Comments on: Why Even Desperate Guys Won’t Marry Their Girlfriends http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/2008/07/07/why-even-desperate-guys-won%e2%80%99t-marry-their-girlfriends/ Fri, 06 Jan 2012 13:37:50 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Bruce http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/2008/07/07/why-even-desperate-guys-won%e2%80%99t-marry-their-girlfriends/#comment-3030 Bruce Mon, 26 Apr 2010 01:24:16 +0000 http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/?p=595#comment-3030 To gothchiq; The term partnership is a turn off for most men. It's not a business relationship. To gothchiq; The term partnership is a turn off for most men. It’s not a business relationship.

]]> By: Scot McKay http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/2008/07/07/why-even-desperate-guys-won%e2%80%99t-marry-their-girlfriends/#comment-3029 Scot McKay Mon, 19 Oct 2009 06:32:10 +0000 http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/?p=595#comment-3029 @Nathan: Congrats on finding a great woman and keeping her in your life. Looks alone certainly aren't enough, which is the deeper reason why "pre-approving" women at the approach stage is almost invariably disastrous. @Denise: Perhaps ironically, men tend to date bitchy women due to lack of self-respect. This article does not attempt to address the unfortunate habits of guys who make bad decisions. Self-respect is central to the list I've given. Note that I believe that both partners in a relationship must have a healthy respect for self AND for each other in order for a LTR to succeed. @Nathan: Congrats on finding a great woman and keeping her in your life. Looks alone certainly aren’t enough, which is the deeper reason why “pre-approving” women at the approach stage is almost invariably disastrous.

@Denise: Perhaps ironically, men tend to date bitchy women due to lack of self-respect. This article does not attempt to address the unfortunate habits of guys who make bad decisions.

Self-respect is central to the list I’ve given. Note that I believe that both partners in a relationship must have a healthy respect for self AND for each other in order for a LTR to succeed.

]]> By: Denise http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/2008/07/07/why-even-desperate-guys-won%e2%80%99t-marry-their-girlfriends/#comment-3028 Denise Thu, 15 Oct 2009 18:25:47 +0000 http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/?p=595#comment-3028 I don't think this is a very good list at all. Then why do so many guys end up dating bitchy girls? I think you're missing the point that girls guys commit to have a LOT of respect for themselves. They know that they are valuable, they have a lot to offer in a relationship, and they require respect. Guys want to marry someone who believes in themselves, who knows that they have value. Guys want someone who insists they be treated right. Someone who won't put up with all kinds of bullshit. I don’t think this is a very good list at all. Then why do so many guys end up dating bitchy girls?

I think you’re missing the point that girls guys commit to have a LOT of respect for themselves. They know that they are valuable, they have a lot to offer in a relationship, and they require respect. Guys want to marry someone who believes in themselves, who knows that they have value. Guys want someone who insists they be treated right. Someone who won’t put up with all kinds of bullshit.

]]> By: Nathan http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/2008/07/07/why-even-desperate-guys-won%e2%80%99t-marry-their-girlfriends/#comment-3027 Nathan Thu, 16 Jul 2009 07:16:53 +0000 http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/?p=595#comment-3027 @Scot - what a great list! I have had a gf for 2 years - and when I read that second list, it really hit home to me what an awesome chick I have in my life. I have been there before and dated many a girl who from first look seemed 'perfect' - but give them 1 week, 1 month later I was lucky to realise the truth and have the ability to leave. And I must admit that when you meet a girl who just clicks with you (commits herself to you and you to her) - WOW life really does become an awesome ride of happiness :) / Nathan @Scot – what a great list!

I have had a gf for 2 years – and when I read that second list, it really hit home to me what an awesome chick I have in my life.

I have been there before and dated many a girl who from first look seemed ‘perfect’ – but give them 1 week, 1 month later I was lucky to realise the truth and have the ability to leave.

And I must admit that when you meet a girl who just clicks with you (commits herself to you and you to her) – WOW life really does become an awesome ride of happiness :)

/ Nathan

]]> By: Scot McKay http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/2008/07/07/why-even-desperate-guys-won%e2%80%99t-marry-their-girlfriends/#comment-3026 Scot McKay Wed, 15 Jul 2009 23:50:35 +0000 http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/?p=595#comment-3026 @Juls: The words "stereotype" and "roles" are yours. The words "flat-out feminine" and "man" are mine. Without sexual polarity a male human being and a female human being can expect to be cordial roommates, at best. Sexual attraction is by very definition tied to masculine and feminine energy...unless one is content to reduce sexuality to body parts, which I personally am not. @Juls:

The words “stereotype” and “roles” are yours.

