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There’s a lot of focus on getting the lay in the Seduction Community. And let’s hear it for good, hard mind-numbing all-nighters with hot sexy vixens who are obsessed with both giving and receiving multiple orgasms. I’m a red-blooded guy and you’ll get no argument from me.

But here’s the problem. Based on what lands in my inbox day after day, there are a lot of guys who aren’t getting what they want out of their dating lives, despite having what would appear to be a rock-solid skillset when it comes to pickup.

There’s a laughably simple reason for this.

Pickup skills, in and of themselves, won’t get you laid. You’ve absolutely, positively got to know what to do NEXT. Then you have to know what to do after that, and so on. This makes logical sense.
You don’t just give some chick –especially a high-quality one—the “nice shoes” line and “close the deal”.

Well, let’s be fair. Maybe it’ll happen if you’re willing to subscribe to the field-tested principle made famous by The Man Show whereby if you ask 100 random women on the street if they’d like to go have sex with you, one will (randomly) agree.

But that’s not my style.

And judging by the simple fact that I don’t see a whole lot of “man on the street” interviewing going on out there in public, I trust it’s not exactly yours either.

Nevertheless, “the lay” always seems to be the focus. Any lay. And with any chick who can fog a mirror, apparently.

I’ve seen the posts on this site and others highlighting discussion of “100 lays” (or pick a number) being the Golden Standard by which a PUA’s effectiveness is judged.

So is there a sliding scale there for age?

Do the women of questionable quality you regret having been with count?

And do the women you could have been with but decided against count?

How about the ones who gave you LMR after you “just put the tip in to see what it’s like”?

I like to think more of terms of quality than quantity. And you know what? Better yet, why not think in terms of quantity OF quality?

Here’s what I know to be a fact. A guy who can consistently show up in the company of a mind-blowing hottie with a sweet heart and a solid character will leave literally everyone slackjawed wherever he goes.

THAT’S the guy other dudes envy.

It’s not the guy who gives the lay report to his buddies online when secretly he’d be humiliated to introduce the chick to anyone in public—either because of how she looks OR acts.
Think about it. Give what I’m talking about an honest, fair shake.

Ultimately, even more so than the guy with a string of quality hotties, the guy who has ONE GREAT WOMAN at his side wherever he goes is the one a whole lot of us would like to be.
He’s the guy who has a woman to build a history with. Someday when she’s pregnant, it might actually be ON PURPOSE.

He’s the guy who actually excels in his chosen career and becomes a superhero in his household.
This comes to pass in many ways because he knew the importance of a solid partnership with a woman of immense value and chose wisely. There was no power struggle, no high-maintenance drama and—above all—no cuckoldry.

When that woman bears him a sons and/or daughters that continue to be a source of immense pride for him even after growing up and flying the nest, this great woman who is their mother and will have contributed to the high-quality gene pool that has begotten such amazing kids.

And when all of that richness occurs in the life of the kind of guy we are talking about, it will not have been by accident.

Furthermore, it will not have been because he had pickup skills. Sure, he had the stones to meet her one day, but that only covered the first ten minutes.

And –by the way—he won’t have “surrendered” to a woman’s pressure to marry him or else she’d “walk”, either.

To presume that would undermine the entire premise.

Make no mistake: A man with a lifelong relationship to be proud of made wise decisions in accordance with his own free will, and did so vis-à-vis the presence of many, many options in his life as far as women were concerned.

And he may in fact had, at one time, enjoyed a wildly successful dating life full of as many fine women as he could handle.

It’s just that after he got what he needed from that way of life (after whatever amount of time he saw fit), he made the decision to prepare himself to deserve the greatest woman he ever met.
When he met her, it was “game over”.

Clearly, such a man was able to have full control over his destiny with women.

Yes, he knew how to approach, and how to seduce.

But there was ONE KEY SKILL that separated him from the herd.

He was able to GET outside of his own head and instead of focusing on his own physical needs, he figured out what is that DRIVES women as powerfully as men tend to be driven by getting the lay.
And once he learned what that is, and became the guy who represented fulfillment of that, he literally called the shots with even the highest echelon of women.
What he learned was that women crave commitment.

Simply put, he who successfully embodies the kind of man a woman wants to commit to will become a chooser instead of a chaser.

Are you of the opinion that men chase and women choose? If so, it’s because you are fully absorbed in trying to figure out how to get women to give you what you want.

As the saying goes, “beggars can’t be choosers”…right? Who knew this was true in the most literal sense.

Conversely, the guy who believes he can grasp a basic understanding of women enough to realize what it is that they want will be the man who women cannot resist.
Routines won’t make a great woman want to stick around as long as you care for her to. Even the most high-tech seduction techniques won’t make her stay any longer than the techniques themselves can bear.

And hell…pheromone spray sure as hell won’t do it either.

If you want full control over your dating life, and over your lifelong destiny with women, you must become the man who represents what great women want.

And great women want a man whom they can commit to.

Even women who have no desire to “settle down” at the moment probably still daydream of finding a man worthy of commitment. If not, maybe they’ve simply lost hope that he exists. And as a result, maybe they’ve lost hope that long-term relationship is even a viable option these days.
But I assure you this. If a woman has all but given up hope that a great man worth committing to exists, imagine how much MORE valuable you would be to her for that very reason when she figures out who you are.

You may or may not be ready to build a history with one great woman today. But my educated guess is that you’d like to be in complete control instead of at the whim of the next attractive woman.
And if you think about it, what kind of freedom would you feel knowing that any and all options for the future were yet available to you as far as women are concerned?

Next time, I’ll give you practical steps to becoming that man…the man who inspires women’s innermost passions and therefore becomes a chooser of his own destiny.
Be Good,

Scot McKay

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