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How To Deal With A Bitch

David Wygant — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 03:37:16 +0000

New Years Eve is right around the corner, there are a lot of Holiday parties going on right now, and a lot of you younger guys are home for the holidays going out to the bars and seeing old friends…

So you’re out at night doing exactly what I always tell you to do. You’re enjoying yourself, making your rounds talking to everyone, working the room, never trying to chase or pick up women and letting the ones you’re attracted to come to you.

You’re talking to everyone, having a good time, and pretty soon great things start happening, just like I said they would. And just like that, you start talking to a REALLY hot woman.

But then the worst thing happens… She’s a total raging bitch.

You know the kind. She kind of looks at you, raises an eyebrow, and says something really obnoxious, like:

“Um, why are you talking to me?”

“My boyfriend is in the bathroom you know…”

“Yeah whatever, that’s nice… BYE little man!”

So in your own head, you’re furious. What a bitch, you think. I mean, who does she think she is? I was just talking and having a good time. It’s not like I was hitting on her! Does she really think she’s that great? She’s not the prize, I’m the prize, you think to yourself.

You want to say something. Really show her up and give her a piece of your mind. But now she’s talking to someone else so you can’t just go up and interrupt them. So you walk away feeling rejected.

And you can’t get that one interaction out of your head, and it’s just ruined your night.

If this is you, you need to change your mindset. Mindset really is the most important thing. Because while it is true that you are the prize, you are only the prize if you really believe it.

So here’s what I would do in that situation:

If she comes at me with a really ridiculous statement, I like to be a little immature myself at times, so I’ll play along and be equally ridiculous back.

If she asks me why I’m talking to her, I’ll be honest. If I thought she was really hot and I wanted to get to know her to see what she was like as a person, that’s exactly what I’ll say. And I’ll say it with a big grin and a twinkle in my eye.

If she tells me she has a boyfriend, I’ll say something like, “Congratulations, that’s quite the accomplishment.” Or if she says her boyfriend is in the bathroom, I’ll ask her, “Number 1 or Number 2? I just want to know how much time I have to flirt with you!” (I think that’s from a movie somewhere.)

I don’t censor myself and I like to have fun talking to everyone. That’s just my personality. But I also believe that life is all about the people you surround yourself with, and I don’t surround myself with stuck-up, arrogant people.

And after a quick exchange I’ll just walk away. I’ll smile and say, “Well that was an ‘interesting’ conversation, have a nice night,” and I’m on to the next person.

And that’s it. A woman who is blatantly rude to me has just selected herself right out of the pool of people I want to spend my time talking to.

And that’s the most important thing you can learn. You can come up with all the comebacks and cocky little lines you want (it works on some immature girls because, to be honest, only an immature girl would say something like that), but the bottom line is that you need to learn how to dismiss her. You need to learn how to walk away feeling great about being the better person, and forget about that interaction immediately.

If a woman says something to you that makes you upset, ask yourself why you’re getting so upset. It’s not your problem that she treats perfect strangers like shit. No need to try to overcome that attitude. The last thing you need in your life is a person with a negative attitude who has decided it’s ok to treat people like that.

The way I think is like this: I don’t need to win every time. I don’t need to teach her a lesson. There are tons and tons of women out there for me to meet who are both attractive andfriendly. I don’t need to say, “Ha! You were wrong about me, in your face bitch!” That’s all ego talking. I don’t need to change her opinion about me, because I don’t really have anything to prove to her.

It’s all about practicing abundance in every aspect of your life. An abundant mindset is crucial to developing an attractive personality. You don’t have anything to prove to anybody, so start acting that way.

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End Of Year Dating Blues

David Wygant — Mon, 19 Dec 2011 18:37:11 +0000

Most businesses during this time of year do a lot of year-end inventory.

They check and see whether or not they made the sales they needed to. They check and see what they need to order in the new year. The bookkeepers are frantically crunching numbers so they can get taxes done.

It’s inventory time. The world is taking inventory right now and figuring out what they need for next year. Businesses are figuring out what their cash flow is. Hotels are frantically trying to sell hotel rooms.

Households are trying to make just a little more money to close out the year and make sure it was a great year.
And women are looking at their vibrator drawer and basically thinking, “Have I spent more time sticking this inside me this year than having a real life dick inside me?”

The other day a friend of mine e-mailed me and wrote, “It’s amazing. Two women I dated this year called me yesterday, one after the other. We broke up like six months ago,” he wrote. “What’s the reason for that?”

