Hot off the press, this just happened on Facebook.  Ross Jeffries was obviously at home trying to find different directions to spew his hate in (where does that come from Ross? Is your life really so shit?) and decided that today’s target was Richard La Ruina’s (Gambler) Facebook Fan Page.  Check out the unprovoked attack and what followed:

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A lot of people when they choose which PUA guru to learn from use the criteria “who would I want to be like”.  For me at least, RJ fails that test pretty hard.  It’s also interesting that he says he is a big NLP expert, but loses on every point to Gambler here.  Also notice the try hard irrelevant mention of his girlfriend.  What kind of crappy guru has to brag about the mere fact of having a girlfriend.  Shouldn’t it be a given that they have women in abundance?

With Stealth Attraction Gambler unveils the new Game that he’s spent the last couple of years developing. Since the publication of the book, Natural Art of Seduction, which brought him to the attention of the community Gambler was pretty quiet;  he was building up his company – PUA Training, and enjoying a fantastic lifestyle as evidenced by his famous facebook account. However his sojourn to the wilderness is at an end with the release of this innovative and sophisticated product. Overall, I think the product is excellent but not for everyone.

Gambler’s marketing promise is that Stealth Attraction is a rejection-proof way of getting the hottest girls in the hottest venues. This is my first caveat: Gambler focuses on club game. If you don’t do, like, or want to do night game, this product is not totally relevant.  You can still use many of the (great) escalation techniques and some of the conversational techniques, but really this is a system for night game. This brings me to my second caveat: this is not a product for beginners. It presumes (and requires) that you are already in possession of set of good social skills. So if you’re an AFC then you should go to a bootcamp first, or maybe read The Game. This is a product that will be most effective to those who already have some success, feel comfortable in clubs and really want to improve their results by learning this highly sophisticated technique. In short, watch this when your training wheels are off.

The basic concept is that if you want to game in the ‘best’ venues – by which Gambler means the most exclusive night clubs – then you need to do things differently. The kind of game where you wear a big hat and run around doing magic tricks is not effective. Instead, if you want to succeed, you need to understand the whole social world of high end night clubs and how to subtly navigate them. I think Gambler’s argument is convincing – when you’re in super high-end venues you have guys who are richer, better looking and better dressed. You might even have celebrities. Faced with that competition, you’ve got to become a smarter socialiser than in regular places.

The setup of the DVDs is Gambler lecturing to an unseen audience with some demonstrated examples. There are 5 sections: Stealth Value, Stealth Opening, Stealth Seduction, Stealth Arousal, Stealth Extraction. This takes you from the start to the end of the seduction process and pretty much tells you everything you need to know.

Watching the DVDs, I was actually hugely impressed with the social awareness that Richard must have to be able to create this product. It teaches truly amazing things that I’m sure would have taken me years to figure out by myself. For instance, take Stealth Value. It’s well known how important value is for a woman accepting a man. This is even more important in higher-status venues simply because the absolute value of the other guys is higher. What’s great about this product is that Richard give you really easy, and crafty, ways to create that value. One thing Richard does is teach you how to create a moviestar effect as you walk through the club. Simply (although it makes more sense if you see it life), as you walk through a crowded club you might brush the back of your hand against the girls you walk past. So they are going to notice you but, because it could be accidental, they’re not going to reject you for doing it. What then happens is that you have created a trail of girls who are looking at you as you walk past, wondering who you are. The clever bit is that all the other girls see all the other girls are doing just the same: instant rejection-proof social value that will make the girls think you are a somebody. Richard provides lots of fantastic practical and easy- to-implement methods just like this that mean you can change your game instantly. I am convinced that watching, studying and practising this will change your social skills and sexual results for life.

