I’ve been wanting to get down to the essentials of what it takes to meet women on Facebook. I’ve spent the last year really hitting the social networking sites hard using a trial and error approach. There are many ways that work, but this method works the most consistent. I get the majority of my dates this way now because it’s easy and time efficient.
How To Meet Girls On Facebook: The Friend Building Phase
Before you can start PIMPING your Facebook account, you should understand a few things first. You should realize that this technique takes advantage of your current friends and acquaintances. I’ve actually found this scouting technique works really well with friends OF friends that you’ve met once or twice. I dip into the best friends pool sometimes, but using this technique exclusively on your friends limits its potential and scalability.
You need to go out an actively build your friends on Facebook. Everyone you meet in a decent passing conversation you say, “You gotta be on Facebook right?” “Ok then, whats your last name, I’ll add ya!” Then you add them. This is just like building rapport with women. You want to build on commonalities, so they remember you when you add them and you can use that social equity when you get them to set you up. People will accept 99% of the time. You want to do this with women, especially an ugly or not your type of woman, but not men (straight men). Men are protective over women in their network, even if they don’t know them well. Chances are that the guy is trying to seduce her anyway, so why would he want you as competition? The only guys of seen this work on are the really uber-social, that are friends with EVERYONE and never hook up. =)
How To Meet Girls on Facebook: The Rapport Building Phase
Once you’ve added these people, try and remain decent friends. About a week after adding them as friends, comment on a photo, post on their wall, saying stuff like, “What did you do in Thailand?” or “Nice beach. You guys must of RIPPED those waves up!” Just don’t come across as creepy or annoying. Just play it relaxed and sociable.
How To Meet Girls on Facebook: The Searching Phase
Now you’ve built some sort of rapport with your friends. Make sure you keep it relaxed and friendly. People love this. Next, this could take some time. Go through your friends Photos, usually not Photo Albums. Go through Photos were they are tagged. This usually means they are in a social environment and you have a better chance of finding women quicker. You need to do a little investigative work, but you should determine quickly if the women that you see with her are married/single/in a relationship. Once you have determined that…
How To Meet Girls on Facebook: The Messaging & Connecting
This step is crucial, but fairly simple. Message (don’t write on their wall) your friend this, “[Friends Name], you gotta set me up with that [NAME] girl! Tell her you’ve got a cool friend to set her up with”. They would say, “Yeah, I can. Come around and meet her.” This is fine, but if you want her phone number quicker. “Just get her to check out my profile and ask her if she doesn’t mind you giving me her number to call her!” This is a softening request that I’ve never had not work. Sometimes your friend would say, “Oh, shes taken.” or “Oh, every guy asks about her.” Then say, “Thats fine, you gotta set me up with someone though. Your friends are cute”. She will say, “Have a look at some photos and let me know” or typically, “What about my friend [NAME]?” You can be honest, say, “Oh yeah. Nice. Get me her number.” or, “I’m more of a [QUALITY (hair color, personality type)] type of guy.”
IMPORTANT: If you already have this friends number, you don’t have to message them on Facebook. You can just text them.
Once you have her number. I usually text first. Say, “This is [NAME], [FRIEND]‘s friend. Is it true what they say about [QUALITY]?
Then flirt away before meeting up.
How To Meet Girls on Facebook: Conclusion
That’s how to meet women on Facebook.
This is one of the best ways to meet women, because you already have a level of social proof, and you can see what women look like so it’s better than a blind date with minimal effort. I also don’t think it’s needy or supplicating by asking to be setup with women. If anything, it shows how masculine you truly are because of the mindset of the “prize”. Women already know men want women, by ignoring that fact you make yourself look feminine. The trick is to follow this with power and focus. Women should be with you and by setting you up with her friend, she’s doing her friend a favor.
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Now here’s a quality post.
As for the new design, can you use a masthead that’s a little less raunchy. I don’t want to have to look over my shoulder when I visit the site…
Jonah, leave a correct email address so I can contact you.
Hmm…. Yeah the photo is raunchy, but I want a photo of a hot woman in there, and this one worked. Do you have any others you’d rather see, or could recommend to place in there instead? Email me. attractionchronicles@gmail.com
I don’t know about this, but all this shows that you are too needy, that you are asking other women to hook you up and all. Women talk with other women about men.
eight – I can see your coming from partially, but if you don’t ask, you don’t get. I don’t think its NEEDY to ask. It’s only NEEDY if you are in fact needy, otherwise you’re smart.
“Woman talk to other women about men” – Not sure how that applies to NEEDINESS.
IME online game doesn’t click into place unless you’re out in the field getting laid.
Good post
Andrew
“Just get her to check out my profile and ask her if she doesn’t mind you giving me her number to call her!”
