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Don’t Fail Her First Test

Editor — Fri, 27 Aug 2010 19:37:36 +0000

by David Wygant, author of Date To Win.

Here is a question that gets asked a lot, but one I don’t think we’ve ever covered in the blog.

Say you’re on a date with a woman and she says, “Don’t worry, we can split the bill.” What do you do in that situation?

I can tell you what I’ve done the majority of my life. Unless I was broke and poor, and just plain couldn’t afford it, I’ve responded to that by saying “No, I’ll take care of it. You can get me another time.”

I hate to say this, but a lot of women at that moment are testing you. They really are.

A woman at that moment wants to see if you will “man up” and pay for the date. It doesn’t matter if it’s a cup of coffee, drinks or dinner. She wants to see if you will be a man and pay for the first date.

A lot woman will take you out on date three, four or five. They really will. They still want you to pay for the first date though.

So guess what happens to the guy who says “Okay” or “Great!” to the woman who says you can split the bill on the first date? She probably won’t ever return your phone call or go out with you again.

Here’s another note about this. Don’t take women out on dates you can’t afford. Pick dates that are within your budget.

Don’t to take a woman out to a 5-star restaurant if you can only afford a 1-star restaurant. Don’t take a woman out for a bottle of wine when you can only afford a glass of wine.

Always pick up the bill on that first date, because women will test you with this. They don’t know you yet, and they will test you. You don’t want to fail her first test.

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Persistence Is Key To Getting Her Phone Number

Editor — Thu, 26 Aug 2010 17:07:32 +0000

by Paul Janka, author of Attraction Formula.

Once you’ve made it past the approach and engagement and you’ve built a modicum of comfort, you need to act with authority and get the number. Some women will put up resistance, skeptical about giving their number to a man they’ve just met. Here are some classic objections and ways around:

Her: But I don’t know you!
Me: That’s what the cup of coffee is for, so we can get to know each other.

Her: I’m running late, sorry.
Me: That’s okay. I’m late, too. Let’s do this quickly.

Her: I don’t think my boyfriend would appreciate it!
Me: No problem. Give me your number. I’ll text you in a month. Still together – great! If not, we can have our coffee date…

The thing to remember here is that you only get one chance. It may be different if you live in a small town (though “small-town player” is an oxymoron), but in a big city you’ll have a single shot. If she walks away, you’re empty-handed. Being forceful or aggressive can always be justified or explained-away later, via text or in person. But, being a milquetoast and taking comfort in the fact that you “were nice” is pathetic. She’s forgotten about you by the next block; you were ineffective.

You must do everything you can to get her number. Even being pushy or insensitive is forgivable, if you really like the girl. Hopefully, she’ll have reciprocal interest. But, there will be times when you encounter a hottie who’s in a bad mood, or preoccupied, and yet you feel there’s promise. She may not be forthcoming at the moment, but if you can get her phone number, you’ll live to fight another day.

Another tactic to handle reluctant women: take their phone, say you’ll enter your number so they can call if they feel like it. After you’ve entered your number, hit “send” and wait. If you can keep her phone away from her for a few seconds, her number will show up on your caller ID. I’ve done this many times and it always works. They may feign annoyance, but they’ll gladly text with you and chances are you’ll easily recover. Remember, women love drama! Always better to make an impression (positive or negative) than none at all…

Never give up. I have a friend who is the king of recovering-from-the-pivot. That’s when a girl steps back, away from the guy, and half-turns as if to leave. Most women have a hard time being flatly rude and walking away, and my buddy uses this to his advantage. By waving them back and saying, “Come here for a sec…” and other persuasive lines, a girl can often be recovered from the brink. Once they turn fully away and start walking, though, you’ve lost. I never pursue at that point. I’m sure some percentage is recoverable, but they’ve made a mental turn along with their physical about-face, and it’ll take Herculean effort to open that door of opportunity again.

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What Attracts Women Sexually?

Editor — Fri, 20 Aug 2010 18:59:42 +0000

QUESTION: Is it really possible for a guy who has no sexual confidence and no control over his sex life – to transform himself into the kind of “in control” man that women desire, respect, and secretly FANTASIZE about?

I’d like to talk about a concept that is rather difficult for most men to “get”.

Ironically, it’s a concept that’s rather easy to understand, but because it’s so illogical and “counter intuitive”, it’s also easy to miss entirely.

It’s understanding what attracts women sexually.

And, what I’m about to share with you took me literally YEARS to figure out… even though it was right in front of my face the whole time.

When I first decided to get this area called “Women and Dating” handled in my own life, I did what I think most guys do… I THOUGHT a lot about it, I READ a lot about it, and I ASKED a lot about it.

I’ve spent a lot of time studying psychology and human behavior, because it fascinates me… and I figured that all of my understanding about how people worked, would really give me an advantage in this quest I had started.

And, since I think I’m pretty smart, I figured that this would be something that I’d get figured out rather quickly.

Well, what a humbling experience I was in for.

As I soon learned, it’s not easy to solve an illogical problem by thinking about it logically!

In fact, now that I know better, I think that attraction IS rather logical… it’s just that how it works is so UNEXPECTED that it SEEMS illogical. But for now, let’s just use the term “illogical” because it forces the mind to put aside pre-conceived notions of what “should” happen.

As I was trying to figure all this stuff out for myself (and keep in mind, I had no idea that I would later write a book to help others) I kept running into challenges.

It seemed that every logical thing I did just didn’t work in a way that made sense.

One of the biggest mistakes I made was ASSUMING THAT ATTRACTION WORKED THE SAME WAY FOR WOMEN THAT IT DOES FOR MEN.

It only made sense that since men are attracted to looks and sweet personalities that women should be too… right?

So, of course, I tried to work this angle by wearing nice clothes, doing nice things for women, and being the NICEST guy you could ever meet. I was accommodating to the extreme. I would do whatever a woman wanted, and basically accepted whatever flaky or manipulative behaviors she used with me.

But since none of that stuff seemed to really help at all, I just kept coming to the same conclusion:

I MUST NOT BE ATTRACTIVE ENOUGH, GOOD LOOKING ENOUGH, RICH ENOUGH, OR SOMETHING ENOUGH.

I was doing everything I could imagine to be a nice, sweet, great guy… but women just didn’t seem to respond to me in a “sexually attracted” way…

“It must just be me that’s the problem” I thought.

Well, fortunately for me, I’m not one to quit easily.

I stuck with it, and I finally did something that had a PROFOUND impact on my personal success…

I MADE FRIENDS WITH DIFFERENT GUYS WHO WERE “NATURALLY” SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN AND I WATCHED WHAT THEY DID.

When I think back now, I think to myself “DUH!”

But it REALLY made a huge difference.

By watching different guys in different situations as they interacted with women, got phone numbers, went out on dates, and even made “physical” moves, I learned a lot.

What really fascinated me was that these different guys, who in many cases didn’t even know each other, were doing EXACTLY THE SAME THINGS in many cases.

And, the REALLY mind-blowing part was that the great techniques they were using were “no big deal” to them, and therefore had never been organized and taught in the “main stream”.

By imitating what I learned from these new friends, and by getting their help, all of a sudden my success began to SKYROCKET. I mean… BIG TIME.

I went from barely being able to talk to a woman and get her number… to having 3 or 4 dates a week. It was great.

But there was a problem…

IT STILL DIDN’T MAKE ANY DAMN SENSE TO ME!

Even though I had more “game”, and better techniques… and women were responding better to me, things still didn’t “feel” quite right.

And I didn’t always get the same results when I did things with women. Now, you’ll never get 100% consistency with anything in the real world, but it was just TOO inconsistent most of the time.

And even worse, women would either fall in love with me quickly, or not call me back after the first few dates, most of the time.

I knew enough to be dangerous, but not enough to really, really understand what was going on.

Well, fast-forward to now.

In the last several years, I’ve written a book, produced seminars at both ends of the country, released several comprehensive CD and/or DVD programs, and generally spent a lot of time teaching and refining this material.

A major benefit that this has provided me is the ability to explain things better and faster… and I’d like to give you a quick explanation of a CRITICAL aspect of female sexual attraction that, once you understand it, can literally change your life FOREVER with women.

Here’s the revelation:

Men are more attracted to physical traits, and women are more attracted to PERSONALITY traits.

Men get sexually aroused and “turned on” instantly at the sight of a young, shapely female body. As a man, you know that this process happens instantly and “all by itself”, meaning you don’t really have a choice in the matter.

Well, WOMEN get sexually aroused initially and “turned on” when they interact with a man that has certain QUALITIES and PERSONALITY TRAITS.

Women become instantly turned on sexually when they are in the presence of certain personality traits, just like men become turned on by certain physical traits… and the GOOD NEWS is that ANY MAN can learn these traits and “integrate” them into his own personality.

Think about that for a moment.

Men become turned on by what they can see. Women become turned on by what can NEVER be seen.

And, even when it comes to the physical, women are still more interested in the HOW than the WHAT…

It’s not as much his body as the way a man holds it and carries it.

It’s not as much his voice as the way a man uses it.

Do physical looks, money, fame, power, height, age, etc. play into this at all?

Of course they do.

But they’re not NEARLY as important as most men think they are.

