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Your Three Advantages On Halloween

Donovan — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 19:38:18 +0000

A new article from Savoy of Love Systems.

ONE: WOMEN DRESS SEXIER (MORE PROVOCATIVELY)

People act to fulfill their roles. Dress like a loser and it’s easy to act like one. Dress like a man who makes things happen, and you fall into that role.

(Have you ever put on a suit and instantly felt a bit more powerful? That’s what I’m talking about.)

Look at the military. They’re not dummies. They insist on every aspect of your appearance and dress being exact and to specifications. They want behavior that is exact, and to specifications. They’re not a huge fan of individual flair.

In my female psychology interview, I explained how women are bound both by “macro” (general) rules and “micro” rules – the ones that apply to specific friends in specific situations.

There’s nothing in the air in Ibiza or Las Vegas that makes women want to have sex. But, sex happens more – partly because the “micro” rules of female social groups let this happen without a hit to their reputation.

Halloween is the same way. She’ll be dressed for sex. Her friends will be dressed for sex. There is a lot of flirting and competing for attention. It’s the kind of night when a woman who doesn’t normally go home with a new guy will make an exception.

TWO: ROLE PLAYS

You already know that role plays are a MAJOR building block for attraction.

This goes double in high-energy, nightclub-type environments.

It goes triple with younger women. And quadruple on Halloween.

Not only are they super-effective – almost NECESSARY – but they’re really easy. After all, you are both wearing costumes. You’re already role-playing!

This makes your choice of costume important. It’s the role you’ll be playing. Her costume will be skanky, so run with that. You could be a pimp. Or a cop. Or a Rockstar and she’s your groupie, etc.

Choose anything compatible with “skanky costume” and run with it. It should also be higher-value than hers. Drop the opinion openers and either approach direct or approach “in character.”

THREE: THESE ARE YOUR USUAL GIRLS…

Halloween is like New Year’s Eve for another reason…

A lot of women will be out partying who don’t usually go out. That means more variety. The girl who has better things to do most Saturdays than another night at the club will still be out on Halloween.

That means you should be also.

It also means that you’re not going to get all of the usual “tests” from club-going women.

Women who go out every night get hit on a lot. They have ways of putting you on the spot and other tests they do to see which men are worth their time.

(It’s incredibly counter-productive, because most of these women say they don’t want “players.” But, they set up tests that only guys who have been around the block a few times – players – can pass. Anyway, this is advice for men, not for women, so moving on…)

Now you should know how to handle tests. Any hot woman whom you don’t know will test you at least a little.

So, these women that don’t usually go out… who are dressed sexier than usual… surrounded by other beautiful, scantily-clad women…

They will want validation.

It’s important to give them enough validation to get them interested, but not enough to complete the circle. Always leave them wanting more.

Giving and making a woman work for validation is what “Qualification” is all about. Qualification happens right after Attraction – so once she’s attracted to you, qualify her.

Alright, now here are some specific, practical things you can do to get the girl this weekend:

If you have a nice body, use Halloween to show it off. Women do. You’ll be laughed at with an open chest most nights, but not on Halloween.

Plan your opener along with your costume. If you’re a rock star, approach her saying “I knew Groupie #51 was around here somewhere.” Smile. She’ll play along.

Make sure of your logistics. There are lots of house parties on Halloween, and these make great excuses to leave the club or another party with her. You have friends that you HAVE to introduce her to. If you get to the party and they aren’t there, no one will care.

Better still, use the gap to swing by your house “to pick up a bottle” or “to get my wallet.” Only mention that once you start driving. She may not want to go to the next party either.

You can probably see by now how planning is key. The pit stop between your houses has to be natural and at least somewhat on the way.

“Pulls” are a bit easier because no one can find their friends anyway. So are “bathroom pulls” or other more exotic encounters – the costumes give a feeling of anonymity. That can be a powerful fantasy for a lot of women.

Alright folks, brush up on your skills and have fun this weekend.

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Impact Makes Connection Part 1 (Kezia)

Kezia — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 22:51:39 +0000

Why is creating connection with a woman so important? And how can you achieve it?

I will be giving you a female perspective on this, and will show you the steps you need to understand in order for you to obtain a deep and significant connection with a woman.

I will also explain why you can benefit immensely if you manage to make a deep connection with her and how you can use this particular skill for years to come.

External/surface/superficial connection

This is the type of connection that guys should make if they are in a rush, and literally don’t have time to make a deeper connection with the woman, (i.e. day game when she is rushing a long a busy street) this is usually fairly easy to do.

Examples of surface connections:

Enjoying the same type of films
Coming from the same town
Doing the same line of work
Sharing any general interests or hobbies
Sharing the same sense of humour
Liking the same type of music

In a world consisting of billions of people. We can find a certain sense of comfort by finding even the most flimsy form of connection with a random person. Whether it’s the fact that they come from the same area/town that we are from. Whether we share the same Zodiac sign (sad but true) or if they happen to be in the same line of work as us.

Making surface connections with a woman are also a good way to create a “reason” (other than seducing her) to meet up again.

Man: “Yeah, he’s one of my favourite actors too, we should catch that new movie he’s in..” etc etc

This information is all very obvious and is common knowledge, so there is no need for me to elaborate the point any further of why obtaining surface connections can be very useful.

However, if you DO have time, you should try your best to make a deeper connection with her.

Making a deeper connection with a woman would create a number of changes in the her state of mind and would alter her opinion of you (positively of course), and as a result of these slight mind shifts forming on in her head, mood shifts will follow, and finally the energy and direction of the interaction between you both will improve dramatically.

Making a deeper connection will get her to open up, and start explaining how she FEELS and REACTS about things. And this will give you a wonderful insight in to her mind (ever heard the expression that knowledge and information is power?)

A deeper connection creates a “special” and “private” moment between you and her that no one else can touch or get in to.

When a deeper connection is made, a moment is created, where she feels like you ‘know’ her (and she knows you) on a very personal level (psychologically)

And by doing this she temporarily places you in the same category as the people in her life that she has known for years. These are people who she can trust, who she respects and they are people who she can be comfortable and relaxed with.

Understanding the formula of making deep connection helps men to reduce the chances of getting flaky numbers.

So why do men avoid making deep connection?

Men usually have much more of a “bravado” in comparison to woman, and they are much more conscious of what image they wish to display to others, and generally men will only lower that bravado and drop the “bull shit” with a very few select people. Some men cannot even bare the thought of crying in front of people; even the very idea makes them cringe.

Men view strength, confidence and success as the attractive qualities they must uphold in order to obtain respect from both men and woman, and so obviously crying or admitting that they have problems, fears, Insecurities etc would only serve to damage their image that they have spent years in perfecting.

Now DON’T PANIC! I know you are thinking that this is going to be the part where I try to change you, and tell you to drop the bravado and start showing your inner emotions, fears, vulnerabilities and insecurities and become one of these ‘new age metrosexual men’

ABSOLUTELY NOT!

I can’t think of anything worse than going out with a “big girls blouse” This is a term I unfortunately find myself using more and more due to the fact that men are being told to act like “a wimp” in order to connect with woman.

Having a guy take me out on a date, and who wants to talk about emotions and feelings all evening and how he feels weak and/or unloved or a guy who wants to divulge every nitty gritty insecurity he has would completely turn me off, . Me and my friends often ring each other after an unsuccessful date, and it’s becoming increasingly more common for us to complain that the man made us feel too strong, too alpha too powerful for him to handle. Anyway, that’s a different story for another time.

The point I’m making here, is that I have no intention in giving you any advice that will make you come across needy, new age, metrosexual or effeminate. (There’s enough woman monthly magazines making a good job of that already)

Women do not share the guys obsessive need to KEEP UP SOME SORT OF BRAVADO. Granted that woman DO where bravado, but the difference is that they can feel a great sense of relief when it comes down. (Unlike men who feel temporarily exposed and vulnerable when their bravado comes down)

We are more open to talking about how we feel, our insecurities, fears and needs, but because men feel that divulging such information to a stranger is almost alien to them. They subsequently presume that women feel the same, and so they choose to avoid making deeper connections with the woman.

Us women however, do not consider that talking about our problems, feelings, insecurities and emotions as weak. We can really enjoy and embrace that moment when we can finally stop playing the role of “Miss Bitch” or “Miss Perfect” or “Miss Sex Kitten” or whatever role we have chosen to convey for that evening, week, month, life time. It really feels like a sense of release when we can be “our selves”,

Men would do well to understand this about woman, and rather than him seeing it through his own perspective, he should instead see it through her eyes..

Just because your mates don’t want to open up and share their feelings with one and other, and just because you might see it as an act which could tarnish your reputation or image, doesn’t mean that woman share this view point.

Do not presume that the girl with “The bitch bravado” is a cold heartless and evil person. Do not presume that the “shy girl mask” is boring and has nothing shocking or interesting to offer. Do not presume that the girl with “Bimbo” image is empty and insincere. Like you guys we put on a mask and create a bravado, alter ego what ever you want to call it for a number of different reasons. If you can get past that mask, you will not embarrass her or make feel uncomfortable like how most men would feel. Instead you will make her feel relaxed and the respect she has for you will increase dramatically. Far more than the guys who get caught up on just the surface level.

In the next part I will share with you the step-by-step process that I teach my students in order for them to obtain a deep and lasting connection with a woman, with out you having to alter the macho / alpha strong image that you might have worked on for so long perfecting.