And I wrote back to him, “Easy. It’s inventory time. They basically had gone to Thanksgiving dinner and their family asked them why they’re not dating anybody. Their friends are telling them about all their holiday plans with their family, their boyfriends, their husbands, and their kids. And they realize that they’re alone. Women feel more alone this time of year than any other time of year. Women tend to just feel vulnerable, and they are looking for companionship. And that’s where you come in.”

Knowing this information, knowing how vulnerable women are this time of year, knowing that they have done inventory, sexual and emotional inventory, they’re more open to a man’s advances. It’s real simple, and I’ve written about it in other blogs. Walk right up to them while they’re Christmas shopping and ask them, “What is Santa getting you this year? Are you buying that for yourself?”

Be playful. Be fun. Go out and use that approach. Wear at hat, maybe a Santa’s cap. Look at her and go, “Listen, I’m Santa’s little helper and I want to know if you’ve been naughty or nice this year.”

A lot of you right now are thinking to yourself, I can’t do that. Well then don’t. Don’t do it. Keep doing the things that you’re doing so you don’t meet women. Keep doing the same approaches that don’t work. And don’t trust somebody who knows what emotions are all about.

Women are emotional creatures, and they’re emotionally vulnerable this time of year. It’s up to you to decide whether or not you’re going to connect with them. You can continue to be Santa’s shy little helper standing in the corner. Or you can be the aggressive elf who would love to get some nice, wet, and juicy fun before Christmas.

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Why The iPhone Prevents You From Sex

David Wygant — Fri, 02 Dec 2011 22:47:01 +0000

I was in Whole Foods today, which is no shock to anybody. I don’t think there is a day that goes by that I am not in Whole Foods. I talked to someone about setting up my own account there, but they just don’t seem to want to do it.

Anyway, through the power of eavesdropping (which I’m pretty good at), I listened to a conversation that’s amazing. Ahhh . . . how amazing you’re about to find out.

Let’s paint the scene . . . This may sound something like “Dragnet” to you.

It’s 12:00. The city is Los Angeles, California. I spot a woman with her stock looking bluetooth in her ear.

By the way, why the hell does someone want to wear a headset in their ear all the time? So you can answer the phone two seconds quicker? So you can walk around all day with a blinking light in your ear? So attractive.

Also, for those of you who walk around all day with a bluetooth in your ear but only spend about a half hour a day on the phone . . . lose it! Unless you’re a salesperson or a telephone operator, there is no reason to have an earpiece in your ear 24/7.

Do you need the earpiece in your ear during sex? How about when you shower? When you dress in the morning, do you put the earpiece on first? Do you buy earpieces in colors to match your jeans?

But this blog is not for the stock people. Let’s return to our scene at Whole Foods: It’s 1200 hours in the city of Los Angeles, California. A woman is seen on the telephone.

I, being the people investigator that I am, slowly move closer to her. Was it the smell of her perfume or was it the fact that she was blocking the tuna salad that I was about to order? As I got closer I noticed that she had some very nice buns . . . which made me realize that the tuna salad I was going to order on whole wheat seem very unappealing. I wanted my tuna salad on a big bun.

As I got closer, I also got to listen to her cell phone conversation. Meanwhile, standing only a few feet away, two other guys began moving toward her too. Competition over the cell phone obsessed blond hovering by the tuna salad? Bring it on!

So once I’m in her space and I get to listen to her one-sided cell phone conversation, guess what she was talking about? She was complaining about not being able to meet anybody.

I started laughing, looked at my fellow men hovering around the tuna salad, and said to them “Listen to what she’s talking about.” They all opened up their ears, and listened to her continually complain about not being able to find anyone to date . . . as three eligible studs stood right next to her.

So we all started talking (it was quite a male bonding experience), and we all waited for our cell phone obsessed bluetooth wearing maniac to get off the phone. When she finally got off the phone, I looked at her and said “You’re really funny. Don’t mind me or my new friends over here, but we got to listen to your whole conversation.”

She got all embarrassed and started laughing a little bit. I said to her “If you don’t mind, I would like to introduce you to two guys who would like to meet you. So forget about me (a little reverse psychology never hurts in this situation). What’s your name?” She said “Tina.”

I said “Tina, this is Mr. Chicken and this is Mr. Salad.” She started laughing. I said “Tina, I’m going to leave you in good hands. Maybe the next time if you get off the phone in public, you’ll realize that Mr. Chicken and Mr. Salad were vibing you.”‘

Then I walked away. I felt like I did my job.