I’ll give you another one of Richard’s examples. Say you’re standing in line waiting to get into a club and some guy breezes over, shakes the bouncer’s hand and walks in. You’ll think he has value. But that’s very easy to do. Richard notes you can do this if you just turn up early and then leave the club, making sure to say to the bouncer you’ll be right back. So you go out, find yourself a banana or something, and return and he lets you straight back in. You look casual and cool and the girls don’t know that you’re a nobody who had only been to the club for the first time that evening.

The vein of the DVDs continues like this. Richard gives endless advice which is highly practical, subtle and sophisticated. Really easy to implement. He doesn’t talk about the theory, he just tells you what to do. However, something that makes his approach to game stand apart is his clear understanding of what’s going on in the broader picture. This is in terms both of what else is going on in the environment and also social situations as a whole. For example he explains that, in high-end venues, you don’t want to be seen as a PUA that’s going round opening girls, because other girls will think you’re sleazy. So he demonstrates in Stealth Opening how to initiate interactions with girls that not only won’t be rejected, but also won’t make other girls think you’re a sleazy pick-up artist – instead they’ll think you’re a super-cool guy. Gambler also teaches you the importance of discretion and stealthiness in high-end venues: because value is of such importance, you can’t go around k-closing multiple girls consistently because high-value girls won’t let you. Therefore, to succeed with the best girls long-term, you need to learn the importance of subtlety.

The difficult thing about writing a Stealth Attraction Review is that a picture can tell 1000 words, and there is a lot of footage in there. It’s not easy to understand how effective all of this stuff is in-field until you see what it’s supposed to look like – as in, how Richard stealthily opens girls, etc.. The product is excellent, but, as I noted already, if you don’t already have enough in-field experience to be able to read social signals, you won’t understand the good sense behind what Gambler is suggesting.

Conclusion

For those at an intermediate or advanced level and want to improve their high-end night game, this is a no-brainer at the $5 PUA Training is charging for it. That’s incredible value for what you pay if you contrast the $1000s that some American companies charge for the same sort of thing.  So this is a great product in and of itself and well worth the tiny price.

We are surrounded by women all the time and some of these women are attracted to us. So many men wonder whether a woman is attracted to them or not. Women are much more subtle than men in the way they show their attraction. But once you know the secrets, you’ll always be able to tell if a woman is attracted to you. One of these should be enough to act on, more than one and it is a definite “go” signal! Here are the ways women show that they like you:

1. If She Wants to Speak to You:

-She points her feet towards you when standing up.
-She smiles, or looks away embarrassed when you hold eye contact.
-She jerks her leg in your direction if sitting down with legs crossed.
-She adjusts her posture – sits up straighter and holds in belly.
-She faces you with her hips/legs while sitting.
-She opens up her body language to you while standing.
-She brushes up against you unnecessarily when she passes.
-She looks at you twice before approach.
-She touches her hair when she notices you.

If you get one of these signals, go in and start a conversation with her. Your next goal is to take the interaction to a point where she wants to have a conversation with you. It might happen immediately or it might not. If you have approached without any of the above invitations, you should look for some of the below to know that she is interested in you.

2. If She is Interested in Extending the Interaction:

-She asks you questions
-She asks your name.
-She gives extended answers to your questions.

So now you know whether she likes you to the point of wanting to talk to you, but how do you know if she wants to get physical with you?

3. If She is Sexually Attracted to You:

-She strokes her neck when in conversation with you.
-She looks at your mouth.
-She tilts head to the side when speaking to you.
-Her pupils dilate.
-She laughs too much at your jokes, even when they aren’t funny.
-She is happy listening to you even when you are talking rubbish.
-She holds eye contact with you and doesn’t look around the room or at her friends. Note: if she is nervous and it is just not her character to hold strong eye contact, she could still be interested.
-She is comfortable with you touching her and invading her space.
-She shows willingness to leave her friends and stay with you.
-She laughs and hits you on the shoulder when you tease her.
-She looks at you in a dreaming kind of way.
-She asks if you are single.
-She says your name in conversation.
-She leans in to you.

