How I Meet Girls On Facebook Consistently
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I’ve been wanting to get down to the essentials of what it takes to meet women on Facebook. I’ve spent the last year really hitting the social networking sites hard using a trial and error approach. There are many ways that work, but this method works the most consistent. I get the majority of my dates this way now because it’s easy and time efficient.
How To Meet Girls On Facebook: The Friend Building Phase
Before you can start PIMPING your Facebook account, you should understand a few things first. You should realize that this technique takes advantage of your current friends and acquaintances. I’ve actually found this scouting technique works really well with friends OF friends that you’ve met once or twice. I dip into the best friends pool sometimes, but using this technique exclusively on your friends limits its potential and scalability.
You need to go out an actively build your friends on Facebook. Everyone you meet in a decent passing conversation you say, “You gotta be on Facebook right?” “Ok then, whats your last name, I’ll add ya!” Then you add them. This is just like building rapport with women. You want to build on commonalities, so they remember you when you add them and you can use that social equity when you get them to set you up. People will accept 99% of the time. You want to do this with women, especially an ugly or not your type of woman, but not men (straight men). Men are protective over women in their network, even if they don’t know them well. Chances are that the guy is trying to seduce her anyway, so why would he want you as competition? The only guys of seen this work on are the really uber-social, that are friends with EVERYONE and never hook up. =)
How To Meet Girls on Facebook: The Rapport Building Phase
Once you’ve added these people, try and remain decent friends. About a week after adding them as friends, comment on a photo, post on their wall, saying stuff like, “What did you do in Thailand?” or “Nice beach. You guys must of RIPPED those waves up!” Just don’t come across as creepy or annoying. Just play it relaxed and sociable.
How To Meet Girls on Facebook: The Searching Phase
Now you’ve built some sort of rapport with your friends. Make sure you keep it relaxed and friendly. People love this. Next, this could take some time. Go through your friends Photos, usually not Photo Albums. Go through Photos were they are tagged. This usually means they are in a social environment and you have a better chance of finding women quicker. You need to do a little investigative work, but you should determine quickly if the women that you see with her are married/single/in a relationship. Once you have determined that…
How To Meet Girls on Facebook: The Messaging & Connecting
This step is crucial, but fairly simple. Message (don’t write on their wall) your friend this, “[Friends Name], you gotta set me up with that [NAME] girl! Tell her you’ve got a cool friend to set her up with”. They would say, “Yeah, I can. Come around and meet her.” This is fine, but if you want her phone number quicker. “Just get her to check out my profile and ask her if she doesn’t mind you giving me her number to call her!” This is a softening request that I’ve never had not work. Sometimes your friend would say, “Oh, shes taken.” or “Oh, every guy asks about her.” Then say, “Thats fine, you gotta set me up with someone though. Your friends are cute”. She will say, “Have a look at some photos and let me know” or typically, “What about my friend [NAME]?” You can be honest, say, “Oh yeah. Nice. Get me her number.” or, “I’m more of a [QUALITY (hair color, personality type)] type of guy.”
IMPORTANT: If you already have this friends number, you don’t have to message them on Facebook. You can just text them.
Once you have her number. I usually text first. Say, “This is [NAME], [FRIEND]’s friend. Is it true what they say about [QUALITY]?
Then flirt away before meeting up.
How To Meet Girls on Facebook: Conclusion
That’s how to meet women on Facebook.
This is one of the best ways to meet women, because you already have a level of social proof, and you can see what women look like so it’s better than a blind date with minimal effort. I also don’t think it’s needy or supplicating by asking to be setup with women. If anything, it shows how masculine you truly are because of the mindset of the “prize”. Women already know men want women, by ignoring that fact you make yourself look feminine. The trick is to follow this with power and focus. Women should be with you and by setting you up with her friend, she’s doing her friend a favor.
