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		<title>Beyond Words &#8211; Subtext 101 by Cajun</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 18 Jun 2010 17:26:31 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Alright gather around everyone, its time for acting 101: Subtext! What is subtext? For acting, subtext is the underlying meaning behind spoken words as interpreted by an actor. What does that mean? Basically you&#8217;re adding additional meaning to your spoken words by the way you say them. I&#8217;ll give you an example: Lets say I [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>Alright gather around everyone, its time for acting 101: Subtext!</p>
<p>What is subtext? For acting, subtext is the underlying meaning behind spoken words as interpreted by an actor. What does that mean? Basically you&#8217;re adding additional meaning to your spoken words by the way you say them. I&#8217;ll give you an example:</p>
<p>Lets say I have the following (cheesy) script for a scene I&#8217;m about to act in:</p>
<p>JOHN and MARY are alone in the bedroom. Mary is upset and John is comforting her.</p>
<p>&#8220;John: Mary, everything is going to be ok, I just want you to know that I love you.&#8221;</p>
<p>Now if I&#8217;m going to play JOHN in this scene there is a lot of information I&#8217;m going to need in order to apply the proper subtext to my dialogue. Things like:</p>
<p>What is the relationship between John and Mary?<br />
If they are siblings then the line would be spoken much differently than if they were lovers.</p>
<p>What happened just before?<br />
What if this scene took place right after they had sex?<br />
How would you reflect that in the above line of dialogue?</p>
<p>This is all information that can be implied with the proper subtext.</p>
<p>So.what does this have to do with game? EVERYTHING!!!</p>
<p>I tell students all the time &#8220;It doesn&#8217;t matter WHAT you say, it&#8217;s HOW you say it&#8221; Women are MASTERS at subtext, they know that there is loads of information hidden in the way something is said. That&#8217;s why women can get so bitchy over seemingly trivial things that guys say; they know what were thinking!</p>
<p>So how do you use subtext effectively? Well I&#8217;ll give you an example of something I do.</p>
<p>So let&#8217;s say you&#8217;re in a venue gaming and you see a great set. Now in any given set at the venue, realistically, the subtext of the dialogue you exchange with them is going to be &#8220;I&#8217;m trying to win you over and make you like me.&#8221; A lot of guys subconsciously use this subtext when they open and are often blown out. Why? Because the women read into your subtext and knew exactly what you were doing, this is why you will hear &#8220;Is that a line?&#8221; often, even if she hadn&#8217;t heard it before.</p>
<p>A better way to approach is to use the subtext of your opener. This is how most successful puas operate. For instance, my opener involves me asking girls if I look like a drug dealer, so the subtext is simply that its bothering me that I look like a drug dealer and I need their opinion. When I say the opener I put myself in the mind frame that it JUST happened to me so that my subtext is believable. This is what I did for a long time and its how I got good at opening but its boring and doesn&#8217;t really create attraction.there is a better way.</p>
<p>Before I continue, a disclaimer: I am an actor and use my acting abilities whenever I can if it benefits me, so you can bet your ass that I act when I&#8217;m in set. If you have a problem with that or think that it&#8217;s unethical theatrics and trickery best left for the gypsies then just stop reading now before you get upset.</p>
<p>The best way to approach, in my experience, is to look at the venue as a stage (stop laughing) and look at each set as a scene you can enter into. Instead of using the above mind frames when opening I&#8217;m going to use the subtext of a completely made up scenario that makes me exude attractiveness. So I&#8217;m going to enter into the set under the subtext of &#8220;I just slept with all of these girls&#8221; and I will communicate that to them by the way I speak, not by the words I&#8217;m saying. All of my dialogue will remain the same as it normally was.</p>
<p>So what happens? Remember how I said women are MASTERS of subtext? Well in this case, you&#8217;re going to be glad they are. If you&#8217;re good at subtext (Take acting and improv lessons!) they are going to catch on very quickly and you will create attraction almost instantaneously. Women LOVE guys that they cant quite figure out, so if you go in acting like you just slept with them then you are basically a social enigma, which is like crack to them.</p>
<p>When students ask me things like &#8220;I don&#8217;t understand, you were talking to them about robots for 3 mins and then all of a sudden they were making out with you, how the hell did that happen??&#8221; Using subtext is how it happened. You don&#8217;t always have to use the subtext of &#8220;I just slept with these girls&#8221; you can use whatever you want, but this one works very well and I&#8217;ve had a lot of success with it.</p>