About three minutes later when I’m in line, Tina the tuna blocker runs over to me. She says “I really get your point. I was so busy bitching about not being able to meet anybody, that I probably missed every opportunity to meet anybody, right?” I looked over and smiled.

Then she said “I don’t want Mr. Salad or Mr. Chicken, I want to hang with you.” I said “Tina the tuna blocker (I really did call her Tina the tuna blocker), I like a gutsy woman who can admit her mistakes. Let’s hang out and chop some onions real soon.”

The bottom line is this: If you feel like you never meet anybody when you’re in a public place, get rid of you bluetooth and get off the phone! Open your eyes and notice all the possibilities.

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How To Prevent The Cock Blocker

David Wygant — Sun, 27 Nov 2011 19:39:13 +0000

Here’s how I feel about cock blocking. I never get cock blocked. It just doesn’t happen to me anymore.

So what that means is that cock blocking has nothing to do with another guy being an asshole, swooping in and taking “your” woman. It’s got everything to do with YOU. You can learn all the quick and witty comeback lines and banter you want to be prepared for a so-called cock block, but it’s not going to stop it from happening to you.

Because cock blocking only happens to certain types of guys. And it happens to them over and over again.

Guys who are very hesitant about expressing themselves to a woman. Guys who don’t claim their space. Guys who keep their distance and are afraid to get close out of fear that he’s offending her or coming across as “giving her the wrong idea”.

When you do that, other guys will notice it and see that there is no chemistry there. Maybe you just look like friends. Maybe a guy is an asshole, and sees an opportunity there to come in and take her away. In any case, she’s clear for the taking to any other swinging dick who walks by.

Cock blocking happens to guys who don’t intrigue women. If she is interested in you and the conversation you are having, she will stand there and listen to everything you have to say. When she’s not into you, her eyes will start darting across the room, hoping for her friend or some other more interesting guy to come rescue her.

When that starts happening, you’re done. Nothing can save you. She’ll pray for someone else to come join the conversation. She’ll be totally open to starting a conversation and flirting with another guy who’s around her. And a guy who sees that will jump right in. Sometimes she’ll start a conversation with another guy. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve gone up to the bar to get a drink, and a girl standing there will turn and start talking to me while another guy was just in mid-conversation with her.

Then I’d look over her at the poor guy’s disillusioned face and give him a little shrug. Does that make me a cock-block? Does that make me an asshole? No. It means she was bored to death with the other guy and wanted talk to me instead. It means the other guy needed some coaching–not on how to deal with cock blocks, but on how to keep her intrigued. Because I’m no better than the guy who just got shoved out of the picture. But I’m much better in conversation.

Cock blocking happens to guys who don’t claim their own space and walk over with confidence and start great conversations with women everywhere they go. Cockblocking happens to guys who talk to one or two women a night, and then CLING onto those conversations like their lives depended on it.

Sound familiar, victim of the cock block?

You sit in the corner of the bar, waiting for what to say to that one girl you’ve been looking at for the past 45 minutes, then you finally get up the guts to approach her and hope it really works out because this is your one shot for the night.

Instead you try and try and try with that one girl you finally approached, even when there’s no chemistry. And the more you try with a girl who’s only lukewarm about you, the longer you stand there struggling, the more likely some guy with dimples and a great smile is going to wink at her and jump in to the rescue.

So you’re still asking why you need to start conversations with women everywhere? This is why. Because when you start doing that, you will start having an abundance mindset. You’ll start approaching women everywhere. When I go out, I talk to girls everywhere. Quick, 30-second conversations. If there’s no chemistry, if she doesn’t want to talk to me, I move on. I don’t stand around in a shitty conversation, struggling to make things happen, and wait to be cock blocked by some guy she likes better than me.

You think you’ve been cock blocked, but you really just cock blocked yourself.

Do You Date Like Tebow?

David Wygant — Tue, 22 Nov 2011 19:37:28 +0000

For those of you who watched Tim Tebow lead the Denver Broncos past the New York Jets the other night, it made me think about how much Tebow-mania is just like pickup mania.

Now you may be thinking to yourself, How can Tim Tebow be anything like meeting women?

Let’s go back to the game and rewind just a little bit. The Jets found a way to beat Tim Tebow. I think they had eight three in outs on the Broncos. The Broncos couldn’t move. Tebow couldn’t run.

Tebow throws like a girl, I’ve never seen passes like that in the NFL. All his passes seemed to go absolutely nowhere but down to the ground or towards the stands.

