Comments on: My Short Text Message Battle

By: Donovan

Donovan — Tue, 22 Apr 2008 15:28:39 +0000

Yeah you’re probably right guys. I probably was concerned a little bit with “winning”. That’s just my personality.

By: Zictor

Zictor — Tue, 22 Apr 2008 14:37:14 +0000

I don’t know if you should have told her to be relaxed for the next guy. I mean, you seem not to have cared, so you just wanted to have some fun. I agree with corafan though, an “OK” or no reply would have been better. No reply would have been even better. Show that you really don’t care.

By having this small battle, you showed that you cared about losing face in front of her, at least a little bit.

By: chill

chill — Sat, 19 Apr 2008 14:41:18 +0000

Your whole frame of interaction started incorrectly. This would have been much better:

Me: “We’re going to gurus”
Her: “Ya I like that place”
Me: “Excellent. Pick me up at 8:30.”

If she replied to refuse, don’t respond, go do something else.

Why are you taking some chick to dinner anyway? Take her on your next trip to Target… escalate in housewares or something. Or just have her come over with a bottle of wine.

By: Lance

Lance — Fri, 18 Apr 2008 02:39:08 +0000

Dude, that’s cool that you’re sharing this interaction. Brad’s response is gold also, some stuff in there I wouldn’t have thought of. I would have been interested to see how the date would have gone despite knowing her damage or bitchiness.

By: Donovan

Donovan — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 19:03:18 +0000

That’s the first off a receipt, but often times I just ask there name and facebook them later. I’d say about 65% turn into dates. The beauty is, it really isn’t much work and I only do it to supplement meeting girls in other ways.

By: Yummy Stale Bread

Yummy Stale Bread — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 18:47:47 +0000

I find this fascinating and very informative…how many times have you taken a waitress’s name off a receipt and facebooked her and of those you have how many have ended up on Day 2s?

By: Brad

Brad — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 15:22:46 +0000

Lets see if my av pops up…

Okay, instead of looking at this at a possible what went wrong… “You guys can shread this if you like” type of thing.

Let’s look at what’s right:

No matter how it went down, you got to find out that there was some DAMAGE there… and you didn’t want any part of it.

That seems to be the ultimate goal in the beginning of any interaction anyway… “Let’s find out how cool this person really is?”

For me… I can tell you how this would have went down as its a pretty standard response…

Instead of “?”… I would waited a few minutes and then wrote back:

“Problems?” (I do this just to find out how deep the rabbit hole goes)

Then she prob would have said something about respect or something… blah… blah, or told me about why she’s like that.

Naturally, I would have said something along the lines of “Hmmm, sounds like a Dr Phil show (okay, I couldn’t resist). Meet me over here in 10…” (I always repeat what I want in these situations)

Of course, she could have still been a little bitchy about it, but that’s when the fun begins for me. I’d prob laugh and go pick her up and then give her a little bit of a hard time about the “respect” deal.

Also, I’m damn good at disarming women as well so I always know that if I ever run into this situation, it’s fun because I usually can break her down so that she relaxes and has fun… and then respects me MORE because of it.

Some women just have been conditioned about certain types of things… by their parents… shitty ex-boyfriends… whatever.

Many times, its more than you want to deal with in something long term… but if your after the short term… these women are often the easiest to sleep with…

By: Donovan

Donovan — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 21:02:28 +0000

I got her name of the receipt. Once again… I was WITH another girl. I’m not going to overtly flirt in front of her, though I was making great eye contact and playful banter, that’s completely disrespectful especially seeing as the girl has been nothing but cool to me. The waitress was flirty and got the sense that she was eager to meet up with me. We messaged over facebook and text for a week earlier to the proposed date, and I invited her to a few parties in the mean time.

By: Yummy Stale Bread

Yummy Stale Bread — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 20:10:32 +0000

I’m confused. Did you get her number at the restaurant or you actually did take her name off of the receipt and look her up on facebook? And if it is the latter, did you tell her you were going to do that or did you just do it? And what was your interaction like at the restaurant that night?

By: Donovan

Donovan — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 19:20:56 +0000

Thanks Doug. Insightful.

On Facebook: It works VERY consistently for me, so that seems like a non-issue. The thing with any “creepy” behaviour is… if the girl is attracted to you – IT’S FINE.

On meeting at my place: Near every girl I’ve been out with I get them to meet at my house first. About 80% of my first dates start this way. Like I said in the post, 5+ years of doing this with 0 issues. There is a reason for that: they become more comfortable about the idea of returning there after the date. Try it.

I don’t think flaking has much to do with my response to her. I didn’t consider her a flake. I considered her to be annoying as hell at her response to a legitimate proposal. My not having any reason to pander to her (dating a few quality girls atm) gave me the thought “Let’s take her for a different ride”