Would you message this to her first as an add-on to the:
“[Friends Name], you gotta set me up with that [NAME] girl! Tell her you’ve got a cool friend to set her up with”
or would it be in a seperate message?
I have experimented with facebook before. Sometimes sucessfully, sometimes not. This seems a bit easier and effective than my earlier experiemnts though.
Tambo – I would use that in the same message typically, but calibrate!
good post. While I definitely think that there is some quality info in here, I personally would just go ahead and message the girl directly instead of having a friend set you up. Though the setting up may actually be safer I have a feeling that it could definitely lead to some awkward first date/blind date situations… Have you gone on a lot of dates this way? Did they go really well?
Interesting, but it doesn’t seem like you would really need Facebook for any of this. It’s just using facebook to supplement the communication of meeting a girl through (new found) friends.
Do you think it’s possible to come across some girl’s profile, who you have no social connection to, and have success?
DateDemon – I’ve found in my experience that if you don’t do the setup, your odds of securing a date drop DRAMATICALLY. Basically what’s happening is social proof, you’re friend is doing the “asking” of the girl, NOT you personally. So that relationship of trust they have built up, is being used to hook you up.
I’d say it’s about a 15% chance of securing a date without the setup, but with it’s about a 90% chance. Awkward moments? Sure, just as much as if you were to go on a first date with a girl you just got a number from a week before…
Knight – Facebook is near essential for this type of approach. Why? Because there is almost no way you would meet this newer girl or connect with your new “friend” through any other way. The key for this working well is because of the relaxed nature of Facebook.
Of course Knight, I’m sharing this method because I’ve found it works the most reliably. You can of course do a cold turkey approach.
Yes, many, MANY dates, not to mention additional attraction and comfort building. This is why I decided to do this post.
Really interesting stuff….
I would add the caveat that you need to be consistently getting laid in real life for this to work, as getting you a date doesn’t do you much good if you can’t game.
Do you have some stats on how many times you’ve used this method, how many dates? rejections from friends? from the original friend you asked to set you up?
Any problems with the new girls/FB friends that you meet at parties etc telling your real friends that you’re doing that and getting weird rumors or talk about you? My friends (who are social people but non-pua type) would consider that creepy and stalkerish…especially the girls in the group….I’d hate for it to backfire
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Great points, man.
Back when I got so good at online dating I was voted the “Best in Boston” on a dating site (not the proudest day in my life), everything I did was based on finding connections with women. Find what she likes and what makes her feel good and comfortable and relate to it. No arguing. No heavy flirting. And for god’s sake, NO cocky and funny.
Online dating, be it Facebook, Match, or anything else, comes down to her feeling there’s enough safety and commonality with you to make it worth the risk.
But you have taken it a very important step farther by establishing the friendship connections. Girls, esp. young girls, are very wary of dating anyone they don’t know thru friends. It’s risky for them socially and physically, so if you can make connections through friends, you avoid all the legit reasons she has to not hook up with you.
How about meeting girls on Facebook and using Ourlikes system to see if there are worth for you ..
I agree with donovan… there’s nothing “needy” about girls recommending you to other friends.
Most naturals I know bang most of their chicks like this.
Only need guys have a phobia of “ohmigod, what if that makes me look neeeedy!!”…
chill… detach from shit, and no matter what you do comes across cool…
Peace
Facebook is an excellent way to meet new people for dating. When I first got into the online dating thing though I needed a lot of advice on what to do. Thanks for the advice in this post. You may also be interested to check out Myles Reed. He has a book out called “Fishing for Love on the Net” and has some great insights and information for anyone into online dating but needing a little more insight to the whole thing. Let me know if you do a review on it. K? Thanks!
losers….. this defeats the purpose of sarging and the reason for getting in this game, this is one step above paying for a matchmaking website.
lame, lame
if you found that post intersting , get your ass out tonight and hit the bar cause your nerdotry is hetting thebest of you.
this community is getting weak and losing its purpose.
Hi: did this work for anybody? It didn’t for me.
The community means being dynamic. Of course you need to have some social skills in order to be good with women, but Facebook really does provide a great avenue for even the shy guys to start getting out there. What it does even more is it teaches them what’s cool and what aspects of their personality they need to portray (ex. playing solitaire versus going skydiving as a hobby). Facebook- when played right- is phenomenal in getting guys access to tons of hot girls that are on their campus.
Also, if you’d like, check out my article on How to Meet Girls on Facebook.
This is stupid.
Facebook should at most be a tool to keep or build interest with girls that you were unable to have sex with owing to some logistical problem in real life. Spending time looking for friends of your friends that are distant enough from them that they won’t care you want to hook up with them, and close enough that your connection will matter for them to talk to a guy that didn’t have enough balls in person is absolutely retarded.