The words “flat-out feminine” and “man” are mine.

Without sexual polarity a male human being and a female human being can expect to be cordial roommates, at best.

Sexual attraction is by very definition tied to masculine and feminine energy…unless one is content to reduce sexuality to body parts, which I personally am not.

]]> By: Juls http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/2008/07/07/why-even-desperate-guys-won%e2%80%99t-marry-their-girlfriends/#comment-3025 Juls Wed, 15 Jul 2009 16:26:46 +0000 http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/?p=595#comment-3025 "Despite social pressure nowadays, she’s flat-out feminine. She makes you feel like a man, assuming you match the description. All is right in the universe." Not sure how gender stereotypes make for a successful partnership. Every couple I've seen pushing each other towards traditional gender roles ended up resenting it. Making your partner feel loved, supported, respected as a person, not as a gender. That's the key “Despite social pressure nowadays, she’s flat-out feminine. She makes you feel like a man, assuming you match the description. All is right in the universe.”

Not sure how gender stereotypes make for a successful partnership. Every couple I’ve seen pushing each other towards traditional gender roles ended up resenting it.
Making your partner feel loved, supported, respected as a person, not as a gender. That’s the key

]]> By: Scot McKay http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/2008/07/07/why-even-desperate-guys-won%e2%80%99t-marry-their-girlfriends/#comment-3024 Scot McKay Sun, 31 May 2009 01:51:47 +0000 http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/?p=595#comment-3024 I hear you, Marc. I may not be so willing to visit the sins of the parents upon the daughter at the wholesale level like that, at least not without making a judgment call on a case-by-case basis. But maybe the subject indeed deserves a whole 'nother article called "Why Desperate Dads Need Better Lawyers". LOL I hear you, Marc.

I may not be so willing to visit the sins of the parents upon the daughter at the wholesale level like that, at least not without making a judgment call on a case-by-case basis.

But maybe the subject indeed deserves a whole ‘nother article called “Why Desperate Dads Need Better Lawyers”. LOL

]]> By: Marc http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/2008/07/07/why-even-desperate-guys-won%e2%80%99t-marry-their-girlfriends/#comment-3023 Marc Sat, 30 May 2009 13:29:34 +0000 http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/?p=595#comment-3023 You left one important point out. Family honor. If you meet the parents and her mom is living in the mansion he is still paying mortgage for and her father is living in whatever box he can afford after having been taken to the cleaners, there is very little that will get this girl out of the fun category into the marriage category. You left one important point out. Family honor. If you meet the parents and her mom is living in the mansion he is still paying mortgage for and her father is living in whatever box he can afford after having been taken to the cleaners, there is very little that will get this girl out of the fun category into the marriage category.

]]> By: Scot McKay http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/2008/07/07/why-even-desperate-guys-won%e2%80%99t-marry-their-girlfriends/#comment-3022 Scot McKay Sat, 12 Jul 2008 08:51:05 +0000 http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/?p=595#comment-3022 Ah...but the "other half" must never be considered as a "whole", given the complexity of women, no? Ah…but the “other half” must never be considered as a “whole”, given the complexity of women, no?

]]> By: gothchiq http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/2008/07/07/why-even-desperate-guys-won%e2%80%99t-marry-their-girlfriends/#comment-3021 gothchiq Fri, 11 Jul 2008 19:20:14 +0000 http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/?p=595#comment-3021 No sweat, man. But I did think you might want to know how that can sound to the "other half," even if you didn't mean it that way. After all, getting feedback is part of honing your skills, yes? Me, not know where to go for the evening? Why, I'm shocked at the very notion! lol. I'm going to Club Hell (yes, I'm serious.) You? Cheers! No sweat, man. But I did think you might want to know how that can sound to the “other half,” even if you didn’t mean it that way. After all, getting feedback is part of honing your skills, yes?

Me, not know where to go for the evening? Why, I’m shocked at the very notion! lol. I’m going to Club Hell (yes, I’m serious.) You?

Cheers!

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