The Ultimate Abundance Mindset

You want to have the ultimate mindset. It’s just like we were talking about– we were just discussing owning your own business, and sales – come January 1st, if you own your own business, you always feel like you are broke. In sales, you feel the same way.

You feel like you have to get that first deal of the year. You have to compare yourself to the previous year, and you want to continually improve your statistics. You’re competitive, you want to make more money, and you want to be more successful than you were the previous year.

We all do it – I do it too. I’ve done some really cheap things, like holding checks for the month of December, and then sticking them in the bank January 1st so I feel like I’ve made more money. You’re still paying the same amount of taxes on it, it doesn’t really make a difference, but this way you wake up on January 2nd, thinking, yeah, I’ve got all this cash in the bank already!

Here is something that someone very financially successful taught me a long time ago: don’t ever count what you’ve made THIS year. Count what you’ve made your entire adult life. In this way, you will feel abundance.

I think that this guy had made $20 million at this point. So he said instead of thinking to himself, man, I’m having an off year – instead, he thought, well, I’ve made $20 million so far!

You feel much more abundant then. You don’t have to count out each little deal, adding it up, putting a pencil to it and you’re not comparing yourself to others.

So take this same principle and apply it to your success with women.

So many guys will think, god, I’ve had a bad week. Instead, think, wow, I’ve gone out on 3,000 dates in my lifetime, and slept with 250 women!

Think abundance. Walk around and feel that abundance. Don’t think about what you’ve done just this month. Think about how many dates you’ve been on in your life. Then your energy will change, and the next time you talk to a woman, you’ll be talking to her with abundance and not desperation.

If you have a rough streak – which we all have, where life just doesn’t move as quickly – you might start putting pressure on yourself to break the streak. But if you can start thinking about all of the wonderful people you’ve met in your life, you’ll have the principle of abundance.

It’s just like the baseball player that’s in a slump. When a player is having a 2-10 slump, the best ones pull themselves out of it by thinking, well, I’ve still got a .300 average! You can always tell that a player in a 2-54 slump has just been thinking about how bad things are going for him. He’s started pressing.

When you start pressing in terms of meeting women, or even if you’re pressing in business or just in life in general, write down all of your successes.

Take a day off from chasing – be it money or women – and then go back the next day with a brand new attitude of how successful you’re entire life has been. That’s how you do it. It’s all about the mindset.