The Principles of Dating by Savoy

Whether you’re looking for sex or romance (or both), dates are often going to be part of the process. We all have horrible date stories, but with a little bit of Love Systems strategy, you can improve your odds dramatically. The following are the first five of my 10 Principles of Dating, designed to help you accomplish all of your goals on a date.

(1) Planning

Never ask a woman what she wants to do on a date. Have everything planned and prepared for the night, including a backup plan in case she’s late or in a traffic jam. Being taken out is highly attractive to a woman, so make sure you take control of the situation and surprise her with your ownership of the date. It’s also a good idea to have her come to your place to start the date (credit David D). By doing this, you’ve assured that the date also has to end at your place – after all, she needs to get her car to go home. This is a great way to increase your odds of getting intimate at the end.

(2) Different

Don’t be another addition to her list of typical dates. Plan something different, including things like concerts, amusement parks, or art galleries. Most inept guys have probably taken her to dinner, drinks, or the movies in an attempt to impress her. Since you’re NOT trying to fail, separate yourself from the pack and be adventurous. Also, please don’t wait until the end of the night for a kiss; this is typical, often awkward, and pretty much assures that at best a kiss is ALL you’ll get. Move in for the makeout as soon as you hit an emotional high point with her – save the end of the night “will we or won’t we” feeling for whether you’ll have sex, not whether you’ll get a kiss.

(3) External Simulation

Take her somewhere that doesn’t force your conversation to be the only source of entertainment. Dinner or a coffee shop can be especially intense this way. Better dates give more opportunities for external stimulation – anything from wine tasting to something outdoorsy.

(4) Interaction

Even though a stimulating environment is recommended for a date, don’t go to the other extreme where external stimulation blocks out the chance for you to interact with each other. This is another reason why movies are a bad idea

(5) Excitement

Plan dates designed to take her through a range of sensations or emotions. At a comedy club, she can be laughing, scandalized, or amused. At an art gallery, she could be visually stimulated or even offended – you’ll get to know what she responds to a lot better in these kinds of environments.

Check out Love Systems (formerly Mystery Method Corp) for more great tips, and read my review of Magic Bullets and the Routines Manual, both of which make meeting women fun and effective.