If you’re tall, handsome, rich, and famous… great. You’ll probably have an easier time attracting women. But just watch the tabloids… this can open the door for a guy, but it doesn’t at all guarantee that the woman will stay around. There are a LOT of rich, famous, powerful men who still have no success with women.

To sum it up…

Attraction is different for men than it is for women.
While men are attracted mostly by physical traits, women are attracted mostly by PERSONALITY traits.

Women don’t decide who to feel attracted to with their logical minds. They “decide” with their emotions and then make up reasons and rationalize it.

ATTRACTION ISN’T A CHOICE!

This is why some men attract women so well, while others don’t… and why ANY man can improve his success with women DRAMATICALLY, no matter what his looks, age, or income.

I want you to think about what you’ve just read, and pay attention when you’re out watching men and women interact.

Start noticing those things that men are doing to attract women that are related to their PERSONALITIES and their COMMUNICATION with women. You’ll see things you’ve never seen before, and learn secrets that will improve your success with women tremendously.

Of course, if you want to shave a couple of YEARS off the learning curve, and get a detailed description of those qualities and methods of communicating that women find SEXUALLY ATTRACTIVE, then I recommend that you check out my Power Sexuality Program.

In it, I spend several HOURS going into great detail and teaching the exact, step-by-step process of communicating with women in a way that triggers their SEXUAL ATTRACTION mechanism.

Once you learn this skill, you’ll have it FOREVER – and that means a lifetime of interesting and attractive women in your life.

And if you’d like an introduction to my main concepts and to learn the basics of how to be more successful with women and dating, then go right now and download my eBook “Double Your Dating”. It comes with three bonus booklets that are INVALUABLE and CRITICAL to your understanding of, and success with, women.

It’s all at:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook/

Thanks for tuning in, and I’ll talk to you in a couple of days.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

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Perfect Your Timing For A Perfect Pick Up

Editor — Wed, 18 Aug 2010 22:05:03 +0000

Your approach should follow a “movie trailer” format. Keep it short, condensed, intriguing and light. You want to leave right when she’s most interested. And you need to leave with the phone number, or the whole act is worthless.

Intercede during a moment of transition or confusion. For example, if she’s on the street and seems lost or unsure about directions, that’s your moment. In a department store, approach her as she’s looking for a check-out register. These moments of change are opportunities for you to present yourself and you won’t have to break her concentration because it’s already broken. She’s in need of assistance and you’re there to help!

The best approaches are the ones that seem most natural. She’s walking slowly and you sidle up next to her; she’s at the counter ordering something and you come forward to order, as well; she’s waiting at a stoplight and so are you. These situations create conditions in which a casual comment by a stranger (you) isn’t unusual or weird. Also, you will learn to spot opportunities that allow for a brief ongoing conversation.

For example, I just picked up an attractive Persian woman with beautiful breasts here on Madison Avenue. After chatting for a minute and exchanging phone numbers, I indicated we should keep walking (walking is naturally less awkward than standing still; a “dynamic” pick-up is much easier than a “static” pickup, because your proposition isn’t so direct and obvious). We walked to the end of the block and then I told her I had to cross because I was going to Central Park. That wasn’t the case, but I knew that walking with her for another block would be awkward; we’d already traded numbers and talked about getting together tonight or tomorrow. Do not go deeper than this on initial contact. She leaves feeling excited and intrigued; I leave on a positive note after a successful pick-up.

Everyone’s happy.

The issue of timing is key to creating an effective dynamic. Too early and you looked rushed and desperate, too late and you look incompetent. An example: you sit next to a cute girl on the subway and start a conversation. You don’t know when she’s going to get off. Her stop could be next or you may have twenty minutes to chat. You need to ask her at what stop she’s getting off, so you can plan. Then ask for her number thirty seconds before you part ways. If you ask for it too soon, she may balk because you haven’t established enough rapport. Also, once you’ve made your play for the number and indicated sexual/romantic interest, you don’t have anywhere to go, conversationally. It’s like telling the punch line of joke right off and then continuing with the set-up. The whole momentum of the conversation was intended to build to asking her out, and now you’re flat. If you don’t believe me, try it. Also, if you ask for her number right before something forces you apart, she’s more apt to give-in because of the urgency of the situation. If she’s at all interested, she’ll give you the number because she wants to maintain the option of reconnecting.

Also, once you’ve asked a girl out (which is what you’re doing by getting the number) she may eye you a bit differently. Before, you were just a nice, cute guy making conversation. All of a sudden you’re a possible lover/boyfriend/husband, etc. Don’t underestimate the female mind. Once you’re in the new category, you’ve made progress, but your words and actions will come under increased scrutiny. It’s best to exit and save your game for another day when you can set conditions to reflect favorably on you.

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Focus On Her To Execute A Smooth Pick Up

Editor — Wed, 18 Aug 2010 17:44:36 +0000

by Paul Janka

Capturing a woman’s attention is a skill men have been perfecting for millennia. There are many ways of doing so, and it can be done by creating any number of emotional states: intrigue, awe, affection, fear, hatred, lust, etc. And, men have invented what we call “society” to serve them in their efforts. As Aristotle Onassis once remarked, “If women didn’t exist, all the money in the world would have no meaning.”

We have built skyscrapers with corner offices, Lamborghini Diablos, Savile Row suits, and gorgeous yachts for ourselves, surely, but for the attention they’ll garner, as well. So, while there are plenty of ways to get a woman’s attention, each man must develop a strategy that best suits his particular financial position and social standing.

I’m going to address the challenge of attention in its most distilled, pure form: at the interpersonal level. I know from experience you don’t need expensive props, fancy clothes, or fame to sleep with gorgeous woman. But, you do need something that is just as hard to develop: focus. But, the good news is that most men can develop it with some practice. What do I mean by focus?

With focus you can give women what they really want: an intense connection. The more you develop this skill, the deeper you can penetrate a woman in broad daylight, in the middle of a busy street corner. She’ll allow you in just a bit, if she’s interested, and it’s up to you to push deeper so she feels you presence. She’ll appreciate this and it will arouse her. Focus is nothing magical. It’s simply the intensity and singleness of purpose that allows you, as a man, to hone in on a beautiful woman, stop her and engage her, despite the loud bus driving by, the pedestrians brushing past and the jackhammer across the street drowning out your attempts at conversation.

Focus is a mindset where everything else fades into insignificance. For that one minute, she’s all you need and all you see. You take in everything she does or says (or doesn’t do or say) and consider it. In that minute, you’re un-distractible and unflappable. If you can demonstrate this level of focus, you’ll win the girl, every time. So few men in her life give her that level of attention (even if she’s gorgeous, believe it or not) that she’ll feel your male presence. This has nothing to do with how handsome or well-dressed you are. It has to do with confidence and knowing you own the moment. You’re the guide, the mentor, the boss, the champion – call it what you want. These sixty seconds alone with her are yours. She’ll give them to you. Who wouldn’t? Rarely in our daily lives do we meet people so intense, so connected to the moment, that when we do, we can’t look away.

The good news is that this ability to focus will increase with practice. Conjure it by thinking of your most intense moments: the racquetball court, an important exam, driving on a back-country road, making love… Pretty soon, the sight of a sexy woman on a street corner or approaching at a quick pace will snap you into focus so you can penetrate the chaos surrounding her and present your best self.

You can learn more about how to approach women using the most direct and smoothest techniques on my website.

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Eliminate Hesitation When Approaching Women

Editor — Thu, 12 Aug 2010 16:18:51 +0000

Fear lives in moments of hesitation.

If you approach a woman and enter her space without thinking, you will have short-circuited a good deal of the fear that prevents you from making first contact. In this moment of approach you are a predator and she is the prey. Summon that masculine ferocity in your gut and go for it. There’s no substitute for an attempt. You’ll learn more in those few seconds than anything I (or other “gurus”) can teach you. If you really want this you have to make the charge at some point.

What you’ll find after you’ve become accustomed to the cold approach is that your fear ¬was, in fact, holding you back. There will be some awkward moments at first, and maybe you’ll have a hard time thinking of what to say in the beginning, but you will start to trust yourself.

The conversation in your head will die down the more you flex your “approach muscle.” This is an important point. The art of the pick-up is something you can learn, but the responsibility for fine-tuning your game lies with you. The more you work on it, the more you’ll find what works for you – humor, obliqueness, intensity, props, etc. – and you’ll also start to intuitively know which girls will respond.

Perhaps men lie to themselves (as I have) by saying they’re “assessing the situation” before rushing in. Let me ask you this: What do you really get from further considering a good situation? In my experience, waiting is a delay tactic. There’s almost never a valid reason to hesitate; you gain nothing by observing at a distance while you contemplate an approach. Just walk over!

I’ve been meeting girls for over a decade, and I know what I’m doing. In the beginning, I tried out different methods and learned which worked for me. It’s kind of like shooting around on a basketball court. You’ll start to learn what shots are yours, and what part of the court works best for you. You may be trying out different approaches on many types of girls. Taking the sports analogy further: at his peak Michael Jordan was dunking the basketball numerous times a day. It became so second nature, and his confidence was so strong, that he knew before leaving the planks that the ball was going through the rim. I’m the same way with pick-up. I know with a high-degree of certainty that a girl is going to give me her phone number well before I ask. It’s not perfect, but generally speaking, I’m spot on. If I don’t feel it, I don’t take the shot. Like Jordan, I’ll circle back and look for another approach rather than duff it.