Now that you know all the ways that a girl can show that she is attracted to you, you will be able to make the move and will stop having missed opportunities. It will increase your success rate by a huge amount.

I’m Gambler, CEO and Master Trainer at PUATraining, I will be writing a regular column on Attraction Chronicles. I will focus on various things, from theory and techniques to features like this where I’ll give you guys an insight into what it’s like to run a PUA company, train guys, do bootcamps, and try and find time to see some girls!

Monday 29^th Jan
On Monday morning I was in Munich, Germany, I’d just spent the weekend with a beautiful girl. I’d met her a month ago in Regent St, London. It was a street PU, I spent 5 hours with her, and didn’t sleep with her. She left the next day, we sent a few text messages and she invited me there for the weekend. I stayed with her in her 30 metres studio apartment with a single bed. So based on 5 hours, she is able to commit to trusting me and knowing me enough for me to stay in her little 30m studio with a single bed, with no easy way to get rid of me if things don’t work out. This girl was beautiful, PHD at top university, curing cancer, who also likes dancing and being sexy. Was a great mix and a top quality girl all round.

Monday night I come home, and have 3 days of emails to catch up on. My emails are a mix of giving advice, dealing with enquiries about our courses, emails about the business, advertising, marketing of the company. I still answer all these personally just because I can’t find anyone else to do it as well!

I’m encountering a lot of the problems that other company owners seem to have, I can find great trainers but they can’t help much on the business side, so there are still plenty of things that only I can do. Because of this, my workload is too high, and things like finishing off my ebook or making DVD products get pushed. 4am, I finally get to bed.

Tuesday 30^th & Wednesday 31^st Jan
Today I’ve got a meeting with Lycos. I’m working with their men’s site with a regular column. They want an article for Valentines day, I’m doing two – one for guys single on valentines, and one for guys who are involved on relationship management. They want to do some video stuff with me, that’s cool with me. My video ideas are body language, getting a number, going for the kiss. I want to get a girl and show how to smoothly go for a kiss! I wake up at midday, so the Thai lunch the guy buys me is actually my breakfast.

Business & Partnerships
I get offers for business relationships like this from people who have read the website or see me pop up in some other place. Right now, PR is a focus and it is our weakness, I’d love a great PR person/company to work with us and put out our story (which is a very compelling one!)

At 4pm, my 1-on-1 customer arrives. He’s come down from up North in England, he’s a wealthy, classy guy, successful businessman etc. He makes a good first impression on me and it translates well to the women. He’s able to open and hold in the day-game and doesn’t get blown out. On Wednesday night I do 2 instant k-closes without even speaking to the girls.

Different Types of Customer
There are a few different types of customer that I get and now is a good time to mention them. One is someone who is confident in business, or in general social settings and just needs to apply that to women and be given some content and structure and some tweaks. He will be good very quickly. The second type is someone who is like I used to be – introverted, shy, etc. This person needs to build the skills from scratch. Sometimes this can happen very quickly (in a few hours) and sometimes it will take longer.

One of the cool things we did on this training was to arrange some 2 on 1 time with Kezia who is a female instructor who works for us. I’m able to watch at close quarters and make micro-adjustments, and Kezia is able to give her feedback. Who has always wanted an honest appraisal from a woman? Kezia does this and she is very savvy so it’s not the usual crap you read in advice columns. It is what the girl that dumped you told her friends about you behind your back!

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Thursday 1^st Feb
I’ve just come off a few days of solid training so I have to catch up on other stuff. I’m writing my ebook, it’s already long enough – 37,000 words, but I need to tweak it and tighten it up and make a few additions. I have a little bit more to do on it, probably around 10 hours. Positive feedback on the draft version, and I am trying to make it the best PU book there is. My USP is that I had to learn everything from scratch, my game is learned natural game, and I can break down stuff very well and answer pretty much any question. I read the material for 6 months before I started gaming and it didn’t help me too much, I want this book to be the thing I needed when I had no game.