In Impact Makes Connection Part 2, I will be explaining how you can begin making a deep connection with impact.

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You’re Not Bothering Them

David Wygant — Sat, 12 Sep 2009 06:18:29 +0000

I was with a friend of mine the other day who was in town visiting, and he said to me “I actually do see women I’m attracted to, but when I do I don’t want to go over and bother them. She’s probably hit on all the time, so she would probably be annoyed that I’m walking over to talk to her.”

So I looked at him (while keeping an eye on the road at the same time), and said “That’s your excuse! That’s your fear making you feel okay about not trying to go over there and talk to her. That is the way that you protect yourself from being rejected. You figure by not going over and talking to her, and by making up an excuse for her, you can rationalize in your head that it was not the time to go over and talk to her. This excuse makes you feel better.”

So he looked at me (because he didn’t have to keep his eyes on the road), and said “So you’re telling me that women would be up for speaking with me?”

Now I really looked at him hard, gave the wheel of the car to my dog (who is trained to do this by the way), and I said “You already know that. We’ve had this discussion over and over again. You just refuse to try.”

I then proceeded to tell him “I can give you all the tools. I can even teach you the approach. What I can’t do is hold your hand and bring you over to the woman.”

There comes a point when studying this stuff is not enough . . . you have got to start trying to do it.

My friend is not alone. I have found a lot of people who suffer from approach anxiety. The number one excuse I hear from people as to why they are so anxious about the approach, is that they think that they are bothering somebody.

Unless you’re a mind reader and you can predict the future, then you have no idea what somebody would be thinking if you walked over and talked to them. Granted, there are some things you can look for to see if someone is open to a conversation.

Are they smiling at you?

Are they lingering next to you in a supermarket aisle?

Do they look over at you while standing next to you in line at Starbucks?

Those are some obvious ones. The truth is that the complaint I hear most often from women who are super hot and sexy (and remember “super hot and sexy” is whatever type of woman you’re attracted to), is that men just do not approach.

A lot of times women don’t know how to make themselves approachable. They do not use any of the above tips.

When I am coaching someone, whether it’s in one of my Bootcamps or one-on-one, I always teach people to be friendly to everybody. If you are friendly to everybody, then people will start noticing you and they will want to start talking to you.

Recently while I was doing a Bootcamp with several guys, I was talking to this senile old lady at the farmer’s market. Three women were walking in our direction, and my students were getting antsy because they did not want to waste time talking to the senile old lady. The old lady prepared to leave just as the three ladies approached where we were, and as she left the old lady gave one of my students a hug, thanked us, and told us to have a nice day.

Immediately one of my students said “We just blew it with those three girls!” And I said, “I’ll bet you what you paid for my bootcamp that they will all turn around, stop, and want to talk to us.” Immediately every one of my Bootcamp students smiled and shook my hand . . . which is all part of what I wanted to do to create energy in the first place.

The women took five more steps, then turned around, stopped, and they all smiled directly at us. So why did this happen?

This happened because women not only want to be approached, they want to talk to the people with good energy. When the little old lady (who really was senile, but who was pretty cute in her senility) hugged my friend, that triggered a warm emotional response in those women who walked by us.

The bottom line is this: By creating good energy and talking to everyone wherever you go, you will have people wanting and desiring to talk to you.

You can literally combat your own fears about approach anxiety. You need to realize that by being friendly to somebody and approaching a woman based on the power of observation (which I cover in depth in my MEN’S AUDIO MASTERY SERIES), you will start to realize that you can approach everybody as long as it is not done with a cheesy pick-up line.

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A Quick Bar Opener

David Wygant — Mon, 04 May 2009 20:39:06 +0000

Do you want a quick easy fun bar opener that no one ever thinks of or uses.

Here is an experiment I did one time with a friend in a bar. Coach Jacob and I just stood in one place, but we had an animated conversation. We were just having a good time. We stood right in the middle of the bar – so that everyone in the bar was standing around us – and just talked animatedly.

And women started coming over to us, asking, “What are you guys talking about?” We’d say, “Look, I’ll meet with you in five minutes; we just have to finish this conversation.” I would push them away a little bit, which would intrigue them a little bit more. In a bar, you can be very playful like that.

So after a few minutes, I looked at one woman and kind of waved her over. She came over and asked, “What?” and I said, “You were curious about what we were talking about, and I want to tell you.” Then I explained what it was we were talking about. “We were just discussion life and the nature of spirituality…” and she just stood there with her mouth wide open.

So then I looked at her and asked, “So tell me, how do you feel about this?” and for five minutes she went off on a tangent, full of passion and emotion, just like I did. She was mimicking my body language the entire time.

Most guys at bars are thinking about what the woman’s body language says. Who cares! It’s your body language that will attract other people.

So once I got her all full of passion, I asked her, “Are those your friends?” She said they were. “Alright, bring them over. We need more people’s opinions.” We had ten people – two of us, and eight girls – all sitting there and talking about spirituality and what it means to be alive. We had the most amazing conversation.

When we left, they all looked at us and said, “This was the greatest experience we’ve ever had in a bar!” It was the first time they’d ever had a real conversation at a bar.

It all comes from you putting yourself in the middle of that bar and saying to yourself: I will be the center of attention in this room tonight. I will talk to my friend and pull over whomever I want in this room!

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Stop Selling Yourself by David Wygant

David Wygant — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 23:34:10 +0000

As those of you who have been reading the blog know, I’ve been shopping for a new house lately. Whenever I walk into a new house, or if I’m looking to buy a new car, or audio equipment, video equipment, whatever – I always walk in and look at the salesperson as they are about to start their spiel and say, “you can’t close me. I am not somebody you can ever close. So you don’t need to give me the spiel; let me figure this out for myself. You can hang out with me for a little bit, and if I like you, I’ll probably give you some business.”

I’ve found that many people, when approaching someone of the opposite sex, are just trying to close the deal. They are just trying to sell themselves.

Life is not about selling yourself. This isn’t a negotiation. When you approach someone you are attracted to, you should never go up to them and list the “ten reasons why you should date me.”

What it is about is getting to know someone. People want to do business with people that intrigue them. They want to do business with someone they can imagine being friends with, with someone that makes them feel comfortable.

So you don’t have to sell yourself so much! I’ve seen it all – people will really go completely over the top when trying to sell themselves. They are trying to negotiate a date out of someone rather than just relaxing, having fun, enjoying life and being fully present.

Life is not about negotiations. Life is not about selling yourself. Life is about presenting the best version of yourself based on who you are and your confidence.

Whenever I run into someone who is trying to sell themselves to me, I’ll look at them and say, “let me ask you a question: why are you trying to sell yourself so much? Let me get to like you for who you are – the REAL you. I don’t need to know just the good parts about you – let me get to know ALL the parts of you! Then I’ll be able to make an informed decision when it comes down to whether or not I want to hang out with you.”

So don’t sell. You might run into somebody like me – somebody who can’t be closed!

And don’t ever try to close me if you meet me. Just get to know me. I have lots of friends and a great network of contacts, and not one person I know is someone who ever tried to close me. They just got to know me.

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You are about to learn what beyond is!

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Walk Away by David Wygant

David Wygant — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 14:52:16 +0000

In order to grab the woman that you want, you need to learn the art of walking away. Most men will not walk away.

What happens to most men is that they’ll go to a party, find a woman they want to talk to, smother her, and they won’t leave . . . this results in the woman’s attraction level dropping each minute this continues. The opposite result occurs, i.e., the attraction increases, when you walk away from a woman to whom you’re most attracted.

Take this example. You walk up to talk to a woman you’re really attracted to, you connect and have a good conversation with her for a couple of minutes, and then . . . you walk away. When you walk away, it gives her a moment to reflect and to think “That guy just walked away. No one just walks away. Most men smother me. How come this guy just walked away?”

It creates powerful intrigue in her mind. She’s wondering who you are, what you’re all about, and how you could walk away from her. It creates incredible attraction on her part.

So then what will happen is she will find a way to find you again at the party. Or, you’ll walk around that party and the minute she sees you, she’ll plant a very seductive, sexy smile on you so you stop. Or, she’ll talk to you about something going on at the moment or ask you a question to reignite the conversation that she was having with you before.

Most guys are afraid to walk away from a woman they’re really attracted to, because it took a lot of nerve to talk to her in the first place. What you learn when you practice speaking to a lot of different women, however, is that walking away from a woman you’re interested in is the only way to see whether or not you’ve connected with her. When you’re in Smotherville – smothering a woman with conversation that may or may not be going anywhere – you’re just talking to her in random thoughts and thus not really knowing if you connect with her or not.

Why do women always go for the “bad boy?” Why do women always go for the guy who doesn’t like them or doesn’t pay them any attention? Because that man has learned the art of “the walk away.”

You need to learn and perfect the art of the walk away, and you need to use it the next time you see a beautiful woman and you talk to her. This is what you’ll do:

After you’ve been talking to her for a few minutes, you need to walk away, let her simmer for five or six minutes or . . . twenty minutes, and let her see you talking to other people. It’s going to bring out an incredible competitive fire in her, especially if you’re speaking with other women. It doesn’t matter what the women look like, it’s sufficient that they’re just other women. Or, if you’re speaking to men, it also works if everyone is laughing because you’re giving them the best of you. All of the sudden that woman is simmering so much, that she’s going to come back because you have the power of the walk away.

