provided by Gypsy from The StyleLife Academy.
When text messaging keep in mind that, just like in face to face encounters with a woman, there are rules to know and follow.
Rule 1: Don’t text to avoid phone conversation.
Many guys, especially those just entering the social arts, see texting as a safer arena for contacting woman than calling them. This is understandable, but unacceptable. If you’ve just met and number closed a woman, then your next goal is to have a day two. The likelihood that you will set this up with her via text message is lower than if you call her and build more comfort verbally.
Also, if you’re texting because of your fear of interacting with this woman, then how will you ever hope to interact with her comfortably face to face?
Rule 2: Do not seek value when texting, bring it.
Examples of value seeking texts are “What’s up?” or “What are you doing tonight?” These texts come off as needy, invoke no emotion in the woman you are contacting, and don’t portray anything about your personality.
Here are some sample texts I’ve sent that have proven to be much more effective…
“I just saw a guy wearing a fanny pack and it reminded me of you.”
“Hey dork! 
I bet you are operating at a level of 100% dorkiness today.”
“What do you call a fish with no eyes?” Wait for her response before giving the answer, “Fssshhh.”
Rule 3: Avoid sending too many messages!
She might be the only thing on your mind at the moment but let’s keep that a secret between us, otherwise you may freak her out. Text once and only once until you get a reply, then you may text back. If she doesn’t respond to your text, you should generally hold off until tomorrow before contacting her again.
Also, give it some time after you receive a text before you respond. Remember being non-needy always equals sexy because it conveys that you must have other dating options in your life.
When in doubt, pace her. If she texts you back right away, you can text her back right away, but if she takes 10 minutes, then so should you.
Bonus Texting Tip: Use texts to invoke the law of familiarity.
After getting her number, immediately send a text while you’re still standing right next to her. This situation by itself is humorous and if you send a funny message it’s doubly so. Try messages like…
“You have my number now but you are only allowed to call me once per day.”
“Who is that really hot guy standing next to you?”
If, after texting her, she saves you number, take that as a definite indicator of interest. More importantly, when you call her later, your phone number will pop up and be familiar. This makes her much more likely to answer.
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Good tips Gypsy/Donovan! I’d like to add my two cents here with an additional tip…
You already know you shouldn’t text to avoid phone conversations (especially if you got her number and haven’t called her yet), but sooner or later you’ll come across a situation where you call a woman and can’t go on a date with her then and there for whatever reason.
Now, if you created enough attraction a woman WILL text you if you don’t text her because she’s interested (it’s a good indicator of her interest btw) and a great way to tease a woman whenever SHE texts YOU first is my who’s this technique.
It’s playful teasing, being indifferent, and showing her you have options all in 1 technique. Whenever she texts you, you simply text back:
“Hey uhmm.. you. What’s up. Who’s this again?”
And if you’ve made any connection whatsoever with her, her jaw will drop the floor and she’ll likely say “omg you know who this is” or “I cant believe you forgot my name!”
After which you can up the ante even more by mentioning another woman’s name like saying this to Cindy: “ohhh yeah! It’s Karen right?
” and only because of your playful 
emoticon (a smilie with a tongue sticking out) she’ll get that you’re teasing her…
After which you can create even more attraction if you want by busting her balls for actually believing you are THAT bad when it comes to remembering people’s names.
This one’s a GREAT way to build attraction with teasing.
To more dating success,
Dennis Miedema
Nice set of tips.
I always make her wait when i text. I establish the frame so-to-speak, where she is waiting for MY texts not vice-versa.
And I always text her as soon as i get the number so she has mine and i can start the cocky funny flow, usually a text like this will do “Cute guy from biology
”
this is good stuff !!!
Guys, here’s another thing you can do with texts to create attraction. We all want to prevent women flaking out on us and fake phone numbers right?
So why not immediately test if her number is any good by texting her as she stands next to you. A super effective way to create attraction while affirming her number is real is a “DLV text” a display lower value text. Here’s how it works:
1) As soon as you saved her number, you text her
2) Text her the following “Psst! Don’t look… but there’s a total pedophile standing next to you. You look 15 at best!”
And oh… it’s even funnier when you tell her to wait because you have someone important to text. Her jaw will drop to the floor out of sheer amazement: I can’t believe this guy is texting someone else while I’m still standing here!
To more dating success,
Dennis Miedema
A great trick for this:
Take a picture while you’re out with her… and text her the pic. That way, the next time you send her a text the picture will show up in her history (assuming she has a smart phone) this will immediately bring her back to the night you met.