<p>Subtext is one of those things that&#8217;s pretty hard to grasp through reading. That&#8217;s one of the reasons why I created the DVD set &#8220;Beyond Words&#8221; so you can visually see it. You can see me teach in more depth other non-verbal techniques to attract women using your body language. <strong><a href="http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/beyondwords">Click here for more info</a>.</strong></p>
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		<title>Q&amp;A With Cajun About Beyond Words DVD</title>
		<link>http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/2010/06/12/qa-with-cajun-about-beyond-words-dvd/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 13 Jun 2010 02:12:30 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Cajun is a lead instructor with Love Systems. He teamed up with Vercetti to produce the Beyond Words DVD Home Study Course on Body Language and Physical Escalation. Today he will be sharing what the DVD is about and what you can expect. What is the Beyond Words DVD Home Study Course about? A lot [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p><a href="http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/2008/02/18/cajun-seduction-masters-interview/">Cajun</a> is a lead instructor with Love Systems. He teamed up with Vercetti to produce the Beyond Words DVD Home Study Course on Body Language and Physical Escalation.</p>
<p>Today he will be sharing what the DVD is about and what you can expect.</p>
<p><strong>What is the Beyond Words DVD Home Study Course about?</strong></p>
<p>A lot of guys ask me on the forums and in emails how they can improve their body language so they can better approach and attract women. It&#8217;s hard to show it to them because it is something you have to see. A lot of body language is very subtle and that is hard to convey in text. You can read about body language in books but it&#8217;s not the same as when you can visually see it.</p>
<p>A couple months ago I flew to London to work with Vercetti, who is a trained Shakespearean actor and fellow Love Systems coach, to make this DVD home study course. We wanted to share our newest and proven methods to attract women using non-verbal communication.</p>
<p>Instead of writing a book, we decided to make a DVD because you can visually learn how to improve your body language. With help of Mr M, Keychain and 5.0 we also made an extra segment on physical escalation. Again, touching and physical escalation (&#8220;kino&#8221;) can be better taught by using a visual medium.</p>
<p><strong>Why is body language so important?<br />
</strong><br />
A lot of guys think what you say is the most important thing when it comes to attracting women. That couldn&#8217;t be further from the truth. It doesn&#8217;t matter what you say, it is how you say it. With the &#8220;how&#8221; I mean your tone of voice, facial expressions, body language, and what we call &#8220;subcommunications&#8221; and &#8220;subtext&#8221;.</p>
<p>In the DVD set we cover all these aspects and explain in depth why your non-verbal communication is much more important than your verbal. Scientific studies have shown that most communication between people is non-verbal. In this clip below I tell why non-verbal communication is important (a sneak preview of the DVD):</p>
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<p>This and a lot more is revealed on the DVD.</p>
<p><strong>Can you give one tip that someone can use right now to improve their body language?<br />
</strong><br />
The simplest thing you can do today is to work on your posture. In the DVD we cover the Alexander technique on how that can improve your posture dramatically. Trained actors use this all the time.</p>
<p>Girls will reject you before you even approach if you have bad posture, because it subcommunicates a lot of bad things about you. This goes especially for guys who have sit behind a computer a lot.</p>
<p>A simple exercise you can do is to do row exercises at the gym and squats. Also, whenever you sit behind your desk, be conscious of your posture. Don&#8217;t slouch, sit tall and keep your back erect. If you buy a swiss ball and use that as your chair behind your desk, you will be forced to sit up straight and it will fix your posture that way too.</p>
<p><strong>Anything else you want to share?<br />
</strong><br />
I&#8217;m really excited about the Beyond Words DVD set. Finally I&#8217;ve been able to reveal all my body language and subtext secrets that I normally only teach on my workshops and 1on1 sessions. This DVD is one of a kind and you can finally learn how to properly physically escalate (&#8220;kino&#8221;) and how to use your body language so it becomes easier to meet and attract women.</p>
<p><strong>For more information on Cajun and his Beyond Words DVD Home Study Course, <a href="http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/beyondwords">click here</a>.</strong></p>