You have to master the power of the walk away in order to attract beautiful women everywhere you go. This is because women love a leader, and women love men who can walk away from something right at the height of the conversation. It’s going to make them want more . . . and that’s what you need to create. You need to create desire in women, so they want you more.

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David Wygant — Wed, 11 Jun 2008 19:22:14 +0000

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Approaching Mailbag by Stephen Nash

Stephen Nash — Tue, 03 Jun 2008 18:17:34 +0000

Since Donovan has asked me to post to his blog, I’ve received a number of interesting questions from fellow-readers (feel free to keep them coming too, your question may be in the minds of many!).

Got a GREAT one the other day, and wanted to post it with my reply. This guy’s note to me was great because it was an ACTUAL report. A lot of notes that I get are very vague, and it’s hard for me to respond. Not this guy though – he really outlines what happened, and what actions he took…which leads to more feedback.

Let’s hear from him first:

Stephen,

I did my first Engage. Here’s how it went.

First, I read your ebook – DUDE…I didn’t realize it had so much info

on meeting women. I put it into play right away.

I workout in a large park outside my apartment building. I do interval

training, and I get VERY dirty and smelly and sweaty. This park has water

canals and all sorts of cool stuff to train on.

COOL – being out and engaged in the world…the BEST time to meet women. Sargers take note!

After my workout, I was walking towards the water fountains, and I suddenly

saw this big brown dog come out of one of the canals carrying a yellow

tennis ball. It startled me a little bit, but I just keep walking. The dog

went over to this beautiful woman, sitting on one of the granite ledges near

the canal. She was close by, and I was so startled I didn’t think twice. I

just changed course a little to walk up the stairs near her.

No hesitation, no second thoughts…the BEST way to approach. And a friendly dog never hurts either.

As I got to perhaps ten feet, her dog jumped up and ran over to me. I was

already dirty and sweaty, so I didn’t mind petting the dog. (Actually, the

dog was super friendly and sweet. I like dogs.)

The hot babe said “Abbey, come over hear! I’m sorry, she’s all wet. Abbey

come here.”

I replied, “Hey, were over here getting a workout, were BOTH dirty and wet

—- you just keep supervising. Hey, do you have a personal training

certification?”

Great comment – it’s in the moment, and it’s humorous while also flirtatious. Flirty and Funny (should I copyright that??) is the BEST combo when engaging using situational/environmental comments.

She laughed, and right then the dog decided to shake all the water off her

back. LOL

I said, “Whoa! looks she’s in better shape than me.”

Self-effacing humor implies confidence and openness, which signals to women that you would be someone easy to speak with. She knows now that you are not loaded with arrogance, and she feels more comfortable as a result.

She laughed again.

Then we chatted about her dog for a while. Then about how we liked the

canal. Then I kept it going until it was a little uncomfortable.

OK – now this is where it gets interesting (to me). HOW did you know it was uncomfortable? It was for you, perhaps, but are you sure it was for her? Why was it uncomfortable? Getting outside of our comfort zone is GOOD. So, perhaps what we are seeing here is you simply outside of the realm of what you have usually done, and are now in an unfamiliar position. Good, this way you get to learn something.

I’d like to encourage you to really note – if you can post a comment here, GREAT, so we can all benefit. But, ultimately, something told you that this was now no longer comfortable. Was it something she did? Were there awkward pauses? What’s the deal?

I started back home again, and as I left I said “See you next time, but I’ll

need to see your personal training certificate.”

She laughed again.

Why couldn’t you say instead: ”Well, gotta run home and clean up for my night. Been great chatting, how can we continue this some other time?” You’d be surprised how simple it can be to get a number or email address, if you just ASK. So often, guys mistakenly think that women will broadcast a loud and clear message that they are interested in you…this is wrong. In fact, if she stayed there for a few moments, laughed at your jokes, and didn’t disconnect the conversation, then she is probably open to exchanging digits…seriously. Next time, definitely go for it!

Stephen, she talked to me and enjoyed it, even though I was literally

covered in grime and sweat.

Yep – there is never a WRONG time now is there…

My second Engage was with a Russian woman I recognized from my local Barnes

and Noble. I swear she was disappointed when I told her I had to go.

It turns out that women might like me, after all.

Cheers,

Adam

Adam – THANKS for this man.

Yes, the only way to discover that women like you (and most of us, frankly) is to actually socialize with them. This requires a bit of guile sometimes, but the price is well paid when you have eye-opening experiences like the one described here.

Just remember to continue to lean into your comfort zone, always always challenging it.

Your comfort zone might not be connected with the truth. It might be connected with the past, or insecurity…or both…but the only way to grow is to get out there, and get out of your comfort zone.

I am doing these “natural game coaching sessions” right now, and each week on the call, a guy relays some experience of his that he SHOULD HAVE PUSHED.

Guys, you ALL stop too short. In fact, many of you may be just seconds away from success, without even realizing it.

So, hang in there as long as you can…and go past the point of comfort.

THEN, take stock of the experience, and see more clearly afterwards what REALLY happened.

And, as always, feel free to email me your notes, experiences etc for my feedback – happy to help out. For more low pressure, easy tactics for approaching women, check out my How To Get A Girlfriend ebook. It’s packed with these techniques.

Your friend,

Stephen

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Approach Anxiety II by Paul Janka

Donovan — Sun, 25 May 2008 22:57:50 +0000

Three Part Series on Approach Anxiety by Paul Janka
Part 1
Part 2
Part 3

Most men get anxious at the prospect of approaching an attractive woman because they don’t know what to expect. That is due to a lack of experience. As you get more comfortable approaching people, you will start to appreciate how similar women are, and you’ll develop standard ways to overcome their objections or make them laugh by teasing them or engaging them in an unusual manner. And, more generally, you’ll develop an ease and comfort with other people – even strangers – that will translate nicely into a confidence that women find irresistible.

Perhaps you’ve heard some of the advice out there in the dating and seduction community – things like the 3-second rule and approaching with high energy. Those are valid techniques. But, of course, both can fail: what if you can’t get to her in three seconds for some reason? What if you’re in a subdued environment that makes a “high energy” approach weird?

In general, I think it makes sense to approach a woman immediately upon seeing her to avoid a mental “psyche-out” or so you can act before the situation changes, making her less accessible. Of course, I’ve often observed a woman for a time only to see her boyfriend emerge from a bathroom or come through the door. There’s no harm in ever approaching a single woman, however, because how were you supposed to know? Also, I think that if a shy guy needs to boost his confidence by invoking a “high energy” state, that can possibly work. However, it may just amplify his nervousness, making the situation even more awkward. Or, his efforts may seem so forced or desperate that the woman is turned off. Experiment with these and other techniques that the “seduction guys” promote.

As a man who’s slept with many dozen women and approached thousands, I’ll tell you there’s only one certain method of eliminating approach anxiety: volume. Human beings are learning organisms and we learn to adapt to situations if we’re given repeated attempts at a task. It’s no different here. If you can handle some rebuffs (perhaps many) you’ll eventually learn the subtleties of what works and what doesn’t. Eventually, interacting with a beautiful woman will become your duty and very natural. That’s not to say all will yield to your charm, but you’ll feel entitled to and compelled to approach attractive women.

A final tip: a mental “psyche up” can get you in front of her – “I know I can! I know I can!” – but that’s just the beginning. If your natural state isn’t “charming, flirty” then you’ll slide back to your default personality. And, the only way to develop the personality that attracts women is to really develop it, by putting in the miles, with many women. So get out there and start saying “hi” to women, incorporating the techniques you’re reading about. I’ll tell you this: twenty cold approaches to women will teach you more than most dating books ever could.

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Approach Anxiety I by Paul Janka

Donovan — Fri, 23 May 2008 23:04:36 +0000

Three Part Series on Approach Anxiety by Paul Janka
Part 1
Part 2
Part 3

Well… Let’s see. I guess we should start at the beginning, at that first step that hangs up a lot of guys: approach anxiety. It’s certainly a valid starting point and every guy can relate to seeing that hot girl walk by and feeling the tug, but doing nothing. Chances are if you don’t initiate contact she’ll slip forever out of your reach. So, it becomes the single most important part of the process because without it, you’re not even in the game with her.

I’ve lived in NYC for exactly 6 years, and in that time my game has developed remarkably. I’ve approached thousands of girls in every environment conceivable (subway, café, bookstore, grocery, bus, movie theater, etc.) and under all kinds of conditions (groups, solo, rain, shine, wind, snow, indoor/outdoor, etc.) I’ve made notes on what works and what doesn’t. In fact, I’ve written a guide, The Attraction Formula which details all aspects of meeting and sleeping with attractive women. New York City has been a tremendous training ground for me and has allowed me to hone my skills in America’s top singles’ city.

In fact, my techniques and approaches have been so successful that several national TV shows have hosted me, allowing me to teach others the skills needed to meet beautiful women. Using hidden cameras, Dr. Phil captured me on the streets of New York picking-up girls; later, Dr. Phil had me coach a novice to be more effective with women. I was also on The Today Show as New York’s resident Casanova and I was featured on FOX News as a one of the city’s most eligible bachelors. The publicity has extended beyond television; in an article in Psychology Today they probed my methods to learn more about what goes on Inside the Mind of a Casanova.

