Comments on: Five Ways To Become P-Whipped Without Even Knowing What Hit You

By: Scot McKay

Scot McKay — Tue, 17 Jun 2008 05:56:09 +0000

Quote: “For me, an LTR is not merely having access to regular sex.”

This is a terrific point, Lance. In fact, if that’s all someone gets into an LTR for they’re already ’settling’, aren’t they?

I’ve had several Ten-Plus guys I’ve worked with who were frustrated by not being able to go more than a couple of months at a time in a relationship with the same woman. Ultimately, the issue came down to basing the relationship on sex.

If you think about it, two months is actually a long time is such a case. For most guys, even looking at the same chick on a porn site only lasts ten minutes–max–until they’re ready for the next one. LOL

By: Lance

Lance — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 16:26:11 +0000

I tend to believe in a balanced model for LTR’s…basically you’re both providing leadership, stability, and the impetus for personal and couplehood growth. I’m perfectly happy taking on the QB role when the time is right, but I don’t think you have to dominate OR become p-whipped either. For me, an LTR is not merely having access to regular sex. Since that’s not a priority, getting p-whipped is pretty much impossible.

Right now I’m in the game to improve myself and increase my emotional intelligence (and have fun), and I know I’ll get into an LTR later this year. Once I do that, my relationship is going to look similar to most other relationships, with the exception that I’ll be a very competent man and have great communication skills.

Thanks for addressing this Scot.

By: jason

jason — Wed, 11 Jun 2008 18:47:05 +0000

Great insights Roosh. I have to admit that I was totally fooled by what I saw on tv and by the stuff I was told by society at large until I discovered game and the results from back then were horrible. People always say they know the difference between real life and make believe but it’s actually not so easy to do so when everyone and every outlet around you is propagating the same lie.

By: Scot McKay

Scot McKay — Wed, 11 Jun 2008 18:11:11 +0000

The beauty of this is that “delegation” is still indeed leadership.

Doing everything oneself is really an amazingly effective way to put her in charge.

That idea of how to be “In Control” without being a “Controller” is indeed central to getting all of this right. That’s why it’s next in line to be discussed.

When you get right down to it, relationship management enters into the equation literally from minute one after the initial approach. Otherwise the relationship–whatever it is–manages YOU.

By: Brad

Brad — Wed, 11 Jun 2008 16:10:03 +0000

Ah… but even though many aren’t in it for relationship management, that’s exactly what you get into when you’re dating… even if it’s just casual.

Oh… and for the record, taking control of a lot of these little things is the opposite of delegation…

… so you now have LESS time to do the things that you WANT or NEED to do in your life.

Now, if it’s something that you ENJOY, that’s one thing… but if you’re just doing in because “she doesn’t do it right”… ya might want to show her how you like it… lol.

And no, this isn’t some type of “women, get your ass in the kitchen” thing either… haha.

By: Scot McKay

Scot McKay — Wed, 11 Jun 2008 06:57:32 +0000

I agree 3000%, Roosh.

Whatever a guy’s current goals are regading success with women, having total control over one’s own relationships always matters.

And 20/20 foresight never hurts, right?

By: Roosh

Roosh — Wed, 11 Jun 2008 06:22:06 +0000

My guess is that most guys in the game are not in it for relationship management or are not ready for it, but it would be a shame to learn the game for their their first real quality girlfriend and then blow it because they have no idea how to keep her or regress back into a needy beta.