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		<title>Obama Vs McCain</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 21 Oct 2008 18:06:34 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Vin Di Carlo had a good email about the Presidential Debates, when no matter your politicial views, I think we can learn some decent lessons from what he explains: I know what you&#8217;re thinking&#8230; but don&#8217;t worry&#8230; I&#8217;m not going to have a political discussion here. My political views aren&#8217;t important anyway&#8230; But I have [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p><a href="http://www.growyourgame.com/articles/author/vindicarlo/">Vin Di Carlo</a> had a good email about the Presidential Debates, when no matter your politicial views, I think we can learn some decent lessons from what he explains:</p>
<p>I know what you&#8217;re thinking&#8230; but don&#8217;t worry&#8230;</p>
<p>I&#8217;m not going to have a political discussion here. My political views aren&#8217;t important anyway&#8230;</p>
<p>But I have to say, I&#8217;ve been really entertained by the Presidential Debates.</p>
<p>You see, I tend to view everything through the lens of a social scientist. I&#8217;m always analyzing the subtle dynamics in social interactions. And the recent presidential debates have been, as always, a clinic in social dominance.</p>
<p>What most people fail to understand is that the content of each candidate&#8217;s message is pretty insignificant compared to his non-verbal communication.</p>
<p>The candidates that tend to fare well are often the most dominant in their mannerisms.</p>
<p>But these mannerisms are not what you&#8217;d think &#8211; a lot of what conveys dominance is counter-intuitive, and communicates directly with your subconscious, and NOT your conscious mind.</p>
<p>You see, as the candidate talks, your conscious mind is listening to his WORDS.</p>
<p>But your unconscious mind is watching the WHOLE of his OUTPUT, or as we call it in the Attraction Code, &#8220;Expression.&#8221;</p>
<p>Your subconscious is concerned with some basic questions:</p>
<p>&#8220;Does he believe what he is saying?&#8221;</p>
<p>&#8220;Is he used to people submitting to him and getting his way?&#8221;</p>
<p>&#8220;Is his intention selfish or altruistic?&#8221;</p>
<p>&#8220;Is he calm and happy, or depressed &#8211; is life defeating him, or is he dominant and in control of his situation?&#8221;</p>
<p>The interesting thing is that the guy who&#8217;s coming with the most anger, the most attacks, and the &#8220;tough war veteran&#8221; attitude is actually NOT the most dominant of the two candidates.</p>
<p>Now all political persuasions aside, let&#8217;s look at the clear winner in each debate in terms of social dominance (which is the real competition between these two guys).</p>
<p>Here&#8217;s my favorite Obama quote from the debates &#8211; it sums up the kind of dominant focus that is important in cultivating your own attractiveness.</p>
<p>When questioned about being personally attacked, and called a &#8220;terrorist&#8221; at McCain/Palin rallies, Obama replied, &#8220;I don&#8217;t mind being attacked for the next three weeks. What the American people can&#8217;t afford is four more years of failed economic policies. When people suggest that I pal around with terrorists, then we are not talking about issues.&#8221;</p>
<p>Wow.</p>
<p>This is powerful stuff, and I&#8217;ll explain why.</p>
<p>There&#8217;s a lot going on here, but for clarity, I&#8217;m going to break down Obama&#8217;s mindset in three categories:</p>
<p><strong>1.    Emotional stillness<br />
2.    Strong, unwavering focus<br />
3.    High-road ethos</strong></p>
<p>If you&#8217;ve been following the debates, and each party&#8217;s campaign, you&#8217;ll agree that Obama is super-cool.</p>
<p>He never comes undone, never gets upset. He&#8217;s either calm and attentive, happy and lighthearted, or determined and assertive.</p>
<p>But he&#8217;s never angry, defensive, annoyed, or flustered in any way.</p>
<p>And I don&#8217;t think he&#8217;s faking. From my trained eye, this guy is for real.</p>
<p>He has his emotional state completelyunder control. As we say in the Attraction Code, he is</p>
<p>SELF-CONTROLLED</p>
<p>And this stems from having a STRONG, UNWAVERING FOCUS.</p>
<p>In the quote, you can see how Obama&#8217;s focus is never swayed or distracted. His mind is filled only with his primary concern &#8211; becoming the President, so that he can use his policies to improve the lives of Americans. Now the question of whose policies are better is not my concern here. You can make an argument for both candidates.</p>
<p>The difference between the candidates is that Obama cannot be distracted from his message, while McCain, in several instances gets caught defending himself, and attacking Obama.</p>
<p>Obama just coolly repeats his message, and his basic argument that McCain&#8217;s policies will resemble those of George W. Bush.</p>
<p>Look at the quote. He could have easily criticized those at the rally for being racist or ignorant. But that&#8217;s not the point, and he knows it. The debates are not about who said what at some rally. The debates are about who will run the country for the next four years.</p>
<p>Instead of ridiculing the McCain camp for allowing such ignorant behavior, he instead brings the focus back to the purpose of the debate.</p>
<p>&#8220;When people suggest that I pal around with terrorists, then we are not talking about issues.&#8221;</p>