But at the end of the game, the Jets became just like most guys are when it comes down to dating. They went into what is called the Prevent defense. And all the Prevent defense ever does in football is prevent you from winning.

I’ve seen it 1,000s of times. A team plays great defense for 55 minutes of the game, they give up no touchdowns at all. Then all of a sudden the quarterback, who’s been having a horrible game, will drive the team down the field and win the game. Because the defense that worked for 55 minutes is abandoned. Then the team is losing, and stays in Prevent defense mode, which of course, prevents them from winning.

I never understood why coaches do that, and I never understood why guys go into the Prevent defense when trying to go out and meet women.

Instead of trusting a new game plan, instead of going into attack mode, instead of going out and meeting women all day long, all guys seem to do (especially on a Friday or Saturday night) is go into Prevent defense mode. They think that just because they’re out on the playing field on a Friday night, that things are magically going to happen for them. That they will stumble across a win, stumble across a beautiful woman.

So what do they do? They wait, they kick back, stand around the room looking at everyone in Prevent defense mode. They wait for the right opportunity. They never go and approach. They’re playing it safe. Sure, they may be preventing themselves from getting rejected, but while they’re doing that, every other guy is swooping in ahead of them and talking to the women that they want to talk to.

The only way to meet the kind of women you want is to come up with a definitive game plan, a game plan that’s going to work, a game plan that’s aggressive and moves you forward. You’ve got to ditch the game plan you’ve had up until now, the game plan where you’re playing it safe.

Here’s the deal, guys. The year is almost over. You’re heading into the home stretch of the year, you’re heading into the final six weeks of the year. Do you have a definitive game plan? Or are you a guy who curls up and goes into Prevent mode? Are you a guy who lets everybody else run around you, advance down the field, walk away with the women that you want and then you’re left at the end of the day, basically being an arm chair quarterback, thinking to yourself, How could I have made this different? How could I have changed the outcome?

There’s no way to change that outcome unless you change the way you think. Unless you go at it aggressively and come up with a game plan that’s going to breathe success. By going out and talking to people openly and passionately all day long, you’re going to start leading people and you’re not going to let people walk all over you when the weekend hits and it comes down to Friday-Saturday night crunch time.

For those of you who are serious about meeting women this holiday time, if you’re sick of being single over the holidays, I’ve come up with a whole game plan for you to check out.

RIGHT NOW is by far the best time of the year to meet women. Why? Women are emotionally drained, emotionally looking to connect, looking to share the holidays with someone. It’s holiday time. They’re in holiday mode, shopping, out having fun and enjoying themselves.

They’re connecting with old friends. They’re available. They’re not going to make up the fake boyfriend. I explain to you why, I talk about all of this and much more in my game plan on how to meet women for the holidays.

Not only that, they want to end the year with a bang. The question is, are you going to be the one banging them? Or are you going to be the one standing on the sidelines wondering, waiting, hoping, basically standing in the corner of the bar going into Prevent defense mode over and over again?

It’s a must if you want to get down with new women this time of the year.

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How To Date Your Best Friends Girl

David Wygant — Tue, 08 Nov 2011 18:58:46 +0000

Perhaps your best friend in the entire world was dating an amazing girl, and the whole time they were dating all you kept thinking was, “Why can’t I meet somebody like her?” Every time you hung out with them in a group, you had such great chemistry with her. She was so cool. You always told your buddy how lucky he was to have a woman like her.

Now they’ve broken up, and she’s started calling you. She tells you she’s starting to have feelings for you. At the same time, your best friend still talks about her and wonders if he did something wrong.

You’re in love with your best friend’s ex, and she is in love with you. How do you handle this? What do you do in this situation?

I am somebody who truly believes that people are not possessions. If I break up with someone — and I have broken up with a lot of people — I have no problem with any of my friends dating my ex, falling in love with her and even marrying her.

This has, in fact, happened to me. My good friend Charlie is married to a woman I used to date. They started dating three years after I broke up with her, and I was perfectly fine with it.

So, if you have feelings for your best friend’s ex, here is what you need to do: you need to confirm your feelings with her.

Sit down with her and tell her exactly how you feel. You know she feels the same way about you, as you do about her. Have that heart-to-heart talk with her and then ask her, “What do we do about telling my buddy? I don’t want to lose my friendship with him, but yet I don’t want to act on my feelings for you.” Both of you know your friend extremely well, and together you will be able to come up with a way to tell him so that he will not be angry or hurt.

