Comments on: How to Easily Handle ‘Tests’ From a Woman

By: whatever dude

whatever dude — Fri, 27 Jul 2007 04:07:52 +0000

But Lance, you are an asshole.

By: sarah

sarah — Wed, 18 Apr 2007 21:43:57 +0000

haha randomly came across this cite, while it is good to not argue be aware that some behavoirs are unacceptable and when she calls you an asshole its not cute she means it and you should probably stop, i love the part about improving deflection, those are some of the funniest responses to those questions iv ever heard not arguing while being sarcastic and smartass is highly attractive i wish i knew more guys like this

By: Redd

Redd — Sat, 31 Mar 2007 21:27:48 +0000

Listen to Chris, Butch8r, he’s absolutely right.

The great thing about these responses is how fun they are. It really helps you relax and enjoy yourself, which enables you to feel increasingly self-confident.

My usual response to “You’re a player” is to smirk and casually say “Thank you.” I also welcome “You’re an asshole” with a dismissive “I love you too” and continue the conversation without even stopping.

David DeAngelo has a great textbook example for the situation in which you’re mere moments away from sex and the woman suddenly says, “Are you just trying to get laid?” His solution was to “use the truth in a particularly brutal way” by saying, “Of course not. I thought since we were kissing passionately and grabbing each other’s bodies that this was probably going to lead to pure friendship.”

By: Chris

Chris — Fri, 30 Mar 2007 15:12:14 +0000

Hey Butch8r – Here’s my take on this. David D. and Lance are basically saying the same thing in different ways. When a girl throws out something like “Are you a player?”, there’s 3 ways you can respond.

1.) Agree, and attempt to justify your behavior (which is submissive and makes you look weak).

2.) Deny the accusation/assessment (which puts you on the defensive, and is also submissive).

3.) Spin it around (cocky funny), and throw it back at her.

You can agree with what she says, as long as it’s done in a confident/sarcastic/playful/cocky-funny/I-don’t-care-what-you-think sort of way. When you justify your behavior, or deny your behavior, it shows neediness — it shows that you care too much about what she thinks.

I like your response: “Yeah, I just made out with every girl down the street.” That’s funny.

By: butch3r

butch3r — Fri, 30 Mar 2007 02:30:48 +0000

Hey Lance,

I like the article, esp. the cute part. My natural buddy has been using that mentality for a long time. But what I don’t understand or am not sure about is something that another guru talks about. I know each of you have different philosophies or are of different seduction schools, but David DeAngelo talks about never answering a girls question with a yes. So, when you say yes she’s right. It seems to me that you’d be supplicating.

I get the idea though. You’re saying that you should play along with her answers. Make them larger than what they seem. Like…
Her: Are you a player?
PUA: Yeah, I just made out with every girl down the street

Am I right with this line of thinking or am I wrong. This is a different line of thinking for the DyD way I think.