Your head is the only reason why you don’t meet women.
That’s right, your head–your big head that hangs on your shoulders; that seven- pound mass of destruction.
And it’s not the size of your head that’s the issue, it’s all the stuff that goes on in your head–it’s like being lost in a bad neighborhood at night.
Yes, being lost in your head is as scary as being lost in the worst neighborhood in the worst part of your city.
All you see are the eyes darting from doorways, wondering when disaster is going to strike, when you’re going to get mugged, when something bad is going to happen.
That’s your head, and that’s the exact way you think about meeting women.
A lot of you are constantly in your head.
The minute you see a beautiful woman that you’re attracted to, you have a series of fearful conversations with the worried dude in your mind.
I don’t know what to say.
She looks busy.
What’s the right thing to say?
How can I say something funny?
Oh my God, I’m freaking out right now! She’s the perfect girl for me. What do I do?
Calm down! That’s what you need to do.
Take a deep breath. Breathe. She’s just a human being, just like you.
You have chosen to live a fearful life and it’s time to stop. It’s time to start taking action and changing these bad habits that you’ve fallen into.
Here’s a tip: put a picture of something that calms you down on your smart phone and look at it. Put something on your phone that makes you smile, that makes you calm, that makes you happy.
One of my friends has a picture of a DeLorean as the background to his iPhone. He wants to get one and it makes him happy to see it.
Another (horny) friend of mine has a naked image of a supermodel on his phone.
Look at that picture the next time you panic when you see a woman.
Now after looking at the picture, look directly at her and smile.
It all starts with a smile.
Think about how your feel when women smile at you–when anybody smiles at you. It makes you feel calm; it makes you feel good, and it makes you curious as to why they smiled at you.
That’s the first step in becoming fearless with women.
But it’s one of the only steps you’ll ever need.
Get out of your head. Get into the world.