Stop Speaking From Your Dick

Today’s podcast is all about speaking from your heart and communicating from your heart. This is something that really sunk in with me the other day during a conversation with my girlfriend. I really became conscious of the important difference between speaking from your head and speaking from your heart.

I was really irritated about something — I don’t know if it was something having to do with her or something else, but I was frustrated. As I was talking to her, she says to me “You’re so in your head. Speak from your heart.” So I took a deep breath and thought about it, and I realized that I was speaking from frustration (and from my head).

Speaking from the head (as opposed to from the heart) is something that men in particular tend to do when talking to women. We want to go and meet women, and yet we’re not speaking their language.

Women understand and are usually all about speaking from their heart and soul. Men, on the other hand, will talk to women and stay in their head the entire time.
All they are doing the entire time is thinking about what to say next and what to do.

When men do this, women know it. It shows. They will say “hello” in a nervous tone of voice, or say some line in a completely dispassionate way (all because they read somewhere that it was something they should say). They speak with absolutely no passion.

Have you ever had an argument with a woman where they start telling you all sorts of things that start with the words “I feeeeeel. . .?” All you hear is that extended sound of all the “e’s” as she says those dreaded “I feeeeel this” and “I feeeel that” phrases. It drives you crazy because you don’t want to hear the word “feel.”

Feeling, however, is what women are all about. Women feel and speak from their heart. They want to connect with you.

The reason so many guys fail when they approach women is because they’re talking either from their penis or from their head. They are like a walking penis, approaching women in a way that says to them “Hello. I’m holding my penis in my hands. Do you want to touch it?”

When men think with their dick (and sometimes only with their dick), women feel it. They know it.

One of the greatest exercises I tell men to do, is to just walk up to people all day long, and say to them from their heart “Hi. How are you today?” A lot of guys will refuse to do this exercise because they don’t think it’s fun, but it is a great way to learn how to communicate sincerely with people (including with women).

People really understand when you’re sincere. They know it. They can smell it if you’re not.

The insincerity tied to the use of pickup lines and routines exposes you right from the get-go. Women will know immediately that you are not sincere and aren’t speaking from your heart.

The other day, someone asked me when this whole concept came to fruition for me. I have actually been great with women most of my adult life, but once I started speaking from my heart my connections with women got deeper and more intense.

So, let’s say you see a woman who intrigues you and you want to approach her. She just ordered a great-looking sandwich.

You need to walk over to that woman with the curiosity of a little kid and say something like, “God that looks good! What is that?” She will feel your passion and your sincerity. She can smell it.

If, however, you walk over to her with your penis leading you and comment on the sandwich only because it’s a way to “open” her, then she is going to perceive you completely differently.

You may say something very similar like “Hello. Is that a good sandwich?” If you’re nervous because you are worried about how to deliver the line, though, the woman will smell it. She will know that you actually couldn’t care less whether or not she is enjoying that sandwich.

You’ve got to speak from your heart. Life is not about speaking from your head, and so many of us spend most of our time doing that. Life is about speaking from your heart.

I go into more depth about how to speak from your heart to make better connections with women. Find out how women can begin to perceive you in a whole different light … starting RIGHT NOW.

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