This will happen to you as well, as you gain experience. In particular, you’ll start to feel which girls are your sweet spot. Maybe they all are, and God Bless You! But most of us mortals play better with a certain type of girl than with another. Finding this out will greatly increase your success. Perhaps you get a thrill from penetrating the bitch shield of a hot red-head; maybe you’re drawn to the sweet innocence of a Southern Belle; or, maybe, you’re downright disarmed by the humor of a genuinely funny woman. Learn what you like.

Another reason to avoid hesitation: circumstances change rapidly and often unpredictably. If you’re eyeing an attractive girl, chances are other men notice her, too. And of course her lover could call on the cell phone, or a boyfriend could come back from the restroom. The longer you sit around thinking about approaching her, the longer you’re waiting for conditions to change, often for the worse. As you become skilled at approaching, the voice of self-consciousness in your head will tone down and you will start acting swiftly to capitalize on good situations.

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The Biggest Myths Of Pickup – Part II

Editor — Tue, 10 Aug 2010 23:39:46 +0000

Last week I mentioned few myths of pickup artists. I could continue with the list but I guess it is time to move on.

In this post, I’m going to reveal a few things you should start using right away to skyrocket your success with women.

I know no one is interested to practice the general stuff or work on areas of life that are not directly related to pick up skills. As a coach my job is to give you the right information and not the information you think will work.

You have to take my word that your skills and techniques are incomplete without the following information below.

It’s like having the greatest car and the most powerful engine on the market but with no air in the tires…

Some of the stuff below might seem daunting, but trust me that it does not take long to master and see results from. After live coaching you will have a great control of these elements which act as a catalyst to generate massive amounts of attraction.

T.E.A.S.E

Tonality, Eye Contact, Animation, Sexual Escalation and Energy are the most powerful components to demonstrate power, confidence, dominance and stability. (Check out my video explanations on YouTube)

If you can master the right level of T.E.A.S.E you will have no problem opening and controlling groups of women. In fact T.E.A.S.E is so powerful that women will start opening you when you display them at the right level.

Positivity

Negativity is public enemy number one! If you are negative in general it will come across in your attitude. A positive person feels happy within and spreads positivity. Positivity is contagious and it makes people feel good: man, woman or child. As a result when women see a secure man in you they relax around you.

Be Social

Most students of pickup are not social. They go out only to pick up women. They would never waste time socializing but focus on the mission to pick up chicks. Do the opposite. Be social.

Take interest in people and their lives. Explore what they find beautiful about their life, work and hobbies. Practice this for a little while and soon you will become natural conversationalist and a charmer. You won’t need any routines. People will enjoy your company and onlookers will see you as the life of the party. Your value will go up and you will get laid like a rock star, along with some other important skills that will contribute.

Stop Acting Desperate

I meet these men who are super desperate about women. All they can do is talk about women. They spend hours on the internet stalking women’s profiles on social media sites. Every few minutes they will show you some woman’s photo and talk about how hot she is. The only conversation they can have is hot some chick was that they wanted to bang or they wish they could bang so and so.

Now all of us talk about women and our desires but if that piece dominates the majority of your conversation you are too desperate and it will reflect in your conversation with women. Relax and take it easy.Start playing sports, build some hobby, develop some interest and start talking other things. Get a life.

Focus On Lifestyle

Most students of pick up treat bars, clubs and shopping malls as a mecca for seduction. Their sole focus is to visit these places to approach women. Think different.

Instead of focusing all your energy to visit these places to meet women start building a lifestyle that is rich with women. Build a social circle and participate in activities that draw women to you and you will never have to leave your house to meet women.

Seducing women is way easier in a social circle and any environment outside of bars and clubs. Why focus making it tougher?

You may not find the kind of women you want in your neighborhood bars or at least lot of them at one time. Your social circle or activity can ensure you meet multiple women that meet your standards at any given time. Use bars and clubs as practice grounds then build a lifestyle to draw women to you. Seduce them with your newly discovered skill set.

Mindset

Focus on building the right mindset and approach to dating. Most schools out there position dating women as a hard and rough adventure. Dating and seduction is easier than driving a stick shift if you have the right mindset. Dating is normal and natural.

Why would anyone be single when they can be with a partner? Why would someone not talk to a woman who they find attractive? Why would anyone not try to sleep with a woman who they find sexy?

Desiring women and making an effort to have them is normal and natural adult male behavior. No need to shy away from it. Women want you to approach and seduce them but they also want you to do it right.

Watch a movie called “Hang ‘Em High” with Clint Eastwood.

In the movie there is a scene when Clint tries to kiss the woman. When she turns her face around instead of feeling rejected he probes as to why the woman did not go for the kiss. He assumes that it was only natural for them to kiss and something must be wrong that she refused to kiss. So he leans back and simply asks “what’s the matter” and we finally find out that she was raped and is now weary of men. Yes attraction and seduction is natural. What is more natural is acting on your attraction for a particular woman and trying to make her yours.

Yes, build the right mindset and seduction will become easy. Sign up for Live Training and let me bring you up to speed with women. With my coaching you will experience a similar level of success that most men dream of BUT never accomplish. 3 out of 4 guys I trained last year ended up sleeping with women within a week of my training.

Read the Social Mastery Book and discover the right mindset and practices to approach and win beautiful women over. If you are interested in One Night Stands check out my DVDs on that topic also.

Honestly man if my coaching and products can’t get you laid nothing will.

That’s why I offer a 100% money back guarantee because I know how to get success to my students. So stop wasting time and take a chance. You will be glad you did. My past students verify it with their testimonials and reviews.

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Day Game Openers

Editor — Fri, 06 Aug 2010 22:36:45 +0000

One of the biggest problems guys face is not knowing what to say when they see a woman they want to talk to. Especially when they see a woman in the daytime. The first step to meeting women in daytime environment is the approach, but in this article you will find some examples of things you can say to start a conversation.

There are some differences between approaching women in the daytime than at night. You wouldn’t approach a woman in a grocery store the same way you would at a bar.

One of the main differences is that the women in the daytime generally do not expect to be approached, whereas at night they do expect it. Especially when the woman is beautiful.

On top of that most women aren’t in a social mood to talk to people in the daytime and they usually are on a time constraint. She might be on her way to pickup a friend or is running late for work. That’s why it is advised to use direct approaches in the daytime, simply because you skip a couple of steps for a successful pickup.

At night you might have an hour to talk to a woman, but when you meet someone on the street she might be on her way to an appointment. This means you have to efficiently compress the interaction to a shorter period of time, starting off with an direct approach.

The structure of an direct conversation starter is this:

[get her attention] + [social calibrator] + [compliment]

You first have to get her attention before you can deliver your compliment. Between that is the social calibration, which means that you address the situation you’re both in, which is necessary to make her feel comfortable. The biggest part of your direct conversation starter (“opener”) is the compliment.

Let’s look at a couple direct openers:

“Excuse me, I just saw you walking past, and I had to come tell you that you look absolutely beautiful.”

“Excuse me, I just saw sitting there, and I wanted to come tell you that you look stunning.”

“Hi, I saw you from across the isle and I thought you looked gorgeous. I wanted to come introduce myself.”

These are all examples that follow the structure of an effective daytime opener. First part is a way to grab her attention, then the social calibration, and then the compliment. You can use these right away and if used correctly, you will have successfully started a conversation with a woman.

A good general rule for compliments is: the more specific, the better. Also, it should be an explicit physical interest in her attractiveness. A comment about her “purse” or “nice dress” is weak. However, you can start with something general and followup with something more specific.

For example:

“Excuse me, I saw you walking by, and I had to come tell you that you look absolutely gorgeous. I can tell you really take care of yourself.”

“Excuse me, I just saw sitting there, and I wanted to come tell you that you look stunning. I really like your sense of style.”

“Hi, I saw you from across the isle and I thought you looked gorgeous. I like how you put yourself together. I wanted to come introduce myself.”

The examples are all the same from above but added with a specific compliment. Feel free to play around with those and phrase them the way you normally talk so it is congruent with you.

All these openers are great for starting conversations with women you meet in coffee shops, malls, grocery stores, shopping streets, and any other place you meet women outside bars and clubs. After you have approached, you must continue the conversation. These are just examples of breaking the ice.

Jeremy Soul, widely recognized as the expert on meeting in daytime environments, has released his book Daytime Dating which is about approaching women in daytime environments, getting their phone numbers, and going on dates with them. If you are interested in meeting women outside bars and clubs, check out the book here.

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How To Be Cool

Editor — Mon, 26 Jul 2010 17:46:12 +0000

When I first moved to New York City, I used to read all the time about how women wanted a guy with a good sense of humor. It was in every magazine, every talk show…even my female friends would tell me the exact same thing. Even the Magic Bullets Handbook said so, and Magic Bullets is well-known for contradicting conventional wisdom (and being right).

You’d think that a professional comedian such as myself would have no problem with women then, right? Wrong.

I noticed instantly some things that I was already doing right (thanks to my improv and standup training), but some other things that I had WAY wrong. I want to talk to you guys about one of those things right now.

Going from funny to sexy. Why is it that so many really funny comedians have so much trouble hooking up with high quality women? How to you go from being the funny guy to the guy she wants to take home?

The answer is to use humor to mask your sexual intent. That means bringing up the topic of sex, but in a funny way.

