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   Comment by Franje on 23 February 2008:

   I like to take them ice skating at an outdoor rink. Outdoor rinks are prettier, more romantic. Skate for only 45 minutes, then go for hot chocolate or espresso at the nearby Starbuck’s.
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   Comment by Brian on 23 February 2008:

   One of my favorite dates is bowling. Lots of chances for kino and laughing together about simple things. Plus there are chances to talk while you’re waiting for the pins to move. It’s tons of fun and inexpensive and a great way to get to know your date.
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   Comment by chev on 23 February 2008:

   I like the mall. I like to say that I need a new outfit for a party or something. Girls love to give their opinion on your clothes so it’s fun to bust on them… also there’s all kind sof adventures. You can stop in at the sharper image and get massages, play with the electronics at the sony store, have an ice cream at the food court etc.
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   Comment by chev on 23 February 2008:

   also…. kudos on the farmers market idea…. before even seeing this article, I was gonna call this last number close to go to one tomorrow.
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   Comment by Sjefke on 24 February 2008:

   Take her to a cooking-class – even if she appears to be no fun, you learned something Same goes for wine-tasting.
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   Comment by Pantelis on 24 February 2008:

   Teach her pool (billiard), If you dont know …learn!!! Best kino while “teaching” plus sticks,balls and holes make for plenty of sexuall hinting! Bonus: Its the perfect place for bets and tricks, if you dont know any (tricks)…learn!!!
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   Comment by Chuco on 24 February 2008:

   Wine-tasting is definitely a good one – I just took a girl to a nearby winery today. Once there the establishment leads you through the tasting of each wine – you have something to talk about and get slowly stoned over an afternoon. As a bonus, there’s normally music and great scenery. Not to mention its inexpensive. Highly recommended.
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   Comment by khatsh on 24 February 2008:

   One of the other date ideas can be joining a dance class like salsa or swing
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   Comment by Jonesy on 24 February 2008:

   I have had good solid results with IKEA, and although I admit it’s not originally my idea, (Sean@Dave DeAngelo) I haven’t encountered anyone yet that does it. You can banter around, pretending to cook for her, or having her cook for you. Also, try out the beds…I like to make fun afterwards that women don’t usually get me into bed that fast Always good laughter. Lots of stuff to do there…
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    Comment by Cerberus on 24 February 2008:

    indoor climbing.
    It’s adrenaline, it’s fun, it’s special

    of course you should have some experience and not appear as a weak idiot.
    i love it
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    Comment by A on 24 February 2008:

    Snowboarding

    bungee jumping

    sumo wrestling with those big balloon suits inside air-padded rings
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    Comment by Wonton on 24 February 2008:

    Take her to a rock climbing gym. Chance to build up trust and go kino. Not to mention it is adventurous and fun! But be sure you are experienced at rock climbing though, you don’t want your date to feel unsafe around you.
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    Comment by Joe on 24 February 2008:

    I have had great success with taking a new date out to photograph the town. If you are cheap just get 2 or 3 disposables. Doing it at night gives it a better quality and you can get physical quicker.
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    Comment by Status on 24 February 2008:

    First off, I never call them dates. Unless of course, I’m in a serious relationship with the girl. So, if I’m going to “meet-up” with a girl I plan several activities. It might look like this:

    1. Drinks (at a cool pub or coffee house)

    2. Walk to another nearby cool place for a bite to eat (not an expensive place, don’t let it look like a cheesy date)

    3. Something fun (any of the above are very good, I prefer small concerts). This is so money for excalation.

    4. Dessert. This is a great time to go to a fancy restaurant, preferabbly French, and order espresso and creme brule. If things have gone well, this is the icing on the cake that will make the “meet-up” end in sex.

    5. Always make her meet you at your house, so that you have no choice but to go back there to get her car. Invite her in, pour some wine, and close the deal.

    My “dates” always fit this pattern. And girls love it, its fun and never uncomfortable, its shows preparation but seems spontaneous, and it shows I can take control.

    *Other activity ideas: Symphony. you can usually get cheap tickets and it shows class. plus you act like you like it and you wanted to go anyway so that it doesn’t look to much like a serious date. By the second act, she is into the music, start kino escalation. Then when you go for dessert she will incredibly turned on.