<p>He transitions this distraction right back to what we should be paying attention to.</p>
<p>&#8230;And he does this, I think, because he WANTS to focus on the real issues, because he believes MORE STRONGLY in his plan than McCain does.</p>
<p>If you look at the history of each party&#8217;s campaign, McCain&#8217;s camp has changed their slogan, their message, and their policies several times in an attempt to keep pace with Obama.</p>
<p>Now I don&#8217;t know if Obama is just operating on a higher intellectual plane than McCain, or if he has a better staff, but this guy&#8217;s campaign has been flawless and powerful since day one.</p>
<p>And that tells me a lot about what kind of administration he will have if elected.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m still not sure if his policies will help or hurt my business, but the level of organization and integrity he exacts from his team can only help our country. Even their image branding &#8211; an American<br />
Flag re-worked as a sunrise on the horizon &#8211; beautiful.</p>
<p>Lastly, Obama&#8217;s primary intention relies on a strong inner-map of values.</p>
<p>We go over this extensively in or Drills Bootcamp, helping our clients clarify and enact their core values so they have a strong foundation for social situations.</p>
<p>A man can only stand strong if he knows what he stands for. The problem is most guys don&#8217;t actually know what they stand for.</p>
<p>Obama has a very clear set of ethics based on his core values. He knows what is important to him, and he doesn&#8217;t compromise that.</p>
<p>He values certain policies, but overall, he values helping the lower and middle class improve the quality of their lives.</p>
<p>On the other hand, McCain probably puts the success of large and mid-sized businesses first, as he feels this will eventually create more jobs.</p>
<p>But the difference is in how McCain defends his opinion compared to Obama.</p>
<p>And the difference is sub-communicated with body language, eye contact, vocal tonality, and overall emotional state.</p>
<p>Obama puts his values first and foremost in his mind. He doesn&#8217;t allow his energies to be sucked into the games of negative politics. He plays his game and he plays it well. He focuses only on what he feels is important, and doesn&#8217;t get emotionally upset when others act hostile or try to distract him from his focus.</p>
<p>This is dominance personified.</p>
<p>I happen to be in the business of cultivating this dominant personality in men.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve made a career out of helping guys achieve their highest potential when it comes to women, and social dominance is a HUGE part of this.</p>
<p>Check out Vin&#8217;s book the <a href="http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/attractioncode">Attraction Code</a>. Great reading.</p>
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		<title>Walk Away by David Wygant</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 20 Aug 2008 14:52:16 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[In order to grab the woman that you want, you need to learn the art of walking away. Most men will not walk away. What happens to most men is that they&#8217;ll go to a party, find a woman they want to talk to, smother her, and they won’t leave . . . this results [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>In order to grab the woman that you want, you need to learn the art of walking away.  Most men will not walk away.</p>
<p>What happens to most men is that they&#8217;ll go to a party, find a woman they want to talk to, smother her, and they won’t leave . . . this results in the woman&#8217;s attraction level dropping each minute this continues.  The opposite result occurs, i.e., the attraction increases, when you walk away from a woman to whom you&#8217;re most attracted.</p>
<p>Take this example.  You walk up to talk to a woman you&#8217;re really attracted to, you connect and have a good conversation with her for a couple of minutes, and then . . . you walk away.  When you walk away, it gives her a moment to reflect and to think “That guy just walked away.  No one just walks away.  Most men smother me.  How come this guy just walked away?”</p>
<p>It creates powerful intrigue in her mind.  She’s wondering who you are, what you’re all about, and how you could walk away from her.  It creates incredible attraction on her part.</p>
<p>So then what will happen is she will find a way to find you again at the party.  Or, you’ll walk around that party and the minute she sees you, she’ll plant a very seductive, sexy smile on you so you stop.  Or, she’ll talk to you about something going on at the moment or ask you a question to reignite the conversation that she was having with you before.</p>
<p>Most guys are afraid to walk away from a woman they&#8217;re really attracted to, because it took a lot of nerve to talk to her in the first place.  What you learn when you practice speaking to a lot of different women, however, is that walking away from a woman you&#8217;re interested in is the only way to see whether or not you’ve connected with her.  When you’re in Smotherville &#8211; smothering a woman with conversation that may or may not be going anywhere &#8211; you’re just talking to her in random thoughts and thus not really knowing if you connect with her or not.</p>
