A client of mine just asked me a great question, and I wanted to share it with all of you. He asked me, “What if I walk over to a woman and I say something that I think is absolutely hilarious, and she looks at me with a snotty look on her face and says ‘that’s not funny?’”
I told him that there is something I do every time in this situation. The first thing I do is stay in the situation, because I am a man of confidence, strength and conviction.
What I will do is look her directly in the eyes and say, “Well, obviously we don’t have the same sense of humor. It’s a good thing we found this out right now, before we got romantically involved.”
I’ll say it with a smile on my face. I bust her really hard on what she said.
I’ve done this a lot. What happens is that she’ll start cracking up and will say some something like, “Oh my God, now THAT’s funny!” Then I’ll say, “What? Funny that you and I are dating, or funny that you and I don’t have the same sense of humor?”
So do you see how this scenario can go very differently when you go into it with no fear, and when you challenge someone on what they say? You need to go into these situations not so outcome-oriented.
A lot of times guys will go into a situation like this thinking, “I’m going to go and flirt with her right now. I’m going to hope that she responds to me so I can get her number (even though I don’t even know anything about her yet).”
So by being not so outcome-derived, it allows you to speak your mind and allows you to eliminate being intimidated by somebody. Also, by challenging someone you are pushing them a little bit.
For example, the woman in the “that’s not funny” scenario above may have not thought what you said was funny because of nothing having to do with what you actually said. She might have been thinking about something else, like her friend yelling at her earlier that day, and she took it out on you.
Staying in the situation and challenging her like I’ve described gives you the opportunity to maybe turn the situation around. So the next time a woman tells you “that’s not funny,” say exactly what I said to say in this blog and then let the fun begin!
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It is a good example, that said, it is so wrong to suggest things like
“What happens is that she’ll start cracking up and…”
No. That’s one out of an infinite number of outcomes. It depends on her personality and mood, how the guy delivered the approach. In fact the advice here is not that advanced, so pretty much aimed at beginners, there’s a good chance they will totally mess up. And I’m not saying don’t try this. I’m just saying… no you have no guarantee that she’ll crack up.
Also,
“say exactly what I said to say in this blog and then let the fun begin!”
Sure you can practice with that. Doesn’t mean it’s always the best or even the right thing to say. Sure try it out. But also learn how to calibrate and improvise. Don’t become a drone.
This is good advice. Don’t let the first reaction drive you away, unless her reply is “Get lost.” Then you wouldn’t want to waste your time anyway. If you approach a woman with the idea that you just want to get to know her a litttle, it is not as frightening as approaching her with the idea that you just have to pick her up. That’s too much pressure on both of you.
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