There are a lot of guys out there who truly feel that once they have dated a woman, she is off limits to all of their friends — no matter how long it’s been since they broke up. I think this is the most ridiculous thing in the entire world. We don’t own people; we just share our time with them.

Once you’ve had a conversation with your best friend’s ex, you’ll need to sit down with your friend, and do one of the toughest things in the world — have “the talk.”

When you sit down with him, first tell him that he is your best friend and talk about how amazing your friendship with him is and how much it means to you. Then, you’ll need to ask him how he would feel if you start dating his ex. You need to be honest, and tell him everything; about how you feel, and if you’re serious about her or still trying to figure this out.

He may be angry and upset at first. He may not want to see you for a week or two. In time, though, he is going to understand; so, if you need to, give him his space. He’s not with her anymore. He is out there dating, having fun and sleeping with other women. Eventually, he is going to get over it.

If this is an amazing woman with whom you have incredible chemistry, women like her don’t come around that often. You have every right to pursue a relationship with her.

This is one of the tough times of your adult adolescence. You’ll need to display complete and total honesty not only with yourself, but with a woman with whom you are in love and also with your friend. This is going to be a tough lesson, but a valuable one. Your ability to be honest and confront difficult conversations with two people you care about, even though they won’t be safe or easy conversations, will exhibit what sort of person you are.

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Instant Sexual Tension

David Wygant — Mon, 03 Oct 2011 20:03:55 +0000

How many times have you been out at night, and a group of women are taking those ridiculous digital camera pictures?

I mean really, how many pictures do women need of they and their friends drinking? Now I know most women love putting these pictures up on their online dating profile.

These kind of pictures, by the way, are really poor choices to put on your profile, because if you put up three pictures of you getting sloshed when in fact you don’t really drink that often, this will tend to cause a disconnect somewhere. Not only that, but when I look at pictures of women (or men) drinking in their online profile, especially if they have more than one of those kind of pictures, I don’t see “fun person” . . . I see “lush.”

This blog is not about your drunken digital pictures on match.com, though you would be wise and take my advice and take down your party girl (or party boy) pictures unless you want to continue to receive emails with the subject line “Party!!!!!!” This blog is all about how to have a fun time with those party girls with the digital camera.

I was out with a client the other night, and we saw one of these groups of girls taking pictures of themselves with their digital camera. My client said to me “I am going to go over there and take their picture.”

I said “No, no, no . . . You don’t want to be a photographer. Everybody uses that approach. You need to walk over and say ‘Let me take your picture’ just like you were going to, but you need to add one more element after you’ve finished taking their picture.” Then I described to him a better way to approach this situation:

I told him “Hand the camera to one of her friends and say ‘Now take a picture of all of you with me.’ Stand in the middle of the group for the picture and put your arms around the two girls next to you. When you’re there, follow-up very quickly and say to both of them: ‘Now you can tell your friends that I was the crazy guy you slept with that night.’”

“One of them is going to respond, if not both, and they are going to laugh. You’re then going to say ‘You better tell your friends that I was good.’ Then you start talking about the great sex that you had with her.” Then I sent my client over to try it with that group of girls.

This is a far more interesting approach then just taking their picture. It also just leads to much more fun stories, especially when people are drunk and having fun.

So try this approach the next time you’re out.

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How To Create Sexual Tension With A Phone Call

David Wygant — Thu, 22 Sep 2011 22:50:04 +0000

How good are you on the phone?

So you’ve got her phone number. Now closing and sealing the deal, getting them to go out with you—that’s only part of the picture.

How good are you at building up sexual tension after the first date? Do you even understand what sexual tension is all about?

I have something really special for you guys on today’s podcast. It’s a phone call that you can listen in. My head coach Shogo—and he’s my head coach for a reason—he decided that he’d call a woman up who he just started dating and allow ALL of you guys to listen in, so you can understand exactly what it’s like to build real sexual tension. To get her absolutely excited to see him the next time and to really show you guys how to amplify sexual tension when you’re on the phone with a woman.

Check it out and listen to the ex-lawyer do his thing.

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How To Get The Girl You Want

David Wygant — Tue, 23 Aug 2011 01:11:24 +0000

I was out at a bar last night with a friend in the West Village, sitting at the bar having a late dinner. We were there for about an hour. While we were there, I saw a guy walking around talking to basically every woman or group of women who were standing or sitting around the bar.