Advantages to Sexual Framing

You should always be looking for opportunities to bring up the topic of sex with a woman that you are interested in, even though it can be hard to find a way to make it not creepy. When you talk about sex, you subcommunicate that you are someone who is interested in sex, who has had sex before, who is confident about sex. You start to paint the picture that sex is a normal and important part of your life.

You also start to introduce the idea of sex with the woman you’re talking to, which is really important, especially if you want same night lays. She’ll have a hard time putting you in the friend zone if you’ve already brought up the idea of hooking up with her.

Not only that, but if done in the right way, simply talking about sex can be physically exciting to her. It is a huge tool in breaking though levels of intimacy.

So how do we do this without sounding like a total creeper? The answer is above. USE HUMOR!

One of the things I’ve noticed from having done hundreds of approaches is that you can get away with a lot if you are funny. If you’ve read any of my “On The Fly” articles, you’ll see exactly how much you can get away when you are joking around with a woman. Knowing this, you should always start your sexual framing in a way that’s funny.

Two Techniques for Funny Sexual Framing

There are literally hundreds of ways to work sex into conversation, but for the moment I’ll hit you with two that are super easy.

The first is to hide it in a role play. A role play is putting you and the woman in a fake scenario that she can play along with. For example, pretending that you are breaking up even though you just met:

“I’m totally breaking up with you. I’ll come over tomorrow to get my CD’s and for the breakup sex.”

You can even pretend that you’ve been married and add all sorts of crazy fake details:

“That’s it! You and I are getting a divorce. Just as well. You could never handle me in bed anyways.”

Once you have the fake scenario out there, you’ve got free reign over the kind of material you can make up. Why not make up something sexual?

The second technique has to do with one of my Disqualification types. In my Humor, Improv and Attraction seminar I go deep into Disqualification and go over the 10 different types. One of those types is called Raising Your Value, in which you boast about your positive qualities. You talk about how attractive you are, how cool you are, and most importantly, how sure you are that the woman you are talking to you is attracted to you:

“You’re such a sexual predator. I can feel you undressing me with your eyes right now!”

or

“I’d appreciate it if you’d get your mind out of the gutter. I know it’s hard because I’m so hot, but just do your best and think unsexy thoughts.”

In both of the above techniques, even though it’s just a joke, it still breaks through those same levels of intimacy. It has the same effect, even though it’s just a joke!

The above tools are a good place to start, but it really is just the tip of the iceberg. Using some of the other techniques I teach can jump off comments like those into some super charged sexual framing!

For example, did you know that these sexual jokes are a perfect opportunity to escalate physically? Just throw it into the joke! Why not have the fake breakup conversation with her sitting on your lap? Why not give her a friendly hug then accuse her of copping a feel? The possibilities are limitless if you’re looking in the right places.

Of course they have to be in on the joke for this to work, so make sure you get on the same page with them as soon as possible.

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7 Attraction Switches To Turn Her On

Editor — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 15:23:12 +0000

by Neil Strauss

Many discussions with colleagues on the SWITCHES that must be flipped in a woman in order for her to feel attraction resulted in a really long list. From it, I boiled it down to just a few main switches.

There is no order to them. They should just each be consciously flipped at some point. I’d love to hear thoughts and contributions:

1. You must show her that you’re safe. Trust is an important issue for most women. This must be demonstrated. So switch #1: in order to proceed, you need SAFETY and TRUST.

2. You must show her that you have either job security, motivation, or ambition. In other words, you must have a life and goals. So switch #2 is demonstrating to her that you have STABILITY and AMBITION. You don’t have to be successful, you just have to show the potential to be successful.

3. You must show her that you’re different than the other guys, that you are not generic or boring, that she can learn something from you or grow with you, that you have a sense of adventure or creativity or spirituality. So switch #3 is showing her that you have something to offer, even if you don’t give it to her in the moment. This is where DHVs are useful.

4. You must be the prize of the room. She wants a guy others will envy her for, that she can brag about to her friends.

This is where social proof comes in, where story- telling comes in. It’s also where alpha qualities come in, and not supplicating. So switch #4 is demonstrating all of the many qualities of:

CONFIDENCE, LEADERSHIP, AUTHORITY, and POPULARITY

5. It’s a big world and we all feel alone in it, so if you can demonstrate that you UNDERSTAND her and where she comes from, she will feel chemistry.

This can largely be done through demonstrating either cultural, mental, emotional, world view, humor, or life/background commonalities. The more obscure and rare a trait that you connect on,the more chemistry you create. So Switch #5 is demonstrating COMMONALITIES in order to trigger CHEMISTRY.

6. You need an aura of depth and mystery. You must maybe show a vulnerable or wounded side of yourself, you must not give away everything for free, you must be a puzzle she wants to figure out and maybe even have a wound she can heal. Switch #6 then is hooking her with your DEPTH and MYSTERY.

7. You must show her that you are NOT horny, but sexual. This is where social proof comes in too, also demonstrating an understanding of her world (liking her for who SHE is). So switch #7 is demonstrating your own LACK OF DESPERATION while showing her that you recognize something SPECIAL in her that attracts you to her. This is where QUALIFYING is useful, in other words demonstrating that you like her for who she is– even if you are a player.

Be careful with such power. If you can flip these, she’s going to be really into you.

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The 15 Laws Of Sexual Attraction

Editor — Fri, 16 Jul 2010 20:34:36 +0000

I just did a phone consultation with a guy who wanted to get better at attracting women. This guy had just gotten out of a long relationship and a friend recommended Love Systems. He was new, hadn’t read the Magic Bullets Handbook yet, etc. So, we started with the basics.

It got me thinking. Probably everyone can benefit from going back to basics once in a while. Attraction is like building a house. If the foundation isn’t solid, eventually the whole thing will collapse no matter how good you are at the late-game stuff.

In general, you can make a lot of ‘mistakes’ and still get the girl. But not with these 15 things. These are laws.

Before you go out:

1. The “Game” begins as soon as you leave the house. Women notice you before you approach them. They should always see you having fun, being social, and looking good. (Going out with fun people/good wingmen and to places you like helps with this.) If you’ve been circling around, acting nervous, or standing alone, you’ll need to have the skills of a Future or a Jeremy Soul to get the girl once you approach. Love Systems is about making things easier, not harder.

2. Dress in a way that is fashionable and expresses your identity. Most women see fashion as self-expression. How do you want her to see you? Dress that way. You can’t avoid this – if you dress to blend in, she’ll just think of you as the kind of guy who wants to blend in. There are some great tips in the fashion section of The Attraction Forums and a how-to guide with before and after pictures in the Magic Bullets Handbook.

You see a beautiful woman…

3. Move your feet. If you get the eyes-feet reflex going (i.e., see a hot girl, start walking over to the hot girl), everything else will – eventually – take care of itself. Get this down until it’s automatic. The longer you delay an approach, the harder it will be. Don’t skip this.

4. Memorize five good openers (opening lines) so you always have one ready to go. If you don’t have this, you’ll often stumble on the beginning of the conversation or even talk yourself out of approaching in the first place. If you don’t have a set of good “go-to” openers that you know work, grab some from the Routines Manual. Or create your own.

The first few seconds…

5. Body language – this is a massive topic and great body language can almost pick up a girl all by itself. Fundamentals for the first few minutes include eye contact, shoulders back and relaxed, hands calm and not in your pockets, standing up straight (don’t fidget), head straight (not tilted). Stand like you would if you owned the world.

6. Speak up! Love Systems has trained tens of thousands of men in person over the last 7 years. Almost all of them started off speaking too softly when approaching women. Especially at bars and clubs, she must hear you clearly the first time and it must cut across other conversations, the music, etc. Also, use your “chest voice” (Google it) and not your “head voice.”

7. Don’t “milk” the opener. Whatever you said when you came over to talk to her, switch off that topic after a minute. That’s crucial. You want her to see you as an attractive, interesting man, not as “the guy I talked to about such-and-such.”

Getting into the conversation…

8. Be FUN. Don’t be too serious or take yourself or the conversation too seriously. If you look like you’re having fun and enjoying yourself, she will have fun too. Fun is contagious…

9. … but don’t be a dancing monkey. You’re not trying to become her personal clown or court jester. Have fun and be fun, but don’t try to entertain.

10. Some things that are great for attraction and are also fun include storytelling, teasing, and role plays. It’s okay if you prefer one or two of these – each of these techniques has its own skill set. I do a lot of storytelling, some teasing, and a rare role play. Braddock does the opposite. Go with what works for you.

11. Avoid “interviews.” Don’t ask her too many questions. A question or two shows some interest in who she is as a person, but more than that is what every guy does; it’s boring and a turnoff. It’s also a waste – asking her a question about herself does nothing to attract her or let her get to know your good qualities. Instead, make statements. E.g., instead of asking where she’s from, make a guess. Or tell her where you’re from and she’ll do the same.

12. Similarly, don’t play tourist in her life. So you find out she’s a stewardess/porn star/nuclear scientist and you’re curious to know more. Save it. If she’s attracted to you, you’ll have all the time in the world to ask whatever you want.

13. NEVER leave a conversation because you “run out of things to say.” Force yourself to stay. Your brain will learn, if it is forced to, how to improvise. Or use one of the hundreds of proven “things to say” (called routines) in the Routines Manual or Routines Manual Volume 2. Be strict with yourself on this.