<p>Why do women always go for the “bad boy?”  Why do women always go for the guy who doesn’t like them or doesn’t pay them any attention?  Because that man has learned the art of “the walk away.”</p>
<p>You need to learn and perfect the art of the walk away, and you need to use it the next time you see a beautiful woman and you talk to her.  This is what you&#8217;ll do:</p>
<p>After you&#8217;ve been talking to her for a few minutes, you need to walk away, let her simmer for five or six minutes or . . . twenty minutes, and let her see you talking to other people.  It’s going to bring out an incredible competitive fire in her, especially if you’re speaking with other women.  It doesn’t matter what the women look like, it’s sufficient that they&#8217;re just other women.  Or, if you&#8217;re speaking to men, it also works if everyone is laughing because you’re giving them the best of you.  All of the sudden that woman is simmering so much, that she’s going to come back because you have the power of the walk away.</p>
<p>You have to master the power of the walk away in order to attract beautiful women everywhere you go.  This is because women love a leader, and women love men who can walk away from something right at the height of the conversation.  It’s going to make them want more . . . and that’s what you need to create.  You need to create desire in women, so they want you more.</p>
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		<title>How To Seem More Confident Than You Really Are</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 17 Jun 2008 02:16:29 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[In Bang there&#8217;s a section about the two ways to increase your confidence (starts on page XX). I don&#8217;t have anything to add to that short list, but I have found a way that a girl can PERCEIVE you as more confident. Imagine you are a girl for a second and you&#8217;re in some bar [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>In <a href="http://www.bangfieldguide.com/sc">Bang</a> there&#8217;s a section about the two ways to increase your confidence (starts on page XX). I don&#8217;t have anything to add to that short list, but I have found a way that a girl can PERCEIVE you as more confident.</p>
<p>Imagine you are a girl for a second and you&#8217;re in some bar drinking with your girlfriends. Guys come up to you all the time, some with decent game but some with tired &#8220;What are you drinking?&#8221; game. What is the one thing that would tell you a guy knows what he&#8217;s doing, has probably had a lot of girls, and can give you both emotional and physical pleasure?</p>
<p><strong>Boldness.</strong></p>
<p>Let me explain with a story.</p>
<p>I was at a bar when I started talking to a cute girl. I sat down on a bar stool to face her and sat so our legs were touching. After 10 minutes of conversation, I made it seem like I just noticed her bracelets and starting touching them. Then I noticed some drink spilled on her jeans, and started &#8220;rubbing&#8221; it out. She quickly hit my hand away.</p>
<p>Even though I was surprised, I pretended nothing happened and continued our conversation. Then five minutes later, I just started poking her thigh while she was talking. That&#8217;s when she started giving commentary on my pickup..</p>
<p>&#8220;I saw you here the other night talking to girls. I have a feeling you hit on a lot of girls and you do this all the time.&#8221; I just said I was &#8220;outgoing&#8221; and &#8220;friendly,&#8221; with a smirk of course.</p>
<p>She knows that this is what I do, that I hit on girls like herself every night. But she cannot tell her brain to stop feeling attraction for a desirable man. I am a desirable male because she THINKS I do this all the time and that I&#8217;m successful at it (why else would I be bold?). And she thinks I do this all the time simply because I&#8217;m touching her early and in ways other guys are too scared to do.</p>
<p>I made out with her before I got her number, after a total time of 30 minutes or so of talking to her. Keep in mind this was from a girl who hit my hand away when I started touching her.</p>
<p>Being bold screams confidence, because it tells the girl that you are NOT AFRAID and have done this before. She will think, &#8220;Who does he think he is touching me so early in the conversation?&#8221; &#8220;Look how close his face is getting to mine. What makes him think he will kiss me tonight?&#8221; The answer in her head will be something like, &#8220;Because he knows what he&#8217;s doing and has succeeded at it before.&#8221;</p>
<p>And here&#8217;s the beautiful part: she will have no idea what your past is, no idea how many women you really did sleep with or didn&#8217;t. All it takes is one trait&#8212;boldness&#8212;to be the man she wants to sleep with right now.</p>
<p>This means that even if you have zero confidence, just sucking it up and trying to push the boundaries to get closer sooner than you think you can, you actually increase the chance that you will get a make-out or sex. Weird how things work.</p>
