FranK is technically right.

To be a normal or cool guy takes time, experimentation, and experience.

The goal is to be a natural while being able to see the social matrix objectively–a blend of Cam’s and Frank’s mindsets and philosophies.

I enjoy using the “everyone else sucks but you and I are getting ready to have an ass ton of fun” mentality.

It’s certainly beats trying to determine who’s the COOLER person, you or her… lol

That being said, though, your point of excessive combativeness as a just plain wrong mindest is so valuable that I still think it’s an excellent thing to bring that up. Though I resent you giving this yet another label (“introducing the same team mentality”? WTF?), it definitely helps to start thinking differently sometimes. Way too many guys in this community are almost hateful towards women.

P.S.: She had already given you an IOI and you had signaled a lot of interest by waiting for her. So being proactive, acknowledging your interest by complimenting her in a cool way was anyway probably the right thing to do.

Well, that all depends on that particular situation. Clubs, alcohol, and groups change the dynamics. However, there still are instances where you could apply this mindset with effectiveness.

Here is the gist of the article: In many situations, where guys would benefit from being cooperative, they choose to be combative because they’ve been conditioned to be that way by the advice they’ve read. Instead of looking at the opportunity to have fun and perhaps even throw a compliment her way, they’re immediately looking to throw an insult or a cut-down. It’s an automated reaction.

My point is that if you stepped back, became aware of your conditioning, you could start applying more charm that would be disarming as well as more effective instead of the cocky/funny and negs such as “Nice shoes, did you buy them new?”

Take care
Cameron