Making attraction STICK…

Some guys think of attraction as something that takes a long time but once you got it, it’s permanent. That’s doubly wrong. Women feel attracted to men all the time, and it doesn’t take long – within minutes of beginning a conversation. But if you don’t do anything to solidify or lock in that attraction, it goes away as quickly as it came.

14. Qualification is the best way to keep her attracted. By making her work a bit for you and by leading the conversation to a place where you and her admit that you are interested in each other, you’re not some fleeting guy… you’re a guy she needs more of.

15. Phone numbers are not attraction. Getting a phone number does not mean she is attracted to you. Getting a phone number before she is attracted to you is next to useless. Read the Ultimate Guide to Text and Phone Game if you’re a phone number + dates guy instead of a One Night Stand guy.

Obviously, this is only scratching the surface. Attraction takes up several chapters of the Magic Bullets Handbook, most of the routines in the Routines Manual 1 and Routines Manual 2 are attraction routines, and the interview series goes through the nuts and bolts of a bunch of attraction techniques so you can go over “how to” do them all. But nothing about attraction will ever contradict these 15 Laws, no matter how advanced you are.

If you ever break any of these 15, print out the list, carry it in your wallet, and review them until they are instinctive and you don’t even need to think about them anymore.

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The Biggest Myths Of Pickup

Editor — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 18:30:17 +0000

by Magic, Lead Coach for Attraction Methods

I recently spoke at a Dating Conference in New York City. After the conference many students came and chatted after and I realized that there are lot guys who are victims of common “Pick Up Myths”.

I’ve compiled the absolutely damaging and most importantly TIME WASTING myths that most pickup artists try to convince you are FACTS.

In this two part email I’m going to reveal what those will only discover after being infield for a LONG TIME. I will first discuss ten myths that you need to ignore. Then I will hand you specific ways to dramatically jump your game so you start succeeding with beautiful women.

Let’s get started on the BIGGEST myths of pickup…

MYTH #1: Beautiful women get approached all the time

Every time I taught a workshop or give a seminar, which was a TON of them last year, I made it a point to ask the guys in attendance to raise their hands if they approach “9-10s” on a regular basis. Only one or two students out of hundreds raise their hands.

I know it sounds NUTS that beautiful women get approached LESS than other women, however…

I want you to talk to any good looking women and they will tell you that they hardly get approached in any meaningful way by men.

MYTH #2: Having a wingman is a good

Many big dating experts say that a wingman is an asset that will add value to The WORST thing you can do to limit your success with women is to have a wingman.

If the wingman does not know what he is doing he will destroy ALL interactions.

If he is better than you he will get all the attention and you will be home empty handed… yet again.

MYTH #3: Using negs to bring a woman’s value down

A light insult wrapped in the package of a compliment is a neg. Negs are used by pick-up artists to gain and maintain the attention of women who possess uncommon beauty.

The conventional wisdom is that these women are immune to standard compliments. The fact is that a neg will only work on insecure women and genuine compliments are NEVER refused or disregarded.

It’s a HUGE myth that hurts your game.

I only date women who have self-esteem. I let them know that I admire them for who they are by giving them genuine compliments. It never fails if done correctly.

This does not make me “needy” or desperate. It makes me a confident guy who goes after what he loves. You don’t need to bring down a woman’s value if you’re confident and have a great, fun vibe.

MYTH #4: Nice guys don’t get laid

It’s the shy guy who has trouble getting laid. I am a nice guy because I do not lie or cheat but I get laid on regular basis. You do not have to play games or tricks to pull a woman into your sack. You just have to act like a man to seduce her.

MYTH #5: Women don’t want to have sex

Sure, every woman craves to go back home to play with her rabbit. Women are just as sexual as men, sometimes I wonder if they aren’t MORE sexual than men.

They only sleep with men that are sexual, non-judgmental and safe. If you know how to demonstrate the combination of those special three you will be fine.

MYTH #6: Amog competition

Amog refers to “Alpha Male Other Guys”. I have personally seen women walk away when two guys fought over her.

Trying to show off makes you come across as an insecure guy.

You can learn the best way to still get the girl without getting into competition with other men. Another guy talking to my target is a bonus for me. She will now realize what a catch I am. THINK DIFFERENT!

MYTH #7: Build your value during your interaction

Either you have value or you don’t. If you are valuable then you have no need to demonstrate it – you will reflect it.

I’m going to reveal my best SECRET for demonstrating very high value. Instead of trying to BUILD my value – I always LOWER my value.

I tell women up front that I am broke, losing hair, and can’t speak proper English.

I get laid all the time.

I love when another guy brags his success to a woman in front of me. He comes across as trying WAY too hard and makes me appear relaxed and confident in who I am.

Use this tool with great enjoyment. You’ll notice the difference immediately.

MYTH #8: Hide your intentions

There is a popular belief among top dating coaches that if women find out early on that you want them they will run away.

Many of these coaches call this “indirect game”. They believe it will help you fly under the radar so you can snag the women down the road without her ALERTED to your REAL intentions.

I let every woman know that I want THEM.

This is exactly what I teach my students. No wonder 3 out of 4 students I trained last year got laid within a week of my training. And no wonder other companies are still struggling to get their COACHES laid. (That’s a fact)

Don’t hide your intentions. If nothing else women will be flattered that you find them highly desirable.

MYTH #9: It takes hours to get laid

Seduction happens very fast. You can spend hours before you go for the kiss but you don’t have to.

If you want to have a one night stand there is no way on this planet that you have to wait 3 hours before initiating the kiss. You gotta go for the kiss within the first 30 minutes and pull her for sex in an hour.

MYTH #10: Get her to a private place before you kiss

Never do isolate a woman from her friends unless the woman asks for it. Women definitely have an unspoken AND sometimes VERY spoken, competition. When you go for the kiss in front of her friends she feels rewarded and validated.

Make sure to win all of her friends before you go for the kiss so no one objects. If her friends like you, then your girl will have no problem getting sexual with you.

MYTH #11: Setting A Date In Advance (Time Bridge)

The concept of “time bridge” is to set up a date 7 days in advance because women are busy and they make plans.

I got some news for you: if a woman does not enjoy your company she won’t show up for the date just because she said she would. And if she really cares to be with you she will cancel her plans to join you.

Learn how to generate unstoppable and uncontrollable attraction so she wants to be with you and you won’t need any time bridging.

Stop right away if you have been using any of these. You now need to learn the CORRECT and POWERFUL NATURAL WAYS to attract and get women. You need to create the right mindset and practices that draw stunning but NORMAL and SECURE women into your life.

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These are skills that last a LIFETIME, not just till the next seminar when other dating coaches and pickup artists will try and get you to waste your hard earned money on.

Seduction is simple and needs no hard techniques. It needs a man with social skills and balls of steel! =)

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How To Be The Man Every Woman Wants

Editor — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 03:15:29 +0000

I wanted to share a secret to attracting women that I believe is one of the ULTIMATE advantages you can have.

When I was first learning about how to get past my internal fears… how to approach women and start conversations… how to create attraction and chemistry… and how to take things to the next level… I wound up trying a TON of different “tricks and techniques”.

Whenever I found a new “trick” that worked for me, I felt like I had just put another piece of the puzzle together… that I had gotten just that much closer to REALLY understanding how things worked.

But there was another feeling that happened even MORE often:

It was when I would try something that had “worked” before, but it DIDN’T work this time.

It was the feeling that I must have MISSED something… that I must not REALLY get it.

I’m sure you know exactly what I’m talking about here.

It was probably a couple of YEARS after starting my quest that I had what I consider to be one of the biggest “Ah Ha!” experiences of my life.

Here’s what my realization was:

The guys I knew who were the MOST successful with women didn’t read books to learn a bunch of “pick up lines”… and they didn’t rely on tricks to attract women.

The guys I new who were MOST successful had a certain something about them that just seemed to MAGNETICALLY attract women.

In fact, these guys did and said things to women that seemed like they COULDN’T work to create attraction.

But it worked. It seemed to ALWAYS work.

At first, I just assumed that these guys must be good-looking, or have some kind of natural charm that I would never have.

It seemed like an “unfair advantage”.

Well, I learned that it WAS actually an unfair advantage. But I ALSO learned that it was something that ANY guy can have.

WARNING: What I’m about to say might sound a little “new-agey”… but stick with me.

This “Ah Ha!” led me to an even deeper and more powerful realization:

These men who were consistently successful with women had a QUALITY about them, and a deep UNDERSTANDING of how male/female attraction works…

…SO THEY DIDN’T NEED TECHNIQUES.

Because they had this magical quality, and because they understood how to direct and channel any situation and conversation… they created success without needing the tricks.

In fact, one of my friends who was VERY good with women started LEARNING some “pick up lines” and other tricks, and started doing WORSE with women. True story.

He had the quality, and the tricks messed it up for him!

Well, after really digging into this topic and trying to translate this “secret knowledge”… and how to develop this quality I speak of… into a system that a regular guy could “get” use, I finally create the Master Key.

It’s a Master Key that will unlock doors that NO guy with a bunch of “tricks and techniques” can open.

It’s a key that will attract — AND KEEP — the more desirable and attractive women… the kinds of women that most guys will NEVER even have a chance to date.

I hope this secret helps you as much as it has helped me in my success with women.

