Comments on: How Not To Be “Friend Material” (Kezia Column)

By: cc

cc — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 21:35:27 +0000

thx KEZIA thx for your article

I’M IN HURRY TO SAVE my relationship from falling into friend zone and weird guy

I have found my crush and i dont want to let it go away like that

all I can do right now is gambling ….I hope i can create the attraction again…

By: crammer

crammer — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 13:31:34 +0000

thanks Kezia I learned a lot:)
I have to start fixing this, I realized that I befriended the girl I like..

I was wondering if it’s still possible to reverse these signs of ‘friendship’ and her comfort when we’re together, in case one wasn’t able to prevent this?

By: Polanova

Polanova — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 22:57:23 +0000

Kezia strikes again, with more female wisdom than we would ever know by seeking it ourselves. I appreciate all you do for us lovable losers, who are trying there best at being good with women. I think it’s wonderful what you do, grammatical errors or not I understand the idea you’re trying to get accross and I will take it and run with it. Thanks a bunch!

By: jaxrogue

jaxrogue — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 03:58:58 +0000

Kezia, for starters, let me say you are so fine.

What a great and informative article. Just when you think us guys know it all.

By: ace69

ace69 — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 23:25:22 +0000

I liked the Article,although it is nothing new,it´s a good reminder…especially the ending:
Unless of course you see her as friend material in that case go right ahead and discuss her periods and ex-boyfriends with her!

It all comes down to knowing what you want,but you can Fc her,have a good time,get your Sex-Practice and Enjoyment and then have her as a friend anyway,leaves you more options, so a steady sexual vibe can´t hurt, as long as it is delivered naturally.

I also recognised some “unusual”spelling and sentence-building stuff in your article sweety, it´s an artist thing, i have it too-it has to do with the wiring in our Brain,this helps us generate creative energie..and mistakes are part of the process..
my singing teacher allways said..Let it be crap!
our strenghts are often also our weaknesses.
now Kezia,tell me:As we have so much in common: Are we in the Friend Zone or do you want to work on some spelling and sentence construction with me?..we could start with some simple things,nouns for instance like ah,eh…
You could cook for me after,i´ll open the wine.
i have time next week, tuesday 6pm.otherwise at the moment i am very busy
you have my e-mail,Talk to me!
i do like your picture.

By: Ross

Ross — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 20:13:43 +0000

Woman friend? It ‘s just a communication problem wrong.
Often because you do not have a proper contact with eyes.
Just fix is easy.
Prolonged contact with eyes immediately and no longer.
If you were not too old, Kezia now marry you
I love the women of your caliber.

PS: Unfortunately, many techniques used in the U.S. or England in Italy do not work.
Italian women have shield .. Spatial Defense And for them, male is only an enemy.

Donna amica? E’ solo un problema di comunicazione sbagliata.
Spesso perchè non hai un contatto con occhi giusto.
Basta correggere è facile.
Prolungato contatto con gli occhi da subito e non succede più.
Se non fossi troppo vecchio, Kezia, adesso ti sposerei
Amo le donne del tuo calibro.
PS: Purtroppo molte tecniche usate negli USA o in inghilterra in Italia non funzionano.
Donne italiane hanno scudo.. spaziale di difesa:-) E per loro il maschio è solo un nemico.

By: Flirt

Flirt — Mon, 23 Feb 2009 20:52:42 +0000

once you learn how to communicate on a sexual level then none of this should be a problem. you need to be assertive enough straight away so that you both know that the whole LJBF deal isn’t even a possibility. be a man, not a wussy. basic rule.

By: Roland

Roland — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 10:01:44 +0000

I have a woman that I see just about every day someone please help me please ! I want this girl as a girl friend but she says she just wants to be fiends. This is a woman that I’ve been getting up every morning at 5 o’clock just to take her to work release she has no car so I’ve been giving her rides every where else too how do I get out of the LJBF territory or should I just stop talking to her?

By: stavros

stavros — Mon, 12 Jan 2009 03:24:30 +0000

ha ha — they took down my post b/c it conflicts with their commercial bull they are trying to sell to young inexperienced guys –ha haha — advice from a woman…ha ha` ha

Actually if you want advice from a qualified woman scientist I recommend reading
Helen Fisher’s books — ‘Why WE Love’ & ‘The Anatomy of Love’ both based on scientific findings — this woman has sveral Phd’s

I also reccomend (scientist/anthropolisits/)author – David Givens — the quintessential expert on body language — he has severalbooks and has done several in field documnetaries

You can find their books at Barnes and Noble.com

By: stavros

stavros — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 21:29:28 +0000

Funny — I think its all about getting the woman sexually aroused – through your communictaion — hopefully you have a decent style of dress and manner. Of course if the woman doesnt feel sexual chemistry you will be friends. Be honest- if you as a man feeel no sexual attraction for a woman would you want to be her bf/lover long term relationship. No – just friends of course.

honestly if you cant get her aroused then she will not invest her time with you – she will not be curious to get to know you more to see who this mysterious guy is that has this power over her sexuality.

You can get her interested to hang out by demonstrating prsonality and playing mind games of validation but you still need her to feel aroused. It is something most women do not feel immediately, so you have a window of opportunity to create that chemistry.

Even IF you are good looking, IF she is not sexually aroused by you – she will not invest her time and energy.

And it must feel natural – I think too much gaming and validation kills spotaneity

I prefer to get into topics that appeal to the five senses — what she is into – ( traveling, dancing, cooking themes) what nakes her excited or feeling good. Maybe she loves to cook or try out new restaurants – you can talk about some delicious cuisine you have experienced — food is a type quite erotic experience becuase is a safe pleasurable indulgence, it can be used as in conversation to appeal to her “senses” …or exciting stories that capture her imagination.

You want to arouse her — figure out how to appeal to her 5 sensnes. A woman appeals to a man’s five senses – we love the way some women look (Visual) their aroma( scent/smell) even the way soem of them sound (sexy voice). You should remember that many times its not the guy per say – many times women just have different issues in their life, some have low self esteem and that can create problems –

i see many guys puzzled or blaming themself when they meet women like this; you would be better off to walk away form that type of person, they are not ready for anything b/c they have issues to work out. And some women like abusive guys — do you really want a masochistic woman like that ? How do you think she got that way ? Anyway – I’m done for now