This is not theoretical mumbo-jumbo. What I’m telling you here works, because I’ve done it and I still use it on the street today. A lot goes into the charm and confidence that’s necessary to get a woman’s attention, but I’ll focus here on how to overcome anxiety and what to say in those first few seconds – the make it or break it phase. Confidence comes from experience and knowledge, two things you’ll accumulate as you work your game. I detail a lot of this in Attraction Formula and I’m not going to repeat it here. I will, however, give you a few pointers that can help you up the learning curve faster. Assuming you are ready to walk out and approach girls for their phone numbers, you should keep in mind a few things.

First of all, remembering a bunch of subliminal body language indicators and NLP techniques is burdensome. I always laugh at all those flow charts and acronyms the other “gurus” use when they teach. How do they expect a guy – who is already nervous on his approach – to keep all these confusing instructions in his head? On the other hand, it’s not very useful to say, “Be natural,” and hope the guy is good at rapping. There is a better way, and I’m about to explain it.

I’ve never heard of a real player using a “canned” line. I, myself, do fall back on rather dull “openers” when I’m lazy, but they result in pick-ups of which I’m not especially proud. Nor do they make for good stories. The best pick-ups come when I use original, situational opening lines. And here’s the trick: my mind is at ease to generate these humorous openers because I’m relaxed and confident – there’s no fear or anxiety cluttering my creative channels.

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How To Pick Up Girls Who Have Boyfriends by Roosh

Donovan — Thu, 22 May 2008 02:09:34 +0000

I’m going to skip the whole moral argument that you shouldn’t hit on a girl who has a boyfriend. If you don’t believe in hitting on girls who have boyfriend then that’s cool, otherwise read on.

First, don’t even bother with newly engaged or married girls. I think you’ll have better chances with a nun than a girl who just made a huge commitment with another man. It takes at least a few months for that to wear out.

That leaves two other types of girls with boyfriends: ones that are unhappy and ones that are neither unhappy nor quite ecstatic either. The best way to find out what type of girl you are dealing with is the length of time it takes until she drops the boyfriend.

The longer amount of time until she drops the bomb, the better. It’s best if she doesn’t mention the boyfriend at all and you learn from a third party. Think about that for a second… if a girl is happy with her man, he will keep popping up in her head, leading to a large amount of guilt when talking to a player she is attracted to. She attempts to relieve this guilt by mentioning him as much as possible in the conversation.

The sooner she mentions him and the more times she mentions him, the less likely you will get anywhere. This should be your guide to see if you should commit to gaming a girl with a boyfriend, especially since they will take more work than a single girl.

On the other hand if it takes a girl over 20 minutes for her to drop the boyfriend, consider her breakable. Now combine that with her engaging you, making eye contact, asking your questions, and touching you. The more she does any of these things, the less issue the boyfriend is and more you can proceed as you normally do.

It takes a little experience to tell between the girls who flirt just to feel attractive and girls who want to get banged by a new dick, but you’ll know for sure when you go to number or kiss close; one will put up Great Wall of China resistance and the other will only offer token resistance.

If the approach is going well and things are progressing past the thirty minute mark, just keep doing what you’re doing and go for the kiss on the same night. When you get in close she will make a verbal objection about having a boyfriend but just like you would do if she was resisting in the bedroom, simply agree with her so she doesn’t think further about it in her mind.

Don’t make it a tug of war, but then of course you try again a few minutes later, breaking down the resistance. If she says she can’t do anything with you, just say you weren’t trying anyway with a smile. But keep pushing until you get it.

For girls that seem to be breakable but not easy, the only way to it is through regular access. If you work with her or see her weekly, then repeated access to her will nibble at her resistance until she just goes through with it. It’s because she can’t just forget about you or un-attract herself to you. But if you meet her one night in the club and just get her number, the seduction is over because she won’t allow her to see you without feeling like a cheat. Every extra minute she hangs with you and a minute’s worth exposure of your game that will help your cause.

Bottom line is if she puts herself in a position to cheat, she will cheat, and you should take full advantage of it. I found this all out the hard way years ago when I believed the best way to get a girl with a boyfriend was to first be her “friend.” I don’t think I need to tell you how far that got me, with all those wasted nights talking on the phone about the problems she is going with the guy that she is having sex with. It was an embarrassing period of my life and I try not to think about it.

It wasn’t until my first success with an engaged girl at work (years after experimenting with every technique out there), that I first learned how having access is critical to getting with desirable girls who were already taken. And with girls after, I learned that with them you must grow on her gradually like a fungus. Eventually, if your game is tight, she will make it all too easy for things to progress.

But before I got there I mastered the art of the pick up in coffee shops, bookstores, bars, and clubs after hundreds and hundreds of approaches. I developed a reliable system that is flexible enough for you to inject your own style while still taking you to the next level. And it’s all backed by my Bust Out Your Condoms Guarantee.

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Signals (Stephen Nash Column)

Stephen Nash — Mon, 28 Apr 2008 16:47:45 +0000

Let’s talk a little bit about “signals” this week.

Women send them to you ALL THE TIME, and if you’re like the majority of men, you’re completely illiterate about reading them.

I’m going to actually list them at the end of this article, so you can never “wonder” about this again.

In fact, print this list up and put it on an index card to have on hand with you at all times.

Ever find yourself in this little scenario?

There you are, walking down the street, and you lock eyes with an attractive woman. You both hold this stare for as long as you possibly can.

Then, you pass her, and after a few paces, glance back only to find she has done just the same thing. Your hear skips a beat, and you wonder, “should I talk to her?”

If you are like most people you keep walking, regretting that you didn’t take the obvious opportunity to go for it.

Why is it that we receive an OBVIOUS social signal from a person we are clearly attracted to, only to find ourselves walking away from a golden opportunity?

Part of it is conditioning and part of it is fear.

Fear, a most devastating force, trains us over time not to trust ourselves. If we did, we would know the door was wide open, and would walk up and start a conversation.

Think about how many similar opportunities you have had, and with a simple change in your thought pattern, what kind of difference in your life would that mean?

I bet it’s pretty big.

You know, the old “Carpe Diem” mindset which so many of us NEVER live up to.

If a girl gives you eye contact, and holds it for just a bit longer than is the custom, it means EXACTLY what it means when you do the same thing…she feels that jolt of attraction.

She sees you, and feels her chemistry change in that moment, JUST LIKE YOURS DID.

It is the magic of attraction – when you see each other, and something in you says “yes”.

What usually happens is that we pass these open doors all the time. Sometimes it is not feasible to approach the girl.

We might have a meeting, or might be running late to work. There are many viable reasons not to stop and talk.

I think most of us intuitively know what this magic moment means, and we simply don’t trust ourselves to go for it.

Nike said it best – Just Do It.

Another definite signal she is definitely into you is if she smiles at you.

Sounds obvious – and it is obvious.

But, I bet you’ve also let that opportunity pass you by too, haven’t you?

She wouldn’t smile at you if she wasn’t attracted to something about you. I once knew a guy who was above average in attractiveness, who had smiles from women all day long…he thought they were “just being nice”.

In fact, this is an opening to begin a conversation. It is a signal that her first impression of you is a good one, and that she would be interested in meeting you.

I recall once being at a restaurant with some friends of mine. I had made eye contact with a woman a few tables away.

She kept getting up for one reason or another, and each time she would she would glance our way, and then parade by our table to reach her destination.

A friend of mine pointed this out to me. I then made my introduction to her later in the night, and eventually dated this woman.

Also, if a woman is in your vicinity, and she opens her body language to you by facing you, this also is a good sign that she is open to meeting you.

Imagine you are in a group of people, carrying on a conversation. When you speak, she faces you with her body.

But, when someone else speaks, she turns her head to hear them, but her body still faces you.

This indicates that she is more interested in talking with you than with anyone else in the group.

Also, pay attention to your body language in social situations.

When you see someone that you find attractive, don’t you subtly open your body to them?

What we are doing is signaling the other person, subconsciously, that we are interested in having a
conversation with them.

These subtle cues occur within social settings constantly.

If you can recognize them, you will begin to see that women are communicating with men via their behavior and body language all the time.

These are signs that, initially, she feels some attraction for you. By noticing these, you will feel a greater amount of confidence when making your introductions later.

One last point on these initial signs: if you notice a woman, and she does not signal you in any of the above ways, it might simply mean that she is preoccupied or that she simply hasn’t noticed you…YET.

In any event, go ahead and make your approach, what do you have to lose? There are no hard and fast rules here as that would be way too easy, and therefore, unrealistic.

Go for it anyway.

With some good conversational skills and a solid personal style,your first impression will be great anyway.

Your chances are then very good for entering into a positive interaction with the woman you have approached.

Here is a list of twenty-five ways women signal initial interest to us:

1) Repeatedly glances at you from across the room
2) Walks by your location, going out of her way to be noticed by you
3) Smiles at you
4) Positions herself so that her body is open to you, wanting you to see her
5) In a tight environment (say, by the bar or on the subway) will subtly, and purposely, bump you to get your attention and prompt an “excuse me”
6) Stands close to you, subtly encroaching on your personal space
7) Repeats herself, and talks about boring things to keep the conversation going
Asks you personal questions
9) Ignores her friends or cellphone to keep talking with you
10) Touches you in any way while speaking with you
11) Compliments you
12) Talks about you in any way to other people
13) Introduces you to her friends
14) Flirts with you
15) She asks you her name early in the conversation
16) Brags about something in her life, trying to impress you
17) Laughs at things you say
18) Talks for a longer than normal amount of time
19) She fills in awkward pauses
20) She agrees to spend time alone with you; even a small side conversation at a party, bar, or other social setting
21) Asks if you are single
22) Fixes her hair, clothes, makeup, etc
23) Plays with her hair while talking with you
24) Agrees with everything you say
25) Has that “doggy dinner bowl” look – her eyes glaze over and her lower lip pouts. This one’s a biggie!