The guys marketing social network pickup are just taking advantage of nerds and other losers that don’t have the guts to do things in person.
CrackBaby,
I think you are misunderstanding not only the opportunity with using Social Networking sites but also the purpose.
I do not propose meeting women online over meeting women in person…I propose you do both. Think about it, at any given point in time there are more women online than there are in every bar in your city combined. And guess what? These are the same women you meet out at bars, clubs, bookstores and coffee shops. The girl next door, the hot bartender, that cute girl standing in line at Starbuck’s today are all online. Why in the world would you pass up on such a huge opportunity?
On top of that you can search through these women and filter it down to exactly the type of girl you like. It is like going to your local bar/bookstore and it being filled with the exact type of girl you like. It’s awesome.
It is a great supplement for guys who are already good and a great way for guys who are super shy to get started because the interaction is in slow motion allowing them the time to think of what to say and form good banter habbits. For people who work a lot or travel for a living and it is hard for them to get out this is a great way to meet lots of high quality women.
In fact, this is my second night in NY ever and I had a girl from MySpace come over and hang out with me last night because I was busy working. It was awesome!
There are literally so many good benefits I can’t list them here…ask Donovan or check out our site if you want to know more: http://www.windowshoppingforwomen.com/sc
cheers,
Race
This sounds great, but this guy is failing to remember how small towns become and how quick word travels after a few of these little escapades. Facebook is not for this . Facebook is for people keeping in touch in this strange game-like way. Now myspace….yes……you can get on there and browse chicks all over the world and you will get laid sending random flirts and messages. But for facebook,,,,,,,your better off going to the grocery store and pulling your cock out on a girl in the produce section and saying “Oh, sorry,I thought this was the meat department>” Yes I said it.
This IS lame. You guys do miss the point. First of all, you walk all over facebook leaving a long trail of evidence behind with whom you have hooked up. In a little while, the information about you will travel OUT of facebook and bring down your “game.”
Second, WTF? I don’t get it – do most guys here like one night stands or one week stands? I mean what is the purpose of meeting “many” women? Certainly, if you can’t stay with one, then she’s not good enough. And if she’s not good enough, why the hell would you waste your time on her? I don’t know, but all this seems to be the high school nookie mentality. Once you grow up, you’ll realize how much better it is to spend your energy (and money) on a girl you actually really like. Sex is better too and you learn a thing or two about life. Sure, you can hook up with a lot of girls. But in the end, who’s going to keep you with you “polished” skills of following a list of rules about how to behave? F-ing up your life. Yes, the game is good for actually GETTING to the point of meeting women. You’re not going to find anyone if you don’t take any action. But the point is to find someone you really want, not a disposable. And if all you can get is a disposable one, then guess what? You just screwed up because you couldn’t get something you really wanted. This whole thing defeats the purpose.
This is retarded. Doing this may well get you laid twice or thrice but an inevitable shit ton of people are going to be talking about you, and there wont be any complimentary words.
@ Emil: I agree with you to a certain extent, but you’re talking to people from your own perspective. Guy A wants to meet as many women as possible and guy B wants to meet “THE” woman. Doesn’t mean guy A is wrong and B is right, they’re phases on the same continuum!
I’ve been coaching a lot of men with how to meet women for a while now, and what I consistently see is that a “student” first starts out by getting anything he can get because he’s coming froma scarcity mindset. Then, he goes for as much women as possible with his new found skills… he goes through college all over again if you will! Some end up staying in that phase, others move beyond and go for depth (1 girl) instead of width (girls). There are some other phases, but that’s besides the point. I’m saying wanting to be the playboy is a natural part of the evolution of a guy who wants more success with women.
Facebook is a good place to start, especially the social me app: it allows you to talk to all kinds of women from all over the globe, they can’t really see where you’re from, so that means you can practice your conversational skills and social skills really quickly. I spend an hour or so a day on it!
Regards,
Dennis Miedema
Win With Women
This defeats the purpose of game and sarging.80 percent of gaming isnt done on the computer. Having balls and taking risks in game will increase ur results far more than facebook game ever will
and if youre over 30?then what? some gals see the age and if it is over what they can deal with,delete you go. I did write of this in the
pua forum.
I think for the most part, this is a good idea (with exception to a few certain aspects). To keep it short and simple, meeting lots of women (which is exactly what you will, or should be using this for) will not only enhance your abilities to confidently approach, meet, and learn more about women, but also give you a better idea of what you like and don’t like, so by the time that right one comes along, you’ll have a better chance of knowing she’s it and why. Also, just like every other area in life (business, advertising, promotions…etc), you can use facebook as a tool to “market yourself” and drive what you desire towards yourself. The techniques provided here does not mean that a commandment has been passed and you have absolutely no choice but to do things the way you were suggested to through the advice. It’s simply someone saying what works best for them. It’s up to you to decide whether or not you wish to abide by his techniques. It may not be for everyone, and you have the legal right not to do it if you wish. Lastly, you will most likely get out of it whatever you get, based on the mindset you apply to the entire situation. If you choose to go in thinking “it wont work for me because of looks / age / weight / religion / …etc”, then most likely, it just may not work, or you will find yourself seeking after all who choose to filter out by looks, age…etc. or may even just begin to assume each time it doesn’t work out it must be because of _______(blank)_____.