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How To Tell If She Is Secretly Attracted To You

Editor — Mon, 12 Jul 2010 19:41:03 +0000

A student recently posted this question before his bootcamp – pretty common to guys who are new to Love Systems.

“In some conversations, I do the majority of the talking. Meaning, I start a conversational thread, we talk about it for a bit and then it dies down. I start up a new one and the same thing happens. Sometimes the women give one word answers and invest little into the conversation. I’m not getting the indicators of attraction that I want. I will ask them a question, they will answer, but then that’s it.”

Tenmagnet: If you’re having problems getting attraction, it’s usually because of something you’re doing wrong earlier in the interaction. There are a few things you might be doing wrong:

1) Being too “gamey.” MORE IS NOT BETTER when you’re talking about attraction routines. Too many can get weird pretty quickly. Attraction routines are great for when you get stuck – when you don’t know what to say next. But what really generates attraction is when you demonstrate confidence, humor, etc., and of course great body language and non-verbal communication. If you’re not demonstrating these things (or the other attraction switches from Magic Bullets), you’re not generating attraction, attraction routine or not.

Solution: You want to engage the people in her group, make them laugh, generate a bit of attraction and then CHILL. That is to say, once you HAVE attraction, you need to move forward to the next step in the Love Systems Triad (click here for the free download). If you keep trying for more attraction you will blow it.

2) Being weak on the opener/conversation starter. If your opener is weak, you’ll usually see the effects about a minute or two in. Opening poorly can make it very hard to get attraction. If your first line sounds nervous, awkward, too eager, or like you’re reading a script, or if she’s seen you wandering around the last 15 minutes getting the courage to approach her… well, you risk getting the kind of reaction you described a couple of minutes later when you try to continue the conversation.

Solution: Practice your openers, practice making them spontaneous, invent your own openers, and above all else, HAVE FUN when you’re out, and make that energy infectious. [NS: Braddock's Blog has a great new post about this - click this link]

3) Giving up too early. Some women will giggle and be all over you when they’re attracted – many will not. Some women are bad conversationalists, some are shy, and some have bad “game” themselves and mess things up when they are attracted. Indicators of attraction (the “tells” or “giveaways” that women do without knowing it that show when they are attracted to someone, listed in Magic Bullets) are guidelines, not a straightjacket.

Solution: Don’t be too strict in worrying about the lack of indicators of attraction – if they’re not coming but you’re having a good conversation, keep moving forward along the Love Systems Triad Model and see what happens. Don’t bail just because a woman isn’t giving you strong “I like you” signals.

There’s another thing to think about too – the overall “vibe” of the room. A lot of the time, the women I approach early in the night are friendly enough, but chemistry doesn’t come easily. You can do really well for yourself by bailing from those approaches after a couple of minutes – on a high note – and re-opening at midnight when the girls have had a chance to relax, be social, and see you having a great time around the bar. Suddenly, there’s chemistry.

Check out the Routines Manual and Magic Bullets book by Love Systems.

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Opening A Set

Editor — Fri, 02 Jul 2010 18:38:30 +0000

What is opening? Essentially, it’s the first 3-90 seconds of an interaction with a woman, whereby you begin a conversation. With opening, there is good news and bad news. The bad news is that opening can be very scary. Men are biologically predisposed to be incredibly nervous when starting a conversation with a woman that we don’t know. There are good evolutionary-biological reasons for this (in prehistoric times, approaching an unknown woman without permission or an introduction could lead to violent retaliation from her extended family), but that’s probably not a lot of comfort. So, that nervous feeling you get and the little voices that pop into your head looking for excuses NOT to talk to that beautiful woman are NORMAL. You need to learn to suppress them, but they are normal, and everyone – even Love Systems instructors – have them.

Some more bad news. We not only need to open, suppressing our built-in emotions, but we need to open well. Opening poorly can doom the rest of your interaction with a woman, and any other women who see it, making everything else you do a waste of time.

What’s the good news? With practice, it’s fairly easy. After learning from Love Systems, anyone should be opening successfully 99 times out of 100. Most experienced guys don’t even need to think about opening anymore.

The following tips will help get you started:

1. Have a canned opener ready – This is NOT a night at the improv. Going “situational” (e.g., “it sure is crowded here” or “that’s a nice purse”) will rarely work. Think about it. If a 22 year old woman has been going out 1 night per week since she was 18, and got approached 5 times in a night (and these numbers are major underestimations) she has been approached 1,000 times before you came along. Most of those 1,000 guys have tried something boring and situational. Use a canned opener – something that has been repeatedly tested with women and is proven to work. If you don’t have even one opener, I’d suggest Magic Bullets or the Love Systems Routines Manual. If you don’t have these invaluable texts, do yourself a favor and spend the money to get them and have your openers ready before you even go to the club, coffee shop, lounge, etc.

2. 3-2-1-GO! - When you see a girl you like: GO! Open her group immediately. Failure to do this will “stale you out.” Women like confidence. They don’t like to be stalked. They like spontaneity. Wandering around circling her, looking at her, trying to figure out what to do next will turn her off and creep her out. Get into the habit of seeing a group of people, and GOING IN. You’ve already got your opener ready, right?

3. Approach at an angle – Do not walk straight up to the group. Approach at an angle, tilt your head over your shoulders, and say your piece. Done correctly (and you almost need to see it to do it properly), you raise your value significantly by demonstrating that you do not need their attention or approval.

4. Smile on the approach - Don’t grin like a moron through the entire interaction, but smile as you walk to the set, and in the first few seconds of the opener. Smile with your eyes, not just your mouth. It may sound silly, but smiles can (and should) be practiced in front of a mirror.

5. Be loud enough - Everyone in the group should hear your opener. Your opener should be loud enough that it cuts across whatever conversations they are already having. Don’t shout, but make it socially awkward for them not to pay attention to your opener. Practice opening – loudly – from your chest, not your throat. If you put your hand on your chest, you should be able to talk in two ways: one in which you can feel the vibrations on your hand, and one where you can’t. Train yourself to speak in the way where you can feel the vibrations.

6. Don’t lean in – This is connected to being loud enough. You should project your voice enough that they can hear you from a normal standing position (or leaning slightly back).

7. Engage the group - Do NOT go into a group and talk to the woman you want to meet (the target). Engage the whole group. Pay LESS attention to the woman you are interested in.

8. Playfully tease the target – Teasing is a major tool for triggering attraction. The hotter the girl, the quicker you have to tease. It demonstrates higher social value, and women are attracted to men that they perceive as having higher social status than they perceive themselves to have. I’ve seen some of our instructors open with teasing, and many will begin teasing the target within the first 10 seconds of their openers.

Another crucial element of opening is ending it. The opener should be something short, to grab the group’s attention, and be emotionally neutral. As soon as you spot an opportunity, you should transition into get the girl attracted.

All these tips and techniques are covered in depth in Magic Bullets, which is considered the bible of seduction. Much more is covered in the book like how to attract women and how to figure out when the best time is to kiss a girl. Click here to find out more info about Magic Bullets.

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Absolute Attraction Launched

Editor — Tue, 29 Jun 2010 21:19:45 +0000

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The 4 Laws Of Summer To Get Hot Women

Editor — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 23:28:15 +0000

Imagine one of the hundreds of hot women you’ll see at every pool, beach, and barbecue this summer. Imagine she’s wearing a skimpy bikini… and that she’s surrounded by all of her hot friends. Now… imagine trying to ask her out on a date. So here’s the question…

How does all this “imagining” MAKE YOU FEEL?

If you’re like I used to be, you feel anxious just IMAGINING it… let alone actually DOING IT. But I’m here to tell you it doesn’t have to be that way.

Ready to get THE CONFIDENCE YOU NEED to get ANY WOMAN YOU WANT this summer?

Remember those teenage “summer fun” movies? You know… the ones with hot women in skimpy bikinis who seem to bend over backwards (literally) to get physical with guys?

Well, I sure remember those movies. Probably TOO well. I remember sitting there as a teenager watching them, thinking… “Maybe one day I can get one of THOSE women, too.” But of course years went by, and there I was, still “watching” and “wishing” instead of “doing” and “getting”. I felt hopeless. I felt frustrated. Worst of all, I felt HELPLESS. And, of course, I made all the usual excuses for my failure. I figured I wasn’t handsome enough. I figured my clothes and my car weren’t cool enough. I figured I didn’t have enough money to get a hot woman.

Sound familiar?

But like I’ve said so many times before… the only way to figure out the TRUTH behind a bad situation is to watch what people who are SUCCESSFUL do under the same circumstances.

And when I did that, what I saw totally blew me away. I spent time watching a couple of my friends who seemed to actually be LIVING the plots of those summer movies.

And believe me, none of these guys looked like Brad Pitt. None of these guys had wads of cash to flash around. Not one of these guys drove a Porsche or Ferrari. But every time without fail, these guys left the pool or beach with a bronze, hard-bodied goddess on their arm.

And I went home alone. Again.

Go figure?

But here’s the thing: just by watching what these guys did, it soon became obvious to me. There seemed to be a few subtle, “secret laws” behind all of this “summer fun” they were having… and I WASN’T.

And once I realized that, EVERYTHING CHANGED for me.