This method however doesn’t alleviate a bad Facebook profile. If you enjoyed this post, or maybe even probably wanted more information but didn’t get it, you should check out Race and Kelly’s Window Shopping for Women. It’s got everything you’ll ever want to know about meeting women on Facebook and Myspace.
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Comment by jonah on 14 November 2007:
Now here’s a quality post.
As for the new design, can you use a masthead that’s a little less raunchy. I don’t want to have to look over my shoulder when I visit the site…
Comment by donovan on 14 November 2007:
Jonah, leave a correct email address so I can contact you.
Hmm…. Yeah the photo is raunchy, but I want a photo of a hot woman in there, and this one worked. Do you have any others you’d rather see, or could recommend to place in there instead? Email me. attractionchronicles@gmail.com
Comment by eight on 14 November 2007:
I don’t know about this, but all this shows that you are too needy, that you are asking other women to hook you up and all. Women talk with other women about men.
Comment by donovan on 14 November 2007:
eight - I can see your coming from partially, but if you don’t ask, you don’t get. I don’t think its NEEDY to ask. It’s only NEEDY if you are in fact needy, otherwise you’re smart.
“Woman talk to other women about men” - Not sure how that applies to NEEDINESS.
Comment by Andrew on 14 November 2007:
IME online game doesn’t click into place unless you’re out in the field getting laid.
Good post
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Comment by Tambo on 15 November 2007:
“Just get her to check out my profile and ask her if she doesn’t mind you giving me her number to call her!”
Would you message this to her first as an add-on to the:
“[Friends Name], you gotta set me up with that [NAME] girl! Tell her you’ve got a cool friend to set her up with”
or would it be in a seperate message?
I have experimented with facebook before. Sometimes sucessfully, sometimes not. This seems a bit easier and effective than my earlier experiemnts though.
Comment by donovan on 15 November 2007:
Tambo - I would use that in the same message typically, but calibrate!
Comment by DateDemon on 15 November 2007:
good post. While I definitely think that there is some quality info in here, I personally would just go ahead and message the girl directly instead of having a friend set you up. Though the setting up may actually be safer I have a feeling that it could definitely lead to some awkward first date/blind date situations… Have you gone on a lot of dates this way? Did they go really well?
Comment by Knight on 15 November 2007:
Interesting, but it doesn’t seem like you would really need Facebook for any of this. It’s just using facebook to supplement the communication of meeting a girl through (new found) friends.
Do you think it’s possible to come across some girl’s profile, who you have no social connection to, and have success?
Comment by Donovan on 15 November 2007:
DateDemon - I’ve found in my experience that if you don’t do the setup, your odds of securing a date drop DRAMATICALLY. Basically what’s happening is social proof, you’re friend is doing the “asking” of the girl, NOT you personally. So that relationship of trust they have built up, is being used to hook you up.
I’d say it’s about a 15% chance of securing a date without the setup, but with it’s about a 90% chance. Awkward moments? Sure, just as much as if you were to go on a first date with a girl you just got a number from a week before…
Knight - Facebook is near essential for this type of approach. Why? Because there is almost no way you would meet this newer girl or connect with your new “friend” through any other way. The key for this working well is because of the relaxed nature of Facebook.
Of course Knight, I’m sharing this method because I’ve found it works the most reliably. You can of course do a cold turkey approach.
Yes, many, MANY dates, not to mention additional attraction and comfort building. This is why I decided to do this post.
Comment by A on 17 November 2007:
Really interesting stuff….
I would add the caveat that you need to be consistently getting laid in real life for this to work, as getting you a date doesn’t do you much good if you can’t game.
Do you have some stats on how many times you’ve used this method, how many dates? rejections from friends? from the original friend you asked to set you up?
Any problems with the new girls/FB friends that you meet at parties etc telling your real friends that you’re doing that and getting weird rumors or talk about you? My friends (who are social people but non-pua type) would consider that creepy and stalkerish…especially the girls in the group….I’d hate for it to backfire
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Comment by Sean Messenger on 19 November 2007:
Great points, man.
