Fastseduction is about being a man who goes after he likes.

You seem tobe using logic not emotionanal stimulation to convince your lady to like you. As David Deangelo always says “attraction is not a choice”. Maybe you should check out some of his work.

Also, in my opinion, you shouldn’t be saying you didn’t deserve her. Nor should you be putting her at the centre of your world and pursuing much in your life, work and health wise, in order to please her instead of yourself. I would recommend you also read “The Way of the Superior Man” by David Deida too.

Hope that helps, bro.

And FuckGurus? I don’t think you are Fucked in the head…
I just suspect you lack one.

I was in a similar relationship. She was an African “princess” that was way above my league. She treated me mostly badly, and I tried and tried to do more and more to fix things… thinking maybe if I just put more effort into the relationship things would get better.

Things would swing ok and then bad.

I got tired of feeling like crap, packed my stuff, setup a new place to live and moved out in the middle of the night.

That was two years ago.

I still see her now. I see other women as well. All on my terms. And they all know that I will flat walk away if I am not treated with respect.
(in fact I have made that option a few times… and it feels great to be free of the burden of negative rather than putting more and more energy into feeding it)

Good luck

I am 42 years old, although I look (and act, unfortunately) much younger. I haven’t really had an easy life socially, professionally, or financially but most of my problems I created for myself. Funny thing is, I finally found a doc who would allow me to quit antidepressants (Lexapro) for the first time in 20 years and to tell you the truth I actually feel better without them now. I am less passive and no longer willing to accept a second-rate life in the above areas.

However, there is one area where I am still facing some uncertainty, and that is in my relationship with my live-in girlfriend of 7+ years. She is a physically beautiful Japanese woman with 2 wonderful children from a previous marriage (unlike some guys might, I consider my friendship with these 2 crazy kids to be an asset in the relationship). Anyway, our relationship has always been a little rocky, somewhat due to my former bad habits and behavior, but also because of her anger issues and tendency to take me for granted, which I guess is understandable since I probably didn’t deserve her at some points in the past.

Lately our relationship has been teetering on the edge of collapse. On one of our saner, more peaceful days, I asked her if there was more I could do to make her happy with me. I pointed out that I am working a lot harder to bring home more money, I have lost 15 pounds of fat in the last 3 months (and I didn’t really have that much to begin with but you know how the Japanese are about that) I have not been high or drunk in a year, I do more than my share of household chores, and I spend most evenings helping the kids with their English language homework (which, as I indicated, it is my pleaseure to do). After this little monologue, she just gave me an almost pitying look and said, basically, “That’s not it”.

I am romantic, I take her out on weekends, I buy her gifts etc. In fact when we do have sex I make sure that she is satisfied always (I know some of these pick up people will say I’m a sucker for this but please after 7 years can’t these things be allowed)?

So anyway, what I need to find out is, what is “it” and how can I get “it”? Sorry for the long question, but if you can help me save my relationship or direct me to the right resources I would be extremely grateful.

Thank you for your time.

Dee

Are you SURE it’s Man of Bliss, or rather Man of Bile?

Anyway, you must not know me. I’m not a PhD; I’m an M.D., and I do change people instantly with some of the many tools in the professional psychoanalysts tool belt and experience, of which hypnosis techniques (of which NLP is one of MANY, and one utterly unchanged in over thirty years)is merely a tiny aspect.

I don’t “bag” on NLP. I’m in a unique position of having studied it, but also having studied the entire armamentarium of all other fields relating to the mind, including medical science and medication (which I avoid prescribing unless they are absolutely needed.) As a result, I teach the public of all the available sciences and styles of therapy out there – ones which MUST take months or years to see true permanent change in a guy, and ones which do result in immediate and sometimes even permanent change. As such, I am also in a position to authoritatively comment BOTH on NLP AND mainstream psychology, as well as any other turnkey substitute for cognitive science, thank you.

Of those hundreds of tools a psychoanalyst uses, the superior technique to anything NLP will ever offer is called EMDR. It is relatively cheap, but must be obtained from a licensed mental health professional, accredited from an academic institution. Not a weekend seminar in Vegas. Once again, this is only one of hundreds of methods and tools a psychoanalyst uses, but has the same kind of rapid response you are looking for.

If you have ever been to an NLP conference or personal growth seminar, a la Tony Robbins, then you know as well as anybody that you feel pumped afterward, but about two weeks later…utterly the same as you were before. “Motivation” and “passion” borrowed from the motivational speaker is not true personal growth. Neither is merely psyching one’s self into a trance from time to time. It’s about patient life’s experience and the growth of mature character, of which I am a theorist by trade as well.

Sometimes it DOES take weeks, months etc for a person to truly change and grow, and perhaps that was what life is laid out for us to do with: learn and grow patiently (but solidly).

I’m about helping men do just that.

And with no flashy gimmicks. Just solid science that I am quite trained to teach as much as I am to comment on all the self-helpie stuff (some of which works, by the way, because it is once again, related back to real science.)

The real thing never lets us down.

Thanks for your time, and if we meet someday, perhaps we’ll have a more accurate view of each other.

Furthermore, Dr. Paul is a PhD psychoanalyst, which means he has a solid understanding of therapy and personality. This equates to, he can diagnose, but it would take him years to create actual change.

NlP and hypnosis can change people in minutes, or at most, a few sessions. i.e. Richard Bandler, Hypnotica, Steve P., Ross Jeffries

Currently a successful SS practitioner,

Joy, Love, and Happiness,

ManofBliss

p.s. For all the childish behavior Ross has pulled over the years, his materials are brilliant. Although he didn’t found NLP, he definitely was creative, and pioneering in his application into seduction and sexual state amplification.