In fact, I wrote you a while ago to say that I now consider summer the “Sexual Season”… The time of year that beautiful women “let it all hang out” at sun-drenched beaches, pools and parks…

…almost as if they’re actually TRYING to send guys a “signal” or something. Well, guess what: THEY ARE. And if you’re not receiving that signal (and converting it into MIND-BLOWING SEXUAL EXPERIENCES this summer) then guess what else…

I feel bad for you. I can’t begin to describe what you’re missing out on. It just makes me sad. Excuse me while I shed a tear…

But here’s the REALLY sad part:

If you’re like most guys, you’ll not only MISS OUT on all the amazing opportunities this summer.

…you’ll continue to miss out on EVERY amazing opportunity to meet and get dates with great women all year around, winter spring and fall as well.

Why?

Because there’s a reason that hot women put on skimpy dresses and bikinis and walk around in front of you. You see, when a woman is ATTRACTIVE, SINGLE, and SHOWING YOU WHAT SHE’S GOT… she’s broadcasting a signal that she’s not only open to being approached by guys… but that she actually WANTS it to happen.

But here’s the catch… IT MUST BE DONE IN *EXACTLY* THE RIGHT WAY.

That in mind, here’s where my “secret laws” of summer come in. Without further delay, what you need to know — and put to work for you RIGHT NOW — before the red-hot opportunities of summer pass you by…

#1: THE LAW OF ACCESSIBILITY

Like I’ve said, at no other time of year do SO MANY off-the-hook, beautiful women gather in so many easily accessible places and show off their “assets”.

In other words, you don’t have to be a player – or a mind-reader – to predict where to meet the kinds of women that you’ve been dreaming about all year long. In fact, summer is the ONLY time of year that you can forget the cover charges, rope lines, the crowds at bars and clubs… and gain easy access to throngs of beautiful, AVAILABLE women.

Want to prove it to yourself? Here’s what I want you to do ASAP. Visit your nearest pool, beach, or park. Maybe take a jog or a hike. Walk your dog. (Come on, the exercise will do you good…)

Then take a look around. What do you see?

Odds are, you see a bottomless supply of super-hot women who are INTENTIONALLY showing off everything that they legally can to make guys notice them. And if you’re like most guys, you HAVE noticed these women.

Signal received, right? But the question still remains, what are YOU going to do about it?

#2: THE LAW OF APPROACHABILITY

At no other time of year are so many beautiful, single women more “open” and “receptive” to being approached by guys…

SO LEARN HOW TO DO IT. Like I said, thereis a reason these women choose to walk around in those revealing dresses and swimsuits.

And if they’re SINGLE, almost 100% of the time these women not only WANT to attract guys’ attention. These woman actually WANT to be approached. Yet most guys never even consider doing it.

Why not? Simple.

Because they’re AFRAID. Afraid of not knowing what to say. Afraid of not knowing what to do. Afraid of REJECTION. And because of all this fear, insecurity, and lack of confidence, they never even try to approach these women… year after year missing out on making their dreams of being with one come true at exactly the time they have the best chances of finally making it happen!

Sound painfully familiar?

If so, you need to understand right now that once you have the CONFIDENCE to approach a woman in one of these accessible “summer settings”, it’s actually EASIER THAN IT WILL EVER BE to start conversations and “close the deal” with her. In fact, reports show that summer sun and heat escalate SEXUAL DESIRE.

And that means, a lot of times, these women are not only interested in meeting new guys and talking with them, they’re MUCH more likely to take things to a PHYSICAL LEVEL with them.

And by the way, that includes turning up the bedroom heat with guys they’re already dating.

But still you MUST remember this: Just because a woman is more open to being approached and has increased levels of sexual desire, it DOES NOT mean that she’s easy or a “sure thing”.

It’s still up to YOU to approach her in exactly the right way, and then communicate with her in a confident, in-control way that creates INSTANT ATTRACTION.

Without doing that, all you’ll get is MORE REJECTION. Guaranteed.

#3: THE LAW OF VISIBILITY

I’m embarrassed to have to say this one, it’s so obvious. At no other time of year do guys have such a HUGE advantage when it comes to finding the particular “assets” they’re looking for in their “dream” woman.

So why not take advantage of it? Let’s face it… revealing summer clothes leave VERY little to the imagination, making it the ideal time to “girl watch” and spot your “fantasy woman”… all without looking like a peeping tom or pervert.

(Helpful hint: that’s something you should avoid all year around.)

So during summer’s “sexual season,” feel free to “girl watch” all you want. After all, summer’s like Christmas-time for a guy’s eyes.

And as soon as you see your type this summer, GO FOR IT. But remember: If you DON’T know EXACTLY how to approach a woman in a way that triggers INSTANT ATTRACTION, she’ll simply move on to the next guy faster than you can get your tongue untied.

And if you DON’T know how to carry on the conversation with her, she’ll mentally “check out” as you hem, haw, and finally retreat with your tail between your legs.

Above all…

If you DON’T know how to send the signals that she’s looking for in a potential sexual partner… the kind of signals that make her respond to you by smiling, flirting back, maybe even “innocently” touching you…

…then you WILL get rejected. And then it’s game over.

Period.

But if you learn the secrets of having SEXUAL CONFIDENCE… and then COMMUNICATING THAT CONFIDENCE to a woman right out of the gate, you’ll be golden. You’ll be able to approach and get dates with ANY woman you want, ANY time you want, ANY place you want. No matter how amazingly hot or “unattainable” she seemed at first. No matter what time of year it is.

#4: THE LAW OF SEXUAL ATTRACTION

There are a LOT of reasons that I like to call summer the “Sexual Season”. All the exposed skin, the escalated sexual desire, the free-flowing drinks, the convenient “girl watching”. But as I keep saying… Unless you know how to take advantage of all these opportunities, none of it matters. That in mind, here’s what I need you to take away from this:

During summeris short “Sexual Season,” your chances of successfully meeting and getting dates with the women of your dreams are better than ever.

But actually MAKING IT HAPPEN comes down to this:

You must know EXACTLY what it takes to trigger INSTANT SEXUAL ATTRACTION in a woman, or NOTHING else matters.

You must know EXACTLY how to approach her… start a conversation… communicate that you can deliver the sexual goods or NOTHING ELSE MATTERS. And the reason is actually a bit counter- intuitive.

It’s because, paradoxically, everything that you have going for you during the summer “sexual season” is actually working AGAINST you at the same time.

Huh?

I know, doesn’t seem to make sense, but hear me out.

Sure, summer’s that magical time of year that the hottest women on the planet are at their most open and receptive to meeting guys.

But if you don’t understand how to spark SEXUAL EXCITEMENT in them INSTANTLY so that they want to invest time in you… your chances of getting anywhere with one of these women is absolutely zero.

Got that?

Let me capitalize for clarity: YOUR CHANCES ARE ZERO. And sad truth is…

The dumbest, wussiest mistakes that men make to ruin their chances with beautiful women are also the EASIEST TO AVOID.

In this season of parties, pools and beaches, attractive women have their choice of a TONS OF GUYS.

They always have. They always will.

But here’s what YOU need to carry around in your back pocket…

99.99% of those guys will fail with women because THEY HAVE NO CLUE.

No clue what to say. No clue what to do.

Worst of all, no clue about that secret “sexual language” that every woman looks for in a man the moment he approaches her.

But thanks to me, you can turn all of this into a HUGE ADVANTAGE for YOU.

Best of all, it’s an advantage that will change everything for you not only during summer, but ALL YEAR AROUND.

I mean, it will just plain CHANGE YOUR LIFE.

Why?

Because it doesn’t just apply to meeting and getting dates with hot women in skimpy bathing summer-time suits. It works with ANY TIME of the year, ANYWHERE that you happen to be.

In fact, once you learn this powerful secret “language”, ANY woman you want will feel INSTANTLY and INSTINCTIVELY attracted to you. But here’s the thing:

It literally took me YEARS AND YEARS to figure out this secret language! It took doing endless interviews. Research and study. Trial-and-error.

Honestly, it’s VERY unlikely that you will ever figure out this secret language for yourself. And the PROBLEM is: When you DON’T know how to speak this language (as most men don’t) women will instantly “turn off” and reject you.

Thatis why I need you to understand just this ONE THING this summer and all year long:

Attractive women are “on the lookout” for this secret language RIGHT NOW, as we speak. Yet 99.99% of guys will blow their chances with these women because they have NO CLUE how to “speak” it. Or worse, they don’t have the CONFIDENCE they need to approach these woman in the first place. So let’s do the math, shall we?

When a man does have CONFIDENCE… + he knows how to COMMUNICATE it to a woman… + he knows how to drive a woman wild with anticipation and physical desire it all adds up to GUARANTEED SUCCESS.

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PUATraining 4 DVDs for $1

Editor — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 06:48:04 +0000

My good friend Gambler (Richard La Ruina), one of the world’s TOP PUA’s, is giving away a TON of his best training material as part of STRAIGHT-UP bribe and he’s doing it here:

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Well, I found it and the result is Stealth Attraction. Put simply, Stealth Attraction is the most powerful, effective, and rejection-proof seduction technology ever developed. In this 3 hour training program I reveal the entire method to you, from start to finish, in step by step format. After going through this program you can expect to have the ability to go into any bar or club and get the hottest women attracted, turned on, and begging to go home with you.

