any suggestions.

A.

>>> >>>MY COMMENTS:

I’m going to tell you something here, and leave it to you to figure out why it’s important:

YOU SHOULD HAVE LEFT RIGHT AFTER YOU GOT HER NUMBER.

This is SUPER ULTRA EXTRA important… and I want you to consider it in your mind until you figure out why.

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A beautiful thing about David Deangelo‘s Cocky Comedy program is the fact that it gives you the formula for generating your own cocky and funny lines, and you can see it used properly by the guys that get results. Before I ask you for your FAVORITE COCKY AND FUNNY LINES, here is my disclaimer:

I’d like to break down a common notion that’s tossed throughout the community often. That is that you say cocky and funny lines and you get a certain response – attraction. Some men that are new to the concept of cocky and funny tend to use it ALL the time, never allowing the conversation to mature, gain rapport and are always staying on the superficial level of cocky and funny. DON’T LET THIS BE YOU.

A pure cocky and funny attitude is UNHEALTHY, and should not be used. David Deangelo has never supported this type of behavior. Guys that are insecure who have finally found this ‘holy grail’ tend to keep using it because they like the reactions the women are sending back. You need to sprinkle this formula in with your normal vibing, and rapport, just like you would a spice for a meal. Too much spice ruins the meal, too little and you can’t taste a thing.

I’ve noticed for myself as I’ve used the concept of cocky and funny, that I OVERDID it to begin with. I totally went hell-bent on cocky and funny lines, like, “Oh you love me” or the typical David Deangelo line “I’m glad you like it”. Yawn.

Let’s be proactive in using cocky and funny the RIGHT way.

My friend Stephen Nash broke it down when I had one-on-one coaching with him while visiting New York City. He basically told me,

“The brilliance of cocky and funny is that it’s flirting – pure and simple. Teasing is flirting. Cocky and funny is simply flirting. You flirt to gain attraction and interest, and to tell her that you know what’s going on, that you have social value, and you play this game. Once that’s accomplished, don’t get bogged down and only flirt, you need to build a connection, and show her your value in other areas of your life.”

So onto my favorite cocky and funny lines.

Remember they have to be “Cocky and FUNNY“. Some guys just don’t get the humor of it…

Example #1: (Just last Friday night)

Waitress comes over…
Waitress: “There you go” *hands me my to-go box*
Me: *I look at the box with a curious face* “Where’s the… ahh… number?”
Waitress: “Oh you give that to me”
Me: *Putting my hand on my head, and looking down almost looking embarrassed* “You know you come to a place like this expecting… *sigh* a certain level of professionalism and you get this…” (With a smile at the end)
Waitress: *snatches the box and comes back with her number written*

Example 2:

Her: Do you have a pen?
Me: Yeah, and I’ll let you use it to write your number down for me.

Example 3:

You: Tonight is your lucky night
Her: Oh really? Why is that?
You: Because you finally got to go out with me
Her: Sure!
You: But no touching… I… do all the touching!

Example 4:

Me: It’s tough to be such a sex symbol.

Example 5:

Me: “Listen, I’m sorry for being out of touch, I’ve been very, very busy. But I’m available now… (suddenly changing tone of voice, like a salesman) …but only for a limited time only, at a low, low price of $14.99 an hour!”

What are your favorite lines? Got any examples of cocky and funny (flirting)?

If you’d like to learn proper techniques for crafting your own cocky and funny lines and how it will help your game with women, take quick peek at some of the video clips over at David Deangelo’s Cocky Comedy site.

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Like most of you, I started with David Deangelo‘s Double Your Dating ebook. I think I subscribed to his newsletter after searching the topic, “How To Be More Attractive to Women”. I downloaded the ebook and was reading for hours. I couldn’t believe the plentora of information that this man had accumulated, and that I was now accumulating on this hard topic.

For months, I had been searching for answers to my dating problems. For a while, I over used “cocky and funny”, probably for a year. This brought me many more issues. After establishing the context of it, and having researched and experienced loads more methods of attraction building, I realize more and more that the principles taught in David Deangelo‘s Double Your Dating, were applicable to the modern man. I just hadn’t realized it yet.

I’d like to hear your story. I know many of you have had experiences with Double Your Dating. How has Double Your Dating helped you? What would you recommend to others just starting to read Double Your Dating? Any other comments?

What’s your experience with David Deangelo, good or bad. I want alot of activity on this post, so I’m offering a copy of “The Blueprint to Your Inner Game Success” to the best comment left. I’ll post the best comment “winner” on the next post in a few days, with a way to contact me to get it free.

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