    *never pay for everything. “i’ll get this, you get dessert”
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    Comment by Nigel on 24 February 2008:

    Your house
    Invite her to dinner at your place.Get the nice wine out, cook a nice dish,serve the ouderves. Make it romantic..candles etc have some good props in your house.eg Your guitar which happens to be in your room..
    What woman cudn’t resist that..?
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    Comment by Kevin on 24 February 2008:

    Joe: Photographing the town at night is a KILLER idea.

    That one gets my vote!
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    Comment by Rare on 24 February 2008:

    I would say, walk to the nears mall or supermarket and make some basic home shopping. The surely you need to continue your ture for the evening, but its not practical to carry all the milk, bread and sugar all the evening!

    Then just walk back home to put the things. Get her inside and build it up from there;)
    Rare
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    Comment by Drew on 24 February 2008:

    Tell her you’re baking a cake for your best friends’ birthday and you need some assistance. Pick her up then go to Kroger or wherever to get the ingredients and whatnot (this is always fun). Next, take her back to your house and start cooking away (cakes aren’t too hard to make). Make sure to get a goofy apron like DeAngelo, and tease her about her terrible “cooking skills”, all while acting the expert. Things usually lead to a food fight. Also, the kitchen, for some damn reason, is always an awesome place to hang around with a girl. It’s a totally natural way to transition to kissing and more. Girls eat this one up, and chances are you’ll have lots of fun to.
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    Comment by Rob D on 24 February 2008:

    My personal favorite is horseback riding. Women love horses, its outdoors, its usually scenic, and you can come off both strong and sensitive. Plenty of opportunity for playful bantor. And best of all, no skills are requred (the ONLY time I ride horses is on a date of some sort).
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    Comment by Vinny D on 24 February 2008:

    I gotta tell you…recently I’ve had a lot of success taking girls to a gun range. I’ve never fired a gun in my life, so on a whim I found a local place here in Los Angeles. It’s $7 to rent a gun (you don’t need a permit or anything!) and something like $10 for the firing booth. I brought a girl with me and as soon as she started firing the gun, her adrenaline was pumping and she started getting hot!
    I’ve since taken two girls to the range and scored both times.
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    Comment by Vinny Dellay on 24 February 2008:

    Another idea that seems to work is the horse races. Here in Los Angeles you have either Hollywood Park or Santa Anita race track. There’s something about drinking beer and screaming for your horse that’s just fun as hell for girls! They really seem to get into it.
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    Comment by José on 24 February 2008:

    Going to the shopping mall, but without talking at all, and the first person to talk will pay for the movie ticket at the end of the night. People do amazing things when they can’t speak.
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    Comment by Zea on 24 February 2008:

    This is my secret weapon, the local butterfly conservatory. It’s not overly expensive, I think it’s about 7 dollars for a ticket, and it’s unique. No girl that I’ve taken there has ever had a date like that before. It works like a charm every time.
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    Comment by Paul on 25 February 2008:

    I have to agree with Vinny Delay. Try taking a woman to a gun range. Very rarely do you find a woman who has fired a gun and very rarely do you get a women that tells you no. That is by far the most intriguing place that you can take them and they will come out feeling ecited and renewed and begging you to take them back.
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    Comment by Evaus on 25 February 2008:

    what better place than a comedy club?

    both of you will get a great laugh out of it; funny memories to recall.

    better yet, take her on an open mike night, and let her watch you kill the crowd ;D
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    Comment by Alejandro on 25 February 2008:

    A great one to try is to call the girl up very early in the morning (4 am) and tell her to put something on, and that you’re picking her up in half an hour (don’t tell her where you’re taking her).

    Pick her up and take her somewhere where you can see the sun rise in the morning. Take breakfast as well and enjoy watching the sun rise over the city. Afterwards, take her back home and leave.

    It sounds a bit corny but it shows sensitivity, which works especially well when you’ve been Alpha Male.
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    Comment by Francisman on 25 February 2008:

    The Butterflies. The Best!
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    Comment by Chris Manchak on 27 February 2008:

    Just about anything that isn’t dinner and a movie will work.
    Second hand clothing shops are good. You can pick out the goofiest clothes imaginable and say how she would totally be able to rock them. Then pause, give her the elevator look, and say, with a smile; no, I guess I was wrong. Then you can pick out something equally goofy for yourself. It shows that you have a sense of humor, even about yourself. Plenty of opportunity to touch her. She may try on clothes and be used to taking off her clothes when you’re around. Most importantly, it’s different than what she’s used to, therefore she’ll remember it. And you.
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    Comment by Fame on 2 March 2008:

    In my opinion the open-air pool is a great place for a date because first of all there is a lot of social dynamic because of all the other people (maybe also friends) you can have fun with. So it’s harder for her to fall asleep if it doesn’t run perfectly from the beginning. You can do so many things like beach volleyball, teasing and playing in the water, go eating something…and of course it’s also your duty to put some lotion on her back so that your baby doesn’t get grilled. A great opportunity for getting physical.
    Warm regards
    ‘Fame’ from Germany
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    Comment by dchero on 9 March 2008:

    Photographing the town: awesome idea. Gun range is also a great idea. I gotta find one of those deals in DC.
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    Comment by Primo on 10 March 2008:

    Going to a car dealership and test driving cars is pretty fun…and free
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    Comment by makeyourownpheromones.com on 23 March 2008:

    Going fishing is a pretty fun one too
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    Comment by Jon on 23 March 2008:

    a friend/colleague set me up on a blind date with one of her girlfriends. Since it was a “blind” date, I took her to a pitch-black restaurant (www.blindekuh.ch). It was a „riot“, it was so ridiculous that we could not be serious, no matter how hard we tried! We arrived separately, about 10 minutes apart, and the restaurant is really absolutely so dark that you can not see anything. We spoon-fed each other, felt each other’s faces and even kissed – but never actually saw each other till we exited after desert. After that we retired to a café for a more normal talk, but we could not stop grinning like idiots.
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    Comment by juky34 on 6 April 2008:

    Take her to mini golf and show her to to tee of right. Then take her out to get some ice cream then ask if she wants to rent a movie and head back to your house. Then see where things go from there. Maybe you won’t even finish the movie..
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    Comment by Upgrayedd on 8 June 2008:

    Best dates are definitely the interactive ones. Putt-putt (cheesy as it sounds) is actually an awesome date. The best part about this is that women are usually pretty terrible at putt-putt so you have a fantastic opportunity to rip on them a little bit (and if you happen to find the one that is actually good at it, then you have a means for competition which she’ll really love). Let her hit one of those awful putts and then say something along the lines of “Darling, we’re on hole 1, I think you’re shooting for 2 over there.” Play a few more holes and then offer to help. This will give you the opportunity to put your arms around her, get close, and teach her something (or if you take my approach, hit the ball a few inches and say “alright, that’s one stroke” and then repeat the process about 3 or 4 times). I’ve actually recommended this date to some of my older “friends” and they’ve all said that this one is the deal maker for getting the girl to fall for you. You have the perfect opportunity to put off that “older brother” vibe and get physical with her.
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    Comment by Cari Ann Craig on 12 June 2008:

    Vinny Dellay is absolutely right. He took me to the horse races for my birthday and we had a blast! He also took me to the gun range and the feeling was really exhilarating, although I did not realize he had taken two women since and “scored both times.” We had been dating for five months up until this past weekend. Really disappointing.
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    Comment by theJoker on 12 June 2008:

    I’m just cracking up at the previous comment. I guess thats why you don’t use your real name on these sites. Some girls are smart enough to use Google.
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    Comment by Steven on 17 June 2008:

    So many responses, yet they all have one thing in common – you.

    At the end of the day, is it really about the date location? Or is it about you and your ability to craft a fun situation anywhere, anytime? Let’s face it, if your inner game isn’t sorted, even the most exciting date destination will see your adventure fall flat on its face.
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    Comment by Sandman on 20 July 2008:

    Comment by Primo on 10 March 2008:

    Going to a car dealership and test driving cars is pretty fun…and free.

    This is a freakin awesome idea, you could tell her you have to pretend to be a couple, make heaps of references like “What do you think honey?” then take the car out for a drive and really rev it around.
    Gold.
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    Comment by cmarek7 on 28 July 2008:

    I think dinner and a movie works, you just have to let them know just how cheesy and corny it actually is. Neg them about it. It works well if you play it right. Remember a true pua can fclose taking a girl to Hot & Now.
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    Comment by dan on 28 July 2008:

    a cool date idea is to go the beach to watch the sunset…

    there’s a beach nearby which I took my 4wd on, went 10mins down the beach to find a nice spot, pulled out a gas burner and made toasted sandwiches on the beach with some nice red wine in a cooler…worked for me
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    Comment by Lance Armstrong on 6 August 2008:

    Anal
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    Comment by chev on 7 August 2008:

    Statements like that take balls, Lance.