<p>Just a few years ago the approach itself would scream boldness and be an attractant in its own right, but we&#8217;ve entered the age of pick-up where any Joe Schmo who lost his virginity is peddling an ebook and robot monkeys are approaching girls with the tired &#8220;Who lies more&#8221; opener. A cute girl has been approached hundreds of times by the time you get to her, so now it&#8217;s early touching and kissing will give the boldness effect.</p>
<p>Before I got into the game, that wouldn&#8217;t make any sense to me. I&#8217;d wait very patiently for obvious green lights and only then would I proceed with caution. But the more experience I got (going on a decade now), the more impatient I became, and the sooner I started going for it. And it worked. Not only did I get more, but I got it much quicker.</p>
<p>Now I&#8217;m pretty spoiled. If I don&#8217;t get a makeout within 30 minutes or so, I think something is wrong&#8230; WITH HER. The only time I get numbers now without make-outs is when I simply ran out of time.</p>
<p>It wasn&#8217;t always like this, and it did take me work to get here, but if you start with a solid foundation of techniques (which I teach in my book <a href="http://www.bangfieldguide.com/sc">Bang</a>), it will be just practice and commitment on your part. If you haven&#8217;t already done so, check out page samples today..</p>
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		<title>How to Recognize If Your Social Status Is Being Challenged</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 04 Jun 2008 21:32:57 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Brad</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[(Notice: This is an ongoing project of ours into the research of testosterone, social status, and your body. You may notice that this research CONFIRMS many of the things that you may have already THOUGHT you knew) Social Status is defined by each encounter you have with other people. Specifically with guys, your status is [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>(<strong>Notice: </strong> This is an ongoing project of ours into the research of testosterone, social status, and your body.  You may notice that this research CONFIRMS many of the things that you may have already THOUGHT you knew)</p>
<p>Social Status is defined by each encounter you have with other people. Specifically with guys, your status is typically defined by your interactions with other guys.</p>
<p>You can either be dominant or submissive… and this even happens within your close circle of friends. There is ALWAYS some jockeying for position.</p>
<p><em>So how do you know when you’re status is being challenged?</em></p>
<p>Well… some of may think it’s pretty obvious, but it’s all related to stress…</p>
<p><strong>For example: </strong> Picture a social setting of a crowded room of people at a party. Two men end up locking into a short staring contest across the room. If both men hold the stare and recognize that it is going on, this is an immediate dominance contest.</p>
<p>The act of staring right at another man is a challenge to his social status. The staring is meant to increase the other mans stress level and make him feel uncomfortable until he breaks off the staring contest and looks away.</p>
<p>At this point whoever looks away is typically submitting to the other man, and by looking away he is also admitting he is the subordinate. Interestingly enough… what follows is usually a change in posture and body language to show that submissive behavior (like he took your mojo… lol)</p>
<p>Strangely enough, what also may happen is a measurable drop in testosterone!</p>
<p>Now that is something that you don’t want to have happen, because it can throw you of your game.</p>
<p>But there’s more…</p>
<p>The man who ‘wins’ the staring contest has a rise in testosterone… furthering his feelings of status and giving him a boost of confidence.</p>
<p>His posture may also change to a more upright position and he may have more of a strut to his walk.</p>
<p>Naturally, less sophisticated and immature men might ride this feeling into more staring contests and develop a cocky attitude.  Of course, this is usually just a recipe for getting a broken nose once he picks the wrong person to ‘challenge’… at least in my neck of the woods!</p>
<p>The point isn’t to seek out these ‘dominance contests’, rather it is to recognize that these things can happen at the spur of the moment with an accidental look at someone. So you might as well be ready when it happens.</p>
<p>Any confrontation that produces a feeling of stress like this is a direct challenge to your social status.</p>
<p>When these situations happen, for your sake, you have to meet the challenge and maintain your composure… but pick your spots.</p>
<p>Most of the time the other man isn’t interested in a fight or even has an issue with you. He probably just recognizes you both ended up in an accidental stare and he also doesn’t want to back off and show subordination.</p>