Back when I got so good at online dating I was voted the “Best in Boston” on a dating site (not the proudest day in my life), everything I did was based on finding connections with women. Find what she likes and what makes her feel good and comfortable and relate to it. No arguing. No heavy flirting. And for god’s sake, NO cocky and funny.
Online dating, be it Facebook, Match, or anything else, comes down to her feeling there’s enough safety and commonality with you to make it worth the risk.
But you have taken it a very important step farther by establishing the friendship connections. Girls, esp. young girls, are very wary of dating anyone they don’t know thru friends. It’s risky for them socially and physically, so if you can make connections through friends, you avoid all the legit reasons she has to not hook up with you.
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Comment by Nirvanos on 2 December 2007:
I agree with donovan… there’s nothing “needy” about girls recommending you to other friends.
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Comment by Ethan Meadow on 6 December 2007:
Facebook is an excellent way to meet new people for dating. When I first got into the online dating thing though I needed a lot of advice on what to do. Thanks for the advice in this post. You may also be interested to check out Myles Reed. He has a book out called “Fishing for Love on the Net” and has some great insights and information for anyone into online dating but needing a little more insight to the whole thing. Let me know if you do a review on it. K? Thanks!
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Comment by TommyGunz on 21 February 2008:
losers….. this defeats the purpose of sarging and the reason for getting in this game, this is one step above paying for a matchmaking website.
lame, lame
if you found that post intersting , get your ass out tonight and hit the bar cause your nerdotry is hetting thebest of you.
this community is getting weak and losing its purpose.
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Comment by Mantra on 22 March 2008:
Hi: did this work for anybody? It didn’t for me.
Comment by Ro on 19 May 2008:
The community means being dynamic. Of course you need to have some social skills in order to be good with women, but Facebook really does provide a great avenue for even the shy guys to start getting out there. What it does even more is it teaches them what’s cool and what aspects of their personality they need to portray (ex. playing solitaire versus going skydiving as a hobby). Facebook- when played right- is phenomenal in getting guys access to tons of hot girls that are on their campus.
Also, if you’d like, check out my article on How to Meet Girls on Facebook.
Comment by CrackBaby on 24 July 2008:
This is stupid.
Facebook should at most be a tool to keep or build interest with girls that you were unable to have sex with owing to some logistical problem in real life. Spending time looking for friends of your friends that are distant enough from them that they won’t care you want to hook up with them, and close enough that your connection will matter for them to talk to a guy that didn’t have enough balls in person is absolutely retarded.
The guys marketing social network pickup are just taking advantage of nerds and other losers that don’t have the guts to do things in person.
Comment by Race on 25 July 2008:
CrackBaby,
I think you are misunderstanding not only the opportunity with using Social Networking sites but also the purpose.
I do not propose meeting women online over meeting women in person…I propose you do both. Think about it, at any given point in time there are more women online than there are in every bar in your city combined. And guess what? These are the same women you meet out at bars, clubs, bookstores and coffee shops. The girl next door, the hot bartender, that cute girl standing in line at Starbuck’s today are all online. Why in the world would you pass up on such a huge opportunity?
On top of that you can search through these women and filter it down to exactly the type of girl you like. It is like going to your local bar/bookstore and it being filled with the exact type of girl you like. It’s awesome.
It is a great supplement for guys who are already good and a great way for guys who are super shy to get started because the interaction is in slow motion allowing them the time to think of what to say and form good banter habbits. For people who work a lot or travel for a living and it is hard for them to get out this is a great way to meet lots of high quality women.
In fact, this is my second night in NY ever and I had a girl from MySpace come over and hang out with me last night because I was busy working. It was awesome!
There are literally so many good benefits I can’t list them here…ask Donovan or check out our site if you want to know more: http://www.windowshoppingforwomen.com/sc
cheers,
Race