    Plural
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    Comment by david on 30 August 2008:

    A Tango Argentino class is great for learning being close to women and to relax in this situation.
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    Comment by daaah on 11 September 2008:

    no it takes a butt
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    Comment by jimmy on 13 November 2008:

    Taking the girl hiking for a day on a mountain with couple of her friends and yours. You spend the whole day there. Don’t forget something to eat
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    Comment by john on 26 November 2008:

    take her paintballing. you get to mess with her a little about how much of a lousy shot she is. You also have an opportunity to get physical by making each others “boo boos” better.
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    Comment by Schinoa on 26 December 2008:

    Dancing classes are brilliant as you get close. Also, most dance classes have too many women and not enough men, so the men rotate around the ladies, this gives her a chance to see you with other women and get jelous (dont worry about her with other guys as they are generally all old – apart from maybe some latino guy who moves better than you and wears better clothes (I handle this by quietly getting a conversation going about his sexuality with her))

    I think its good to get arrange a date you know she’ll like. Find out her hobbies – horse riding, photography, a class, stock car racing etc etc. Before you do that though, think about what you want. Do you want something serious or just some fun? If you just want fun why not try this –

    I’ve started doing this following all my kiss closes as I’m not really after anything too serious at the moment, I ask, “Tell me your fantasies” (asked when up close and personal, maybe mid kiss or when kissing under her ear). She may resist but only cause she is either shy or embaressed, help her through that. I can guarantee she will like that you asked though. Then think of a date around that – only whats possible ofcourse, if she wants to get involved in bukkake dont do that, but, if she has some girl on girl fantasies great! Take her to a strip club – though tell her first
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    Comment by Killertu on 9 February 2009:

    GO CART!!!!!!!!wow girl love playing that, soo fun
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    Comment by Mikey Ramone on 4 April 2009:

    I had an awesome date a few weeks ago, We went for lunch instead of dinner, then went to a “Make your own pottery” place and made some coffee mugs and plates. It was super fun, and yes, we did re-inact the scene from the movie “Ghost”. Laughing the whole time I might add.

    Other great ones are Going to a rooftop restaurant, but making your reservations for whatever time sunset is, it’s awesome to eat dinner and watch all the lights of the city come on at night.

    hmm…. Any more…

    OH YEAH! I forgot my coup de grace!

    Seriously, this sounds retarded, but get her to put on her sweats and a hoodie, and have an old-school sleepover kinda night. Put a blanket on the floor in your living room, move all the furniture back, and play board games and order pizza. Maybe finish up with a movie that was popular when you were in junior high or high school. Last time I did this, we rented “I know what you did last summer” and “Scream” and it brought back so many laughs from the past.

    And, since you’ve already got your comfy clothes on, and plenty of blankets and pillows… Maybe a cuddle/nap is in order.
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    Comment by munich on 5 April 2009:

    Cooking together is my absolute favourite!
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    Comment by CoCoNutz on 12 April 2009:

    Anything Random and exciting, the higher the level of danger/irony the better. On a second date i took a girl out for lunch, but just to be random i ordered it to go, and we took our food to some near-by model homes and ate there like we were married. And it worked out nice, a place to eat, AC, and ofcourse a bed… Sex or Not, still fun doing something stupid/fun.
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    Comment by Tommy on 18 April 2009:

    Great ideas.

    I would add that there are no “great date ideas’ that work in every occasion.

    A great idea may work better in one occasion or another one in another.

    when I meet someone new for the first time, I rather go for a simple cup of coffee. this way we can chat and I get to know her, without paying more than a couple of bucks.

    if that goes well, it opens up for another date

    To know exactly what I am talking about, read my bizarre seduction stories that I call the Casanova Chronicles here: http://www.datingformenandwomen.com/free-seduction-stories.html

    Tommy
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    Comment by Tazer on 21 April 2009:

    Dance lessons(salsa, swing, etc.)