<p>If anything this is probably a guy you might want to befriend as he is obviously showing alpha male traits. A simple nod of the head indicates that you acknowledge his presence but you’re not backing down either (or maybe even a smile and a wink)</p>
<p>This is a classy way to hold your status when inadvertent stare downs happen.</p>
<p>Social dominance and status contests happen all the time.</p>
<p><strong>Special Note: </strong> Be aware of your surroundings and pick your spots and never let your status drop in front of a woman you’re interested in, but don’t try to stare down the president in the white house either.</p>
<p>Maintain your status with class and you’ll also gain the other man’s respect… and the attraction from your “lady” friends.</p>
<p><strong>Question:  How would YOU handle a status challenge like this?</strong></p>
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		<title>Signals (Stephen Nash Column)</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 28 Apr 2008 16:47:45 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Stephen Nash</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Let’s talk a little bit about “signals” this week. Women send them to you ALL THE TIME, and if you’re like the majority of men, you’re completely illiterate about reading them. I’m going to actually list them at the end of this article, so you can never “wonder” about this again. In fact, print this [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>Let’s talk a little bit about “signals” this week.</p>
<p>Women send them to you ALL THE TIME, and if you’re like the majority of men, you’re completely illiterate about reading them.</p>
<p>I’m going to actually list them at the end of this article, so you can never “wonder” about this again.</p>
<p>In fact, print this list up and put it on an index card to have on hand with you at all times.</p>
<p>Ever find yourself in this little scenario?</p>
<p>There you are, walking down the street, and you lock eyes with an attractive woman. You both hold this stare for as long as you possibly can.</p>
<p>Then, you pass her, and after a few paces, glance back only to find she has done just the same thing. Your hear skips a beat, and you wonder, &#8220;should I talk to her?&#8221;</p>
<p>If you are like most people you keep walking, regretting that you didn&#8217;t take the obvious opportunity to go for it.</p>
<p>Why is it that we receive an OBVIOUS social signal from a person we are clearly attracted to, only to find ourselves walking away from a golden opportunity?</p>
<p>Part of it is conditioning and part of it is fear.</p>
<p>Fear, a most devastating force, trains us over time not to trust ourselves. If we did, we would know the door was wide open, and would walk up and start a conversation.</p>
<p>Think about how many similar opportunities you have had, and with a simple change in your thought pattern, what kind of difference in your life would that mean?</p>
<p>I bet it&#8217;s pretty big.</p>
<p>You know, the old &#8220;Carpe Diem&#8221; mindset which so many of us NEVER live up to.</p>
<p>If a girl gives you eye contact, and holds it for just a bit longer than is the custom, it means EXACTLY what it means when you do the same thing&#8230;she feels that jolt of attraction.</p>
<p>She sees you, and feels her chemistry change in that moment, JUST LIKE YOURS DID.</p>
<p>It is the magic of attraction &#8211; when you see each other, and something in you says &#8220;yes&#8221;.</p>
<p>What usually happens is that we pass these open doors all the time. Sometimes it is not feasible to approach the girl.</p>
<p>We might have a meeting, or might be running late to work. There are many viable reasons not to stop and talk.</p>
<p>I think most of us intuitively know what this magic moment means, and we simply don&#8217;t trust ourselves to go for it.</p>
<p>Nike said it best &#8211; Just Do It.</p>
<p>Another definite signal she is definitely into you is if she smiles at you.</p>
<p>Sounds obvious &#8211; and it is obvious.</p>
<p>But, I bet you&#8217;ve also let that opportunity pass you by too, haven&#8217;t you?</p>
<p>She wouldn&#8217;t smile at you if she wasn&#8217;t attracted to something about you. I once knew a guy who was above average in attractiveness, who had smiles from women all day long&#8230;he thought they were &#8220;just being nice&#8221;.</p>
<p>In fact, this is an opening to begin a conversation. It is a signal that her first impression of you is a good one, and that she would be interested in meeting you.</p>
<p>I recall once being at a restaurant with some friends of mine. I had made eye contact with a woman a few tables away.</p>
<p>She kept getting up for one reason or another, and each time she would she would glance our way, and then parade by our table to reach her destination.</p>
<p>A friend of mine pointed this out to me. I then made my introduction to her later in the night, and eventually dated this woman.</p>
<p>Also, if a woman is in your vicinity, and she opens her body language to you by facing you, this also is a good sign that she is open to meeting you.</p>
<p>Imagine you are in a group of people, carrying on a conversation. When you speak, she faces you with her body.</p>
<p>But, when someone else speaks, she turns her head to hear them, but her body still faces you.</p>