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The Approaching confidence audio program is a downloadable hypnosis audio that has been specifically designed to erase the “fear of the approach” from your mind and replace it with bold, confident thought patterns that will literally compel you to approach beautiful women, the moment you lay eyes on them.

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Are You Afraid Of Women?

Editor — Thu, 24 Jun 2010 18:49:02 +0000

What prevents men from being successful with women? Well, the list goes on and on… but one of the elements that TOPS the list is FEAR. There are many different situations that make men feel fear, but I’d like to talk about some of the most common ones… and what to do about them.

First of all, I’d like you to be honest for a moment about this topic.

Do you ever feel FEAR when it comes to women and dating?

Have you ever seen a woman that you’d really like to meet, but you started to feel fear and didn’t do anything about it?

Or maybe you were on a date and you wanted to kiss a woman… but you felt too afraid because you didn’t want to make a mistake and screw up your chances?

Or maybe you even got a woman’s phone number, but you were too afraid to call back because you didn’t know how to start off the conversation or ask her out?

Cummon, seriously…

Have you ever been sitting there with the phone in your hand, dialing a woman’s number, but you had to hang up because you were just too nervous to even talk to her…?

Or out on a date with a woman, and you wanted to kiss her, but you got so nervous at the thought that you just decided it would be better to forget the whole idea and hope for the best…?

Me too. Many times, in fact.

By the way, it’s not exactly FUN to admit that you’re afraid of things.

I’m sure you know that most guys would rather admit in public that they were unsure about their sexual orientation than that they were afraid of women.

Of course, this unwillingness to admit that you have a problem IN THE FIRST PLACE only makes matters worse…

If you don’t admit that you have the problem, then it’s hard to get help and answers to it.

Well, the good news is that you’re not alone.

Almost every guy I’ve known (including myself) has dealt with this issue MANY TIMES with women.

So, STEP 1 is to GET OVER IT. Get over your need to deny that you’re afraid. Just admit that you’re afraid, and come to grips with the fact that you’re human…

STEP 2 is to admit that you’d like to get this particular area of your life handled.

STEP 3 is to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

Once you realize that it’s not that big of a deal, then the improvement can start. On the other hand, if you just stay in denial about it, you’ll probably just look for new tricks and techniques to use on women… which, of course, won’t lead to any REAL improvement.

I personally think that one of the biggest causes of fear when it comes to situations with women is:

PUTTING TOO MUCH IMPORTANCE ON WHAT THE WOMAN THINKS OF YOU AND WHAT HAPPENS IN THAT PARTICULAR SITUATION.

To put it in different words, most guys don’t take action because they’re afraid that they’ll screw up, or that the woman or others around will judge them.

The REAL problem though is that this whole process has become AUTOMATIC, and it happens INSTANTLY the moment most guys see a woman that they’d like to meet. Before they even have a chance to think about the situation rationally, they’ve become nervous, insecure, and upset.

I’m sure you know EXACTLY what I’m talking about.

As humans, we have these incredible minds and bodies, but sometimes they get wired up in ways that aren’t exactly useful for the situations that we find ourselves in. Worse, sometimes our cultures, families, or peer groups teach us ways of thinking that just aren’t useful at all for what we’d like to accomplish.

Here’s something that I realized a few years ago when I was learning for myself how to be successful with women…

I thought about this idea that I was having this instant, automatic fear in different situations with women, and that what I was really thinking was “I don’t want to screw this up” and “I don’t want her to think that I’m a dork”…

And all of a sudden something dawned on me:

IT DOESN’T MATTER.

It doesn’t matter what happens, and it doesn’t matter what she thinks of me.

I realized that the fears I was experiencing were more from PROGRAMMING than from reality.

So, I started to remind myself as often as possible that the fear wasn’t happening because there was any kind of danger… and that my objective in a particular situation wasn’t to have it turn out perfect, IT WAS TO LEARN.

Think about the difference between doing something because it’s important vs. doing something in order to LEARN.

So, for instance, if I saw a woman that I wanted to meet… instead of thinking, “OK, I have to say something charming and original so she’ll like me… and if I screw up I’m going to be embarrassed” – I began to think things like, “I’m going to learn how to get a woman’s phone number within a few minutes of meeting her… and part of learning this is going to be trying a lot of different things that probably aren’t going to work… but in the end, it’s all going to even out because I’m going to have the SKILL that I want.”

See the difference?

Well, let me tell you, that change in attitude made a HUGE impact on my success. I was willing to do and try things that I never would have tried in the past for fear of screwing up…

All because I had the attitude of “I’m going to learn something from this and improve my skills… and it doesn’t matter what happens in THIS PARTICULAR situation”, I was able to improve very rapidly.

And the more I began to apply this idea, the more success I had in ALL areas with women… from the first meeting, to getting them to go out with me, to taking things to a physical level.

So do this:

Go out RIGHT NOW and start a conversation with a woman.

I don’t care if she’s attractive or not.

But instead of having the objective of getting a date, have the objective of LEARNING SOMETHING.

In fact, if you REALLY want to improve fast, go spend a day starting conversations with women, but make the commitment to NOT get any phone numbers or dates all day.

In other words, no matter WHAT happens, you can’t date any of the women that you meet that day.

See if you can just learn how to do a few simple things like say, “Hi” to every woman that walks by… how to maintain eye contact with women until THEY look away… and how to end a conversation “too soon” so she feels a natural vacuum and tries to keep it going herself…

That’s one good idea for dealing with your fears.

If you’d like to read more of my personal secrets for overcoming fear, including specific mental exercises and physical drills, then I’d recommend that you download a copy of my online eBook “Double Your Dating”. It’s full of all my very best thinking on this and many other subjects about success with women.

Just go to here and watch my video presentation.

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,
David DeAngelo

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Beyond Words – Subtext 101 by Cajun

Editor — Fri, 18 Jun 2010 17:26:31 +0000

Alright gather around everyone, its time for acting 101: Subtext!

What is subtext? For acting, subtext is the underlying meaning behind spoken words as interpreted by an actor. What does that mean? Basically you’re adding additional meaning to your spoken words by the way you say them. I’ll give you an example:

Lets say I have the following (cheesy) script for a scene I’m about to act in:

JOHN and MARY are alone in the bedroom. Mary is upset and John is comforting her.

“John: Mary, everything is going to be ok, I just want you to know that I love you.”

Now if I’m going to play JOHN in this scene there is a lot of information I’m going to need in order to apply the proper subtext to my dialogue. Things like:

What is the relationship between John and Mary?
If they are siblings then the line would be spoken much differently than if they were lovers.

What happened just before?
What if this scene took place right after they had sex?
How would you reflect that in the above line of dialogue?

This is all information that can be implied with the proper subtext.

So.what does this have to do with game? EVERYTHING!!!

I tell students all the time “It doesn’t matter WHAT you say, it’s HOW you say it” Women are MASTERS at subtext, they know that there is loads of information hidden in the way something is said. That’s why women can get so bitchy over seemingly trivial things that guys say; they know what were thinking!

So how do you use subtext effectively? Well I’ll give you an example of something I do.

So let’s say you’re in a venue gaming and you see a great set. Now in any given set at the venue, realistically, the subtext of the dialogue you exchange with them is going to be “I’m trying to win you over and make you like me.” A lot of guys subconsciously use this subtext when they open and are often blown out. Why? Because the women read into your subtext and knew exactly what you were doing, this is why you will hear “Is that a line?” often, even if she hadn’t heard it before.

A better way to approach is to use the subtext of your opener. This is how most successful puas operate. For instance, my opener involves me asking girls if I look like a drug dealer, so the subtext is simply that its bothering me that I look like a drug dealer and I need their opinion. When I say the opener I put myself in the mind frame that it JUST happened to me so that my subtext is believable. This is what I did for a long time and its how I got good at opening but its boring and doesn’t really create attraction.there is a better way.

Before I continue, a disclaimer: I am an actor and use my acting abilities whenever I can if it benefits me, so you can bet your ass that I act when I’m in set. If you have a problem with that or think that it’s unethical theatrics and trickery best left for the gypsies then just stop reading now before you get upset.

The best way to approach, in my experience, is to look at the venue as a stage (stop laughing) and look at each set as a scene you can enter into. Instead of using the above mind frames when opening I’m going to use the subtext of a completely made up scenario that makes me exude attractiveness. So I’m going to enter into the set under the subtext of “I just slept with all of these girls” and I will communicate that to them by the way I speak, not by the words I’m saying. All of my dialogue will remain the same as it normally was.

So what happens? Remember how I said women are MASTERS of subtext? Well in this case, you’re going to be glad they are. If you’re good at subtext (Take acting and improv lessons!) they are going to catch on very quickly and you will create attraction almost instantaneously. Women LOVE guys that they cant quite figure out, so if you go in acting like you just slept with them then you are basically a social enigma, which is like crack to them.

When students ask me things like “I don’t understand, you were talking to them about robots for 3 mins and then all of a sudden they were making out with you, how the hell did that happen??” Using subtext is how it happened. You don’t always have to use the subtext of “I just slept with these girls” you can use whatever you want, but this one works very well and I’ve had a lot of success with it.

Subtext is one of those things that’s pretty hard to grasp through reading. That’s one of the reasons why I created the DVD set “Beyond Words” so you can visually see it. You can see me teach in more depth other non-verbal techniques to attract women using your body language. Click here for more info.

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