If you’ve been dating someone but she’s not your girlfriend or close to it…

* This is the trickiest one. Valentine’s Day is great for women because it forces men to reveal their intentions.

* You may have been casually flirting with her and playing hard to get, but as soon as you ask her out on Valentine’s Day, she will know that your interest is serious. Unless she is equally interested in you, she will know that she can have you, and will therefore be more likely to get bored with the lack of a challenge. Remember, being Challenging is one of the eight attraction triggers from Magic Bullets.

* Yes, this sucks. No, it doesn’t mean she’s a bitch. People want what they can’t have, and women and relationships are no exception. On the other hand, if she’s into you and you don’t offer to make plans… you may be discarded for someone who does. Sorry. This can be a no-win situation. I didn’t make the world; I just live in it.

* The best bet here is to go out with a mixed group (either a group of singles, or include some couples once they’ve done the private Valentine’s Day stuff together) and invite her to come along. Keep it nice and ambiguous.

If she is your girlfriend…

* There’s no way around this. Make the day special for her. Do the traditional date and do it right.

* Send her flowers, and send them somewhere she can show them off to her friends. Valentine’s Day for women is in part a “who has the best boyfriend” competition. So send flowers to her work if that’s appropriate, or to her apartment if she has a few roommates.

* Don’t just send roses. Be creative. But make it nice.

* Do the traditional Valentine’s date, complete with the nice dinner, dressing up, romantic vibe, etc. Take any concerns about “supplicating” and throw them in the $(*@ing garbage. It’s Valentine’s Day, she’s your girlfriend, so man up and be a good boyfriend.

If you have multiple girlfriends or long-term relationships (in your city)…

* Get out of town. I’m serious. Most beautiful women will not accept seeing a man once a week or more, sleeping with him, and not getting to spend Valentine’s Day with him if he’s in town.

* Make it a business trip, a family emergency, etc. Whatever it is, leave before Friday and don’t come back on Sunday. That’s too obvious. Disappear for at least a couple of days.

* Send flowers to all of them and call all of them. You’ll probably have make-up dates to do when you get back, but at least they’re not all colliding on the same day.

In sum, if you’re single or casually dating, Valentine’s Day is a giant, societally-imposed artificial state break in the normal evolution of a relationship. It is not your friend. Try to make the best of it. On the plus side, if you are single, women are incredibly easy to meet.

These tips are from Love Systems. Great work!

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