Anyway, being 29, I think I’m at the perfect age to be getting into learning the laws of attraction, studying the psychology of women & men, and dating…etc. I didn’t used to believe this until I studied and researched a bit and found out some things about how women think, psychology, and the counterintuitive.
As far as using Facebook, I thought about it way before coming across this site, but someone did raise some very good points about why facebook, out of all sites, probably isn’t the best to use for a variety of reasons. I’d even prefer myspace, although I could see how “showing / indicating high status” would work well on facebook.
you guys dont know shit about pulling girls on facebook, i do this all the time, get like me, ughhhhhh!
Like the direct approach
The texting part will kill your game – you can only text once you have an established relationship of some sort…send a note on FB and then get her number and call…
Good post – I actually copied the commenting on the pictures from you, thx
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Dude, you never lied on the keeping it relaxed and sociable. I’ve found out women are more likely to hook up with guys who can be freely sociable while still being confident in themselves. They love to see you are safe enough with yourself to joke around with them and still be the man. It makes them see the versatility in you (what makes a man masculine). I’ve also found that in the first few texts don’t try to be OVER flirty or UBER sexual, you’ll come off as creepy. She already knows you are interested in her by asking for her number in the first place, (this doesn’t mean ignore what you are chasing) but don’t TRY too much.
Big thumbs up on this post bro!
i assually need a white lady that i can get married to cos they are my choice of womem
Thanks for the site, I agree with some posters that facebook is more a ‘family’ site and myspace is more geared towards dating, but what do I know, I’ve never used facebook or myspace to meet girls… yet.
I would be nervous being known as an ‘assworshipper’ on facebook where my sister and my cousins and my friends know me… lol. But hey that’s just me
“The only guys of seen this work on are the really uber-social, that are friends with EVERYONE and never hook up. =)”
Why are you giving me smiley faces and advertising books on your site when you can’t post text online without typos briding on illegible?
Moving on to better quality sites while laughing at your extravagant failure to secure interest…
Ugh. Do NOT, do NOT try to hook up with a woman via Facebook. That is creepy if you’re a grown man and fittingly immature if you’re still in high school. Beyond that, the woman who you are asking to do the setting up will either be offended that you’re using her to get to her friends or will just say “eh” and try to get out of it because she doesn’t know you that well.
Even worse, do NOT try to initiate a conversation with a girl out of the blue. You get marked as spam for that.
Wow, this is not good advice. Except for the part about building a rapport and having your friends introduce you to a possible girlfriend/boyfriend. That is good. However, NEVER EVER use Facebook, text messaging, or and of that stuff to meet a potential girlfriend/boyfriend and NEVER use it to ask your potential date out. It is cheesy and shows that you are lazy and immature. First you need to meet them. If one of your friends has a potential girlfriend/boyfriend for you, ask your friend to hang out with you someplace and to bring their friend & your potential girlfriend/boyfriend. While hanging out with your potential girlfriend/boyfriend be yourself and give them your number and ask for theirs. The next day call them and tell them how you had a great time yesterday, that you are interested in them, and want to go on a date with them. If they accept tell them where to meet you and at what time. I would recommend that the first date be at a coffee shop or nice affordable restaurant. This way you both can talk to each other to learn more about each other so that both of you can determine if there will be more dates or not. Oh, and never break up with some one through text message or Facebook or any of that. Call them or tell them in person.
Holy shit just go to a party or social event and meet some girls. stop being a creeper on facebook!
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I have really tried your trick and i already have more women than I can ever cope with.. most of who just want to fling … no serious attachment. Thanks for the post
Why cant you just go and talk to a girl normally and nt have to hide behind a screen in fear of being rejected :S
Very quality post, thanks for the great tips! Sharing this with my readers!
That’s the stupidest thing i’ve ever heard. Ur asking a girl u meet who u don’t like for their fb, just too add them on fb to see if they have any bangable friends. Then when u find sum ur sussing out if they’re single and asking to be hooked up. The girl who u added will first off be fucked off that ur basically saying that she’s ugly and secondly for having the nerve to ask her to set u up wiv sum1 u find acceptable. This is a total joke, i bet u’ve never banged anyone off fb, if u have it’s only after u’ve tried about a thousand times
lol at the last post youre so right dude