You don’t have to witness all of these to know if she is into you or not. As few as one or two may all you get.

But, that is PLENTY, OK?

Again, take the step now of cutting & pasting this list onto an index card and stick in your back pocket.

Commit these to memory, and train yourself to start MOVING once you get any of them, OK?

And when I say moving, I mean in the direction OF the woman!

If you now find yourself wondering, what do I say when I make my approach, how do I make my approach, what do I say after I engage her in conversation, how should I stand, what should I wear, how do I ask for her number, where should I take her on a date, how do I make my move and kiss her…

etc, etc, etc

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AND, who aren’t really “into” the whole “pick-up artist” nonsense.

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It’s time to get this handled.

‘Til next time,

Stephen Nash

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The Importance Of The Opening (Kezia Column)

Kezia — Wed, 09 Apr 2008 16:29:36 +0000

I want to look at the actual importance of an opening; the question being: is it the most important part of pick up or maybe the least?

I usually go with the latter statement but I also accept that in some situations the “opener” can be more of a major factor than in other circumstances.

However, I stick by my opinion that it is never beneficial when one is putting too much energy and emphasis into a fixed a routine, or getting hung up too much on that killer opener.

There’s nothing wrong with a beginner having a fixed routine just so he can get used to the feeling of approach, and vanquishing the fear of opening a complete stranger. But after the general dread of the opening has gone, its best to move away from the fixed routines relatively quickly, and begin to work on progressing your game. A fixed routine, can after a while, become yet another comfort zone that has replaced the old one.

Here Is My Take On The Approach

Generally, I teach my students to experiment with as many different openers a possible, from the dull and mundane situational observations to the extreme and ridiculous statements.

What is vital is not so much the content of the opening but more the frame of mind before the approach, and of course the…

RESPONSE TO HER REACTION
Or the
REACTION TO HER RESPONSE

I want to discuss this part in greater detail in my next column, because now I want to keep on discussing the frame of mind (pre-approach) and the actual openings.

But briefly what I mean when I say “reaction to responses,” is that no matter how fantastic and wonderful the opener you gave your target was- it can be totally fruitless if it is not taken to the next level. It’s like having a killer intro of a song, (imagine your particular fave intro) so here it is building and building to that crescendo and then being suddenly followed up by a lullaby, what an anti climax! This happens all too often when too much emphasis is put on to a brilliant opener or routine.

Saying that, there are always exceptions to the rules. For example the circumstances and the energy or mood of the target must be taken in to account.

If for instance, she is casually strolling, and taking in the sunshine at her leisure then she is more likely to stop and listen to what you have to say than one who is walking forcefully down a crowded road with a look of bother on her face. Therefore to stop the latter in her tracks and distract her from where she is intending to get to, one has to make sure the opening is a little more or a lot more (choice is yours) than a gentle “hey” Even so, the response/reaction to her response/reaction is still in my opinion more vital to master.

Frame Of Mind In Pre-Approach

No matter what gem you’ve got up your sleeve, your frame of mind must always remain high status and positive. Regardless of situation and target.

I tell all my students to write out a list, of what they require in their ideal woman, not physically. For instance is she funny? Political? Maternal? A smoker? Drinker? Is she ambitious? Does he like woman who can laugh at them selves? Does he like woman who has a interest in current affairs? What puts him off? Someone who is vulgar? Ignorant?

In other words, BE FUSSY! Be fussy as much as us girls are! He will find himself going in to the approach automatically with a tick box, does she fit the criteria? Is she good enough for me? Not am I good enough for her? Reverse the pattern!

Also this will make him much less outcome dependent, and if he’s not outcome dependent then there can be no rejection.

Noun
Rejection – the act of rejecting something; “his proposals were met with rejection”

If he has yet to decided whether she’s met his expectations or ticked enough boxes for him to ask for her number, or offers his then that means he is going in to “set,” without any chance of rejection. Only once he has decided she is worthy enough to take his number (or ask for hers,) does he enter the point when rejection could occur. But to be honest by that stage, if she has told him so much about herself, and providing he has remained in high status through out, the chances of rejection are slim.

When he spots his target, what should not be going on in his head, is the following:

“Wow she hot, right, lets see, what should I do? I hope she likes me, I need to get this girls number, she’s so hot, I hope I don’t fuck this one up etc.”

This will immediately put him in low status, it will put pressure on the situation because he has become so “outcome dependent” and he might even build her up so much that he will not go through with it after all.

Non-PUAs spot an attractive woman, and make up their mind there and then that they want to take her to bed, regardless of whether she’s a bitch or she smokes or she’s dull. This will automatically make him approach the target at a lower status and totally fixated on the outcome, so much so that he will give up all his principles and let her trample on his pride so he can get her to bed.

What should be going on in his mind?

“She’s cute, yeah at least an 8, but what else does she have to offer? I’m going to have myself a little chat with this and see if she funny, nice, political, sexy” whatever his tick boxes require to be ticked.

This will immediately put him in high status, his body language will become more alpha, he will keep his principles and pride in tact, and since he’s not outcome dependent, it will free him from any pressure he might have had otherwise.

So remember: pre-approach frame of mind is more important than the opening line as is also the reaction/response to here response/reaction.

I will leave you with 2 conversations, one resulting with a tried and tested positive opener and the other with a dull opener, each resulting differently NOT because of the material in the opener but with what comes after.

Jack: “Hey- you look like a fairly stylish girl, I was wondering if I could get your opinion on something”

Hb: “Sure”

Jack: “The thing is, its my friend Tanya’s birthday next week, and she kinda has your physique and coloring and I was wondering if you could suggest a knock me dead outfit that I could get her?”

Hb: “Sure- em, what’s your budget”

Jack: “£200”

Hb: “Ok, then I would say a corset, if she has my body then a corset would suit her”

Jack: “A corset, cool”

Hb: “Yeah”

Jack: “Cool, erm, what color”

Hb: “Hmm well if she’s got my coloring then I would say yellow or maybe black”

Jack: “Yellow or black? Cool- do you think she’d like that”

Hb: “Er, well I guess, which girl wouldn’t like an item of clothing for £200”

Jack: “Cool, yeah your probably right. So who are you here with tonight?”

So many hooks, so many avenues, great opener….but what an anti climax right?

After the opening, as good as it was, comes the point where she is reminded she is talking to a total stranger, what happens next? Barriers go up, and everything else after that becomes un natural and desperate.

Lets look at this one.

Jack: “Hey, great music here tonight”

Hb: “Its ok”

Jack: “Ha- if I was in a club where I thought the music was just ok – I would leave”

Hb: “Yeah?”

Jack: “Defiantly, why would someone stick around if the music was lame?”

Hb: “ I never said it was lame”

Jack: “Yeah, but you never said it was great either”

Hb: “Well, it’s ok”

Jack: “See there you go again- back to that boring word ok, you should try being more adventurous in your choice of words”

Hb: “ Like what?”

Jack: “Like, I think the music here is weak, or its plain or monotonous, pick one!”

Hb: “Ok, it’s monotonous”

Jack: “That’s true it is a bit, I guess you must hate rap, that can be monotonous”

Hb: “No, I like rap”

Jack: “You don’t strike me as a ghetto girl”

Hb: “I’m not really” (laughs)

Jack: “Too late babe- tonight I’m going to know you as Ghetto Queen”

This shows how a boring opener with a non-responsive girl can be more effective if done correctly than a great opener with a responsive girl!

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Engage With The Reversal (Stephen Nash Column)

Stephen Nash — Mon, 07 Apr 2008 17:54:22 +0000

This weekly column has been getting loads of great feedback! Thanks for all your emails and comments. Keep them coming. I’m here every Monday.

I had an interesting conversation the other night that I wanted to share.

Is it just me, or do the best inspirations always come when you least expect them?

Anyway, I am a pretty driven guy – and usually find myself out too late working on projects that interest me. I’ve been getting interested again in the arts recently, and this guy is a painter friend of mine, who is about to open a gallery show. He’s a really cool guy, but a bit clueless when it comes to women.

He’s got a cool place to live where he also works, so whenever we meet up we always go to his place so I can see what he’s up to.

As usual, anytime I am hanging with a friend, they always ‘download’ their recent girl dramas. And this time was no different. My friends all get a kick out of my work, and they also know that I LOVE hearing stories from “the field”.

He had recently hit up this bar downtown, and wanted to try out some approaches. He’s not a PUA per se, but he does like to engage women in conversation. Here’s what he told me:

Him: “Stephen, I know you guys used to script these things to a tee…and I understand that and all, but I discovered that the BEST way to open up a convo is to REVERSE their expectations from the get-go”

Me: “Hmmm…I have this image of you approaching them and pretending to be gay and completely disinterested…true? Please say no…”

Him: “No way. Not at all. But take the most common scenario, a guy rolls up and says ‘Can I buy you a drink?’ – right? Isn’t that the most common scenario?”