    Jogging in a very scenic area

    Walk and talk along the river walk

    Snow ball fighting/ skiing/ sledding(ty Harry from Dumb & Dumber)
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    Comment by Lino on 29 April 2009:

    I have to concur about the firing range.
    I can also add that it is a good idea to be prepared to make the safety drill your self and to know a little about guns.
    This gives you the opportunity to instruct her and tell her what to do and go kino while doing so.
    And you can say things like: “let your hands embrace the gun” and “As you squeeze the trigger I want you to allow your hands to fully take the recoil in and feel the vibrations in your body” etc. And all kinds of other subliminal suggestions while she is under the effects of the adrenaline. And sometimes girls get really scared and want to hug you for protection.
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    Comment by Silly Dilly on 23 July 2009:

    a good idea for a first date is the all too original drive in but dont go alone (as in just you and her) take a few friends. this makes the atmosphere more fun and exciting and dont worry there will still be plenty of alone time between u and her.
    when the movie(s) over if u enjoyed the date so far and its obvious she has as well then take her out to get something to eat. this not only shows sponteneity but also allows for more time to talk together. if all this hasnt been enough for you and you really want to spend a few more hours with her take her out to a hill on the outskirts of town with a nice view and watch the sunrise with her.
    i tried this on a first date and the results were life changing. i had a blast with her and we ended up dating for three years and were married last september on the 4th( on the same hill where we watched the sunrise) when people ask her when she knew i was the one she replies “when we watched the sunrise on our first date.”
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    Comment by Debbie on 5 August 2009:

    All women love horses? The f-ing mall? Food fights? WTF??? How stupid do you think we are? And – thank you Lino – please give me instructions on how to shoot a gun b.c. clearly a woman wouldn’t know how to use one. We’re not children, you don’t have to entertain us.

    Best “dates” I’ve been on weren’t dates. In fact, dates blow. Throw the concept out. It’s garbage. The best date equivalents I’ve been on include : a one-week vacation to MT, complete with hiking, canoeing and mushroom hunting. Working together to build a set for a play…. and… impromptu birthday beers at the best little bar on the West Bank.
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    Comment by Guy on 9 August 2009:

    Haha i love the last comment
    she just blasted every guy that commented before
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    Comment by Lino on 18 August 2009:

    Hurray for Debbie

    I hate the date concept as much as the next guy. And believe me all those “routines” are mighty annoying, but the fact is that they work and that they tend to lead to a pleasant altogether experience for everyone involved so they are worth the trouble most of the time.
    And in my experience most women even when they are far from stupid prefer to act as in “stupid mode” during what I would call typical male – female interactions.
    And there are some good reasons for that behaviour, basically all this is in our genes, but lets not get into details.

    And I don’t know how things are in your corner of the world, but where I come from in my lifetime I’ve only encountered one woman that could handle a gun and she was an instructor at one of the firing ranges that I visit occasionally (that alone gave her +40 attraction points).
    Otherwise in the rare occasions that I come across an attractive woman that would go hiking, canoeing and is capable of spending a night in a tent without whining 26 hours a day I call myself a lucky man and I fire up the mushroom hunting equipment … but that’s the easy part of life. Normally I have to go do all that stuff with the guys only.

    Anyway I appreciate your thoughts. A constructive female perspective on these things is always interesting.

    P.S.
    I did the firing range date with a girl recently. She is a pretty decent software developer, reads a lot of good books and can hold her end of an intellectual conversation and on top of that she is on of those rare girls that I would take rafting (in fact I did), but she enjoyed the instructions on the firing range a lot and those afterwards as well so stupidity has nothing to with it and its quite often a good idea to threat a woman like a child.

    And I appreciate how this would be something that most women wouldn’t like to admit …
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    Comment by Sara on 25 August 2009:

    Hey Lino,

    It is not a good idea to treat a woman like a child. Most intelligent women in this world do not seek a “daddy” or “teacher”. Not to say that there aren’t things we could learn from the boys. However, being treated as an equal while being instructed in a new hobby or task is more often than not a nice exchange when getting to know someone. This works so much in your favor because you appear knowledgeable about something cool we want to know more about, AND you’re awesome enough to expose us to it. Oh by the way, there are only 24 hours in a day.
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    Comment by J on 20 September 2009:

    IKEA!!!
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    Comment by Hollywood on 22 September 2009:

    I am very surprised that no one has mention going to a comedy club! Women love to drink and laugh afterward the show you can take her for a walk get the (IOI), get coffee or dessert, talk, and close the deal. This way your showing her a great time setting the positive mood and feedback.

    Most important if you like her you can definitely get a second date!
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    Comment by Alex on 22 October 2009:

    How about some mild physical activities? Bowling, tennis table, skating, things like that. Of course they must be fun with no competition at all.

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