<p>This indicates that she is more interested in talking with you than with anyone else in the group.</p>
<p>Also, pay attention to your body language in social situations.</p>
<p>When you see someone that you find attractive, don&#8217;t you subtly open your body to them?</p>
<p>What we are doing is signaling the other person, subconsciously, that we are interested in having a<br />
conversation with them.</p>
<p>These subtle cues occur within social settings constantly.</p>
<p>If you can recognize them, you will begin to see that women are communicating with men via their behavior and body language all the time.</p>
<p>These are signs that, initially, she feels some attraction for you. By noticing these, you will feel a greater amount of confidence when making your introductions later.</p>
<p>One last point on these initial signs: if you notice a woman, and she does not signal you in any of the above ways, it might simply mean that she is preoccupied or that she simply hasn&#8217;t  noticed you&#8230;YET.</p>
<p>In any event, go ahead and make your approach, what do you have to lose? There are no hard and fast rules here as that would be way too easy, and therefore, unrealistic.</p>
<p>Go for it anyway.</p>
<p>With some good conversational skills and a solid personal style,your first impression will be great anyway.</p>
<p>Your chances are then very good for entering into a positive interaction with the woman you have approached.</p>
<p>Here is a list of twenty-five ways women signal initial interest to us:</p>
<p>1) Repeatedly glances at you from across the room<br />
2) Walks by your location, going out of her way to be noticed by you<br />
3) Smiles at you<br />
4) Positions herself so that her body is open to you, wanting you to see her<br />
5) In a tight environment (say, by the bar or on the subway) will subtly, and purposely, bump you to get your attention and prompt an &#8220;excuse me&#8221;<br />
6) Stands close to you, subtly encroaching on your personal space<br />
7) Repeats herself, and talks about boring things to keep the conversation going <img src='http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_cool.gif' alt='8)' class='wp-smiley' /> Asks you personal questions<br />
9) Ignores her friends or cellphone to keep talking with you<br />
10) Touches you in any way while speaking with you<br />
11) Compliments you<br />
12) Talks about you in any way to other people<br />
13) Introduces you to her friends<br />
14) Flirts with you<br />
15) She asks you her name early in the conversation<br />
16) Brags about something in her life, trying to impress you<br />
17) Laughs at things you say<br />
18) Talks for a longer than normal amount of time<br />
19) She fills in awkward pauses<br />
20) She agrees to spend time alone with you; even a small side conversation at a party, bar, or other social setting<br />
21) Asks if you are single<br />
22) Fixes her hair, clothes, makeup, etc<br />
23) Plays with her hair while talking with you<br />
24) Agrees with everything you say<br />
25) Has that &#8220;doggy dinner bowl&#8221; look &#8211; her eyes glaze over and her lower lip pouts. This one&#8217;s a biggie!</p>
<p>You don&#8217;t have to witness all of these to know if she is into you or not. As few as one or two may all you get.</p>
<p>But, that is PLENTY, OK?</p>
<p>Again, take the step now of cutting &#038; pasting this list onto an index card and stick in your back pocket.</p>
<p>Commit these to memory, and train yourself to start MOVING once you get any of them, OK?</p>
<p>And when I say moving, I mean in the direction OF the woman!</p>
<p>If you now find yourself wondering, what do I say when I make my approach, how do I make my approach, what do I say after I engage her in conversation, how should I stand, what should I wear, how do I ask for her number, where should I take her on a date, how do I make my move and kiss her&#8230;</p>
<p>etc, etc, etc</p>
<p>If you&#8217;ve just asked yourself even ONE of the above, you need to seriously consider my ebook &#8220;How TO Get A Girlfriend, OK?</p>
<p>It&#8217;s easily the most comprehensive ebook designed for guys who are looking for dramatic improvement in their dating lives.</p>
<p>AND, who aren&#8217;t really &#8220;into&#8221; the whole &#8220;pick-up artist&#8221; nonsense.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ll give you the edge from &#8220;The Game&#8221; but in a way that doesn&#8217;t ask you to engage in wierd, social games designed to trick women.</p>
<p>What I give with &#8220;<a href="http://www.how-to-get-a-girlfriend.com/ac">How To Get A Girlfriend</a>&#8221; is&#8230;</p>
<p>The POWER of choice with women.</p>
<p>Choose your next date, girlfriend, wife&#8230;</p>
<p>It&#8217;s time to get this handled.</p>
<p>‘Til next time,</p>
<p><a href="http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/author/stephennash">Stephen Nash</a></p>
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		<title>Creepy Versus Sexy Eye Contact (Video)</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 20 Mar 2008 17:40:17 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Editor</dc:creator>
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