Perfect Your Timing For A Perfect Pick Up

Your approach should follow a “movie trailer” format. Keep it short, condensed, intriguing and light. You want to leave right when she’s most interested. And you need to leave with the phone number, or the whole act is worthless.

Intercede during a moment of transition or confusion. For example, if she’s on the street and seems lost or unsure about directions, that’s your moment. In a department store, approach her as she’s looking for a check-out register. These moments of change are opportunities for you to present yourself and you won’t have to break her concentration because it’s already broken. She’s in need of assistance and you’re there to help!

The best approaches are the ones that seem most natural. She’s walking slowly and you sidle up next to her; she’s at the counter ordering something and you come forward to order, as well; she’s waiting at a stoplight and so are you. These situations create conditions in which a casual comment by a stranger (you) isn’t unusual or weird. Also, you will learn to spot opportunities that allow for a brief ongoing conversation.

For example, I just picked up an attractive Persian woman with beautiful breasts here on Madison Avenue. After chatting for a minute and exchanging phone numbers, I indicated we should keep walking (walking is naturally less awkward than standing still; a “dynamic” pick-up is much easier than a “static” pickup, because your proposition isn’t so direct and obvious). We walked to the end of the block and then I told her I had to cross because I was going to Central Park. That wasn’t the case, but I knew that walking with her for another block would be awkward; we’d already traded numbers and talked about getting together tonight or tomorrow. Do not go deeper than this on initial contact. She leaves feeling excited and intrigued; I leave on a positive note after a successful pick-up.

Everyone’s happy.

The issue of timing is key to creating an effective dynamic. Too early and you looked rushed and desperate, too late and you look incompetent. An example: you sit next to a cute girl on the subway and start a conversation. You don’t know when she’s going to get off. Her stop could be next or you may have twenty minutes to chat. You need to ask her at what stop she’s getting off, so you can plan. Then ask for her number thirty seconds before you part ways. If you ask for it too soon, she may balk because you haven’t established enough rapport. Also, once you’ve made your play for the number and indicated sexual/romantic interest, you don’t have anywhere to go, conversationally. It’s like telling the punch line of joke right off and then continuing with the set-up. The whole momentum of the conversation was intended to build to asking her out, and now you’re flat. If you don’t believe me, try it. Also, if you ask for her number right before something forces you apart, she’s more apt to give-in because of the urgency of the situation. If she’s at all interested, she’ll give you the number because she wants to maintain the option of reconnecting.

Also, once you’ve asked a girl out (which is what you’re doing by getting the number) she may eye you a bit differently. Before, you were just a nice, cute guy making conversation. All of a sudden you’re a possible lover/boyfriend/husband, etc. Don’t underestimate the female mind. Once you’re in the new category, you’ve made progress, but your words and actions will come under increased scrutiny. It’s best to exit and save your game for another day when you can set conditions to reflect favorably on you.

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