Comments on: The Myth Of Approach Anxiety

By: Mr. Date Coach

Mr. Date Coach — Fri, 30 Dec 2011 17:53:39 +0000

As a professional dating coach I help men and women overcome AA in 99% my consultations. I found by just starting off by going to public places (Coffee shops, small lunch places and parks) and just saying “hi” to the women that give you AA helps start the ball rolling. Of course you are asking, “well what if the conversation naturally progresses…” Well this is when you you have to have just TALK!!! Stop putting pressure on your self when you first start off. Saying “hi” will help build your confidence! Everyone says “hi” back typically. Hi does not mean let me get the number. Getting the number should be the last thing on your mind at this stage. Lastly just like any other skill if you do it a 100 times the correct way you will get better at it and start to challenge your self to say more or reach out to other date coaches or PUA to get advice on handling flirtatious conversations. Just remember “Hi” never hurts anyone. Good Luck Guys

By: Approach Anxiety

Approach Anxiety — Wed, 31 Aug 2011 10:10:43 +0000

There is of course different ways to fight approach anxiety but if you are going at it head on and approach, approach and then approach some more then it really only depends on how those approaches goes….

If you burn every set and never pick up any women I would love to meet the man that would continue this unpleasant exercise….

But if you do your homework and prepare for these approaches and you start to see the glimmer of success after 5-10 approaches then you slowly start to attach positive emotions to going up to a woman you don’t know….
And I think that is one of the keys to at least feel better about approaching…..Remembering the last time you got laid when doing an approach….Anchoring positive emotions to a certain action changes the whole perspective on that action.

By: John Dillinger

John Dillinger — Fri, 11 Feb 2011 23:32:11 +0000

i can’t imagine how i could possibly just stop being nervous. it’s not like a switch i can just turn on and off. i’ve been looking into some different things that i could maybe take. there’s apparently a new herbal supplement out there called a2x approach anxiety exterminator. i also heard that beta blockers might be good to reduce nervousness. have you tried either of those?

By: Destroy Approach Anxiety

Destroy Approach Anxiety — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 21:34:06 +0000

I find if I automatically say hi to anyone who comes within 3 feet of me reduces my approach anxiety in the long run.

By: Tony

Tony — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 22:01:50 +0000

This was pretty good advice but I don’t feel like it really would help someone get over their approach anxiety. The best thing I’ve found so far is from this site.

By: Eric

Eric — Thu, 12 Mar 2009 09:02:52 +0000

I agree with you on your statement that you will get rid of your approaching anxiety if you go up girls and show yourself that its not that bad.. I had my friend threaten me he would beat the hell out of me if I dindt approach (and he WILL beat me up, hes fucking crazy) and it was piece of pie once I tried and I fucking love it.
But you dont know how it feels for the guys who REALLY have a problem with approaching girls. I have suffered from anxiety in previous stages of my life due to some horrible experiences and I can tell you the only way to control your anxiety is by controling your breathing. You cant think yourself into not feeling anxiety, believe me, Ive tried… if you are to get rid of your anxiety of approaching girls by throwing yourself into a situation where you have to talk to a woman you better force yourself into it again and again if the talking doesnt go the way you planned… and if you are an axious person it probably wont. Its better to be calm from the beginning instead of showing yourself you suck as much as you thought at meeting girls.. going against your fear and approaching allthough you dont dare to can be fucking torture and if you just do it sometimes now and then youll be left with the feeling that it truly is shit and terrible and leave you with the feeling you have connected with the approach, fear. Doing it calm will connect the approaching with the feeling you have before you approach, calmness… fundamental behaviourism.

By: Shawn

Shawn — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 19:07:29 +0000

From my experience approaching women when you have AA is not going to shatter your limiting beliefs but further ingrain them into your brain.

In Cognitive Behavioral Psychology they’ll take someone who is phobic of crowds and then take baby steps to get over it. They don’t just throw them into a crowd and watch them have a panic attack. All that is going to do is to solidify the belief that crowds are scary and they’ll never be able to get over their phobia.

The same goes with AA. Change your mindset about approaching women, then take baby steps to get over it. You’ll come from a more solid, confident place once you do that.

I think that is what Sean meant. At least that is the impression I get from watching his new youtube video about AA:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VzEvPjK3cic

By: Ced

Ced — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 18:28:55 +0000

jaht > When you fight a fear, it makes it stronger in your mind, it is NOT the way to do it. You have to reframe the fear into a challenge… and men love challenges.

This article is long, I’ll bookmark it and read it later…

By: jaht

jaht — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 13:04:00 +0000

i stopped reading halfway through, approaching while nervous gives you mare AA? really? you know that for newbies this will make it even more scary(OMG im nervous, i have to stop being nervous!) experience breeds confidence , you do something enough times and it will stop being scary.

you are nervous, approach anyway and shatter the bad beliefs you had about the subject.