Now this guy was full of energy, really chatting up every woman in sight, using a lot of hand gestures and getting everybody to laugh and so forth. It looked like he was really having a good time. But then, on probably three occasions, I saw him pull his phone out and take down a different woman’s phone number each time. And I wasn’t there for very long–I left around 11pm before the place got too packed–so I’m sure this guy ended up taking down more phone numbers than that.

So this guy probably ended up with about four or five phone numbers by the end of the night. I never understood that. When I’m single and I’m going out, I never need any more than ONE PHONE NUMBER. That’s it. One good number from the one woman that I have the best connection with, and who I’m most interested in. This is why I basically never have a bad first date. Why on earth do you need to take down five or six phone numbers in one night?

There could only be two possible reasons why you need that many numbers.

One, you are planning on going out on four or five different dates. Have fun with that. Do you know how tiring and time-consuming that is? If you’re going out on that many dates, it’s completely mentally draining. I’ve done it. I could never give each woman my best, because as the week progresses, I’ve already talked myself silly and my head is in a daze trying to keep my stories straight about which woman said what. And I always got them mixed up. Not to mention, if you’re spending that much time dating, you’re basically doing nothing else. Your “hobby” is going out with a different woman each night and you’re not making yourself any more interesting that way.

Second, is that you’re taking down a bunch of phone numbers because you already know that 90% of them are not going to call you back. So you call all the numbers you collected and you’re lucky if one of them agrees to go out with you. The others just gave you their number because they felt pressured into it or because they wanted to end the conversation and go back to their friends. If this is happening to you, you really need to start working on having better conversations, making yourself more memorable, and making better connections with the women you’re meeting.

So how do you do this? When you’re going out, talk to anyone and everyone you want to. I’m all for that. But don’t ask for a woman’s phone number just because you talked to her for 5 minutes. Make the conversation the goal, not the phone number. Before you go out, tell yourself that you’re looking for one good connection tonight and when you find that, then you get the digits. Get the phone number when there’s potential chemistry. Get the phone number when you’ve bonded over something, when you find out something about her, and when you find out that you have something in common that you can talk about when you call her later.

One good phone number, that’s it guys.

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Why Dinner Dates Suck

David Wygant — Wed, 17 Aug 2011 06:11:09 +0000

Why on earth would you take someone out for dinner on a first date… unless of course the woman is homeless and she needs a good meal. To sit across from somebody and watch them chew down food while you tell each other the same stories you’ve told a hundred times is boring! It is also a cliché.

The reason why most of us don’t enjoy dating is because we go out on dinner dates. Now granted, having dinner with someone is fantastic when you’re with a person whose company you enjoy and with whom you already have some sort of relationship.

Being forced to sit at a table exchanging resumes with a total stranger is the reason why most of us don’t like to date, but yet we still conduct dinner dates. So what are the alternatives to the boring cliched dinner date?

This is not going to be one of those “Top Ten Things To Do Instead Of A Dinner Date” lists, because I think we have been ‘top 10 listed’ to death on the Internet. Plus it’s really time YOU figured out what you like to do, and also listened to what the person you’re interested in likes to do, so you can come up with clever dates.

For instance, let me tell you some of the things I like to do. By doing that, it will help you so you can make up your own personal list.

I like to check out new neighborhoods by walking around and checking out the stores. That’s one of my favorite dates.
I like to do dragio – which is hiking and dragging my lazy dog up the hill. This is a great first date to just talk and enjoy the outdoors.
I enjoy going to art galleries.
I like to walk along the beach.
I enjoy going to fun coffee and tea shops and sampling new teas.

These are some of the things that I enjoy doing. So when I have a first date, I listen to what they like then what I do is make the date fun.

You do this because, if you think about it, when you do get into a relationship with someone you will not spend every evening exchanging resumes over dinner. You’re going to be doing things you both enjoy.

By picking something more interesting than dinner for a first date, you are also giving each other fun things to talk about while you’re shopping together… or walking on the beach together… or going to Target together. The reason why so many of us don’t like to date is because it is so formal.

Dinner dates are formal and boring. You spend the night evaluating each other, then you come home and you’re evaluating each other some more with your friends. Activity dates are fun and memory building.

So instead of asking all of you to make a list of 50 great dates, I would like to have you share great first date ideas that YOU enjoy… and stay on topic today. While I like when you all go off on random tangents, sometimes it’s nice to stay on topic. Today is one of those days.

So now, unless you are dating a homeless person who really needs to be fed, it’s time to get creative in your dating!