You guys wanted me to be more personal on this blog. So this past few weeks have been interesting for my pick up lifestyle. Doubts and confirmations are the name of this month.
My options with women have been going down hill. Actually, I’m not sure that’s the correct way to word it. I’ve noticed the women that I have been dating are getting attached to me quicker and on a deeper level, but FEWER of them. Quality over quantity.
The problem is… I’m not that into most of them. Don’t get me wrong, they are beautiful and really fun to hang out with, but for some reason I just don’t “feel” it with this one particular girl called Stephanie. Am I gay?! ha ha
Stephanie’s from California. She’s laid back, good looking, nice body, and has very witty sense of humor which I love. I just don’t feel it on a gut level. Could I not be as attracted to her because she’s been too easy for me?
We steadily moved up the physical levels on our first date. I usually call girls the next day, but she sent me a text that night saying how much of a great time she had.
Cool.
I text her back saying, “I had fun too, lets do something again”
The attraction started to die. This is totally unconscious, and on paper she’s exactly what I’m looking for in a girlfriend.
Then a few days later, “How’s life?”
Oh geez, is this what thought goes through her head when she’s not interested in me?
I text back, because I’m a nice guy. Hell, I remember when I didn’t have any options with women, now I have some, but I still don’t want to be mean. I like to think that those old days made me appreciate what I do have, and there’s no reason to act like a jerk.
Then I saw her today, this is about two weeks after our first date. She was flirty, touchy and playing it subtle. It was clear she was VERY attracted.
I felt my gut sink. Three years ago I would have literally given my left nut to be with a girl like this, and today… I’m over it. I’ve learned a few things… If a girl is texting you back with short text messages that are straight to the point and not flirty, she’s probably over it, or you haven’t done enough yet. That’s what I do.
Clearly, “ATTRACTION ISN’T A CHOICE” (David Deangelo)
What’s wrong with me? How do you guys let down girls?
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Dude are you serious? There’s nothing wrong with you. That deep connection you feel in your gut doesn’t happen with every girl. That’s why it’s so good when you get it for real.
About a month ago I was dating two girls. Both good looking, sexy, fun to hang out with, relaxed and great in bed. After a few dates a realised that with one girl, that gut feeling just wasn’t there. But with the other one – bam! Off the charts.
We learn how to build a deep connection with a girl using deep rapport and comfort techniques so that a girl is totally in to us. But because we know that we can do it with any girl it takes away the mystery, the magic, that movie moment where it just hits you. The good side is, when it happens you know it’s for real and that girl is special.
CASH
Yea man.. i’ve been with a shit load of girls but only real had a connection with three or four in my lifetime.
unfortanetly once you get good with women… you need a girl that challenges you a little… is a little harder to get…
i remember a few years ago thinking i was fucked and could never fall for a girl.. then i wound up going crazy over some girl that played a complete head game with me… wasn’t fun
I agree with Cash that it becomes much easier to build rapport with women and develop a connection with them by learning this skill set but at the same time it loses its magic because we can keep recreating it with women. All this means though is that your standards are going up, and there is nothing wrong with that
Choice is a two-edged sword. The more of it we have, the more we realize we’re NOT a good match for most of the women we meet, except for on sexual level. There’s often something we find that breaks the deal.
On the other hand, choice is great! We never have to settle.
Hey there,
That’s an interesting story that you shared there .. but come on .. you honestly can’t tell why you are not attracted to her?
Could it be the fact that she’s more into you than you are her? Could it be the fact that you know she would date you seriously if she had the chance.
Lets face it guys, dating is all about the challenge. Maybe you’ve just raised your standards and are looking for something that is going to get and keep your interest a little longer
Aka something a little harder to get =)
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