Tim Ferriss and How To Outsource Your Dating

by Editor on May 11, 2007

Tim, you’ve just released your book “The 4-Hour Workweek“. In a nutshell, what’s it all about?

It’s about how to outsource and automate your life. How to use lifehacks, technology, and more to create a luxury lifestyle of time abundance and complete mobility.

I hear you outsourced your online dating. Such a crazy concept, even for my readers. Could you explain the general idea?

A friend challenged me, over some wine, to the limits of outsourcing your life. He said I couldn’t outsource my dating, as one example, and I bet him that I could. Online dating is largely a numbers game, so I hired virtual teams of people all over the world — India, Phillippines, Jamaica, Canada, and others — to compete against each other and set dates for me on an online calendar. Each of them were assigned one of my accounts on either online dating sites like Match.com, or on social networking sites like Friendster, and there would be a $150 bonus to whichever team set the most good dates.

Did you just “cold turkey” the outsourcing, or did you work out a system first?

I worked out a one-page “rules and regulations” sheet with all of the goals and guidelines, being sure to include links to girls I found attractive, must-haves and must-not-haves, etc. I moved all of my online to the teams at once. The experiment was 4 weeks long, and I got more than 20 dates. It was unreal.

What is the best word of advice for guys looking to meet women online?

Rotate your profile photo, use direct subject lines for email, and focus on volume. I used clever, time-consuming subject lines that got nowhere, then one Filipino pulled in ridiculously good results with “looking for a date” as the subject.

How did outsourcing work for getting the types of women that you’re attracted to?

It worked extremely well. Perhaps a 70% hit rate, which is just as good, if not better, than what I was averaging on my own.

What sites did you use and which ones had the best results for you?

Match.com has the most profiles but also the most competition. It’s good for short emails with direct subject lines. The social networking sites consumed more time but got more dates.

Did any problems arise while outsourcing your dating?

Only once. One of the outsourcers neglected to put a date in the calendar, and I happened to be in the spot where the girl and I were supposed to meet at the right time. She walked right up to me — I was writing on my laptop — and started chatting like an old friend. I had absolutely no idea what was going on. I felt really badly about it, but the entire 4-week process was — after all — a social experiment. If I hadn’t had any problems, I would have felt like I hadn’t tried hard enough.

Thanks Tim!

My pleasure. I should add that every girl I had a second date with was told about the outsourcing. This was part of my litmus test. I needed a girl with the same odd sense-of-humor that I have, and if she couldn’t find the outsourcing at least a bit funny, we wouldn’t last anyway. The result? Most of the girls called me a jerk with a smile but found it pretty damn funny. Those are the keepers who will keep me sane when I take myself and the world too seriously.

The Four Hour Workweek

Have you ever signed up to any dating sites in the hopes of meeting a woman online? Let us know your experiences in the comments section below.

{ 9 comments… read them below or add one }

jonah May 15, 2007 at 12:05 am

i haven’t read the book yet, but i liked the idea. so i’ve decided to outsource all my seduction work. are there any offshore seducers you can recommend?


Yoko May 17, 2007 at 10:51 pm

Actually I think every PUA has alraedy read this book. Isn’t that why everyone has an ebook they ripped off from somewhere else (one of things Ferriss recommends)? The best advice from this guy is what isn’t in his book. It’s how he went from geek to freak in 28 days.



Seduction Chronicles May 29, 2007 at 5:38 pm

Ferriss doesn’t recommend that, and that is a great read at his blog.


ODD July 18, 2009 at 9:09 am

There is another website that provides a similiar service for only a $19 fee: http://www.onlinedatedelivery.com.


awesome April 13, 2010 at 7:10 pm

wow, what an interesting concept. I guess you can outsourcing dating can work to point.


Sandra S. May 18, 2010 at 9:45 am

Hi, my name is Sandra and I have been doing exactly this for a couple of months. It is a lot of fun and am now starting to look for new clients! Very interesting to see I was not the first one to think about it ;-)…


Seducing Woman July 29, 2010 at 4:43 am

Tim Ferris is a god, after I read his book my whole life changed and now I live the new rich lifestyle he talks about.

Great to see that he is getting into the dating games now as well!

Just tweeted this,

Rob x


AlphaWolf July 16, 2011 at 10:21 am

Honestly I am not sure if Ferris has game. Saw him in person and he was very cool. Looks a LOT shorter in person. If he actually studied it I am sure he’ll own, but he just seems like a cool guy who knew how to work things in his advantage, including online dating.


Catherin Sandburg March 9, 2012 at 11:45 am

Thanks, I need to get started on that one. thanks Noupe !


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