Me: (ugh, he’s building a ‘yes’ tree here…he’s a great salesman) YES

Him: “So, what if you – INSTEAD – said to her: “Hey girls – listen, I’ve got a little challenge – you up for it? (they always say ‘yes’). If you can guess my favorite drink, I will buy you a drink. In fact, I’ll give you three shots at it”

Me: Hmmmm…that’s interesting…tell me more (aka, YES)

Him: “Well, it immediately puts a fun frame around the interaction, and separates you from the pack. Isn’t that what you’re always saying Stephen? AND, I got three numbers last Friday night using JUST this method.”

He was and IS right. I was so glad he brought this up, because it is so SIMPLE and useful to guys who dislike routines, but who also want some sort of structure to use when beginning the conversation.

It reminded me of a conversation Style and I had years back at Project Hollywood. We were rehashing an old Ross Jeffries routine that I used to use when I was very new. It goes like this:

“Excuse me. Are you confident enough to accept a sincere compliment from a complete stranger?”

I’ve always liked this script, and used it for a long time. I even experienced results with it, unlike most who use RJ’s stuff.

Style and I however conceived of a new way of wording it – by adding the below to the end.

(after she says ‘yes’)

“Hey, so am I! You go first”

What you do is completely reverse the expectation and cause her to have to think on her feet. This obviously separates you from ‘the pack’ while also causing intrigue. She HAS to engage you, as she can’t rely on her own bag of tricks.

So, engage her in conversation by using her expectations FOR you. The only difference it – REVERSE this so that you get the advantage.

Take an obvious source of conversation, and simply reverse it on its head so that you are challenging her. Here are some examples (all said with a smile btw…otherwise you’ll come off as an ass):

“If I give you guys some cash, do you mind bringing drinks to me and my friends throughout the night? We’re really tired and would love to just kick back without running back and forth to the bar”

or

“Nice bag. Could I borrow it for say five minutes? I want to impress someone”

or

(if someone is having a cellphone conversation nearby)

(roll your eyes) “Let’s pretend to be the other person on the line. We’ll take turns. I’ll go first: “aah, but I love you Jim, I think about you always…” (turn it into a soap opera)

Be challenging and engaging.

Be DIFFERENT.

Use something happening and turn it on its head. Instead of asking a lame question about it – turn it into something USEFUL.

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10 Ways To Get Started With Game (Sinn Column)

Sinn — Sat, 05 Apr 2008 00:13:15 +0000

Hey guys for my first article on the Seduction chronicles, I wanted to write to the brand new guys who may need a guiding hand in getting in the game. So without further ado here’s 10 things to do to get started in “The Game”.

1. Get a new haircut. This doesn’t have to be expensive, but the psychological ramifications of shedding your old look can’t be overstated. The first thing you should do is find a gay hairstylist. For the most part female hairstylists will cute your hair to make you look safe, whereas a gay guy will cut it to make you look sexy. Don’t try to control what he does, just let him go to town. You’ll now also have a new way of looking at yourself when you see your new haircut in the mirror.

2. Learn to make eye contact. Head out to the mall on a Saturday morning and practice walking around, making eye contact and saying “hi” to strangers. It doesn’t matter if they’re guys, girls whatever. We’re working on learning to hold eye contact. The more comfortable you become with making eye contact, the better you’ll do.

3. Don’t read so much. It can be VERY tempting to try to learn everything you can about game as soon as you find out about the community. Don’t. All you need in the beginning is an opener. Make sure that you spend at least 4 times as much time out in the field as you do reading. That means for every hour of reading, you’re in field for 4 hours.

4. Record your success and failures. You can do this with an audio recorder if that’s legal in your state Or you can simply write down what happened whne you come home. You should focus on a few things. First, how many women did you approach? You want to make sure that you write down a simple description of what you material you used, what her reaction was and how the interaction ended. This is a vital part of getting good, as you’ll start to notice patterns when you see the same thing written down over and over again.

5. Work on your body language. There is NO such thing as “ Super Alpha” body language. Instead you want to focus on looking comfortable and taking up enough space. Bad body language generally breaks down into on of two categories. Not taking up enough space, or taking up too much space. If you look relaxed and comfortable with no nervous twitches, you have good body language.

6. Set a schedule for going out. Make sure that you figure out what venues have the types of girls you like in them, and then plan some time to go there EVERY week. Look at going out to meet girls the same way you would look at going to the gym. You have a workout schedule where you’re going to go to the gym( Wherever you want to meet women) and do specific exercises to work on parts of your game.

7. Start asking for phone numbers every time you talk to a new woman. This is a great way to work on your phone game. Phone game is a separate skillset in and of itself, and as such needs to be practiced by itself. To do that you need to get a lot of phone numbers. Plus you’ll get practice at pushing your interactions farther, which is a good skill to develop for later.

8. Don’t beat yourself up. This is key. You have to recognize that there is no hurry to get good at this stuff and that you have the rest of your life to learn it. Be honest with yourself about where you need work, but make sure that you compare yourself to where you are coming from not where you eventually want to be. Or even worse where others are.

9. Get comfortable touching strangers. This is a huge piece of the game as well. I have found that the more educated a student is, the more trouble they have with touching. Touching is on of the things that you can practice all the time. Get used to becoming a “Touchy” guy. Touch the barista at Starbucks on the shoulder, touch your friends on the arm to emphasize points, etc… Make sure that you get used to touching everyone you speak to in a comfortable way.

10. Have fun!!!!! This is the MOST important thing when it comes to meeting women. If talking to you is not more fun than anything else she could be doing at the time, why does she want to talk to you? Fun trumps everything else. You can be de-selected by women, a loser of men and a destroyer of loved ones, but if women have fun with you, you’ll be successful.

Til next time,

Sinn

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Beware The Alpha Females (Kezia Column)

Kezia — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 14:32:53 +0000

I’m Kezia, and in my first Wednesday column I want to touch on an important point for the starter PUAs rather than the advanced guys.

After a few hours of theory I regularly send my students out on day game. I accompany them to a bookstore, café, gallery, museum, department store, etc.

Before sending him on an approach, I remind him of the three vital elements of pick up which I would have already taught him in the theory session (a blog post for another time.) After helping him locate his target, I find my position to make sure I can not only see him but hear him too, and off he goes, beaming with high energy, high status value and a general positive frame of mind.

This is a typical scenario in Waterstones bookstore, a particular store which is very large (7 floors) and where a surprisingly large amount of females seem to go to in the late afternoon.

The Student goes in to open an HB 7, who is casually browsing the “self help” section (excellent start)

Student: “Hey, I was wondering if you could recommend me a good self help book, preferably one that says “money back guarantee” on the front cover.”

Girl turns around; initially a little startled but then relaxes in to a confident smile.

HB 7: “Sure, this one is meant to be very good,” she holds up some manual about self-help.

She continues.

HB 7: “Personally I’m getting this other one because I recently started a new job, and well, I guess I thought it might help”

Student begins to relax too much WRONG!
Student cant believe his luck WRONG!
Student begins to ask closed questions WRONG!

Student: “Oh really? What job is that?”

HB 7: “Well I’m a P.A- I’m working for a complete arse hole, but hey, it’s a good salary so I guess it’s worth it!”

She hands him book

HB 7: “Anyway, this ones pretty good, I’m not sure if its money back guarantee though, ha-ha”

Student laughs too WRONG!

Sudent: “Oh thanks, this looks really good. So. You’re working for an arse hole, that must be tough”

HB 7:“yes it is, but I’m used to that, all my bosses have been either arse holes or worse. Ha-ha”

Students laughs with her again WRONG!

At this point I note that the Student has not even really looked at the book she had chosen for him, he is just dangling the book in his hand as she continues to dominate the conversation, and he in turn goes more and more back to all his old habits pre- theory.

Usually what happens next is one of 2 things. Either he does not ask for her number. Or if he does she says no.

She then goes back to looking for a book about getting one over her arse hole boss (that she probably fancies), and he goes off with a book he doesn’t want which he discretely dumps in a another section out of her view.

Let’s now look at the following to help work out how this could have been handled well.

Whats going on in an alpha females mind

Whats going on in his mind

What two mistakes most men make

What he should have done

What’s Going On In An Alpha Female’s Mind

This girl prides her self in being an alpha female. She wakes up in the morning believing she has a high powered job, she looks in the mirror and says; “Hell yeah!” She’s probably quite good looking, she also knows men want something she has, but, at the same time she values herself as being out going and friendly and feels it is unnecessary to be a complete bitch if a man approaches her.

In other words she would rather the man temporarily fall in love with her before saying a polite “Fuck off” rather than straight out “Fuck off”.

So when my student came over to talk to her, what she saw was yet another confident guy making a move on her. She automatically went in to an over confident, helpful and friendly state of mind, knowing fall well this will allow her to dominate the conversation, and enable her to take it where she wants it to go, and end it when she wants to end it, thus confirming her status as an alpha female.

What’s Going On In His Mind

To begin with, he approaches a girl – half expecting her to be a little shy or on her guard, but thanks to theory he has been taught how to counter act these obstacles.