Something else that takes a long time is answering emails, booking people in to the events, and making website edits. I have a great guy who does web design and web marketing, he works hard on things, and I have an assistant who comes in for 30 or so hours a week and does various stuff – mainly admin but some more interesting stuff too. He’s not so confident and wants more success with women, he’s only 18 though and he is going to his first training events this weekend!

In the evening I have 4 hours 1on1 with an American guy. He’s good, naturally cocky funny and comfortable in set. I identify the main problem for him will be smoothly leading into a kiss (because he needs to tone down his energy & C&F at some point) and also he has short attention span and doesn’t seem to listen too well to the girls!

Friday
Today I have to get ready for the bootcamp, the venue, the staff, etc. I also have a 2on1 in the evening. Kezia and I are working with an American guy who has been in London a few months. He came to a bootcamp and wants further fine-tuning. This is a great session. We spend two hours with him. We sit in the bar, I have an MP3 recorder on at all times, and I video some of the interaction. By watching and listening closely, I’m able to give minute adjustments to everything. Basic things – he wasn’t holding eye contact so her attention wandered, he smiled too much for no reason – it comes across as approval seeking. Various other things. He’s already improved loads from the bootcamp and during the two hour session we made further adjustments that made an immediate impact. Kezia also gives her feedback and we run through some conversational exercises. He can take away the MP3 and video on a DVD, he’ll be surprised when he sees and hears himself and will be able to see exactly what he should be doing differently.

Saturday & Sunday – Weekend Bootcamp
Another bootcamp weekend, we have gotten these pretty tight by now. The venue is good, the staff know what they are doing, and things run almost like clockwork. I worked on the timetable and content whilst away on holiday and now the guys are much better prepared. The bootcamp is in a real bar – we hire out a section downstairs. We don’t have a flipchart and we don’t have loads of theory that you can read in books. No 93% of communication is non-verbal, or the 50-60 people tribe and being mercilessly rooted out of existence.

We spend about 5 mins introducing the company and staff, meet each of the attendees and then get straight into body language exercises. We have lots of practical exercises and it is as interactive as possible. We do 3 hours in the bar on pre-opening to the hook point (body language, opening, transitions, skills of the natural).

Then we do some day-game. When we come back, we work on mid-game (comfort, routines, rapport, connecting) and end-game: closing & kino escalation to physical closes and winging. 5 ½ hours in, the girls come in, the bar is now somewhat full so it is very realistic and the guys practice various scenarios on the girls, this lasts 2 hours and is followed by the feedback session. We get to see here what we need to work on with each guy and can make adjustments. When the guys have been talking to our hot girls for 2 hours they are already “in the zone” when they go to the club.

We have a good group this week, all pretty easy to teach, pick it up quickly etc. The guys get multiple closes in the club, kisses and numbers. 2 guys nearly get ONSs. Only logistical problems stop them. I demo opening a 3-set, instant isolation, rapid escalation to k-close on hot blonde in front of 4 students. N-close & date arranged. After the bootcamp I leave to meet my girl and we go to my place and watch an episode of LOST and I unwind from the weekend.

Sunday we cover inner game, sex skills, fashion, day 2 system, text and phone game, NLP, cold reading, push-pull, frame control, state, and story-telling. We do more day-game and hit the club again in the night. It’s more chilled out Sunday so interactions are longer. The guys get more closes, some good day-game closes too. Sunday night I demo a rapid escalation on hot, hot Russian. I touch her boobs, kiss her, and even touch her pussy by opening the zip on her jeans.

It’s Sunday night after the bootcamp and I come back, the week ahead involves: a 2 on 1 with some guys coming over from Ireland for Monday, Tuesday & Wednesday. Thursday I have an 12 hour 1on1. Friday we have the Approach course, Saturday the 1-day bootcamp. After that, I’ve tried to keep my diary clear so that I can work on the ebook etc.

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