So there he is, and much to his disbelief he has encountered a “friendly” and “out going” women, she must like him because she’s talking so much! She’s talking about her job, her boss and she’s even bending over backwards to help him find her a book, only a few more hours before she’s bending over backwards in his bed.

He’s thinking this is great; now its time to number close here goes! Either that or he will be thinking How can I ask her for her number, he might have the following going on in his mind. I feel awkward, I can’t seem to get the conversation to move to that level and casually just ask. (Well what do you expect? She’s dominated the conversation exactly to where she wants, not where you want!)

Two Mistakes Most Men Make

Most men will do the above, but sometimes you might get some who try to be funnier than her, louder than her, and it’s not that she will not like it, but they might become the dreaded “male friend” potential rather than the lover potential.

Remember – she wants to meet her match, not her male equivalent!

What He Should Have Done!

Now he is aware of how this type of alpha female operates, he should automatically also be aware of the false sense of security she is creating.

This woman is used to men hanging on her very word, she is after all witty, attractive and generally good fun. She’s also used to compliments, praise and being centre of attention too.

However, what she is subconsciously searching for is the man who comes along and challenges her, the man who is not so easily impressed, and the man who expects more from his future conquests. He is the man who is used to hundreds of these type of woman, and wants more than what they appear to offer.

Ok, so back on to what he should have done. Scenario so far, he has made a request of finding a self-help book.

She goes on as before to speak about her new job. Note the fact that she is in a “self help” section, obviously not the strong stable alpha woman she makes out to be.

This is called reading the situation in detail! (You can tell a lot from what books people read)

Now what his response should have been is this:

Student: “Well in that case, I chose the right person to find me the right book – so lets see your suggestions”

This also makes the opener more genuine as well as giving her a task to perform. Note the s and the end of suggestion.

When she hands the book to him, he should examine the book properly, take his time and look through and then tell her she failed her task.

Student:” This book is not suitable, there’s no money guarantee and it doesn’t really cover what I want”.

This will make her ask HIM a question-something she did not do in the first scenario.
Her response will probably be

HB 7: “oh…Ok, so what sort of self help book are you looking for?”

He should say

Student: “Well, its more a case that I’m looking for something that challenges my current beliefs, I think its important to be open minded”

This of course is an open statement, and will give her room to either ask him more questions or agree with him. After all, who doesn’t want to be seen as open-minded? As she continues diligently to fulfil her task, he can then casually ask her about her job that she mentioned before; except this time it’s on HIS terms and he has the lead in the conversation. She would have by now from those simple alternative statements be more aware that he has high expectations but most importantly she’s not dominating the conversation as she did in the scenario before.

It’s always vital to remain in control and in high status when doing pick up, no matter how easy it might appear for you to let her take the lead. He should find it easier to take it to the number close section, and if he is able to continue the high status role plus the other 2 vital elements of pickup (another blog for another time) she should only be too willing to give her number to the one who matched her… and more!

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Should I Approach Her? (Herbal’s Game Column)

Herbal — Tue, 25 Mar 2008 22:02:01 +0000

Hey guys,

I was digging through some old pictures a couple days ago and I found a bunch from Project Hollywood. Looking at them won’t make you better with girls, but if you read The Game and want to see what it was actually like, check out:

http://www.betterthanyourboyfriend.com/pictures-of-project-hollywood.htm

I just finished a workout so I can hardly think straight. Let’s get straight to the question:

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Hi Tynan,

I have what I guestion is one question posed in two ways.

I Have read that a woman knows if she is interested in a guy before he approaches her and that she gives body language cues such as playing with her hair etc.

So my question is if a guy does not see any indication of interest should he approach her anyway. In some cases can he attract her interest if at first she seems to have none.

GL
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Hey GL,

Your question brings us down to the foundation of what pick up is all about. Can genuine attraction be created, or is it there or not there.

The reason this question comes up (you aren’t the only one to ask it, btw), is because for us guys, we know exactly how WE get attracted. If the girl is hot, we are attracted. If she’s ugly, nothing in the world is going to get us attracted.

An interesting and related bit of trivia. Did you know that back when steam engines were the pinnacle of technology, we used to compare EVERYTHING to them? We used to think that human bodies operated like steam engines. Not exactly, of course, but they’d say things like “well, the food you eat is like the coal that goes in the furnace, and then you have to properly digest it to extract the most energy out of it.”

Sounds ridiculous, right?

Well now think of how we think of computers, our new cutting edge technology. We compare humans to computers.

The point is this – we use analogies to gain understanding. Computers are the most sophistitcated pieces of technology that we understand, so we compare ourselves to them.

At the same time, our model of attraction that we understand is how WE get attracted, so we assume that girls are the same way.

But they’re not.

Are there SOME guys that will instantly attract girls? Yes, maybe 2%. They look just like her high school crush, maybe. Or they look like the singer in her favorite band that she fantasizes about.

But for MOST of us, we start off in the “maybe” category. Girls aren’t so quick to judge. There are evolutionary reasons for this, but I won’t get into them (mainly because I’m not an expert on that).

Girls care a lot about your personality and very little about your looks. I’d say that looks are 5% of the equation and personality is 95%. That’s not an exaggeration – it’s based on my personal experience of not being a very good looking guy who girls really like.

So you have TWO things to work on:

1. Develop a good personality. Chances are you already have most of the key components here already, it’s just a matter of honing them and taking a look at what habits serve you and which take away from you. For example being non-needy and confident serves you, while being jealous and petty will repel girls.

2. Learn how to convey your personality. An awesome personality is no good if a girl can’t experience it. Just like a good movie is no good if you don’t have a DVD player. To get this down you learn how to be honest and authentic with girls and tell good stories which get your personality across.

But let’s say for a second that you don’t believe me – because some people don’t.

Should you still approach?

Yes.

If you don’t approach, your chances with her are .01%. I’m willing to give you that small percentage because maybe one in 10,000 girls you see in your life will approach you.

Your chances if you DO approach depend on how good your personality is and how good you are at conveying that personality. But even if you have an unrefined personality and aren’t great at conveying it… approaching is still better than not approaching.

I hope that answers your question, GL. My entire pick up course is focused on helping you develop your personality and showing you how to convey it in the easiest and most effective way. I’m going to send you a free copy to get you started down the path to glory.

For everyone else reading this, make sure to go to www.makeherchaseyou.com/newsletter and pick up a copy of the course. It
includes my 124 page ebook, a 70+ minute hidden microphone audio of me picking up girls, a short wingman guide, and a 30 day online course with lessons and missions every day for a month.

Take care,

Tynan

P.S. Have a question you want answered? Make it short and sweet and I might answer it next week! Email: weekly@makeherchaseyou.com

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Taking Your Game International

Donovan — Wed, 12 Mar 2008 07:01:38 +0000

This is a guest post by Roosh V, whose blog I’ve started to sponsor. Definitely check his writings out if you’re in the DC area or like women.

Roosh in Brazil

The assumption guys make about girls is that they all respond the same, that game is game and things should work regardless of where the girl is from. I made this mistake and exported my push-pull, cocky and funny, and indirect game to Argentina with poor results. Here are some things I learned…

1. Do your research. Before you board the plane, ask your wingmen if they’ve had experiences with girls from that country. And when you arrive, make friends with the local guys and ask them for their opinions on the girls. One of my best friends is Russian and I can tell you that Russian girls will appear cold and distant when you first approach them but you should push on anyway.

2. Adapt quickly. On a two week vacation, you simply don’t have the time to learn a new game, but you do have time to make easy adjustments that affect how the locals respond to you. For example in Peru, the more you look like a gringo (think Abercrombie & Fitch), the better you’ll do with the girls in the club, so leave the soccer jersey at home. In Argentina the kiss is a big deal, so you delay your kiss attempt longer than usual without getting frustrated when things are moving along slower than normal.

3. Approach in massive numbers. The big myth of traveling is that you will get more abroad than you do at home, but there are so many obstacles (no cell phone, no pad, no wingmen, language barrier, lack of venue knowledge, and so on), that the only way to make up for them is to approach a lot more than you normally do. With many girls closed off to having sex with a gringo who is only in town for a weekend, sometimes you need to keep going until you find a girl who doesn’t mind and speaks your language. It takes a lot more energy than you are used to.

4. Western girls are easiest. American, English, Irish, and Australian girls are the easiest in the world. There are some exception (Brazilian girls are not difficult), but keep in mind you may need to put in more time with a local. American girls are so easy that I missed them in in Argentina while approaching the most beautiful (and difficult) girls I’ve ever met in my life.

5. Take it easy on the alcohol. While at home you’re mostly on auto-pilot, at a bar you know with wingmen you trust, but when you’re abroad you need to be full of energy and more mindful about what you are doing. It’s far better to pound Red Bull than beer.

If you can get laid with pretty girls who barely speak your language then there aren’t many challenges you can’t face. The last tip I can give you is simply to be fun: when you can’t talk with words, all the girl is going by is your positive energy and vibe. Sometimes all you’ll need to do is be the life of the party.

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Three Steps To Amazing Speed Dating

Donovan — Fri, 18 Jan 2008 22:00:35 +0000

This guest post was written by Art Malov of NYC Wingmen. You can read his blog at PUAFuture.

Speed dating is a great way to meet new people. You know that everyone is single and women are actually paying to meet you! It sounds like a dream come true. Well, it is, but speed dating does not come without its own potential pitfalls. In this article, I will address some of these pitfalls and discuss how to avoid them. Less blunders equals more matches and dates after each event for you.

It stings when you speed date and you feel as if you have connected with a number of women during an event, but then find out a few days later that there are no matches waiting in your mailbox. When this happens, it’s easy to blame every woman that you met for not liking you or come to the rationalization that you didn’t like anyone at the event. It’s also easy to go into despair and think that no one likes you. I will offer you a much better solution by helping you spot your speed dating mistakes and getting you on track to not only meeting more women at each speed dating event, but also meeting women that you want.

I suggest arriving at the speed dating event a few minutes early. This way you’ll have enough time to grab a drink and feel more comfortable, instead of arriving a few minutes late and having to scramble to get to the event.

#1 Mind set is what matters

We tend to spend a lot more time focusing on our clothing when going on a date, but much less time devoted to focusing on our own mind set. This is probably the biggest mistake guys make because they are putting too much emphasis on dressing up and not enough emphasis on thinking positive and seeing themselves as fun and attractive. Women feel that if you are confident, then you are attractive. You should be well groomed because, let’s face it, in this day and age, it’s practically mandatory. The next time you are getting ready for a speed date, take five minutes away from your grooming time and remind yourself that women are at the event for a reason, and that reason is to meet you: a fun, relaxed and confident man. To do this, think of some success that you have had in the past. Remind yourself of how you have faced some challenges and dealt with them. Get in a state of confidence by listening to music that puts you in a confident mood, give yourself a pep talk, or do anything that you normally do to gain your assured personality. Remind yourself that you are a cool guy who values himself and the women will find you attractive and will want to know more about you.

#2 Don’t be too serious.

When we don’t know somebody, it’s our tendency to find out all of the facts about the other person first. Where they live? Where they work?. Who their second cousins are? These questions are all good, but don’t begin a conversation with them . In fact, if they don’t come up, then it’s even better. Have some fun while you are on a speed date. Talk about a recent travel or something curious that you’ve heard on the news. One of the most underused conversational pieces are current events, but there is a stigma to talk about these boring events with friends and people you don’t know, so reverse it. Before the event, pick up the newspaper, leaf through it, get some ideas and spot a few things that you find unusual or amusing. Here are some actual headlines: ‘Woman Finds Unicorn Under Her Bed’ or ‘Wedding Ring Deflects A Gun Shot, Saves A Life’. Stay away from serious or political issues. Now you are ready for a speed date. Speed dating is not synonymous with bore dating. So, don’t take the speed dating activity too seriously because this is not a job interview. Start with a joke and then you can touch up on other elements that interest you. Remember, you only have a few minutes to have a conversation. Becoming boring by asking tedious questions is not memorable, so have fun in the conversation.

#3 Don’t try to impress

Most men are trying too hard to impress a woman. What they don’t know, is that when you try too hard to impress, you come off as needy. When you come off as needy, you are not going to find a match. Remember, she is there for a reason and that reason is you, a fun and interesting guy. Don’t do all the talking in the conversation. Let your date ask you some questions in return. Don’t brag about your great car or your well paid job, unless it naturally comes up. Removing the need to impress will do amazing things for your meeting and dating life. Arrive at each speed dating event with the attitude that you are there to have fun rather than anticipating the dread of the first date. It will make a world of difference. It’s great when a conversation is going so well and you feel that you have a lot to say, and then you hear a signal to move on to meet the next woman. It’s great because if you had so much fun and interesting things to talk about, you will want to see each other again. That’s a match right there. There is no need to impress.

Speed dating is an exciting way of meeting new people when you come to an event with a positive attitude. Look at the event as a fun experience and a good way to meet new people rather then serious activity, and you will get a lot of matches that you like.

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Dance Floor Game by Craig

Donovan — Sun, 23 Dec 2007 06:56:49 +0000

Found this in some archives, and thought it would be great to get this out to the mainstream once more. I had lunch with Craig from Double Your Dating and he KNOWS what game is all about. Many of the underlying principles of Mystery Method and Double Your Dating originally come from him.

Ever since I was on Elimidate people have been hounding me about my dance floor routines, so being the nice guy that I am I decided to type them up. Here you go guys. Enjoy. The dance floor is a huge part of my closing game and I hope this helps you guys out there.

Dance Floor Approaches

When I first started going to clubs I used to see so much action going down on the dance floor that I thought that was where it was at. What I didn’t realize is that most of the people that were making out on the dance floor had met off of the dance floor. Since I didn’t know any better, I put in a ton of effort to learn how to meet girls on the floor, but now I rarely use any of my techniques, since my other methods are more effective.

I’ve found that even the best dance floor approaches have a maximum 75% success rate. No matter what you do, what you look like, or how good of a dancer you are, you can expect to get rejected 25% of the time or more. Compare this to the success rate of going up to a girl at the bar and making her laugh, and it’s a no-brainer. Plus if you get rejected by a girl on the dance floor it lowers your chances of making something happen when you do see her again.

The skills to pull off a dance floor approach will still come into play in certain situations, like loud nightclubs, or a huge party atmosphere. I’m convinced that you can survive off of the dance floor alone on Spring Break Trips or in Las Vegas. This stuff is also great for the guys out there who are meeting girls that are under 21. These approaches are all you need to get the ball rolling with younger women.

The Butt Bump

The Butt Bump is a very innocent opener and definitely has the highest success rate of the dancing approaches. When you are dancing next to the girl you like, stand side by side and start playfully bumping you butt against hers. Sounds easy, and it is. I’ve never done this without the girl cracking a HUGE smile and getting into it. They love it! After the third or fourth bump turn to face her…Hopefully she will do the same, and BAM! You’re dancing! You can also use the Butt Bump when you’re standing next to a girl at the bar to start up a conversation, or to liven things up with a girl you are already dancing with

The Asshole Dance Opener

When I was younger I was very aggressive on the dance floor, and that is how the Asshole Dance Opener came about.

I was really tired of going to clubs and seeing the girls dancing together like lesbians. Most of the time when I would try to squeeze in between the girls would only get closet together and block me. More problems arose when I would try to dance with just one of the girls, because her friend would get jealous and pull her friend away.

My solution is field-tested and has good results if you have the right attitude. Save this technique for a really crowded dance floor. Make your way up to the girls without making any eye contact, and like an asshole motion with your hands for them to spread apart so you can get through. They will back away from each other, roll their eyes and think, “Who does this asshole think he is?” That’s when you show them!

As soon as they spread apart, take one step so you’re in between them, and start groovin like there’s no tomorrow! If you do it right you will soon you will be freaking both girls to the amazement of anyone who’s watching! Turn towards the one you want and let the other one grind on your back. It’s great to be the man!

A more modest approach is to smile at them and say excuse me, yet still look like you are just passing through. Experiment with both and see what works best for you.

I will never forget the night I discovered this move. I was at a club and the dance floor was packed. After a short dance session I decided to grab another drink at the bar. On my way off the floor I saw these two gorgeous girls dancing together getting super freaky. They had a tight circle of guys around them all TRYING to get a piece of the action, with absolutely no luck. I walked up said, “Excuse me”, to the two schmucks closest to me and broke in with Asshole Dance Opener. It was awesome! I had ten chumps cheering me on, wondering how I did it, not to mention two fine girls freaking me from front to back!

Dance Floor Skills – What To Do When You Get There

Dance floor skills are essential to any man’s game, whether you are at a club or at a wedding. If you don’t know how to dance I suggest you watch the movie “Save the Last Dance” and watch how the main character dances. Watch how he is always dancing to the beat and always in control, and practice! The time you spend dancing alone in front of your TV set will pay off, trust me!

One thing that has helped my dance floor skills unexpectedly was a beginning swing-dance course in college. I only remember 3 moves but I use them all of the time! I definitely recommend you take a few classes if you are serious about being the man on the dance floor. It will really help your overall dancing skills, and I’m sure there will be one or two hotties in the class with you that you can practice on. No excuses!

Once you have to basic skills down, I highly recommend taking girls to the dance floor as part of your game. It’s a great way to amp up the attraction.

One of my favorite moves is to say to a girl, “So, do you know how to dance?” If she says “Yes” I say, “Prove it!…Let’s go!” and I take her by the hand and lead her onto the floor.

They say that dancing is a vertical expression of a horizontal pleasure, and you will find that there is no better place to turn up the heat then in the middle of the dance floor.

When your getting down it’s only natural to make lots of physical contact. Always remember the Double Your Dating 2 steps forward 1 step back principle. Get close for awhile, then back off and dance a few feet away from her. Then get a little closer for a little longer, then pull away again. This REALLY drives the girls nuts.

If things are getting really hot, you can use the Double Your Dating kiss test. Look in her eyes and take one hand and stroke her hair back right above her ear. If she holds eye contact with you, go in slowly and give her a smooth kiss, then pull away. Say, “Yum…You’re a good kisser!” and give her some more.

I used to go to a bar that would end every night by playing 2 slow songs. I knew exactly what time they shut down, and my routine was to bring a girl out onto the floor right before I knew they were coming up. That way when the slow song came on we were already out there! It was only natural for us to keep grooving to the slow music, and since I had already turned up the heat by grinding during the last few fast songs, it was very easy to start making out right there. I can’t tell you how many women I got at this bar. I recommend finding out which clubs do this and what time they shut down, and incorporating it into your game. It’s a proven winner!

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